Sounds like very manic behavior. Probably has an unbeknownst underlying condition that is a contraindication to the medicine. Ayahuasca can exacerbate certain conditions.
In my opinion, your focus should be on yourself and your son. Find as many resources as you can. Reach out for support. Get yourself and your boy safe. Your husband’s behavior might be concerning and you obviously want to help but right that is at the bottom of the list. You don’t have the luxury of trying to save him when you have your boy to care for. Also, your husband does not seem like he’s a in good space and is a liability to yours and your son’s wellbeing.
I’m so sorry that this is happening to you both. Take good care and I hope you find everything you need soon.
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u/A_Murmuration
Wow. In ceremonies I have attended the facilitators were VERY clear about this great advice:
First three days back is about grounding. Touch grass, no media, journal. Next two weeks to three months, no major decisions like job changes or ending relationships or giving away all your possessions. An hour long integration call at the two week mark to check on you.
I really valued that they did that
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u/Soul_trust
Was this Rythmia?
Sounds like it was. They've totally screwed with him.
The place is hell on earth, and I recommend you research it so you don't personalize what your partner is going through.
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u/BearsOwlsFrogs
I don’t know where you’re from, but in a lot of places he can’t legally kick you out without notice. If he’s wanting to pay for an apartment, get the money up front for a years worth. He might quit paying a few months in. He most likely had you move back in to get unpaid childcare and housekeeping out of you. It was probably easier for him to be civil when he was gone 5 days a week. Even if he starts behaving again, it’s obvious he’s not safe as a partner.
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u/Sufficient-State3720
So sorry you are going through this now. Please name this centre! Did they sell this stem therapy themselves that sounds crazy? Sounds like he needs a lot of extra support with his mental health urgently and integrating the retreat and you yourself need your own support too! I favour small retreats of max 5 people with at least a week or two afterwards with trained experienced grounded therapists who can give 1:1. The reality is overpriced retreats of 30 plus where the company ceremony control is poor. The shaman if there is one will just sing for the space and not individually so much. People leave for the real world too soon while they are still vulnerable. This is what happens with ayahuasca as a westerner business. I hope things settle down and his senses are regained and stress goes away
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u/Tiny-Art7074
Just leave him. Seriously, stop wasting your time. Hate to say it but not everything is fixable or worth fixing just because its broken. He doesn't seem to be able to care about you and is dragging you along only so he isn't alone. Not worth it.
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u/astraladventures
The post ayahuasca break up is amazingly common.
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u/Sea-Research8302
im really sorry for you. I'll keep it brief because it's pointless to judge such things without hearing the "whole" truth or at least only your opinion and not his.
From experience, I know that after such retreats, the nervous system can be raw, and one might therefore go into attack mode as a form of self-protection (more unconsciously than consciously).
Perhaps there's more to it, though, and he had an "intuition" that now makes him believe he's better off without you. Unfortunately, that's something you have to accept.
Bipolar disorder also sounds suspicious. I would wait and see; there's probably not much more you can do if he's actually in a different state or even psychotic due to the retreat (I've experienced this with my husband repeatedly...). All the best!
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u/sbarret
I could not read everything, but really, you should focus on your kid, there's some narcissist/maniac behavior there but really focus on the kid and what's best for both of you.
Ayahuasca has pretty much nothing to do with this, it's a brew it doesn't turn people into assholes
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u/Enough_Extent_2827
Op I felt like reading this post the vernacular wall so much about him and his interests. . . I wonder if you might benefit from thinking about what you want and deserve.... Like : do you want and deserve a partner with this type of interest and response to you?
I hope I'm not bulldozing here. Just hope you are caring for your on wants and needs and boundaries. It sounds like he has a lot of unacceptable behaviours.
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u/Revolutionary_Bike54
Are you sure he went to the retreat? He travels with work, while you're home. He goes back and forth about the relationship.
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u/Ashamed-Internet8373
Gurl your husband bought back some bad forces entites with him . The shamans can only send out an invitation they have no control of who accepts it . Unfortunately judging from what you posted things are only going to get worse for him . He will isolate more & spiral further & his mental health will slowly deteriorate. I would advise you to be patient. Also have noticed any supernatural things happening in your home or happening to him or you?
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u/Frequent_Truth808
Sorry you're going through this. Hope you can find some sort of peace and grounding.
Also, altered states are sacred. Selling and offering services during that time is not okay. It's actually a huge red flag.
That being said stem cells for autism is not snake oil. There is research showing positive impact.
The first thing that came up when I searched online:
Stem cell therapy for autism remains an experimental treatment that has not received FDA approval for this specific condition, though clinical trials have shown promising results in reducing symptoms. The only FDA-approved stem cell products in the U.S. are blood-forming stem cells from umbilical cord blood used for blood disorders, not for autism spectrum disorder (ASD).
Research indicates that mesenchymal stem cells (MSCs) and umbilical cord blood may help alleviate autism symptoms by reducing neuroinflammation and improving immune regulation, rather than curing the underlying genetic causes. Several studies and anecdotal reports suggest improvements in social interaction, language skills, and sensory issues following treatment, but these findings often come from small trials or non-controlled settings.
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u/Procrastingineer
Honestly it sounds like you are in a relationship with a narcissist. You are seeing the result of the mask being forcefully ripped off. You're probably right that he has hated you for a long time, and he can't keep up the facade after being shown his true self.
Psychedelics often can't really fix narcissists, but they can sure destroy them. You are likely watching the building of a new and stronger mask. The yoga studio and Buddha statue are almost comically stereotypical outcomes when people who really can't handle psychedelics get exposed to them.
also see:
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u/erinaceousfox
I'd be concerned about the manic part as psychedelics triggered my bipolar years ago.
First off, they failed with the screening process. Were they to be serious they would ask about family mental illness and screen out people with bipolar running in the family.
Here's a good list to look out for in regards to bipolar:
Elevated/irritable mood beyond baseline
Decreased need for sleep (not feeling tired)
Racing thoughts / rapid idea switching
Inflated confidence or grandiosity
Increased talkativeness / pressured speech
Distractibility
Impulsivity / risk-taking
Economic behavior:
Increased spending / impulsive purchases
Unrealistic financial decisions or investments
Reduced concern for consequences of money use
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u/Big-Performance5047
Wondering if he is addicted to something
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u/TuckerStewart
Your partner sounds very deep in the medicine, and you mentioned his family has a history of bipolar. After searching in the comments to confirm, I knew you were referencing Rythmia based on the stem cells. Rythmia is the most incredible, magical, beautiful, and supportive ayahuasca SANCTUARY in the world. They have a specialized program that in the end, you are told to ask the medicine to show you who you've become. Looks like the medicine is showing him EXACTLY who he has become- a belligerent, temperamental, abusive loser who wreaks havoc in his family's lives. I hope he sees who he has become, and he gets the proper support and help he so clearly needs. You also see who he has become, and without self-awareness he could stay this way. The medicine is just a tool. A beautiful, hard tool that can completely change the course of your life. It's up to him to get help and look at himself fully in the mirror. I hope you take care of yourself. And anyone reading, this, Rythmia is phenomenal. I go once a year for a tune up and it has changed the complete trajectory of my life. I am forever grateful for this place. It is insane there are so many shit-talkers of Rythmia who have NEVER been (they can't afford it lol) and are victims to life and are so quick to BLAME. Do the inner work and get honest.
u/miggins1610
14 day old account with no other posts or comments? Something smells off here to me
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u/NonGMOman_
Brand New account.
All these Bull shit posts using AI
Enough already!