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1r/BestofRedditorUpdatesAITAH for taking away my dad’s girlfriend’s keys after she tried to send me to b...Cheap-Rate-899640090%67582.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-14↗
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u/BrainjackerWe consider maybe it was just a weird millennial thing, the way she texts 😒4759
u/dinoooooooooos“Weird millennial thing” Why tf we catching strays for. The fuck.2383
u/Single_Vacation427They are creating the problem themselves by inviting her to this "gala" and replying to her crazy messages.2170
u/HomeLibrarian1338Well if it IS a real story March/April marks 9 months since the last update so maybe we'll find out: -Is Sorrel pregnant? -Did Henri ever go to the ultrasound appt? -Did Henri figure out that Sorrel (who apparently also works in his field) only got together with his father in an attempt to get closer to and seduce him? -Will any of them grow a backbone and tell the psycho-woman that she is not actually related to any of them and therefore she needs to stay away from them? Find out next time on Dragonball - I mean BORU!1334
u/offputtingangeli love reading long posts where every single detail is included, even the ones that i wouldn’t think to ask for. idk, maybe i’m just way too nosy for my own good?? op used paragraphs, punctuation and even a little bit of french. this was an easy read. it kinda reminds me of those french films with an unsettling vibe where something is wrong but you just can’t put your finger on it and nothing really happens for long periods of time. the film would of course be left open ended and viewers would complain about the ending as always happens with open endings. i do hope that this ending isn’t open though, it would be nice to get an update where sorrel is not pregnant, just crazy and removed from the families lives for good.1315
u/itsricwolfSorr-el no!960
u/pray4mojo2020It's weird that I just read so much, and yet we still don't know: - anything about the younger kids' mother, if she's alive or why she's not around, how long she's been out of the picture - whether they've always lived with the uncle, or if they lived with the father for any period of time - whether the father's contact is a recent development or if he's always been allowed to just kinda be around despite having lost full legal custody - why the uncle is gone so much even though he's the sole legal guardian of the minor children - are they all French except for the gf? Did they live in France for part of their lives but now they live somewhere else? (Not really important but I'm just confused about the context of Sorrel mocking her accent.) I don't know, did I miss it? I'm not advocating for this thing being even longer, it just seems weird that I'm left with so many questions after reading for so long.602
u/AlisterSinclair2002''Grab your popcorn'' is like a golden badge telling you the rest of the post(s) will be total bs lol465
u/TaliniaI could have sworn I'd already read this update, but I guess the last one was the discovery of the "pregnancy" and this one is just that OOP is suspicious of it. OOP is pretty active though, so kinda surprised there's nothing in the last 8 months either way426
u/WeeklyConversation8Unless she's very high risk, or having medical issues, OB appointments aren't weekly. They are monthly. If this is real, she's trying to be their Mom.370
u/SpillThatTea2MeOh geez. OP is getting pushed out of her own family. Hopefully her brothers and uncles have her back like she thinks they do or she’s screwed.323
u/KerbartI'm confused about OP's disenfranchised father whose been a drunk and out of her life and only reconnected a year before the events happened. Yet he's a street car racer who taught her driving and she "knows him to the bone." It just doesn't add up.274
u/LeftieswillruleThis story was less interesting than I hoped.175
u/fndnvolusrgofksbI read the entire popcorn post and nothing happens. You learn op is French, that's it. Everyone else acts completely as expected. OP yaps on and on about every single family picture taken and how nice her car is. (Context she does not know the meaning of the word concise) Your brain cells discover that there is a way out through your ears.151
u/CrimeislegalSo much text with so little actually important information....114
u/AstrosaucedSome people have too much time on their hands.106
u/Response-GladNot the first time a step mom figure has gotten weirdly jealous of their step daughter. Gross. In this case it sounds like this woman can't conceptualize at all what growing up in this family has been like or the parenting OP had to do early. She definitely doesn't get it since she decided to have a baby with dad despite everything she has seen. I wonder how much minimizing the story Dad has done. Doesn't seem like he has ever really taken accountability. However, sounds like OP has done a truly incredible job for her family. She shouldn't have had to grow up so young, but she did so well against all of the odds. She should be proud of herself and trust her gut.98
u/LeadmeNotFLLISTEN, CHARLIE, GET YOUR ASS BACK ON REDDIT AND FINISH THE STORY! I don't read long post, but I read every sentence of your posts and you didn't even give us a conclusion??? Non mais sérieux… c’est quoi ça ? Montre un peu de respect aux lecteurs et reviens ici. Ugh!93
u/dropshortreaverI cant put my finger on anything definite, but something about this is activating by BS meter86
u/DougSpeagleThe uncle has full custody but also doesn't seem to exist in the physical world somehow84
u/MargotBamborough[removed]65
u/Tangled2I learned driving from my dad, he used to be a street racer. This is just the dumbest shit. But, I mean, the whole saga is an idiot plot. “Dad, Sorrel is overstepping and bugging the living shit out of us. I’m not saying you have to break up, but If you keep bringing her around then neither of you will be invited to anything ever again.”64
u/Accomplished_Cod7613Definitely felt like I was reading a story arch from Shameless with this.60
u/Key_Possibility_8669Am I the only one that got surprised by the fact that the two youngest siblings have a different mother? Where is she, and why isn't she involved in the children's lives?57
u/MinionsHaveWonOneI was skeptical but enjoying the ride until OOP reached into the glove box for a highly convenient key that was surplus to requirements but luckily closely resembled the key she'd taken off Sorrel. And "accidently" grabbed $5 (I know my glovebox is stuffed with $5 notes) so she could conveniently shove it at Dad with a snarky remark. My disbelief can no longer be suspended.37
u/Both-Condition2553“I raised them too” from a girlfriend of six months is wild.28
u/SebscreenSorrel is obviously terrible. But I cannot get over how spineless OOP and her brothers are.  They hold all the cards. Yet, they allow themselves to be condescended to and disrespected again and again and again. They should have burned their relationship with their awful dad and his awful gf a long time ago.28
u/LivSaJoIf the baby existed it would be born by now. I hope we get an update24
u/1quincytooNow I want to rewatch Shameless22
u/Divinemango7They had me until the second post and they said “story time!” And it was a four day window.20
u/nobonesjones91That bullshit should have been shut down immediately16
u/mixedwithmonetIdk what I’m taking away from reading all this except people really need to start being meaner.16
u/bangbangrosieI would pay almost anything to see those photos from the gala.15
u/violueOkay when it got to the part with the jars it stopped being fun. I feel really bad for OOP and the fact that if the pregnancy is legit this terrible woman is going to be a permanent part of her life. Considering how low their opinion of their father is, I'm surprised they've all been willing to put up with Sorrel?? Is it for his sake??15
u/Maximum-Ear1745This was hard to read. I would have shut down communication much much earlier.14
u/PickupyoheelI just wanna see the car14
u/PissedliberalgrannyI really hope she updates this at least one more time so we can find out if Sorrel was ever actually pregnant and whether or not the potential baby was Anatole’s. Updateme12
u/comomellamoThis is nuts. The "dad" has no legal rights to the younger siblings so they should just cut contact with him and his gf. When the Uncle is back in town he can deal with his brother.11
u/Jack0fTh3TrAd3sThe most spineless family on earth. This whole thing would have been done and quashed with a simple "if she's here, you're not welcome" to the dad. Either he leaves and no harm no foul, or he leaves her, a win for the family.11
u/Allergictosquirrels“i’m no longer investing energy into enduring your behavior.” What a line 🤌9
u/Used-Cup-6055So daddio has five children he has never had custody of and having a sixth one? Why do I feel like this baby is going to end up on the uncle’s porch at some point in the future?8
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2r/BORUpdatesAITAH For Being Upset that I am treated differently than my siblings?BigONerd16080%16382.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-09↗
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u/Impossible_Flight290Goddamn OOP needs to remove her parents and siblings from her life before it affects her kids more1694
u/Vast-Swimmer5844When I explained to my Father why I turn down invites to family holidays I said "Why would you expect me to show up and act like family so that I can sit there and be treated like I'm not?" and he looked me in the eyes with the saddest expression and said "She doesn't treat me much like family, either." So fucking what? He chose that hag. The OOP had no choice here. May the OOP finally yeet her kids from family visits, and may her parents and siblings all reap what they sowed.425
u/HUNGWHITEBOI25Man i just don’t know why OOP keeps in contact with these awful people. They all sound terrible310
u/murdocjonesShe’s giving her siblings too much credit. There’s really only so long that an adult gets to correlate their behavior to how they were raised. At a certain point, you’re old enough to know better. If they could treat her children well, they could have treated her better. They just chose not to.289
u/ChrisInBliss... I dont understand how the sisters couldnt realize WHY OOP was so hurt. Even after them having a siblings trip WITHOUT OOP and being snobby about it. Like NO these grown adults knew what they were doing. Yes it was normalized but they still KNEW153
u/disgruntled_cat_Well this is horrible.87
u/less_than_nickWatching her try to defend her sisters gross past behavior at the end was so frustrating. Can't believe she's giving these assholes so much grace75
u/LadyNorbertI'm also in constant pain, and spent my entire childhood dealing with the antics of a violent alcoholic. I would rather eat glass than treat someone the way this OOP's mother has treated her.59
u/snootnootsShe’s still being such a doormat, ye gods. 🤦‍♀️ And she’s basically trickle-truthing herself about how bad it is. “Oh my mother treats me terribly, but she dotes on my children and doesn’t treat them any worse than her other grandchildren! Except for the birthday dinner thing. Well actually it turns out she’s body shaming the oldest, but she’s awesome to my middle child! Well actually she says snarky things in earshot of her all the time, but it doesn’t affect her at all. Well actually she remembers it all and can repeat it but I’m sure it doesn’t actually bother her, so I’m gonna keep letting my child go hang out with my mother after school. I’m not trusting her with my kids! I’m still letting her spend tons of time with one of them because it’s convenient for me, but I told my father that I don’t trust her to be safe or sane around them and I’m monitoring the situation VERY closely! Just not, y’know, doing anything.”41
u/lizzyoteI get why people dont want OP to let her siblings off the hook but i get why OP is hesitant. OP is having her entire life fractured by new realizations about her family. Thats scary af. Its hard to cut off family in normal circumstances. Shes had nearly 40yrs of one kind of reality and now everything is changing. I hope her spouse and kids continue to be a supportive family unit.25
u/Some_External4457Reads like a hopeful update until you realize she’s still completely enmeshed and making excuses for all of them. Her mom called her daughter a pig and she’s still giving her mom access to the kids. Her sisters never apologized for being jerks about the trip but she’s convinced herself they’ve changed. In 15 years we’ll be seeing a post from OOP’s daughter asking if she’s TA for wanting to go no contact with her abusive grandmother and enabling mother. It’s sad.24
u/z-eldapinJesus, OOP needs to move far away and change her number. Zero access to any of these horrible people.23
u/mmanyquestionssyeah she needs to cut contact with every single member of this family except maybe the nieces and nephews13
u/glitzglamglueFirst paragraph: OMG grow up. You're 38. Why do you care so much about birthdays? Everything else: nevermind. You were right.13
u/stanloonathxDespite going NC with the mom and LC with the others, I think OOP still subconsciously wants a connection to her family. If she's been treated like that throughout her life it's hard to let go of that desire to be seen and accepted by people who normally would love you (because family). So it's not just her father and her sisters who need to unlearn shit, but her too. Because it's now affecting her kids. If she doesn't cut them off completely her kids will continue to see and hear things from her mother that will hurt them more.10
u/justaheatattackyou know, you can throw your own party. you don't even need a reason. you don't even need anyone else to show up. ask me how I know!10
u/moontiara16OOP keeps saying her middle child is not effected by NMom’s behavior. Meanwhile, OOP had no idea NMom was calling eldest “piggy” and “oinker.” OOP is doing better but damn, she’s still allowing caustic behavior. Edit: missed a word8
u/Due_Enthusiasm1145I know a lot of people will be quick to tell OOP to cut off everyone, but honestly I completely understand her mindset around her sisters. She acknowledges she has every right to cut them off, and at no point indicates any obligation to them. Instead, her reasoning for low contact is that they are showing massive improvement compared to where they were, and that while she's watching carefully for any disrespectful or hostile behavior, she hasn't seen any or expects any. She also acknowledges she'd cut them off instantly if she received any. The fact that they haven't apologized sucks, but again if they are treating her well now, I think at that point its no longer a "you should cut them off" and more a "you could cut them off". The choice is hers and I understand it, even if I may have made a different choice in her position. The father is more messy, because there's finances involved there.8
u/GeneralPhilosophy691Honestly, OOP is being dumb by not biting the bullet and moving. Her dad is still her landlord, and eventually her mom will get pissed off enough to get him to evict her/not renew her lease unless she "comes to her senses and attends family gatherings" again. She doesn't have a lot of power in this situation because of that.7
u/XemptOne56OOPs mom sounds very unpleasant to be around. She is projecting hardcore...6
u/ceejreadHer middle child is going to either develop a people pleasing need to avoid getting the kind of snide comments and freezing out that she sees/hears from grandma, or she’s going to be encouraged to disrespect her parents and family because grandma manipulates her into seeing them as the problem. It’s a shame if she enjoys her time with grandparents, but by the time it’s clear there’s a problem and contact stops, the damage might not be reversible. Also I give OOP grace with her siblings. They are all operating under the theory that if isn’t the outright emotional abuse the mother does, it’s not abuse or worthy of an apology. Hopefully she gets stronger and realises that ignorance does not excuse repeated poor behaviour.6
u/fionsichordSadly, when a set of siblings is raised in such dysfunction- alcoholic, checked out dad and a conflict-addicted mother - the siblings are shaped by that and it can be hard to impossible to really let go of all the misinformation you used to build your image of that person. Without a bunch of really top-notch therapy over a fairly extended period of time, OOP is better off lowering or cutting contact and reevaluating her expectations of what it’s possible to achieve in a relationship with them. I had to give up my dream of maybe being the one who got my family to connect more genuinely or securely. Enough of the older people had already decided my role in the system and I’m only now realising that a lot of them have an idea of me that’s very different to how I’d see myself, but which would explain my difficulty in connecting to many of them and why they don’t reach out to me.6
u/PracticeTheoryHey, this was my mother in her family! Down to the mean spirited mother than used cooking as a weapon and a spineless father. Along with the abuse she suffered growing up (called things like 'ugly duckling', 'big nose', made to do the most chores, and stay silent as her siblings were given more), it was also put on her kids. It was as if the harder my mom yearned for her approval and tried to please her, the more it disgusted her. The first way it came towards us was that after agreeing to babysit me so my mom could go back to work (at the time my mom believed having a grandchild would mend their relationship)...the week after I was born, the woman went out and got the first job she'd ever had, and kept it just until I was accepted into daycare a couple of years later. This pushed my parents to reconnect with my dad's estranged mother, who watched me instead and I love and cherish to this day. When my mom's mom found out, she screamed at nice grandma in the middle of the grocery store for ruining her scheme to screw over my mom. Nasty!grandma went on to babysit all five of my cousins. My mom still wanted us to have a relationship with her, so she'd still bring us over on some weekends. I hated going because she only served us freezerburnt corndogs that came from a huge bag that wasn't touched in between our visits. Not that the company was much of a draw either, since all I saw was a bitter, lazy woman. At the witch's funeral, all of my cousins, aunts, and uncles reminisced about how good her food was and how much she loved to feed people. And me and my sister just looked at each other wondering if they were talking about someone else. Because accordingly to all these people that woman had kindness in her, but we never saw it. I wasn't sad when she died. I had/have a loving grandma and it wasn't that one. We'd spent years on years telling my mother that she deserved better than she got and I don't think she was all that sad in the end, either.6
u/itsjustmo_My own mother could have written this same post. The people who told her she has to run now to protect her kids are right. What OP is too lost in the FOG to recognize is that when her mother is gone, the entire family system is going to turn on her all over again. I'm a probate paralegal on top of my personal experience. Its a Canon event and we cannot interfere. If the mom is using her pain as an excuse, the recognition and full accounting of what it was like to be her children will come only once the excuse of her pain is gone and buried with her.6
u/AgonistPhDI am baffled as to why the OP doesn't just move and cut contact with all of them.6
u/Fly0verThis is NOT to excuse the dads actions, but potentially relevant to those who don’t deal with alcoholism: Recently I was let go from a very VERY toxic job that had done a lot to hurt me for a long time. My sponsor (in case anyone doesn’t understand: my sponsor in sobriety from alcoholism) asked me to examine why I stayed for so long so I can address the situation in the future if it comes up again. She pointed out that she did the same thing and how many of us sober alcoholics choose to stay in abusive situations because we’re atoning for our previous actions; we think we deserve less than nothing from others.  Again, NOT EXCUSING the dad. I can let anything towards myself go until it hurts someone I love, so I would never in a million years act like him.  But my sisters, who aren’t alcoholics but grew up needing to placate my dad, see things as “that’s just how he is.” They stand up to him when it’s in regard to their husbands and kids, but it’s very easy to feel like “this doesn’t hurt me because I’m used to it, so why rock the boat” when you’re raised in an abusive household.  Dad unfortunately very probably thinks he deserves mistreatment and is used to this dynamic, so rocking the boat feels more painful — even when standing up for his kids — than just dealing with the situation, especially if he can’t gain the self respect to see that he also doesn’t deserve this treatment.5
u/thematicturkeyI wonder if things changed when her dad got sober. Maybe he was the target before OOP, just like now Mom is looking for someone new to target5
u/SharMaraliI wonder if OOP ever tried asking to have her birthday celebrated on a completely different day, like in June or something. I’m only wondering what kind of excuse her mother would’ve come up with. I definitely know this wouldn’t have solved the problem. It just would’ve been fun to see the mother try to spin a story about why it’s so important to celebrate on the actual birthday and then continue to not celebrate because it’s too inconvenient for her.5
u/PuzzleheadedTap4484Just wow… and I don’t agree letting the middle child go because she’s too young to understand OOP’s mother’s snide remarks. Kids know and understand. She may not understand the words but she understands the tone. And when she gets older she’ll reflect on the words and understand. I would have removed them from that toxicity and also moved away from mom and dad being landlords. In 9 months I’m sure they would have found something else, even if it’s not as ideal, it would be better than the toxicity.5
u/deedeejayzeeI have a "suicide " disease and don't treat people like crap all the time. I might say something in a harsher tone than I meant to, but I immediately apologize. If you're in pain, it doesn't give you the right to cause pain for others4
u/Zealousideal_Tea5988My dad was also in chronic, untreatable pain. Never once did that man yell or scream, hit or ignore me. Much less blame any of his actions on his pain levels. Stop giving excuses for crappy behavior that is a choice. Think better of yourself OP, and your kids...4
u/Moist_DrippingsTo anybody being treated this poorly by your parents: your kids are NOT flourishing if they are routinely sent to visit someone who is openly abusive, even if they are only abusive to you. That tells them that that behavior is okay (from multiple angles). For your kids’ sakes, do not allow them time with abusive grandparents, no matter how much you think/believe/hope they will be kinder to them. Do not let them see that they should give any allowances or make any company with someone who will abuse you, or they may think they should act the same way and allow it to happen to them.4
u/Similar-Shame7517Yeah... I don't trust OOP's father and sisters to not continue to be her mother's puppets.4
u/ThingFabulous2336God I needed to read this today. 35 weeks pregnant and just gone no/low contact with my mother after years of abuse and being the scapegoat to my brothers golden child and I’ve been struggling so much with the guilt. My dad is similarly in denial / doesn’t think mums done anything bad. My one saving grace is my brother is finally de programming from years of hating me, and think i was awful and selfish, to seeing how I was victimised from childhood. Which helps but also hurts so much to finally hear I wasn’t imagining it.4
u/BaseHitToLeftSooner or later sometime is going to slap the hell out of that "Mother". (Not advocating violence, don't ban me, just predicting the future)4
u/summercloudsadnessOOP needs to put some physical distance between her and her family ASAP. It's difficult to enforce boundaries when your patent is your landlord. Once OOP will taste a life far away from them,she will automatically thirst for more freedom and less contact. Atleast do it for the kids. I have seen many families that suddenly flourish once they had to move away for employment reasons. Such a blessing in disguise.4
u/Legitimate_Book_5196She's giving her sisters way too much credit and it's going to bite her in the ass. I understand she can't see it after years of being treated poorly but they still are not treating her the way she deserves to be treated.4
u/Icy_Bowl509She really isn’t standing up for yourself at all. She keeps her hand in hoping for change that’s never coming. She has a beautiful family of her own. That should be her focus. Cut the mentally draining ppl out of her life.4
u/Hesitation-Marxshe is in CONSTANT pain All I can say is… good.3
u/BabserellaWTTake as old as time. What happens when the scapegoat decides they’ve had it and peace out? The abuser finds another target. Suddenly the golden kids care about the abuse, what a shock!3
u/Mattriculated"Except for the birthday dinners, my mom doesn't treat me or the kids differently." She says this after having listed at least two other ways she's treated different, and goes on to list three to five more...3
u/maywellflowerSuckiness of being December baby, I have similar situation as OOP where family made me pick between birthday or Christmas as present and/or party, but can never have both despite birthdaybeing weeks earlier. Now family is permanently pissed off at me because I go away on vacation for my birthday for like week or 2, so need nor way for them pull birthday or Christmas stupidity on me due to me taking that "choice" away. OOP's mother probably losing her mind while lashing at everyone remaining because OOP both took the choice away regarding December and showing that simply "Sorry" is not going cut it due not physically coming back during year over the last straw that broken camel's back AKA the trip. Now if OOP can finally do right by the kids and nor let them see grandma again - OOP will effectively cut off the supply of abuse of access to any children of OOP, that the only kids the mother will abuse going forward are sisters. Sucks, but better them than any children of OOP, including stepkid, at this point....3
u/Internal_Praline_658Dude, OP needs so much more therapy. Her shitty sisters need to bounce. They had to get verbally abused themselves to see it’s a problem. And no apology. Fuck the dad too. He’s still married to it and supporting it.3
u/TopAd7154OOP needs to bin the whole lot of them. What a disgusting bunch.3
u/TypicalManagement680This is a frustrating read. I could just shake OOP, my god. OOP admitted (and abides) her mother showing favoritism with her kids’ birthdays, does she not think her kids are not noticing that?! Before they his recent incident, OOP would’ve said her mother treated her kids great, the same mother showing birthday favoritism, a shared experience between OOP and her kids. Why would she even want her mother around as any sort of influence and role model to her kids?! OOP is still refusing to see things clearly and fully regarding her mother at ALL. Why does it have to take for her mother to be abusive towards the children for her to stop them from going over there, she knows her mother is abusive asf and really should’ve shut down any and all opportunities for her to be abusive towards her children.3
u/Wise_Relation_6949What a sad, mean woman. Fully NTA in the least. Shame on the family for never standing up to her because they don’t want to draw the fire.3
u/Boggers111What a shit family, her sisters still haven’t apologised. The dad is a spineless coward.3
u/ChandlerddDNA does not make a family. Find those who are kind, thoughtful and considerate. Cultivate friendships with friends and leave every single family member in the dust. I wish years of happiness for you, husband and children.!!3
u/Heavy-Macaron2004Ah, yeah that sounds like a middle child. Poor OOP.3
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3r/malaysiaExposing the torture that happens in Malaysian prisonsSpecial-Orchid-703813950%32782.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-07↗
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u/Special-Orchid-7038Public proof <image>191
u/TheBotMadeThisI 100% will not survive prison.163
u/chooocothis is insane. serious violation of human rights. have you considered talking to western media about this? like BBC for example122
u/RGK777Damn bro. You're a stronger man than me. No way I'd survive this hell117
u/Independent-Ask5674Been waiting for ur post. Thanks for sharing104
u/SuitAffectionate6351OMG I would die on the first day inside there.64
u/LevelPowerful6816Based on your post, you went to the tawakal block too right? What is the reason you were sent there?63
u/BlueInNovemberHi. I used to visit Sg Buloh prison to treat the inmates. They have their own prison clinic but a team of specialists would sometimes go there. I volunteered each time to go with my boss and one other colleague. Man, depressing was an understatement. What OP wrote was definitely plausible although I would only get about 10% of the fact as the rest are being supressed by the prison guards/wardens, I'm sure. I was never left alone with the inmates but they were so out of it - like either high or traumatized or just too afraid to talk much to me. ALL of them want meds. ANY kind of meds. They would plead and beg. It was so hard to elicit genuine symptoms because they said yes to everything. Even if I just made up a pretend symptom. Except for the men on deathrow. They were brutally honest. The things they say... I remember to this very day. The inmates and staff I interacted with were very polite. The first time I was there, I expected something like Shawshank Redemption and the inmates like Hannibal Lecter lol. But it was more like a well-guarded old boarding school for adult men. After we were done for the day, the staff would take us to the dining hall for a meal. The staff dining hall. I have also been to the inmates dining hall but that's about the only place they let us see. The food was actually surprisingly good but I was the only one eating mostly to be polite. My colleagues were afraid the cook would spit in the food or worse. I have also treated inmates from other prisons but they would come to us instead of us going there. It was an experience I'd never forget, Penjara Sg Buloh. Thank you OP, for sharing your experience. I only saw what they wanted me to see but I know it was definitely darker than what I've been led to believe.60
u/Long-Desk9231Thank you so much for sharing. The fact that there are no politicians or ministers even care to tackle this serious issue is very upsetting. The whole Malaysian prison system needs to be revamped and revised. It's way long overdue. I figure someone like Syed Saddiq can try to at least change this evil, outdated and uncivilized prison system that has been a part of this country since forever. Human rights organizations in Malaysia should also tackle this issue and make it known that this is not okay. We're in 2026 and this kind of system should not be a part of this country any longer. And some Malaysians are surprised why we can't beat Singapore in terms of progression and development, this is one of the reasons why.47
u/mraz_syahI've experienced went to jail very long ago, i was in a club, and the police do the raid that night, that day i didn't feel want to go anywhere cause i have a bit fever, but my friend force me, so i took panadol and go to the club, and when the police raid happened, they randomly choose people and asked to go to toilet to take urine sample, and they do some test, and sadly, they detected some drugs in my urine (duh, i eat panadol). so sent to the jail, i really don't remember what happened cause i really want to forget it, but 1 thing that i really remember is, we give all our belongings to the officers. something i really remember is when the officers check my wallet, they're rm50 and rm20, they officers said, "ok kita ambil yg besar ye", being sad and confused what the hell its meaning, I just say yes, and the officers take out that rm50 and put it in the pocket , and he said, "nnti awak dpt makan nasi ayam sedap", in my head like whatever, i didn't have any appetite anywhere, we are in the hall, and asked to removed all our clothes in front of all people that do like marching, and do the squats few times, to check if they're any drug probably, and given the prison cloth and chang afterwards. and yes, i do get a big better meals, but didn't care, was put in a prison consist if i think around 10-20 people, sleep on hard wooden kind of big bed with all people, and have open toilet that everyone can see ur business, and limited water to wash it off, time in there is hard to know, just a small windows to know its morning or night, and next day i think we go to court and pledge guilty or not, i said I'm not guilty,and need works whatever I don't remember, and we being bailed by police, but given certain date, to come to police station to check our urines test (I'm clean). yeah i agreed what OP said that some local, they want to go to jail just to get something to eat or something, because in the jail, they're few people keep on going in and out, they said its like 5-10 times they in there, and they seem ok45
u/Kuro2712I knew it was bad, but damn this is downright horrible.41
u/soonersoupMan, this is so bad. I wouldn't even treat a stray cat that horrible41
u/FinalAppointment6221Noted. Tq op. One more reason to not get into jail. Malaysian police is like 50-50 chance if you meet them outside ( they stop you car for example) , you going to get summon or giv br*be. It is is a known knowledge.37
u/jenozsideTIL: Prison guards might be in the T20 category33
u/Bitches_Be_CrayfishMy god. Reading this makes me feel sick cause I know it’s true how corrupted and inhumane our justice system is. Cops are pigs.33
u/playgroundmxFuck, I can’t even finish reading the post. The way they treat people is horrible.31
u/JollyCandy5Do you know what happens in the female prisons? Are they relatively same as men’s?28
u/abacteriaunmanlyThanks bro really appreciate this post25
u/tophthemelonlorddsometimes i wonder do they have kids/families back home? how do they face them after a whole day of treating another human as subhuman? are their brain wired differently? do they hire only psychopaths?20
u/adam20101For the first time i dont see Malaysians have moral superiority complex in the comments lol20
u/TheSodaDudeI can’t believe this is real18
u/Special-Orchid-7038Now I'm gonna ask the real question, PMX and Najib experienced this first hand?15
u/heymemes8There are a bunch of sadists and sociopaths in the "justice" system, it's so fucked up man14
u/koolio92I know a lot of people will be like this is not okay and can't believe that this is happening but this is a result of our own society. The way we romanticize criminal punishment and see criminals as subhumans and justify their mistreatment - these are all indirectly our faults. Prison is for rehabilitation, not punishment. I know many of us see prisoners and think rapists, murderers but majority of prisoners are in prison not because of their own fault, some are just poor, some were unjustly criminalized, and many did not have a choice in the matter. Even if they committed a heinous crime, everyone deserves a second chance. Also, police brutality and corruption aren't new. It's always a thing, everywhere on Earth. ACAB applies to all police, including your uncle/dad who may have not been these monsters described in OP's post but they were well aware of corruption and said/did nothing.12
u/BennydckCucumberI hope you’re doing better OP, this is terrible. And abt the lack of reforms? Maybe it has smth to do with the generally conservative political outlook that this country has, imo better facilities/treatment etc for prisoners are usually found in more left-leaning countries.12
u/Vankomon888How about sodomize activity among inmates? Is it real like in Shawshank Redemption?12
u/interstellararabellaI wish your story would go viral. This is serious human right violation. We don’t even treat animals like this. It’s complete unacceptable10
u/charliekirks-holeDamn. Shit eater. That's one hell of a punishment 😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣10
u/jimmyisbrokeAre there women there? Are they being treated this way too?9
u/15yearsTitanShifterI dont get it, if things are actually this bad, why isn't there more public discussion about it? From my limited exposure to malaysia prison system, like sewing classes or talks given by the Imam. Is that just a front, or am I missing something? That’s actually terrifying cuz i really thought we had it better. No dignity given.8
u/Seekret_Asian_ManThat's it, I carry cyanide just in case.7
u/MrWiseFrogI wonder if the military is the same as the police. I’ve met couple of military dudes when i joined a camp when i was in high school, they were pretty harsh with the punishments, like we have to eat grass if you don’t march properly, and they were strict. But also sometimes they were chill, they joke around with us and don’t seem like the officers in OP’s story. But then again, I only saw the surface of it.7
u/rakkksaksaDrug case OP? Just curious.6
u/AifelseSannWow I just read thru... Such an insight, keep it going This is my country and I would like to learn more about it6
u/Glad-Ad8735You went through literal hell for this, I hope you’re doing much better OP.6
u/Pelanty21OP, someone who went to Sg Buloh had a similar expose a few years back on the lowyat.net forum. It's over 23 pages long and mostly ppl asking if he was raped. But his stories generally align with yours. lowyat forum5
u/assault_waifusI'm surprised by how many people here don't know that high-profile political prisoners receive different treatment.5
u/chooocojust curious about the racial / ethnical distribution in there - is it comparable to Malaysia's population? mostly Malay, then Chinese etc?5
u/[deleted]I really wish you can write a non-fiction book about our prison system. It can become an impetus for change if enough people read it.3
u/Wai-SeeWhat exactly happens to prisoner without any money? Like what happens to those who don’t smuggle contraband in, and just live on whatever provided by the prison?3
u/oncesagaciousBalls to you. I’d have been broken both mentally and physically had I been in your shoes.3
u/SensitiveBall4508The most moral of countries really. Thats why we can dictate what other people should do. But yeah. Thats all kinds of fucked up.3
u/Huge-Bed3245What happen when you went right on the scanner? I mean the other way besides tawakal block.2
u/[deleted]Najib is laughing2
u/bettabeatieHow were the prosecutors and court staff treating you?2
u/tyl7Since you said you stopped receiving money from your family, where did you get your habuk and abu to smuggle into the prison?2
u/bettabeatieWhat happens when inmates die in prison? Is the coroner called and lots of paperwork to do?2
u/Defiant_Let1377I wonder if some people have to experience conditions like this just for "possessing two packets of stolen Milo from a supermarket"?2
u/inzfireThat eating shit part...ngl could be reported to human rights activists or whatever... ngl murderer or sexual assaulters should eat shit ..but petty crimes doer shouldn't experience that imo2
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4r/BestofRedditorUpdatesAITAH for refusing to talk to my dad and brothers after the comment they made to...FunnyAnchor12313670%42282.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-14↗
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u/OutOfAllTheAltsFor trigger warnings, you can replace "puzzling motivations" with "incest" and "sexual abuse"1791
u/tattoovampDad and brothers all think like rapists.1632
u/performancearsonistWell, I'll give OP credit. It definitely sounds like a 16 year old wrote it. It doesn't make any sense, but I believe a teenager could come up with this level of nonsense.1359
u/ebolashuffleThe comment about wearing a guy's shirt being him " marking his territory" sounds so stupid. Also, her dad destroyed most of her clothes, what the fuck was she supposed to be wearing?929
u/istaraSounds like dad was "stumbling in his walk with God".918
u/mmavcanuckIt’s amazing how many borus involve twins.502
u/imabigfillyWhy is no one talking about the fact that the mom is clearly in a lesbian polycule wherever she is and has essentially left the family but they can't say that because divorce is still taboo in some cultures?468
u/Quirky-Weird-4242In summary, incel dad raised a bunch of incel sons..356
u/41flavorsandthensomeThis really bothered me to the point that parts of my brain shut down. Not because of OOP, but because her dad and brothers are fucked up. I think her brother (was it Elijah?) getting in a fight after sexually harassing a woman pretty much summed it all up. The dad and bros didn't want OOP to get assaulted because of what she was wearing, which is total bullshit because rape is about power, not attraction/clothes/whatever.246
u/Elfich47So five men treating the "little girl" of the family as property. A story as old as time.222
u/fromofandfori hate everyone in this family for how hard they failed this girl. jesus fucking christ.213
u/Chaos-Pand4Oh no, I'm here too early. There are no comments here to tell me if this is worth a read or not.211
u/ShooHonkerThis K-drama has terrible writing.98
u/imaginesomethinwittyThis isn’t even interesting nonsense. If you need to make up a multipart story at least make it compelling.90
u/West-Kaleidoscope129From the very first comment about the skirt being short I knew dad and brothers were sexualising her! They just didn't want her in the skirt because they felt (like all predators) she was leading them on and they knew it was wrong for them to think and feel that way about her so blame her instead of their own perverted minds! Like father like sons!84
u/volkswagenorangeSo the big secret her father and brothers won't share with her is that they are all piece-of-shit misogynists and abusers. Got it. Meanwhile Mum has sacrificed her daughter's safety and left her with these disgusting abusers so she can have her own freedom. Got it. Cripes I hope OOP gets a decent job and never speaks to any of wastes of oxygen again.78
u/lfIwereaclownfishThis sounds like several Philippine families I know. It seems very common for the women especially to leave the home to work professional jobs overseas where the pay is good. Her mentioning that she got a lot of her cloths from fairs is also another give away. And then how the school is structured is also not how they do things in England. There's more clues but I just hope she cuts off her dad and brothers. Her mom needed someone else to step in and tell her to go be a mom smfh. Atleast she seems to have found a supportive, adoptive family. Honestly though, her mom being a traveling international lawyer sounds whole heartedly false. It's more likely she's a nurse, having multiple roommates fits that. In Japan that's how international nurses are houses, in groups and dorms.58
u/FairyGothMommyThis is one screwed up family53
u/Whatever-and-breatheSomething tell me that the manosphere may have something to do with it.47
u/Playful-Business7457This person does not speak English as a second language and is definitely only aware of the American school system through TV and books40
u/PastalindeandoThese men are not safe to be around. What could they do next to their sister/daugther? What kind of "punishment" Will they consider entitled to inflict her? Maybe together, since they were oh so sure they could control her as they please.28
u/thesilveringfoxmom’s name is Godot23
u/Terrible_Kiwi_776I'm getting a vibe that the mom's divorced friend is more of a romantic partner. After all, she wasn't at work  but still didn't want to come home to help her child. Plus, why lie about a 3rd roommate? Maybe because having 2 other roommates sounds less intimate than the reality of two ladies living together for fun. I'm also getting a vibe that dad is probably projecting his own infidelity feeling onto his daughter.  Hopefully everyone in that family will get some quality therapy. They need it.19
u/violueimo the fact that it's so convoluted actually makes it feel more true. it's not like the idea is so out there. a bunch of men deciding a girl's vagina is some family treasure that they all must guard, even to the detriment of the girl herself.19
u/Exotic-Day-1082Maybe I missed it but was this family of a different culture but living in the UK? Kind of got that vibe.15
u/oceanducielWhat the fuck is wrong with the men in this family7
u/Yutana45Let's say it fir what it is: she wasnt a sister or daughter to any man in her immediate family. The mom was tryna tip toe around it, but it was clear they were all sexually attracted to her in some sick capacity. What an awful set of men. I hope her mom inevitably divorced and just sends money for the youngest bc the oldest two are lost causes already.6
u/LightOfHekateAh yes, the visual representation of how patriarchal conditioning hurts even the men that benefit: tearing an entire family apart, sending the older men to the hospital due to stress, breeding sexual predators with anger issues and entitlement problems, breeding spineless men who claim to be leaders while lying on their backs and presenting their throats for other men, and traumatizing the women who are just trying to live their lives with autonomy. Literally everyone failed the OOP. Dad, all her brothers, even her mom. The only safe space was her friend’s family and I am so glad she had support outside of the hell she was enduring but gods, do I feel the indescribable rage of every woman for how this transpired. I get that the mom wasn’t expecting all of those kids but you can’t just leave them??? Does she not realize that because she refused to own the fact she got pregnant without planning for the unlikelihood of another set of twins, she is literally the reason this all happened to begin with? Considering the mom’s reaction to hearing all of that, I’m inclined to believe that had she stayed like a mature adult who understands she made a commitment by choosing to have kids, no matter how many, she would have immediately corrected the misogyny the moment it came out. Though I’d like to believe that it wouldn’t have even gotten to this point if she did stay (see why it’s her fault too?) Massive props to the friend’s family, genuinely. For her age, OOP handled this whole thing really well. Despite the intense emotions, she found ways to remain grounded and respected her own boundaries. That mom, sister, and her friend all deserve the best in life. It’s good to see the mom at least try now and thank that lovely divorced woman who talked sense into her (may she heal and find real, healthy love), but from the update itself, it seems like the mom is just… accepting everything and not actually trying to fix anything. The dad brought up therapy but like… idk maybe I’m expecting too much but it feels like she’s purposely dragging her feet, but I could just be cynical and I’m genuinely hoping I’m wrong. I can see why OP is keeping this marked as inconclusive too… this is one of those situations that will either resolve or blow up more, especially if they’re going to be trying to do better because that one brother is going to be the one that refuses and escalates. Until something happens to force him to confront what he’s become, he’s going to just keep spiraling and drowning in his own anger. I wouldn’t be surprised if that anger comes from the fact his mom essentially “abandoned” them for her freedom and he resents her for it. I’m just rooting for the OOP; the only sane person in that entire family. May she process and heal this trauma and continue to step into the strong woman it sounds like she’s becoming. Edited: wording/phrasing6
u/GroslomThe only English or American thing I can detect in this is the language itself.5
u/ThePenultimateRoloThere is no way OP is in top grade classes and grew up in the UK. Her writing is not native English, no matter if she got interested in American English5
u/spacebunsofsteelThe constant mentions of her stuffed animals in the middle of a dysfunctional family exploding made me tear up. She loves her stuffies and doesn’t understand motivations of her abusive dad and brothers. This post hints at her mom finding a way out - constant travel, parenting via text, just sends a check. What is she running to? What happened to the lover? Why is affair boy baby accepted, but affair girl baby is scapegoated and carefully controlled as she matures into a woman? Considering how many updates there are, I still have a million questions. I hope she finds a safe spot and thrives.5
u/fjmj1980Honestly my first hunch was mom was a lesbian and everyone knows except OOP and every male now thinks anything remotely feminine is a trigger.4
u/TheFilthyDILOK, being a cynical old woman, I'm going to say what OOP's father and brother are too embarrassed to say. Heterosexual males often get erections when they see women in attractive clothes. They may even be responding that way to OOP and are embarrassed about it. They don't want other men responding sexually to seeing OOP, even if she doesn't encourage it and doesn't even know it. They know they can't stop these other males, so they're applying pressure on the only person they can somewhat control -- OOP. It doesn't excuse the insane rampage where he tore up most of her clothes, though. I'm willing to bet that he tore up anything that he deemed "too revealing"-- too tight, too low-cut, too short in the skirt -- and left her with a few baggy sweatshirts and a few longer skirts or loose-fitting pants. (I had a miniskirt as a teen that barely covered my butt. Did I wear that when my father could see? Hell, no! 😂 Did my boyfriend (now husband) like it? Hell, yes!)4
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5r/nbaWhen Wilt Chamberlain Completely Ruptured His Patellar Tendon and Returned to NB...RespectingOpinions12470%13382.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-25↗
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u/Chessh2036I’m so glad you posted about this, because it’s absolutely insane. This injury can ruin a NBA career. Pretty much did ruin Victor Oladipo’s career. Dante Exum was never the same. Yet this freaking dude RECOVERED IN 4 MONTHS AND 11 DAYS. And this was in 1969. He was an absolute freak.1085
u/IntelligentAd5460pretty confident wilt has either the greatest media propaganda arm in history or he was a xman562
u/OThePlacesYouWillGo7’1 280+ pounds, playing the full game up and down the court in Converses? Wilt was insane336
u/actually-potatoWilt once had to exit a game after taking a nasty shot to the nards while going up for a dunk. In the locker room, the team physician diagnosed him with severe testicular torsion and said they had to rule him out. Wilt didn't say anything when he heard the bad news. He just looked the doctor in the eyes and reached down to jiggle his ballsack until his left nut untwisted itself. He rejoined the game after halftime and proceeded to put up the NBA's first and only quintuple double, which unfortunately was lost to time as blocks weren't tracked in that era233
u/JustAHorseWithNoNameThey say Wilt got shot 10 times point blank before a game, and still managed to score 50 points113
u/ejiggleAssuming the injury was actually a fully ruptured patellar tendon lol. Basically everything I read about Wilt I'm reasonably confident is propaganda68
u/CookingLikeChefOf all the wilt stories this might genuinely be the craziest and most impressive, people are impressed with tatum coming back early from an achilles tear but that injury might be worse and dude came back in just a few months.... and was productive? Actually criminal how this isn't talked about more if this is real62
u/kirito6521At this point I’ll even believe Wilt is DB Cooper. Just feed me the propaganda and conspiracy theories47
u/sssSnakebiteI believe in conspiracy theories I don’t believe in Wilt existing. He probably did, but I don’t think he did.28
u/texasphotogThat MF is not real.25
u/One-Masterpiece9838I’m surprised he hasn’t scored 200. Jesus Christ. This man was a demigod22
u/donkeyinparadiseWilt probably pissed that it took that long lol12
u/bikedork5000Wilt would be the most freaky athlete in the league if he was in it right now. 7'1", 250+, and ran a 10.9 400m in addition to all the strength, jumping etc. Dude had athleticism to spare.12
u/eugoogilizerComing back to average 22 pts and 4.5 ast on a hobbled leg is insane enough, but also 22 RPG? Holy crap man…8
u/SoNoHeadQuestionMarxFirst Shai now Moody is coming for a Wilt record?8
u/OyeCorazonWe are talking about HUMANS here. I refuse to believe Wilt was human, hes a beast7
u/nugentismycenterWilt Was not as only the strongest NBA player of all time but Arnold Swartzenegger said he was the strongest person he has ever met. Is Wilt Chamberlain HUMAN!? ● Strength Stories You Won't Believe - YouTube https://share.google/y40eHcy7q83aRv9zN6
u/redmostofitI mean yeah anyone can recover that quick after injuring their right patellar tendon. I’ve just ruptured my left and that’s way different…4
u/BigHomieReeseWilt got superpowers, can bang 10,000 women and recover from life altering injuries4
u/Smok3dSalmonPretty compelling argument that players back then weren’t as athletic. Perhaps the floor was lower, but the ceiling might be just as high as today’s. This is up there with Adrian Peterson’s ACL recovery.4
u/Puppetmaster858I mean to be fair yes wilt is an absolute freak but I doubt he was fully healthy, if he was around today I’m sure the team would’ve kept him out a good bit longer. Definitely absolutely insane regardless and he’s likely one of the greatest physical specimens in human history but I’m sure he rushed back from that and modern medicine/doctors would not have had him return that quickly3
u/Chuckieeee0Fucking insane2
u/RealPrinceJayThis is an injury that has ruined the careers of young players today with all the modern tech and medical advancements Wilt was 33 at a time when 33 was really old as dirt in pro sports, medicine was nowhere close to what it is today, physical therapy is nowhere close, general training is nowhere close, and he popped right back midseason and had some dominant showings… People try to categorize, understand, and downplay the things Wilt did, but in reality there’s a reason why only Wilt did them I’ve always said he’s the closest thing to Hercules in real life, and maybe our culture’s last folk hero. He’s almost a mythological figure, each story more insane than the next, and yet a good chunk of them are true2
u/EmergencyLavishness1Some people just heal a bit quicker than others. Now, I’ll say right here. I’m no wilt chamberlain. I’m white, short and currently fat. But a few years back, I broke my femur. A straight crack from the base, about 6 inches up. I’ve got 6 screws still in there holding it together. I was told, I’d be walking unassisted in 3 months. And rehab would start then. I had no job an needed money. So I opened a kitchen after 2 months. Still had the leg brace on limiting me to a 45• angle, using one crutch to get about. I was back doing 50-60 hours weeks on my feet after 2 months. After the first week, I went back to the docs and said I need the brace off, cos I can’t move right with it on. I need more mobility for work. They flat out told me they’ll take it off, but very strongly suggest I do not work. Not should I be on my feet for more than 30 mins at a time. Anyone that’s worked in a kitchen knows that’s not possible. But without this, I’m homeless and broke as fuck. So I got it done. It wasn’t perfect. Pretty far from it. But there’s seemingly no long lasting effects from my stupidity to get back and work. So it is possible to just ignore doctors orders, go about your daily life at 75% while it takes even longer to heal. Because you’re not doing the rehab and rest correctly. Sometimes it’s just about need. Sometimes it’s about want(like wilt wanting a championship), and sometimes it’s just straight up fucking STUPID like me in my case.2
u/Countryb0i2mWilt was taking a huge risk. You can’t out-train a ruptured tendon. They don’t get much blood flow, so they heal slowly far longer than four months no matter how hard you work or how athletic you are. So just being on the court was a huge risk, and that’s before even considering the physical limitations. It’s honestly amazing he ever played at all2
u/superrealaccount2Is there anything Wilt didn't do, in some way or another?2
u/penguin_torpedo47.3 minutes per game Lol that's ridiculous2
u/HOFredditorthis is the final nail in the coffin for all the Wilt doubters. Wilt would translate in any era. He was a freak more than Giannis or any other freaks we've seen.2
u/Justinian1228Are we sure Wilt wasn't two different people? These stories are just insane1
u/rocket_beerSo in those 4 months, did he increase his productivity?1
u/NittanyScoutLet's hope Moody has a similar recover window. Hope hes back and hooping soon, it sucks his good season ended on such a shitter1
u/MR_M33Pinteresting!1
u/MelonElbowsWilt really isn't human, is he?1
u/bmoneygetsbucksAbsolutely insane to hear. I tore mine my senior year of high school and and got surgery that July, I didn’t even get an officially practice in college in until after redshirting my whole freshman year and needing a two extra months into the summer practices.1
u/QNIKET8half these stories about wilt have gotta be fake i’m sorry-3
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u/mjh8212My husband is usually the one who does vet visits I stay home. One of our cats has chronic sinusitis which comes with ear infections. Husband took him to the vet got his meds checked him out. He comes home and runs meowing at me about what my husband did he’ll avoid my husband and give me a lot of attention for a couple days. He’s more bonded to me anyway but you can tell after vet visits it’s personal.231
u/Constant_Purple8875lol, yes, mine pulls this when I travel without her. Which is understandable, but I am leaving her with grandma who she is very enthusiastic to stay with a day or two on a regular basis, but a week would get me “banned”. ONCE i travelled for 2 weeks and she was cold to me for 2 months. would pretend not to hear well or that our old tricks stopped working. Give him time and routine back. Gotta earn that trust :)147
u/CinderbunniMy dog ran away (to find me!) when I left him with grandpa when I went on vacation. He was missing for 3 days as the entire neighborhood went on a hunt to find him. When grandpa got him back, he was fed and ENTIRE whole foods roasted chicken and loved on big time. When we got back, this dog, who was bonded to me and would make me spoon him every night, slept on the other side of the couch, wouldn't cuddle, avoided eye contact and would turn his head away from me for 3 MONTHS until he got over the trauma, the hurt, the feeling of betrayal? I was gentle and loving and gave him all the treats. It took a lot of time, and i did have a few moments of tears, but at the 3.5 month mark, he went back to cuddling with me and we now spoon again every night. Your baby will forgive you. Give him time.110
u/AnitaLatteI had a dog that wouldn’t look at me all the way home from the vet. Just faced the door in the car. But 4 days is kind of a long time. You say he got all of his vaccinations at that appointment. Dogs, like people, can be tired, sore and achy after vaccinations. Their immune systems react over a period of days or weeks, and they can feel under the weather. I would gently do a body check where he was vaccinated to see if there are any swellings or feverish areas. A call or e-mail to the vet clinic would probably be a good idea as well. We had a dog that got an egg-sized swelling on her vaccination site every time she was vaccinated. It lasted about 3 weeks before it was finally gone. Our vet said it was an immune system reaction that the vaccination was doing it’s job, but he still would report it to the vaccine manufacturer so they would have that data.50
u/Ok_Sell5000The best thing you can do right now is give him space and stop trying so hard to win him back. Every time you go to him with extra treats or the good boy voice he is interpreting that as you admitting you did something wrong which reinforces his behavior. Let him come to you on his terms and when he does give him calm gentle attention withuot making a big deal out of it. Dogs pick up on our energy and the more you act guilty the more he will act like you should be. Stick to your normal routine like nothing happened and he will realize the drama is over and come back around. He is absolutely running a theater production but it only works if you keep buying a ticket.50
u/pyxus1Lay on the floor with him. Lay down with your head on the floor. Get as low as you can. Let him sniff around you, push his head against you, rub against you. Don't say anything. He will understand your apology.31
u/Serious-Telephone967This is so well written and very familiar. Poor biscuits! Four days does seem excessive though. I have a stubborn hound so I always get the silent treatment and she refuses to sleep in the same room as me but for 24 hours max. Did he get shots while he was there? Sometimes those can cause them to feel unwell.19
u/blithetorrentMy corgi/border collie did that for at least a week, exactly the same thing. Close by, but the contract had been broken. It was when I cleaned out his infected ears, clipped his nails, gave him a medicinal bath and brushed him out all in the same day. He HATED any kind of grooming or interference and clearly decided I hated him. It was honestly pretty depressing until he finally either forgot or forgave me. On the other hand, I think it might have been the reverse, ie, he may have thought I was punishing him and that we were no longer pals. It seemed to take forever for him to warm up to me again. Heartbreaking.15
u/Anam_LiathIt was a little scary for him, you went with him into the lion's den and brought him out. He escaped with his life because you were there to lead. He's being submissive and shy now. He's not mad, he's awed! Lie on your back on the floor and talk squeaky puppy talk like when he was a baby. Don't make eye contact just play with a toy of his or even a towel. Be silly like he's a puppy and toss really good treats but don't look at him. He'll come around. He's not mad. Just a little off kilter and awed. Also quietly take him for treats a couple times to help defuse the car. Mine go to the vet in pairs, one gets treated the other gets a non-confrontational visit to the office. With 3 dogs, that means 2/3 of their visits are no big deal and they are there for their buddy.12
u/kateinolyI started taking mine for friendly visits. We walk around, the receptionists and vet techs pet him and give him treats, I put him on the scale, then we leave. My vet recommended doing this to reduce his vet anxiety. He is no longer nervous going into the office.9
u/ConsiderThis_42My dog and I had a system of time outs for bad behavior. I put her in her kennel for 15 minutes when she was bad. Usually it was for chewing on the wrong things. When the oven timer went off, I let her out and gave her something more appropriate to chew on. Then all went back to normal. Eventually, she learned to do things like bring me her old chews when she needed a new one, so I knew it was time to replace one. We had to work out our differences just like housemates sometimes have to do. She gave me timeouts by turning her butt to me and refusing to acknowledge me. I learned to go to my rocker, sit in silence and take my 15 minutes of time out with humility. I got in trouble for things like trying to trim her toenails, walking to the mailbox without letting her escort me, and petting another dog before first paying attention to her. She was OK with her vet trimming her nails. He had better clippers, but after one bad incident she never let me clip her nails again even though I bought clippers just like his. Once was enough for her. When I had to leave another dog I had at my mom's so I could get to work when we had major flooding on the Missouri River, I learned to call home everyday and have mom put my dog on the phone. Mom said that she would cock her head to the phone to listen to me say familiar things. That kept me out of serious trouble for not coming home. She really just needed to know that I was OK and coming back. But she really gave the guy who was ferrying people across the flooded river to the bridge a piece of her mind because he wouldn't let her in his boat so she could come to me. He laughed about that for years at how she fussed at him for not letting her in the boat. He said if he would have had a life jacket that would have fit her, he might have relented, given her insistence. But I was not going to get in that boat to come to her. The Missouri is very dangerous when it floods and I was glad he stood his ground.8
u/Running_Amok_My dog a Boston Pug mix sat for 3 days with her back to me after a vet visit. She was so mad. She did not forgive easily6
u/Natural-Escape-3537“He accepted them with the dignity of a man tolerating a handshake from someone he has not yet decided to forgive.” This had me lol’ing. You are a writer.6
u/OldCapricornHope it’s not a reaction to a shot.6
u/LostMyZenOur older boy cried at his first vet appointment. The vet gave him a shot and left the room to get something. He wanted her to come back. He also broke his leg at 8 months old. When we went in for his first checkup, one week after major surgery, he did his best to drag us into the hospital, cast and all. He was thrilled to see his fans. His little brother is not nearly as outgoing, or forgiving. If I do something really traumatizing, like try a collar on him to check the size, he hides in his brother’s crate (his favorite place when he’s emotional) for hours, looking at me like I’ve broken his heart and betrayed his trust. It takes a sincere apology, cheese, and a good nap before he’ll talk to me again.5
u/Easy_Olive1942Trip to the vet is definitely a silent treatment worthy offense in our house too. I get told off, maybe silent treatment too, for not heading out on adventure/walks too many days in a row or abandoning them too long too many days in a row.4
u/kajeynSo... In 4 years this is the first time you've taken him to the vet?4
u/thatveronicavaughnnThe most challenging thing about this is if you have to take them when something is actually wrong and its scary!! I am lucky that my dogs absolutely LOVEEEEEE going to the vet even if there is some kind of sickness, procedure, urgent situation. So I guess would it be worth it to try to find a way to positively reinforce the vet visits while theyre happening? Not that you're eager for this silent treatment again.... I don't know, not a lawyer, just taking a shot in the dark on this.3
u/quantumsparqThat’s a pretty funny write up.3
u/Key_Scratch_4584My girl is different, she Loves going to the vets, absolutely loves it, as we turn down the road to get there her tail is helicoptering to it's fullest capability. When we get in i need her on a short leash to stop it sending everything onthe shelves everywhere. The small amount of treats she got the first time we went there has stuck in one of those braincells for nearly 7 years now. When we leave, I get the silent treatment for hours.3
u/toxiclightThankfully my dog usually goes back to normal after a day or so when she feels traumatized. By the vet, by me being out of town overnight (despite the fact that she still has my husband and youngest with her the entire time!) She's thankfully quick to forgive.3
u/mitzilaniMy ex made me take our dog to get fixed and then he would pick him up, making me the bad guy. “What have they done to you, boy?!”3
u/Dry-Peach-6327Yes. One of my cats, now 16 years old, is the master of punishment. When I adopted a second cat 4 years ago, he wouldn’t purr for a month. We’ve moved a few times in his life, and while he rolled with it when younger, now that he’s old he’s gotten cranky and will give me the silent treatment. Currently he is punishing me due to a temporary move we did two weeks ago back to my apartment (we were staying at family house to assist with their care for the last couple of years). He now spends most of the time under the bed, sulking. I know he is fine because I have cameras around the house. As soon as I leave or fall asleep he wanders around the house, eats drinks and uses litter normally. Sleeps on top of his cat tree. As soon as I come home, he goes back under the bed and sulks 😂 he also cuddles with me on the bed in the middle of the night while I sleep, and wakes me up in the morning for treats. He has just started greeting me when I come home, but then goes back under the bed. He also use to love brushing time, but now he refuses to let me brush him which is a little problematic as he has long hair and he’s old. I have spoken to his vet and we will try a gabapentin script. we’re moving into our new house in a month, so I’m sure this will just happen all over again. But I think the gabapentin will help him chill out a bit Oh and about the vet. He goes to the vet every 6 months or so for blood work due to his hyperthyroidism. For about a month after each vet visit, he hides when he hears me getting ready in the morning because he convinces himself that I’m getting ready to take him to the vet. He is actually a very smart cat lol, I could go on. Like you, I talk to my cat like he’s a human and explain everything that is happening. I talk to him about going to the vet before and after it happens. Sure he may not understand but I talk to him about it anyway. 😂 All of this makes me really sad, but eventually with time and space my cat comes around. I’m sure your dog will, as well. I am surprised to hear about this happening with a dog and with a retriever mix, too. He may just be exceptionally smart so he is taking everything more personally.3
u/LdyjamMy pup definitely does this silent treatment when I took him to the vet. We went to a new vet and they take him in the back for his shots, bloodwork and all the not fun stuff. Now when he's returned to me he's so happy to see me and away from the mean people he doesn't give me the attitude anymore. I'm sure your fur baby will come around soon.2
u/Ju5t4ddH2oHe is part Golden. They’re the most judgy of all the dogs! He’s got you reexamining everything you’ve done, lol. You’ve paid your dues, let him have his space & he’ll get over it. No more extra sympathy! Or it’ll just get worse w/ him. Good luck!2
u/Ok-Potential-863Sometimes my dog will pretend he’s mad at me because he wants me to give him extra attention and plead for his forgiveness.2
u/Skinnylatte2Omg, this is sad 😭😭😭 And then I read the last part. Goofball (but he's a Goldie 🤣)!2
u/Reasonable-Crab4291My dog put himself in his open kennel and wouldn’t come out until my husband came home.2
u/RigabearOh god this breaks my heart </3 Surely time will do the trick, but I wonder if ‘popping the bubble’ in a sense could help. Is there something that makes him ‘laugh’ or makes him act like a puppy? Some game he can’t resist that can help reconnect you, help bring your hearts back into the same frequency? Oh our sensitive pups <32
u/Lunar-opalDid you apologize with snuggles and treats?2
u/Love_Baking_in_COTell your dog that we all have to do things we don't like.2
u/mcmurrmlAnimals can't pretend. He is mad at you. Hopefully it will blow over soon. They aren't like people. An animal doesn't put on airs.2
u/Baby-Giraffe286I am not an animal person. I have previous trauma and wasnt a huge fan before that. My husband and kids love animals though, so I always do the vet stuff for them. I also changed all the bandages and stuff after surgeries and do all drop offs and pick ups for overnights. It doesnt bother me when they give me the cold shoulder for a few days. Honestly, though, mine are pretty forgiving. Usually it takes less than a week before they are all over me again. My dog had to have a toe amputated a few years ago. My husband only took him to one follow up and the dog was mad for days. All they did was check his wound and rebandage it. He pitched less of a fit when I literally took him to get all the stitches removed. I think he just knows I am a betrayer and forgives me anyway. Lol2
u/Confident_Action4915Can… I point out a simple thing in dog psychology? Dogs DO NOT EVER assign blame. There’s most likely a fear factor here, or a loss of trust for some reason. In most cases is brought about by trauma. Please be patient and on the lookout for anything that suggests the shutdown was warranted or that the dog has anxiety disorder or depression. Not necessarily- It could also just be shock, not to say there aren’t ways to work on both, I just personally don’t know what they are.2
u/Over-Marionberry-686When my little Shih Tzu Falcor was neutered, it took probably three maybe even four months before he would snuggle with me again if I sat down on the couch he would get up and go to the other couch. When we went for a walk he went to the edge of the leash and stayed there. He was pissed.2
u/GlowInTheDarkSpacesI’d have a heart to heart talk with him2
u/queendecaffeineI stopped letting my dog get on the couch since we were about to move and needed to start learning new rules. My mom drew a hard line: no dogs on the couch. Anyway, my dog left the couch, left the room, went out and laid in the coldest room in the house on the concrete floor next to her dog bed. She refused to face my direction or acknowledge me, she refused to eat, to go for a walk - just laid there limp at the end of the leash dragging. It lasted 12 hours and the transition from couch access to no couch access was pretty smooth after that. It was, apparently, the largest betrayal she had faced in her life. I've never gotten a reaction like that since.2
u/Analyst-EffectiveLol. Dogs are not humans. The dog forgot about it 5 minutes after you left the vet1
u/coloradocrime2My dog does this after going to the groomers but only for one day. I've found that all I can do is wait it out. Maybe make someone else take him next time.1
u/KizzieukBe matter of fact around them and they forget much sooner. The more you try to comfort and soothe the worse they get. of course he maybe feeling shit from the vaccines many humans do so I guess so do animals and its nothing to do with you, just they he doesn't feel good.1
u/unicorn_345My 14 year old little man dog goes in for shots and has gotten dental in the past. He is a bit grouch man for days after those. The older he gets the more he is just done with me and the world for a few days. I can’t even touch him day of once we get home. He screams bloody murder. And of course he also feels like crap from the shots so eating is sometimes off the table for a day or two, or often at least pushed to a minimum. Sometimes it takes a couple days and some pain meds to get him interested in more than holing up in his bed. Other times he has gotten up the next day and been ok. Age has been part of that.1
u/Wackel81My cat ran to his favorite hiding spot after the last vet visit and stayed there for a few hours. The loneliest hours of my life! Not even his favorite snacks got him out of there. But at least he forgave me later on, reluctantly at least. But I feel that deep down he knows that in merely 10 months I will  betray his trust again.1
u/CicadaSlight7603This is kind of normal for cats? Mine thinks I’m a fuckwit most days and doesn’t hesitate to make that clear. Even though I have done nothing but good things to him.1
u/weirwoodheartThis is a joke, right? Dogs don't 'give the silent treatment' like humans do. Biscuit is probably just a little bit tired from the stress of something he found a bit taxing.1
u/CartographerSea5923I dunno, man. But that was a great read.1
u/sundancer2788🤣 yes! Everyone of them.1
u/MessagefromAMy dog loves our vet, even after surgery and needles she would never be mad about going. The cat on the other hand is an emotional terrorist. We had to go for vaccinations and an ear check-up after I found some dirt and blood in it. Had to get her ear cleaned by both the vet and I. She will Not Look at me. That’s been the situation at home since two weeks now 😂1
u/AppropriateAmoeba406My Labrador had TPLO surgery and then crate rest for a month. She still isn’t allowed up on the bed. You think your dog is pissed? Let me just tell you.1
u/SufficientOpening218take him out for a pup cup1
u/amso2012Man can you please write a dog story book!! You write so well and I could totally visualize Biscuit with the behavior you just described. Please write a book, you have a gift!1
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u/CapStar300In this cynical, terrible world, this was a good post to enjoy.754
u/Agent_K002I am very disappointed that her fear of pooping at her boyfriend's place was never mentioned again in later posts and never got resolved. Not cool, in my mind I have an image of a woman that hasn't pooped in years. lol Cute and beautiful posts.441
u/SalaudChaudThis is very sweet. Time to log off, eh?179
u/TheFreakyHeartwarming. However I can't help but think of the italians hearing her scream and saying: shit, another noisy american got engaged.113
u/Obvious-Lake3708This very sweet. Much better way to end the night then the pissing ex wedding56
u/FirebirdWriterI am crying from happiness on a few levels. Getting treatment for an ED is incredibly complicated and the support and love in all of this? It's beautiful. I hope for another update someday where they're healthy and happy and doing well.37
u/pinkkabuterimonLmao the fear of pooping at his house post is so, so real. I love how many green flags I'm seeing in these posts.34
u/awkwardsexpunMan, I knew I should've saved this one for last.10
u/bbusielloI’m happy for the “survived together during covid.” I remember my fiancé (now husband) and I were taking our first “lockdown” walk outside and came across a couple in an intense argument also while walking. This was week one. For many, it was a disaster.10
u/StopthinkingitsMeThis is such genuine love and happiness10
u/Silent_Ad_8672Not the poop knife suggestion 😂9
u/repocinWhat is this, a short and sweet five year tale of happiness with no drama? Did I click on the wrong sub? Man, this was refreshing to see. I hope they're both happy for the rest of time.9
u/UnhappyTemperature18This is *delightful!* And because I'm a nervous nelly, she needs to get that ring sized or it's going to slide off in a canal or something.7
u/Fire_or_water_kaiI was holding my breath the whole time, worried that something awful would happen. Such a sweet palate cleanser.7
u/exit322This is slightly better than the breast milk story.6
u/bakanisanA 5-year update and we didn't even get a mood spoiler?!?! How am I supposed to brace for it huh??? /s5
u/ben-hur-huraaand I am going to sleep after this with a warm heart lol5
u/Enough-Ad-3111Nothing but love in this post thread. Congrats to them.4
u/mewmeulini'm crying happy tears over this one. love where they're both obviously enamored with one another is the best kind of love 🩶 i hope OOP's ED recovery is going well, and i'm wishing them both the absolute best4
u/Eastern_Mark_7479That's enough internet for today UwU3
u/TariqKhalafThis whole thread felt like watching a relationship grow in real time. The update about him walking her into treatment honestly made me tear up a little.3
u/No_Pattern_2190Borrrrrriiiiiiiing (Kidding)2
u/stressedbrownieCrying for strangers on the internet AGAIN2
u/CharlotteLucasOPIf you clog his toilet and he balks, it wasn't meant to be.2
u/SparkpulseAnyone else here looking at her hands in the ring photos thinking "those don't look too skinny, they look like a healthy weight" and being proud of her for that, too, when the part right before was about anorexia treatment?2
u/spherical-chickenIn what world is outlet shopping and burgers an "elaborate" day trip?2
u/Double_Surround6140Feelings I will never feel since I had to be born with awful genetics that gave me vision issues. Hope reincarnation exists for a reroll.2
u/people_pleaser2481loved reading this. heart is happy1
u/Olibro64Nice vignettes of life.1
u/Bright_Chef_1926I am so happy for oop! Please keep updating us.1
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u/Complex_Grand236Looks great! Thank you for sharing.19
u/Impossible_pothosOh cool I am happy for you!! I don’t know why I always associated this procedure with men, that’s true us ladies can do it as well ♥️9
u/kleverklWonderful8
u/Pretend_Agency_7300Thank you for sharing as I believe you will help many. Your results are truly remarkable!5
u/deleteshiftreturnThat’s awesome. We can’t really see the hairline now to compare since your hairs not pulled back, but wow this is great.3
u/charlirobeyBeautiful results, thank you for sharing! If you don’t mind me asking, does your hair seem considerably thinner at the back now? I’d love to have this done but I fear I don’t have much to spare at the back 😭3
u/czringWhat was your hair loss diagnosis?2
u/Difficult_Humor_9799Thank you so much for sharing. And you look amazing🫶. Great result.❤️2
u/MarsupialPrimary8128Wow. Well done. The patience!2
u/Evil_Yeti_a) What do you have to do for continued maintenance? Any topicals/treatments? b) What's the plan for when/if the original hairline recedes? Or are you doing anything to prevent that?1
u/cowgirlfr0mhellLooks lovely! 🥰1
u/christinagb123Do you have a straight on picture from before your transplant? I have thought of this procedure from time to time. It looks great.1
u/SpareControl4290Incredible results! You must be so pleased!! Can i ask what you paid for that operation?1
u/MisericordeeWas it painful?1
u/sdbabygirl97i’m interested in this but im curious what you did during the awkward growing in phase? especially bc theres a huge shave at the back and the new hairline is coming in?1
u/GirlPhoenixRisingThe area they take the grafts from doesn’t ever grow back so you’re telling me you sacrificed all that back head area? Had you tried medicine first? Glad you are happy with it!1
u/WorkLifeScienceCongratulations, this is really amazing, you look so happy! I am not usually a fan of esthetic surgery, but I totally understand that in some cases it can be very helpful and improve your life quality and confidence!1
u/WarmWhiteLightsOh wow! I never thought hair transplants were an option for women, I only ever thought they were for men and for some reason it wouldn't work for us. You got great results. It looks so good!1
u/KaPowBamAmazing progress!1
u/LankyGiraffe9891Wow! That is amazing! I am a woman with a larger forehead and I’ve always wondered about the process in doing this! Thank you for sharing!! One question if you don’t mind answering, from the first photo which I’m guessing is right before the procedure, to the last picture - how much time has passed?1
u/sarakana10Aww never been more happy for a stranger you look wonderful ❤️1
u/444ARLHow much was the overall cost? This is something I’ve been seriously considering. But haven’t heard/read results that didn’t seem like paid advertisements. Thank you for your vulnerability1
u/NorthFront5725Wow1
u/EmphasisAcceptable28Looks amazing! Congrats! Do you mind sharing if it’s the same texture as the original hair? Also, the transplanted area should be growing back ?1
u/Plastic_Sun_6789Amazing as I already mentioned! But can you pls share the doctors name?1
u/Fubsy41Science is AWESOME, like genuinely couldn’t be more fascinating lol. It’s looking great!1
u/Own-Statement-9570Wooooow.. congrats!!! It's so amazing. How much does it cost?1
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u/Flaky-Poem-7725Wowow beautiful!! Good for you and thanks for sharing 😊
u/witchy-kitty-mewBeautiful!!!
u/No_Event3010Did you try spironolactone before going for the hair transplant ?
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u/memeblanketCome join us over in r/femalehairloss162
u/Prudent_Ring_799I would check iron/ferritin and thyroid before spending on the light helmet. I found a lot of posts here recommending Mega Foods blood builder iron supp. I bought it before I foubd a dr willing to prescribe HRT because Im vegetarian and so many women were saying it is a game changer. I agree 100%. I will NEVER not buy this!!! I have only been on HRT 3 weeks but my follow up is this week. Dr told me thyroid tends to go downhill at the same time peri symptoms appear so had me do labs at initial appt. I looked at my results online, T3, T4 are fine but TSH was way off. Researched thyroids and there’s a good subreddit too. I am pretty sure he’s going to put me on levo and a major symptom of high TSH is hair loss. I feel like the iron supp helped some w hair shedding/new hair growth (wispy baby hairs growing! small win, but Ill take it!), HRT helped a LOT more w shedding, and hoping thyroid will lock it down. Not saying Tron mask wont work, bc tbh Id have tried it already if not so pricey!! Lol!! Regardless of what you try or don’t, HUGS to you! I have spend so many hours online trying to fix my hair. Im Italian/Greek. We usually are TOO hairy so this was just devastating having hair fall out in clumps for over a year.120
u/CopperGoldCrimsonWigs aren't your only option! Look into beaded toppers, flip over method sew-ins from Black stylists. You can learn to do the toppers yourself if you get a custom unit made. Check out Sofia Hair Health on TikTok for protocols that are DHT blocking (she has androgenic alopecia), shampoo with ketoconazole, micro needling, etc can make meaningful differences.36
u/rainbowtruthfairyWhich med did the derm prescribe for the torso rash? Antifungals (orally) did not work in the slightest to clear mine up. In my case, the rash in the umbilical region began at least 1.5 years prior to the nights sweats and hot flashes. It is behaving like some sort of autoimmune condition, and has been getting worse since May or June of 2024. The only thing that ever helps, is extended, strict water fasting. But thus far, nothing clears it up completely. I think 40 days would probably heal it (from the inside out), but the longest (of many) WF I have done so far, is 25 or 26 days. As for the scalp issues, the number ONE best thing to use is apple cider vinegar (ACV). It is amazing. I use it at least once a week, prior to a shower: saturating the hair and scalp using a glass spray bottle, massaging the ACV in very thoroughly. I have used ACV for years. It TOTALLY clears up the scalp, and makes the hair ridiculously soft as well (which is why so many people use it as a conditioner). A lot of people dilute it: 50/50, ACV and filtered water. I generally use 100% ACV. It is great for skin blemishes as well. You can even leave it on the scalp/hair for an hour if you want, which is super clarifying. These days, I tend to hop in the shower, soak my head with the vinegar, and massage it in. Then I go about my cleaning routine, and save the hair/scalp for last (the opposite of what I usually do). Some people (self included) use ACV as a conditioner; but when I use it as a first step like this, I never need it a second time after lathering my head with a bar of soap. Literally baby soft hair is the result. I miss my hair as well. It used to be so beautiful. It was “my thing.” My one thing. But it started thinning out after I had my son at age 22. By the time menopause started at age 45/46, it was really thin (especially through the crown and at the very back of the head). I actually began completely shaving my head (pretty often: every 4-6 months), back in 2023, right after my brother died. The first time was on his birthday, in his honor. After that…all sorts of reasons. An exercise in self-love, in many ways. And a solid “F you!” thrown in there as well. When it is shaved, it is SO MUCH EASIER to stay clean - just in general. It (((feels))) way better than it looks (imo). It does feel great. I always hated short hair on me. But I also cannot have back what has been lost (so much more than hair at this point). But having gone ‘all the way’ like that (“Go big, or go home!”), sort of broke something open from within me, in a lot of ways. The work is still being done, nearly three years later. Now I am ramping things up with some supplementation improvements: methylene blue, creatine, and copper, in addition to my other staple supps. We shall see what happens.30
u/ReflectionOk2553I have been using a red light helmet for years. Not game enough to stop lol Hair loss is still progressing. It really is cyclical for me. Worse in summer and autumn and then starts to fill in more. Hrt in the last year did seem to make it better but my usual fall has been worse than ever before. I take photos every couple of months to compare.29
u/phootosellThanks and hugs! In the same boat. I wonder why I used to obsess about a few extra pounds or the shape of my nose or other silly things. Mow I feel have actual problems with hair loss.19
u/MissTiffany12This was exactly my issue! The androgen dominance was causing lots of acne and hair loss, among other things. Supplementing with a low dose of estrogen and continuous nightly progesterone has helped to improve it some. The shed has slowed down finally and my skin is much clearer.18
u/IlluminimalAre you not eligible for HRT? Since I started in November the density in new hair growth is hilarious, I have this constant halo of baby hairs, except they're getting to like four inches long now.14
u/TheUltimateFixerReally appreciate all the info you shared — thank you!11
u/KayNopeNopeThank you fore sharing all of this information I really appreciate it.10
u/Former-SeahI have POTS and I tolerate spiro. Totally contraindicated of course (isn’t everything?!) but I felt at about 70% for a couple of weeks. A couple more dizzy spells than usual but after week 3/4 I was back to normal. Saying this I am usually pretty mild symptomatically. I take fludro and I have had POTS for 10 years. But don’t take this as advocating as I’m not sure what would set you back. Just giving my experience.9
u/blue19255thanks for posting! I have an appointment this month.7
u/Meowmixx22What about fineasteride?  Derm said this is what grows hair.5
u/Away-Heron8167For what it’s worth I was deficient in Zinc and since supplementing my hair has been thick again!5
u/that_awkward_chickI have been losing my already fine/thin hair since my 30s and nothing ever helped it. Eventually I did look into wigs and toppers and there are so many great, natural looking options out there! Plus, it has been much more convenient being able to wash and style the wig before I need to use it and the day of I can just put it on and go. I even usually just bring one when I travel for a week…it usually keeps the curls for a few days and then I put it in updos or ponytails for the latter half. And no one can tell! If anyone compliments my hair, I am to the point now that I just tell them it’s a wig and they are very surprised. Some places I have purchased my wigs/toppers from that use natural hair: https://www.highlinewigs.com https://www.wigsbytiffani.com https://madisonwigsboutique.com And there are a ton of accounts on social media that post about hair loss and wearing wigs/toppers. More people wear some type of “fake” hair than you think!5
u/FightswithcrowsFor whoever is interested, I found this really comprehensive link on symptoms, tests, and treatment options for AGA https://australianprescriber.tg.org.au/articles/male-and-female-pattern-hair-loss.html5
u/huntergirlnc21Same boat here! I’ve been losing for about 10 years now without much relief from anything I’ve tried. I am on oral minoxidil which hasn’t helped, as well as HRT, but I try to accept it as much as my vain self can, lol. My grandmother was practically bald and I have aunts and cousins with significant loss too. I did wigs for a bit (mostly just too hot for me), done the super short cuts, but recently invested in a human hair topper. It is a game changer! It’s light enough that I don’t get super sweaty and is the same color as my hair, just with added highlights. My mom did not realize it wasn’t my own hair the first time she saw it. Might be something to look into!4
u/NeedleworkerCivil534If you have not tried pumpkin seed oil caplets with saw palmetto, please read up on them. I had been losing my hair for a year, and three weeks after starting these caplets it stopped falling out and has not started back. It looks so much better. I use the microingredients brand from Amazon.4
u/becaaaaahThere are DHT blocking supplements. Nutrifol makes one4
u/GivethemRachellI’m at the point where I just want to save up for a wig topper. Shit if I had the money I’d do a hair transplant. Plenty of follicles on the back of my head but a barren wasteland at the top. This is not my idea of business in the front and party in the back lol.3
u/Good_Connection_547My Canadian friend who lives in Mexico got what they call a hair transplant - but it’s really a rearrangement of their scalp. They basically peel your scalp off and put the areas that aren’t affected by female pattern baldness in the front, and the thinner parts in the back. She had to shave her head, but she’s got a beautiful, full pixie cut and she looks amazing.3
u/soleiles1Have you tried Nirozal shampoo 2-3 times a week for the fungal issues?3
u/Dear_Cut4843Most dermatologists just treat the surface issue and forget the hormonal root. You really need to see an endocrinologist or a specialist who understands the hormone shift. Spironolactone worked for me when nothing else did.3
u/trishia42I'm curious to hear about women who started experiencing hair loss when they quite the pill (high androgen index pills) and whether HRT worked positively or negatively for them and hair loss... I lost a lot of hair density when I quit the pill initially many, many years ago. Then it sort of stabilized but then once perimenopause started, I started gradually losing more (dermatologist said AA), so I'm worried of rocking the boat once again but it would be nice if it would help too because yeah, hair loss is sort of devastating on top of everything else : (.3
u/IslandsandwillowsI’ve heard good things about PRP there. It takes multiple sessions but I think people have good results.3
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u/lapalmerado you mind sharing what kind of situation you had with the minoxidil? allergic reaction?2
u/Oakleydokley_JrI’m going through the same thing. :( hang in there.2
u/Lightstorm16I feel your pain - perimenopause is the absolute worst!!! I have had many people recommend the Vortex Wand to me butI have yet to pull the trigger on it (https://vortexhaircare.com/products/new-wand). But I have heard really great things about it as it provides a high-frequency treatment to stimulate your hair follicles.2
u/FilteredFocusAre you on HRT? If not you should strongly consider it. There are ways to control the DHT conversion so you don’t have this happening, such as saw palmetto. The dermatologist medications for the hair loss are only treating the symptom of a hormone imbalance. Once that root cause is addressed the hair loss will resolve itself.2
u/Thelastunicorn80ketoconazole shampoos can be helpful for some. One of the effects of ketoconazole is inhibition of the conversion to DHT which lowers the inflammation, sebum, acne and hair loss. It could be worth a try2
u/Fine-Grapefruit7177HRT helped me a lot. Check it out ferritin and thyroid function. Criscina hair loss treatment ampules is also great. Hair loss stops and new hair grows.2
u/monimorMy gyn recommended Saw Palmetto 500mg. She said that it blocks the dht in the follicles (or something like that) and helps with hairloss2
u/Sweet_Passenger_494I have the tron helmet the company sent it to me but I haven’t been consistent so I promise I’ll start and I’ll share my results. It’s just such a demoralizing thing my huge bald patch when a thick pony tail use to be my favorite style2
u/raw2082I had a similar rash between my boobs and I finally got it to go away when I started taking medication for my mild insulin resistance. I really not sure if it’s from peri or going through cancer 7 years ago because the weight gain issues started shortly after I finished treatment and is a known issue from chemo. Anyway my rash after battling it for 4 years has finally gone away and I quickly dropped the weight without changing anything. I already eat healthy and exercise regularly but managed to gain 30 lbs after treatment. My sister is struggling with her weight after she’s turned 40 but she eats a lot more carbs and sugar than I did. That’s why I question if mine is also related to peri.2
u/OkLie5597I’m with you bc my hair is thinning and it’s hard!2
u/PrinnykinI used to have beautiful hair until I went on HRT and it all started to fall out. So now I’m back on Yaz and I’ve stopped shedding. It’s worth a try if anyone wants to try birth control.2
u/O_W_LivWhat did he recommend for the fungus?  Dandruff shampoo?1
u/Future_Literature_70How interesting! I have the same issue, and I also have POTS. Tried Minoxidil but had a horrible itchy reaction all over my body and a massive headache for 2 days. Never again. I have a Hairmax hairband, which I've been using for a couple of years. But I think the most helpful thing for me has been increasing my iron levels (good hair growth apparently starts with ferritin levels of 60-100; I was at 30!), massaging my scalp (sometimes with rosemary water) and going on HRT. I also use Alpecin caffeine shampoo, which I like. It's all certainly better than it was, but still thin. I have a short haircut anyway, and I'll have to stick to it. I've decided to try a hair topper if things should get worse in future. But do please report back to let us know how the Revian light helmet goes for you. Not sure I'd really recommend the Hairmax; it was very expensive and I'm not sure how much it really helped (vs HRT/iron).1
u/FearlessExtreme1705Ketaconazole shampoo. I dont have any yeast or fungal issues and I still use it to block dht if my hair becomes super oily. Win win.1
u/Superb_Case7478I know you said you checked your ferritin, but be sure it’s above 50, not just “normal” range on labs. My dermatologist told me 20 was normal and it wasn’t . As soon as my iron got above 100 via infusion, my hair shedding stopped and started growing. I also have POTS, fwiw.1
u/BagGroundbreaking186Can you take oral minoxidil with spiro perhaps? I’m considering this combo. I’ve had pretty considerable hair loss since starting testosterone, so I’m hoping this works. I can’t believe how self conscious I’m feeling.1
u/Puzzleheaded_Lab4913Try saw palmetto- pumpkin seed as a supplement. If you can’t use minoxidil the Ordinary Hair Peptide Serum. I use that and minoxidil. I also use Nizoral for the scalp and the L’Oréal hair density booster line of products. It’s been helping me a lot1
u/Typical-Face2394A lot of women do well on Nutrifol1
u/FrostingConsistent39I use fibers in my hair. I’m balding on top (thanks Dad lol). And no one can tell.1
u/Alternative-Pea-4710A bit off subject, but as a menopausal woman, going to the doctor rarely makes for a good day. I was just told that I have “Severe Vaginal Atrophy.” So that’s great.1
u/Immediate_Anything_4Ghk Cu peptide injections and Omi gummy peptides1
u/Difficult_Affect_452What about oral minoxidil?1
u/sucodelimao802You aren’t alone! Mine started at 35 and was made worse my anemia. I use a compounded Spironolactone/minoxidil topical mix everyday and while I don’t have the hair I used to have, I still have hair. It sucks but I’m thankful for the hair I do still have. 🫂1
u/Tiny-Meringue4333I have a friend who has done the micro needling and PRP with amazing results.1
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10r/medicine"Once I’ve met my deductible…”Apprehensive-Safe3824520%9979.0PRP knee treatment2026-03-21↗
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u/Kyliewoo123Wouldn’t it be nice if we could just practice evidence based medicine and our patients could just get the medications they need?948
u/unaslobHow bout the pts that show up third week of December looking for you to arrange their echo, stress and colonoscopy (that you recommended in April) before end of year because they met their deductible. ‘Well I’m not going unless you can get it done next week’ as if they are punishing me.360
u/Interesting_Owl7041My dad just went to the pharmacy to pick up his Mounjaro, which he is prescribed for his longstanding type 2 diabetes. They wanted over $1300 for a 3 month supply. My dad is 83 years old and on a fixed income, but he’s over the income threshold where he would receive any financial help. He called the insurance company to double check and they told him that the price was correct, he has to pay $2000 out of pocket for the year and then insurance will cover it for the remainder of the year. This is a problem. I understand that it may not be saving any money if it’s distributed more evenly throughout the year, but paying over $1300 in one fell swoop is not easy for many people. $2000/12 months is about $166/month. That’s a significantly easier bill to cover for most people.220
u/microcorpsmanObfuscation is the weapon of the financial class. People don't understand their effective tax rate either, or their refund being big means they over paid, or how leasing a car fucks them over, or how their brokerage doesn't actually have a fiduciary duty to them and is charging them out the ass174
u/janewaythrowawaayDepends. Whenever I’ve had surgery and asked a certain hospital group for a payment plan they’ve written off my bill. They didn’t report this back to the insurance company or if they did, they didn’t adjust my deductible back down. Also, with some very expensive meds the pharmaceutical company coupon/charity assistance covers your deductible if your state hasn’t closed the loophole. So, no it’s not a situation where you always have to pay your deductible and may as well get it over with. Even if the hospital doesn’t write it off they may bill something like $50 a month affordable to a low income person. The person may simply not have an extra $300/month for the med period.129
u/ShelbyDriverCross post this in r/pharmacy . They'll know.52
u/trainroverInsurance is such a scam, I dunno how Americans are okay with this.42
u/moonsionOh yeah as an Ortho we have shit ton of patients all wanting their surgeries done in December. Because then they would have "met the deductible so the surgery would be 'free', and will be resting at home during Xmas allowing the wound to heal better." Well, guess what? Everyone is thinking that, and I want my vacation in that time of the year as well.41
u/Cautious-Extreme2839I don't understand how the existence of deductibles is tolerated in health insurance? No other type of insurance has an annualised excess - it's per claim only. Which I think is what you guys call a co-pay? What I mean to say is that even for a private insurance based system - the American system seems to be extra fucked up.33
u/CaptainAlexyHigh deductible plans should not exist. It’s essentially a scam that only pays out if you have a catastrophic claim.31
u/RatleoEuropean here.SGLT2 (dapagliflozin) costs 36.31 Eur a month without insurance. If you have health insurance, you end up paying around 6 Eur/a month. You guys really live in a third world country25
u/thlaylirah17Medication copays have to be paid up front at the pharmacy. If you can’t pay, you don’t get your prescription. The bill for the knee replacement can be put on a payment plan.  I agree with you the whole system is fucked, just explaining why someone can “afford” to hit their deductible through medical claims vs not being able to afford it through pharmacy claims.23
u/DocMacgyver107One of the skills I've had to learn in rural primary care was how to get good meds for my patients for reasonable prices. SGLT2? BRENZAVVY from MarleyDrug.com or costPlus Pharmacy for $60/mo, half if you cut the pill. GLP? Generic liraglutide for 75$/mo from Walgreens with Rx go coupon. Inhalers? Canadian pharmacy world.com or cost plus pharmacy. Of course it works better if we didn't have a profit based medical system, but until this country is ready to grow up a lot, we've got to save as many as we can with what we've got.18
u/flamantsWouldn't paying your deductible month-by-month actually be better for most people than having to pay it in one lump sum anyway? It's like a built-in payment plan. I hope you at least tried to explain it to him.10
u/FlaxmooreI see the same thing with therapy and the like, too. My therapy appointments are $200 every two weeks until I meet deductible, then they’re $23.8
u/1234ldAdmittedly, I’m that person filling EpiPen Jrs x 1 for each kid for each location we need one on December 29th because 10% coinsurance even though we meet our $4500 deductible in February thanks to my husbands MEfRVO injections q6 weeks8
u/KoumadinBrenzaavy is $46-49 per month SELF PAY at costplus depending on whether the patients get 30 or 90 days7
u/HanzilolAs a midlevel, we have our shortcomings, but at least we're not completely out of touch with poor people, so we have that going for us. But you're close to getting it. The system is illogical. It exists like that because it makes it proportionally more difficult for lower income people to get ahead. Healthcare isn't just a profitable industry in the US, it's a crucial part of the broad economic system intended to keep the class divide intact.7
u/Miami_Mice2087sometimes the prescription deductible is separate from the surgical deductible. Pt needs to talk to his insurer. You could find out if the drug is affordable through needymeds.org or goodrx.com or a big box/pharmacy chain/warehouse store's cheaper drug list. Or if there's a generic med they can take instead of the expensive brand-name. The pharmacist may be more knowledgeable about that. There's also mail order from Canada or Mexico but that's risky, your refills may not arrive in time. Write a 3 month supply so the pt has plenty of lead-time to order refills.5
u/SpeechPrudent8409Thanks to the ACA health insurers have an incentive to maintain high healthcare costs as they’re statutorily limited to spending 20% of revenue on non-healthcare expenses.5
u/iReadECGsI used to take one big 2+ week vacation at the end of the year and not much else. I had to move it because patients all wanted their cardiac procedures right at the end of the year because of their deductibles. If we missed 12/31, then would sometimes just disappear (or worse) until the next year causing delays in important care.3
u/herman_gillI am so glad, and also so sad for my former patients in the US that I am no longer practicing in the US. In Ontario (Canada) for Trillium drug coverage patient's out of pocket expenses are capped as 1% of their income every 3 months for covered drugs. Any hospital based care is literally fully covered. Although at the same time this is annoying because I can send a patient for an EGD+biopsies to check for H. Pylori and that's fully covered, but they have to pay $50-100 out of pocket for a urease breath test or H. Pylori stool antigen, unless it's done inside of a hospital.3
u/RdthedoI hate bandaid medicine. With that said, one potential variant of bandaid medicine for this scenario is to use manufacturer’s coupon (which sometimes works towards deductible as well). I had an expensive med a while back, and the coupon lowered cost to like $50/mo or something until deductible was met (difference of med before coupon still worked against deductible), and within a few months it was down to $15/mo.3
u/HOSTfromaGhost…an to make it even more complicated, sometimes medical and pharmacy are two different deductibles. Their plan design is the lynchpin. Folks need to read their EOC to see what’s covered and to what extent. Better yet, dump the EOC into an LLM and create an agent to help you understand your benefits and cost shares.2
u/dpzdpzThat's also why US tax law is complicated. As a bonus, it's written by those who make a lot of money.2
u/Sjeljakt0I mean just read the comments in this thread in the medicine subreddit. Most providers don't even understand individual plans let alone the broader economics. Part of the reason they can be so cheap in other countries is because the US overcharges. It's an inconvenient truth that many choose to ignore that without financial incentive, the rate of medical developments would slow to a crawl. Someone, somewhere has to pick up that bill. Are there better ways to do it than we do here? Absolutely there are. Is there downright evil overpaying of CEOs and other stake holders? Also absolutely. But anyone pretending that we can just switch to socialized medicine in the US and there won't be any broader impacts is intentionally ignoring half of the picture.2
u/DrTestificate_MDThe order of claims can only matter if there is a difference in coinsurance. If you had the luxury of ordering your claims, you would want to put claims that would have coinsurance first so that it eats up the deductible anyways. But I think this is generally a niche case any not really applicable for most people.2
u/halp-im-lostHonestly as I’ve gotten older I have come to realize a good portion of adults have the financial literacy of a ham sandwich. So, yeah, not surprised your patient doesn’t understand their plan doesn’t make financial sense.2
u/bikerchickellyI can make payments on a hospital stay. I can't make payments on my monthly meds1
u/A_Cute_InfarctionSending thoughts and prayers from the British NHS ❤️1
u/FreedomInsurgentwe have a love- hate relation with insurance companies. Docs generally oppose universal healthcare because they think it would decrease salaries, but patients get shafted by this for-profit bullshit.
u/trixiecatI tell my patients to do what I do - put money aside every month planning ahead for next Jan when insurance resets. I tell them to pick lowest out of pocket max plan they can as they will meet it. Just know you will pay 1-5k$ first few months of year and budget accordingly. This does not work for the donut hole patients sadly. Just the ones who suck at thinking ahead-1
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11r/WhyWereWeOkWithThisWoody Allen tries to humiliate Twiggy — 1967AdrianaLaServing11210%3378.9PRP knee treatment2026-03-21↗
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u/EphemeralTypewriterPoor Twiggy! :( Woody Allen is such a scumbag (for multiple reasons), and trying to humiliate a 17 year old just for the sake of it is so pathetic.278
u/Proper-Ad-8829She was 17 and being asked this! 🙄 so obnoxious154
u/blue-to-greyThe way she got him on the ropes I wouldn't even know she was embarrassed.134
u/WhiteMouse42097Woody Allen’s answer is way more embarrassing for him97
u/Riot502This reminds me of the time years ago, when I was young and pregnant, working at a gas station in New Orleans. These two 30-something guys in suits were at my register, and one of them pulled out a $100 bill. He smugly asked me which president was on it. I smiled and said, “Benjamin Franklin, but he was never President.” The audacity of that man to assume I didn’t know who was on my country’s currency, or who the presidents were!58
u/Particular_Web8121I'm so tired of Woody Allen being alive26
u/dontforgetthisone13Love her confidence. “Who? I want to know their names.” Woody Allen realized he wasn’t speaking to someone who was backing down.15
u/imper_foratedI hate this mf with a passion but this feels like a skit that they were both in on7
u/Djiril922How did he even ask that question without having a single philosopher of his own in mind?3
u/RememberToBuyMilkAllen is a complete prick and I’m so glad Twiggy bodied him here3
u/cheshirebutterfly17She handled it with more grace than I would’ve She ended up humiliating him and I did laugh at that . Idk how sad you have to be as a grown man to try to humiliate a teenager I side eye the fuck out of people who defend Woody Allen2
u/cheshirebutterfly17We need a fuck Woody Allen flair1
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12r/MounjaroOne Year Summary of the Mounjaro ExperiencePit-Guitar8170%3978.6PRP knee treatment2026-03-12↗
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u/UghaboomerYou look fantastic! 🤩. It’s amazing how one weekly shot can change someone’s life so drastically. I imagine your band’s fans have reacted very positively to your changes.21
u/gazelle999An enjoyable and pleasant read. Wish you all the best.13
u/Magnet2025Thank you. Very informative and interesting read. Even after borderline diabetes (with occasional drifts into the diabetic range) and being obese and having heart disease, my old insurance company denied GLPs (both Ozempic and Mounjaro) 5 times. I tried compounded solutions but didn’t see much benefit. When I switched to Medicare, with the same insurance company providing prescription drug coverage, they approved it. I am starting my 3rd month. I avoid the scale because I can obsess about that metric, but I can see the difference in my waist and chest and even my legs. I have arthritis in both knees so walking for exercise has been a challenge, but I’ve taken 4 minutes off my average per mile walking pace in two months. I used to have a very sweet tooth, and now I hardly crave sweets. The same with bad carbs (chips). Although I wasn’t much of a drinker, I can’t remember my last alcoholic drink. I’m in it for the long run. Thanks again for telling your story.7
u/Ok_Bus8364Rock on! 🎸7
u/Plus_Rip_1919Congrats on your success in sharing your story. 🎸5
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u/Atkins_OfficialCongrats on all your progress! You look great! 😊3
u/Affectionate_Rub_436Amazing work mate3
u/Few-Performance3192Wow! You look amazing3
u/GardenFragrant8408Congratulations  69 F 5’0 type 2 with other health issues.  Been on mj since 3/24.  What an awesome accomplishment.  My Highest doses 10 mg  but Now on 5 mg to keep from losing more weight.  I was able to reduce some meds and discontinue others.  Mj is a Godsend to most of us. I didn’t have to lose as much as you did but lost 50 lbs.  Congratulations again and good luck with continuing success2
u/Fun-Sort6191Great work. Can I ask your age?2
u/ShiftyMcHaxThank you for sharing your experience and congratulations on your phenomenal success.2
u/skewbydoomGreat job. Congrats. Sweet tele !!!2
u/Brief_Skin_3783Parabéns pela conquista. Adorei ler o relato da sua experiência com o Mounjaro .2
u/Street-Hurry928Fantastic2
u/fnaahcongrats! you look amazing! ... but not as amazing as that Tom Anderson tele. what a stunning thing2
u/Emergency-Major-5213Matt Groening, is that you?? 😳😳😳 Also, Rock On man!! 🤘🏻🤘🏻🤘🏻2
u/M1cksterDo we all get a Tele when we hit a year? Congratulations-great journey!2
u/rm1618Way to go!!!1
u/bakeflyWhat are the  unpleasant side effects that anyone are experiecing?1
u/MastodonStunning6811Well done you look great!!1
u/MelliemelliexoIncredible! Well done to you!1
u/LizzieSilverChairFantastic results you must feel AMAZING!1
u/YoungCheazyI know there are some side effects, but never seen this drug change the color of someone's guitar before...1
u/MinutePalpitation60Congratulations and thank you for your wonderful essay!1
u/daa2202Congratulations! And…nice G&L, and REALLY nice Anderson. You are obviously a man of refined taste.1
u/richmondsteveExcellent! Great job!1
u/Bug_CalmAmazing difference. Well done!1
u/Defiant_Mom_105WOW, Congratulations1
u/Informal_Map3162Impressive! Btw, you looked like Matt Groening before.1
u/Original_Beyond_8798Good for you!1
u/Awkward_Image6095That's quite the transformation. Congratulations1
u/Junior_Jellyfish1865congratulations1
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13r/warriorsMedical analysis of Moody's injury, timeline, and future performancelegitbean4140%8678.2PRP knee treatment2026-03-24↗
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u/Certain-ResolveHopefully he takes as long as he needs. This same injury happened to kelenna azubuike on the same exact kind of play and he was never the same after.201
u/Mundane-Structure148damn. so we may not see moody until 202892
u/noodlebballWho are these 13 players that have suffered this injury?39
u/picks_and_rollsQuestion for OP. Do you have thoughts about why, with more advanced equipment (including sneakers), training regimens, knowledge about ideal recovery times between workouts, advances in sports medicine, training staff, therapists etc…why are we seeing more injuries than in decades past?23
u/megaminor23As someone who personally suffered a torn patella tendon while playing, albeit non-professional and as a weekend warrior, the recovery process is a long and grueling one. Seeing this happen brought back some PTSD especially seeing that noticeable gap where the kneecap should be. In comparison to an ACL reconstruction, the goal is to get mobility and bending quickly, a torn patella tendon limits the range of motion on the knee and the goal during the rehab process is to slow regain full degree of bending. Part of the rehab process is regaining muscle mass in the quad as the entire leg is immobilized for a long period of time. In my case my leg was immobile and in a hinge brace for 2 months and I wasn't allowed to take it off until I got to 90° bend in the knee. Overall, it took me 2 months to walk uncomfortably without the crutches and extensive rehab around 6-8 months just to regain strength to handle everyday movement. 6 years later my quad is still significantly smaller than my non-surgically repaired knee but have been able to play basketball and other sports relatively pain free. Mentally its a tough climb up just being able to trust your body to move the way you used to. As a freak accident its hard to just get back to wanting to play again, let alone walking with basically what will be a brand new knee. Hoping for a successful recovery for Moody as he's been a bright spot this season and will hopefully bounce back to be a solid contributor to the future of this team in whatever way possible.18
u/TeknoStormHey OP! Thanks for posting this. I had a ruptured patellar tendon on both knees (separate times - 1.5 years apart). Right as I saw it, I guessed it was the patellar tendon. Feels like some one hitting your knee as you jump up.9
u/bouncyboatloadwhy does this tendon tear? is it due to weakness in surrounding muscles? or over stressed over time? basically my question is is it a gradual stress that cause eventual catastrophic failure, or is it just a random event that can happen to anyone?8
u/Longjumping-Branch36NRL player Connor Watson ruptured his patella tendon in 2023. Worked his way back to a full recovery back to first grade including playing state of origin for NSW last year, which for non-Australian who don’t know rugby league is essentially among the highest of rep honours7
u/aahdinWith how his knee looked what would you say the odds are on dislocation vs patellar tear?7
u/EngineDisastrous672How long did those 10 players generally take to return to play?6
u/Hop830I missed the game but saw the screenshot of the knee when he was down. That looked really bad. I hope Moses reaches out to Shaun Livingston for some advice. His career was best case scenario for this type of injury.5
u/RedditSuxCoxAgainGoddamn.3
u/YoItsThatOneDudeOuch, thats fuckin brutal, best of luck to him3
u/chrisz2012There are too many games to be played with NBA cup games and 82 regular season games. National Team games for US, Europe, or LATAM in the summer. The NBA 100% needs to stop having its players play close to 100 games a season. The schedule of back to backs is grueling and it clearly shows with all the constant injuries league wide3
u/pancyfantzDamn.. so this is super rare? Sheesh. Fuckin hell. Goddamn… guess Moody and Butler can talk IQ for a while. Fuckin hell.3
u/LebasketBallIs it possible there was a wet spot that he slipped on?3
u/Empty-Dragonfruit194Will he get treated back in the bay?2
u/giantPotatoKing9Thanks for the post and could you share whether medical technology has been advanced in last 5 years to handle this? It seems that most of those the 13 players had that unfortunate injury 5 years ago?1
u/kennyslikMore of a personal question, but how do we prevent these kinds of injuries? Seeing these non-contact injuries like this out of the blue makes me paranoid it could happen to me on the court too1
u/wdsoul96I have no doubt that he'll come back stronger and better player. He's a smart/celebral kind of player. While his play demand (only some) physicality (only really in defense, he needs to act as a sticky hands-up wall barrier), it's not as much as most of the 13 others (same type of injury). He had been trying to assert himself and try to play dominant/intimidate ball. His physique and play style doesn't need to. The only thing I worry about is coming back and playing scared/avoidant. I don't think that'll happen. I think he'll prob follow Steph's trajectory. Where he'll train/play smarter and become even more physical. Warriors got one of the best infrastructure in NBA.1
u/imaaaginarymuffinI can’t shake sadness for Moses on this. He was looking so prime after all those games out. What a damn shame for him and the whole gang.1
u/Due_Cod_7018Damn.1
u/[deleted]lol shit. Gat damn, shit looked ruff-1
u/PhillipMcKrakCall me a negative Nancy. This injury is likely a career changer, if not a career ender. Shouldn’t expect much meaningful contribution from Moody from this point onwards.-1
u/Useful_Coyote_5796His career will never be the same.-4
u/mithrilmambaLooks like Moody won’t get to play with LeBron lol-9
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14r/industrialmusicIt’s time for the industrial scene to stop protecting Jim Marcushell_generator2380%33876.3PRP knee treatment2026-03-20↗
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u/whitlashHave you already given them the screenshots I sent you? I’ve spoken about this publicly extensively already but got the exact same treatment you’re talking about although I have never backed down about it and never will. What he did was wrong and I’ll never forgive him for trying to involve me in the exploitation of someone else.51
u/neverwhere616There's a group called Sounds and Shadows on Facebook that goes along with a review blog. I was friends with the guy that started it until he chose Jim over one of the mods that was very vocal about this shit. Fuck Jim Marcus.36
u/Jonathan-Strang3Who?31
u/whitlashHere’s the question that’s always bothered me- I’m absolutely vibrating with fury from my hair to my toenails that he tried to make me part of exploiting this woman. So… where is all the fury from all the men he turned into r*pists? Who allegedly thought this was consensual but now know it definitely wasn’t? Why aren’t they lining up to give statements to the cops? Seems like they should be angrier than me and yet… crickets this whole time.30
u/adrianhaloI’ve been trying to gather my thoughts ever since I saw this post. There is a lot about my [former] connection to Jim that might not be so easy to explain, but I will try. I’ll start by saying I’m a musician- I am the frontman and for the most part sole performer on my studio albums. I have a handful of friends in Chicago who I still consider my live band even though I moved away almost a year ago. I doubt you’ve heard of my band and that’s fine, this is just for context. So anyway, I first started talking to Jim on Facebook when I was still living in LA in the fall of 2018. I had taken a long break from the scene and had just started working on music, gotten back into my favorite bands, and so on. While at Cold Waves LA, I started talking to a friend who had either mentioned me to Jim (not knowing ANY of this about him, and neither did I) or maybe even sent him a few songs. So Jim messaged me saying he was putting together a compilation to benefit trans rights (I’m transmasc and also queer) and asked if I wanted to contribute a track. As someone who’d first gotten into all the Wax Trax bands as a teen even though I was a little too young to have heard or seen them (I’m 44) in their prime, of course I was over the fucking moon about this and was like hell yeah. So we started talking online and I sent him a few demos and he asked if I wanted to come to Chicago to record the vocals at his home studio. He said I could crash on his couch and hang for Thanksgiving. I was so nervous that at the last minute I almost canceled my flight. But to me, Chicago still represented the motherland of the industrial scene…so I went. What’s crazy to me now is that Jane was there, and she was really anxious and seemed almost jealous that I was there. It was hard for us to work because Jim kept texting her. And I remember wondering if Jim was interested in me Like That, but decided that the music was more important, no matter what. It honestly fucks with me so bad to think of all the expectations I had of that trip and those recording sessions, to think of how I was still early in transition and thus navigating all that uncertainty. Including literally finding my voice. Showing up on his doorstep in my Wax Trax hoodie and my Pigface shirt. Thanksgiving was fun. I met one of the engineers who worked on a couple of my favorite Sister Machine Gun albums, and their former guitarist (Xmas) actually played a few parts on my songs, which was amazing. I met a few other people who later would end up being my friends and bandmates when I moved there. I got back to LA and felt like things would start taking off for me with my band. I began to consider Jim a close friend and we talked a lot. And then by the following year, I decided to move there. I had visited for Cold Waves and it just felt right. There were things about LA that just weren’t working for me and I felt like this would be the first time that I moved someplace because of the people there. I left for Chicago in late February of 2020. So, yeah. There was that. In spite of this, I started building a life for myself. And Jim was a huge part of that up until about 2023. And what really breaks my fucking heart in hindsight is that it wasn’t all bad. Sometimes a couple of his bandmates and friends would come hang out and they’d all tell stories about Chicago Trax and Warzone and all the bands. All the albums I loved. I felt like maybe I’d finally met the right people, in the right place, at the right time. I was there when he and Jane broke up for good and I used to hang out with the three of them (she often brought her son over). I was there when he was hosting that kid in his garage. I met his kids, I was often there around holidays because I didn’t have family in the area, and while we were just friends, we were often affectionate with each other and he said he was attracted to me. So basically I got sucked in. I was there when he had his hip replacement surgery and prior to this, was barely mobile and in a massive amount of pain, so I often ended up cleaning the house and going over there just to keep him company. For most of late 2020-early 2023, I was over there at least once a week. And I started to just feel really…confused. For anyone else with ADHD who has experienced limerence, basically hyper focus on a person…it’s horrible. It’s exhausting and embarrassing. There were absolutely times where I acted fucking crazy because I felt so messed up about everything. He would ignore me and spend all night texting or on Fetlife. I was sort of like this weird platonic rebound to Jane in a way, and he had major Shiny Object syndrome. And then one day I was seemingly replaced by this woman he had played with several years back and gotten back in touch with on Fetlife. He became pretty obsessive about her. Never mind his professed attraction to me and the simultaneous insistence that it would ruin our friendship to do anything about it- our friendship was already ruined. 28
u/Jazzlike_Property_68I'm aghast to hear this. I've loved his music since I was a kid, but this is news to me. Do you have any sources that you could give us for the previous accusers?28
u/Specialist_Spot_3471This is Jim’s second ex wife. I will fully support any young lady or man that has been harmed by my ex. It wasn’t the first and it won’t be the last. He is a covert narcissist that prays on those he considers weak. His joy comes from sitting at a computer pretending he attract someone, pretending he is some sort of dungeon master. Arguing with people online and braking people around him when it suites him. I’m not sure if there are any specific questions for me but I’m happy to share the hell that was my life for nearly a decade. He got his friends to believe the divorce was me trying to steal his money but the man is broke af. He can make money but he never has any. He spends it all on sex stuff presents to lure in younger people . My worst experience was when I was with a 19 yr old friend from school and Jim just outed us without a conversation then invited her to a dungeon all whil we WORKED TOGETHER! It was humiliating the young friend was never to be seen from again after too. He was always trying to bring in 18-19year olds. By the time I hit thirty he disagreed me. He already had like 5 new girls. He called my family members and would tell them he is so worried about me… when he wouldn’t even make eyecontact fuck that pos.27
u/DivaMissZOnce again, we find out that a respected public personality is in fact a sick fuck. I’m so tired of people like Cosby and Gaiman, whose work I loved, I can’t stand anymore because I know they were created by people who are morally corrupt. And it seems to happen more and more. I swear to goodness that I’m going to wake up one day, find out that Keanu Reeves runs an illicit cat juggling ring, and shove my head into a vat of pudding because there’s no hope left25
u/s1l1c0n3Jesus fuck. This really makes me violently ill. Jane, if you are reading this… I hope you know none of it was your fault. You were manipulated by a serial abuser. I hope you get both the help you need and the justice and vindication that you deserve25
u/MilkfixerFaith Marcus tried to tell everyone when they broke up. Something has always smelled. This is so very fucked.23
u/maliciousorstupidWow - first I've heard of any of this. Met him a few times many years ago and he seemed like a good dude, but certainly didn't know him well enough to make a judgement here. If even a fraction of this is true - yikes.23
u/wakarat“All Good Girls” seems much creepier now.23
u/coupdeluneI love Die Warzau's music but I must say from interviews I've read with him he always came across as fucky. This confirmation is just depressing. Fuck him. I hope his victims get the help and support they need.22
u/Specialist_Spot_3471100% I can confirm his way of being as it took me ten years to see him but the mask fell and I did I saw him. Happy to help if someone can let me know how. The being given away at sex parties without getting to have a say and if you try to have a say it’s an argument. His constant cheating bc he is always online looking for a new supply. He is a covert narcissist that pray on young ppl not just women.21
u/LockedOutOfElflandHoly shit. Just a few months ago I remember reading a social media post from his partner about how "he's one of the few guys in this scene that actually treats women with respect", et cetera I can't get that out of my head after seeing this.20
u/Vile_GrifterI just want to express my sympathy for the survivors of this abuse, and admiration for them and everyone else coming forward to try and break this circle of fear and silence.19
u/Maleficent_Energy_55Jesus, the nightmare that poor human was put through. I’ll never be able to listen tonDie Warzaw again and hope that enough people can step forward to shine light on the abuse. EDIT: Just deleted all the Die Warzau and Go Fight albums from my collection. I’m bummed I was a supporter for Go Fight on Bandcamp as long as I was.19
u/FiDRaT2016Really shocked to read this post. I worked with Jim when he lived in Boston. We always got along, but he was always very “amorous” with both female and male colleagues, more than would be appropriate in a work setting. Aside from that, I never witnessed anything to this level. I hope Jane gets the help and support she needs. No one needs to be treated like that. I will also be cutting ties with Jim on social media. Truly shameful.17
u/unsoundamericaThis was a painful thing to read and then reflect on. May the victims find peace and healing.17
u/phillyperoxideI’m very sorry and disturbed to read about “Jane” (who I don’t actually know from reading this), but I am here to comment about SLS, as this seems to be turning into a smear campaign about her rather than the actions of Jim Marcus or the victim “Jane” (which seems to be Lengua_Acida’s intention here)… Sarah is one of my dearest friends who I’ve known for 20 years.  She has *not* enabled or protected Jim- and the accusation of him being an abuser is actually news to me.  Although I am of course aware of him and his bands, I am not his friend and I don’t personally speak with him in-person or interact with him online. Regarding the safety of the Chicago scene with Jim- I literally only see him once a year at a specific event, which is Cold Waves. He does not attend Sarah’s events, nor mine- though I suppose I can’t say anything about others that I don’t attend on a regular basis. Sarah has always made the safety of our scene a top priority. I’ve learned a lot from her over the years and her dedication to keeping this scene alive, vibrant and most importantly, safe. She actively keeps predators away when made aware, as do I. I know for a fact that people can vouch for that, as we’ve made other venues / promoters aware of banned individuals for other events we’ve been a part of. We clearly would never support an abuser like this and would ban them when this knowledge was brought to our attention. I cannot speak more highly of Sarah as a genuinely lovely, caring, passionate person who wants the best for our community. This is a person that I’ve spent time with over many years not only working in nightclubs, but for weeks at a time in tour vans, hotel rooms- you get the idea. I also want to acknowledge that I *never received this e-mail* if it actually exists and I have been actively putting on events myself in the goth scene in Chicago for 15+ years.17
u/quaffi0Who?16
u/ILikeCatsAndSquidsThis whole thread has me so over the Chicago industrial and goth scene. It’s not just Jim Marcus, it’s a whole cesspool of assholes and egomaniacs who never grew up.15
u/razorbladesaladHe is absolutly a piece of garbage.  I have seen the fallout from his treatment of women first hand and heard stories about how fucking creepy he is towards them for years.  Also dont forget his connections to other creepy ass men.  Genesis Silva used to live with him (and was just convicted of beheading a woman).  Anyone who had to proclaim how safe they are as often as Jim does is absolutly not.  I call it the problematic male circle jerk, the way they protect each other and keep each other relevant.15
u/MsefkThere is a small but dangerous powerful circuit of .... lecherous people protecting each other . and hurting anyone who goes against any one of them. edit: and i hate all of these awful controllers , grey forces indeed15
u/Outside-Mushroom-818Since I've gotten older, I don't keep up with the particulars and gossip of my generations past. Having said that, I spent my late teens; early 20's during the zenith of Wax Trax! So. As  I got older and don't keep up with the news. I came into Die Wazau after Wax Trax! Filed for bankruptcy; bought and destroyed by TVT. Though I never cared for politics of personality. I saw a video of Jim Marcus ranting about environmental shortcoming. I thought to myself as I had with the musical heroes I grew up with. It's better if your heroes keep their mouths shut and retire without words. Having opened my Reddit page up, this was the first story on my feed. WTF? is all I can say. It's time for the Chicago Industrial contingent to spit this clown out and expose him and his crimes in a serious light. Trade the repulsion of Jeffery Epstein's crimes and apply to Jim Marcus. The circumstances are identical. Seriously, folks. Time to shut this sexual abuse out and expose those who perpetrate it. I have always been curious about DWs song, 'All Good Girls.' Perhaps a relevatory song?14
u/YellowBeaverFeverI didn’t know who he was. I knew Die Warzau, seen them a few times, never liked them. Never bought an album. This story is messed up.14
u/master_of_sockpuppetNever heard of him, never liked Die Warzau. However: this sort of social closure and protectionism is exactly why “scenes” are almost always bad news.14
u/Specialist_Spot_3471There was a time when I was part of the BDSM community. Jim had asked me if I have boundaries, I had two hard limits due to previous trauma. One was no taking a belt to my chest. And the other was that I do not sleep with brown men, again due to previous childhood trauma. Jim not only pushed my boundary but invited a man over and set up a scene without my knowledge or consent. It was with a man we can call Drew. Drew had a dungeon and his own space but Jim brought this man to our shitty apartment at the time. I didn’t feel like I had a say, bc I already stated my boundaries to Jim. And in the moment one gets caught up in horror of it all. So my boundaries were crossed and in the most of humiliating ways bc that’s what Jim thrives on trying to humiliate others in secret. He uses NLP tactics to groom or brainwash those who are unfortunate to trust him. And it wasn’t another month or so till he tried beating my chest with a belt. Not the leather part ladies. And since it’s humiliating to you he knows you won’t share the story allowing him to always be the story writer. (Let’s be honest tho, it’s all ai with him these days) My point is if I reach out to him today and confront him he will just repeat over and over for me to name one thing he did. Never a fucking apology not accountability. Jut tell me what did I do?! In that horribly depressed and whining eyore voice. Some of you may remember Jim’s race play parties where he again tried to have me service many men and women of color at once…. Good thing I already found him cheating on me otherwise I would have been doing more than just watching and silently suffering. It’s not you Jane it’s who Jim is and there were several women who had nasty things to say about him when I was married to him but he always played it off calling her crazy. Man was I stupid. I could only compare the feeling of how Jim makes ppl feel if you have seen the movie girl in a box… he was trying to get me to help him get younger more beautiful women for his sex parties. An he is not safe. The fist night we ever even had sex he told me after we were done that he didn’t wear a condom but then he immediately follows up with it’s ok, I’m clean.!!! That was terrifiying. And I was made to feel like it was no big deal. So he starts right at the beginning and then just lies to cover everything up. Pathological that one. And for the record I had a rule to not sleep with men of color due to a really abusive step father. Not bc I dislike or hold negative feelings I just have PTSD. And that would exasperate it. There are plenty more instances but I’m better at being asked questions. If anyone has any hit me up13
u/Traditional_You3996Holy crap this is terrible. I hope justice is achieved.13
u/deadgreybirdSobering. I didn’t expect the Chicago connection; this affects events I’ve gone to and was planning to attend in the future.12
u/globe_thistleJesus. This is Sean Diddy Combs-level criminal, in fact, it's worse. I'm so sorry, Jane. You deserve justice, and you have people's support. Scary Lady Sarah should be f'ing canceled. What a scumbag.12
u/midwestbreakcorenow that you finally caught Jim, can we take a minute to address psychotic Sean Payne of Cyanotic?12
u/whitlashI just feel so grateful that Diddy Warzau here might finally be facing some real consequences. I’ve been talking about what I witnessed for three years now and it’s been an absolute nightmare. I’m so glad everyone was finally able to get in one place and tell the truth.11
u/Tyrs-RangerNo idea who this guy was, though I probably heard the name in passing at least once. I skimmed the novels here. Fuck this guy. Maybe he’ll have a hideous accident involving a wood chipper.11
u/EgoCravenHuh....obviously reserving judgement but it's pretty surreal reading this about a person I've exchanged messages and the odd intimate photograph with. Bit of a nasty feeling. Seemed lovely frankly, I mostly knew him through his fetlife writings rather than music. Obviously that's not really relevant but....still not a nice feeling if thus stuff's true.10
u/Moranimal2I imagine Jim’s theory that “there’s no such thing as cancel culture” will be put to a well-deserved test. I heard he has updated his MeToo hashtag to read #BelieveWomenExceptThem.10
u/Any_Sport3353Here is something concrete you can go home with: the debut GOFIGHT album literally has a picture of Faith Kroll’s ass branded with the band logo he designed. Please unpack this public display of ownership at your own leisure10
u/Odd_Improvement_6501I’m going to delete that fuck on my social media and block. Uptick this after you have done the same! Block Him - Jim Marcus.9
u/Odd_Improvement_6501I went to his house for a minute to pick up a friend. There was food and I happened to notice all the glass buttplugs in the shower window by the kitchen. Like you’re having company over and that’s a normal thing and all - but no class - just indicator of what’s to come next? It’s bothered me and I’m no prude. I don’t want say when it was, but within the last 5 years. Too many red flags. Run current partner!! You’re too pretty for him anyway.9
u/jonathanfvDidn't know about Die Warzau, but seriously, fuck Jim Marcus. Anyone truly against all forms of oppression will also be a person who'll make sure to avoid being put in a position where they can exploit others, as well as avoid others becoming completely dependent on them. Anything other than that is hella suspicious. Jim Marcus is a piece of shit.9
u/SlideLoose5008Sarah has been on a power trip as long as I've known her. 1997. I didn't meet him until about 2010. I worked in the industry and never liked him. He just gave me the feeling that he was a scammer in sone aspect. Took a few years to really see his "game". Over opinionated hypocrite and a true scumbag when it came to how he treated woman.9
u/thecoiledoneSo tired of this dude. I'm glad to see these stories getting the attention and condemnation they deserve. I have heard stories about this guy since 2013, and I'm very thankful that I never had any direct contact with him despite sharing circles in both the kink and industrial communities (probably not young enough for him, and/or he was always too busy engaging in flame wars on fetlife with my former partners lol) I hope the many people he has harmed are able to get the support they need.8
u/Specialist_Spot_3471Eli23, moved to Hawaii Lilly21 disappeared, just like brondwyn who was only 19 at th time, maybe I shouldn’t even be saying their names? Idk8
u/LAIndustrialNot denying any victims allegations but let's see some receipts please. We have experience in shining light on cockroaches. Do us that favor and show please. Everything on this read is horrifying.8
u/MilkfixerWhat the fuck.7
u/NachtraafWhen people get popular enough, they get away with a lot of shit. You'd hope that in the alternative scene, people would be a little bit more wary of this, but this type of thing keeps happening over and over.7
u/littleweirdgirl312Are the people who partook in these parties going to be named or just Jim? It sounds like at least some of the participants knew what was going on. If they are also in the goth/industrial scene the danger reaches beyond Jim.6
u/AngelsbreatheeasyThis is scary and makes me sad. The part about the cold waves team considering the singer from one of my favorite bands I’m pretty sure is apart of that… Can someone clarify that part?4
u/fear730Everyone coming here to comment please be civil if I see any Harrasment like in the other post you will be banned PERIOD.
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u/Kashmir_SlippersYou silly radiologist. Don’t you know how this works? The real doctors tell you what to do, and you do it - no questions. sobs426
u/LoudMouthPigsDeeply fuck this kind of person174
u/moothig"I want you to do something non evidence based because I can't! I will scream into the void until insurance stops paying for it"119
u/DamnGracklesAhhhhhh. Yes. See, the problem is you forgot IR stands for " interventional...whatever procedure every other service doesn't feel like or can't do BUUUUT will only do the way the people not actually doing the procedure want it done regardless of whether it's actually in the patients best interest...radiology" It's ok. It happens. My doctor forgot this last week when he though it was ok to tell a hospitalist he wasn't going to call the team in to place a pleurx... at 8pm.74
u/whatthewhat_007That's really funny because the American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons does not reccomend HA injections.48
u/floofienewfieImagine how he talks to regular staff this way if he speaks to a peer in this manner.44
u/supertucciI mean what kind of sorry orthopod can't use office based ultrasound and inject even the fattest knee space.37
u/Wire_Cath_Needle_DocThat boy need some GAE31
u/3oogerEaterI get Euflexxa injections every 6 months. Similar to orthovisc. They have been extremely helpful to me. Insurance covers it, but I’m getting it done in an office.12
u/maw6lmfaooo "we are not looking to expand" is sending me5
u/DamnGracklesSee, I have a hard time understanding exactly what IR is because of stuff like this. Everytime I hear of an "IR procedure" im like, "....when did IR start doing those??"3
u/Admirable_Payment_96Was this a physician?3
u/Occams_ElectricRazorWhat a douchebag.2
u/Wicked-elixirI wonder if it would work better by using it as a facial serum. Haha. Also, they can kindly go fuck off waaaay over there.1
u/Infernalpain92I understand his question. But fucking hell just explain what it is. And don’t be a cun—T. The sticking is probably the hard part. I remember my arthro mri of the shoulder. The contrast run everywhere and basically made the exam loose its function. “Extended sequelae from difficult injection of the contrast medium” How did you decide to go in to IR? It’s a pretty cool branch and a lot of minimal invasive treatments no?1
u/RadsasIdk what’s a big deal injecting a knee! Seriously, I’m a radiologist I do arthrogram on a 350lbs plus patients all the time! You an IR this is your bread and butter why would you say you don’t know what that is. What’s the contraindication to inject an obese patient??? when your referrals start drop you will change your attitude!-1
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u/Dramatic_Mixture_877As a person who has multiple sclerosis, thank you for this - it resonated deeply within me. I'm not on an immunosuppressant or B-cell depleter like a lot of my fellow MSers, so my immune system is at its full range. I get maybe two stomach bugs a decade; hubby gets one if it's within a hundred-mile radius. I tell people my immune system is just waiting for something to get close enough so it can pimp-slap it, lol. I really enjoyed this story!60
u/An_Insufferable_NEWTWe’ve reached the top of the mountain and we can’t climb any higher. Is this your post? Because it’s the peak29
u/Underhill42Good story, great finish. Though I kept rebelling against the misrepresented human immune system - one of us doesn't really understand how it works. It is not intelligent and doesn't meaningfully customize or refine designs - it generates massive numbers of random antibodies, filters out any that would attack your own body, and then releases the rest to see if anything works. And assuming something eventually works, stores a record of that particular design to make more of, and to try early on against future infections (at least until something like measles erases the records). The antibodies themselves though are NOT adaptive, and so wouldn't work against something that adapts against them - to adapt to an adapting disease, you need the entire adaptive system, not just the end products that worked in a particular situation.24
u/SanderleeAcademyMagnificent work. As I've seen from a few other threads, the argument over adaptive immune systems can get a bit heated. This story, regardless of "the science," really strikes a nerve, in a good way. I think this line, however, sums up the beauty of the story. "It's just what people do," she said. "When they're trying to be worth something." HFY, but not in a "humans scary, our tech is ridiculous, we be angry, we yeet rocks" way, but in a "no better friend" way. Marvelous. !n20
u/BasquerEvilOn of the best stories I've read on here... and way better researched then most11
u/rewt66dewd!N "What courage looks like when it has had time to think." Beautifully said.11
u/elfangoratnightI suspect that what Sevik had never encountered before is an entire species that collectively, as a gestalt entity, acts like a sort of immune system. The drive to self-sacrifice, as paradoxically destructive as it seems on the surface, is a way for the species to survive better in aggregate. In a way, Mara was just like a human version of a B-cell. Humanity, Fuck Yeah indeed! 🌟 💪 🎉9
u/DreamSofieI liked that, really well written, good pacing, with solid choices about what to reveal, and what to leave unsaid. I did feel quite curious about how your extraterrestrial civilisations made in out of their cradle, after evolving enough executive function to turn selfish, and suppress instincts beneficial to survival of species. But already leaving things to the imagination throughout the story, unsatisfied curiousity caused by the ending did not dent the story. Tfs.5
u/patient99There's a story from a while back called something like "strong constitution" or maybe just Constitution, that talks about the human immune system, kind of. The story makes several insinuations without ever coming out and saying it. A sort of summery: earth would be considered a plague planet, coming here would result in death by bacterial or viral infection, they don't directly say this though, and the procedure for plague planets is to purge them, humans never let anyone visit earth so the aliens don't know what it is and as such aren'tpart of the galacticcouncil since it would requiresomeone to visit their homeworld, humans are always seem wearing insulating suits, and the alien talking assumes it's because they're stuck up. He starts to peice things together when the human he's talking to has loads of equipment from alien races known to be violent and that don't often trade, ge chooses to indirectly ask about it.5
u/udsd007More, please‼️ Lovely premise. Mara, Sevik, and the Reshape all are excellent characters.5
u/Attamark!N Great story about some of the intangible things in the human condition when faced with a crisis. It deserves more recognition than it currently has!4
u/thefeckamIdoingMY kind of HFY… the kind I always tried to write. Find the thing that makes us special- and it can be small. For me it was things like humour, or attitude, or a myriad of other quirks of character. This was wonderful. Easily my favourite story in quite some time. Bravo wordsmith. Bravo.4
u/zachpkenyon"It's just what people do," she said. "When they're trying to be worth something." That's the one. That's what hits. Thank you3
u/rebelkittyInteresting story, would be a lot better if it didn't cut off before the end.3
u/westaussieheathenDamn good story, thank you.3
u/Light-Breeze-9805Superb... sublime... Touched every single cord ! Thank you for sharing3
u/PaxmcgeeBravo!3
u/Electronic_Mud5821Wonderful story, I really liked it. Why does my mind feel like it is a recruitment ad ? Damn the current state of the world, I am sorry.3
u/ReallyNotMichaelsMomI loved this and I cried. I think I needed it. Thank you.2
u/sirbinlid1That was truly excellent, thank you for sharing2
u/OneTrueSneaksThis is a genuinely beautiful story, and it had me trying to read through blurry vision through most of it. Thank you for writing it, and thank you for sharing it with the world.2
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u/MorridiynA good story, but it looks like it got cut off1
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u/Neither-Animator3403The story seems to be cut short?1
u/Blue_Blurb_BoiI really like this! A lot of people don't realize how many essential functions in human bodies have approximately arose from foreign bacteria that worked its way into our cells and helped more than harmed. A very eye-opening take on life without adaptive immunity1
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u/SandsnakePrimeExquisite. Moving. Beautiful. I am in awe, Wordsmith.1
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u/Own-Violinist7606Holy shit u went from nearly completely bald to a dude with hair31
u/West_Description1217Fantastic result19
u/Significant-Air6079Congrats, that is an incredible result!11
u/taleofunknownGreat improvement, there will be some more growth (somewhere between 15-20%) up to the 12 month mark.6
u/Forever778This looks great. Which doctor and can I please ask the cost? Thank you.6
u/cleetusneckHuge change.5
u/ReapTheNorwoodYeah, longer would give it a better illusion of density, but honestly, another pass of 3,000 grafts will give you naturally dense coverage with any hair length.4
u/VibracoLooks great man3
u/700p3dWhat does Nizoral shampoo do?3
u/Wonderful-Bit6748Looks great, how much did it cost?3
u/Adorable_Ad_3013What doctor?3
u/Adorable_Ad_3013Can you share some post op pics?3
u/Salty-Garlic9471Considering where you started that's pretty amazing work. It'll only look better as it grows out more.3
u/ativerso1Excellent, happy for you man. Is there a picture of the crown and doner before ht3
u/pancho915Looking great king3
u/Intelligent-Rip-184What is the anti DHT shampoo? And also Nizoral shampoo?2
u/thewintersoldier711Any finastride side effects?2
u/NewUnicorn92Holy moly. Looks great. You look young now. This is giving me hope actually thank you man. Based on the photo it looks like you don't have much of a beard. Where were 4500 grafts extracted from ?2
u/Economy-Experience81amazing!2
u/Exciting_Sort_289Is this AI? Hot DAMN!!!!2
u/RkopelThis is an amazing result for eight months. The hairline looks natural and the density is coming in nicely. Many patients still see a bit more thickening between months 9 and 12.2
u/Reasonable_Double811looks fantastic, great result and very natural. You could also add SMP to fill in some of the spots that appear a little thin. It’s a great add-on to a hair transplant to make the hair look more full and dense.1
u/MBArone_0000Do you mind if I DM for details on the clinic? Amazing results, congrats!!1
u/1107759This looks fantastic, idk if this is dumb but will the transplant hairs continue to grow? Like in length like normal hair? I have been seeing a bunch of comments on this sub and updates and I’m a bit confused how that works in practice1
u/Imperial_Prince1996Wow man! Looking great! It looks natural! 😯1
u/SmoneyDGreat documentation and results. I wish you had post a picture of the donor area (back of head) prior to the transplant .. 4500 grafts is great. Was it all from the scalp donor ? Did they do any beard grafts ? I m sure the prp and the min/fin helps additionally1
u/SmoneyDThis is phenomenal work. From the looks of it, your donor area was standard and not excessively thick hair either. I really think the continued PRP injections made a difference (expensive) along with the meds. Thanks for sharing !!1
u/behappydontworry1Very nice!! Do you have to use products like minoxidil or blockers for it to grow or doesn’t it require maintenance1
u/Careful-Builder-9909At 8 months I don’t think you’d be seeing any new worth anymore because from here on the hair only just get pretty matured from baby hair to adult hair and you got awesome results compared to what you had before so just be happy with it and not seek perfection an Aldo not all grafts shrive the transplant which is another thing they don’t tell you when consulting, A second transplant is an option but I wouldn’t advise.1
u/Synotic__Honestly, i‘d consider getting some ghk-cu or even Glow (a mix of Ghk-Cu withBpc and Tb500 mix). Ghk for the better hair growth and the combo to actually reduce inflammation in the body which could hinder proper hair growth.1
u/Vladamir_pootinnThis is my biggest fear about getting a transplant… they sort your hair out but completely remove your face:(1
u/glowman777Look into an SMP tattoo and are you on a medicines?1
u/jerinjacob_uk👏 great result.1
u/8redDude that's great effect - btw can you shave short now? Or you need to be longer hair all the time? Does it look natural?1
u/Finance_Bro__Why would you take finasteride at all? You had no hair at the top, and all the transplanted hairs are DHT resistant, so you shouldn’t lose any of it. And the donor area is DHT resistant. It looks like your hair loss has stabilized.1
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u/JadeFox_I was very young when my sister's orthodontist noticed my jaws were misaligned. I wasn't even a patient there. I was just pulled along by my mom when we were picking my sister up. The orthodontist was really worried about me, saying I might need to get jaw surgery when I'm older if I don't get it fixed now. I remember the concern on his face and the dismissiveness on my mom's face. I don't remember how old I was but it was definitely one of my earliest memories My mom laughed and said I would pay for it myself when I'm older I carried that idea of my health and me as a person wasn't worth helping throughout my formative years and into adulthood, where I grew up to be a very much fucked up person psychologically It's only been recently where, like a caged animal, I found my claws and fangs and finally took steps to pick myself up, but I'm walking on broken legs. I will never know who I could've been, what I could've done, if I were given the self-confidence people with normal jaws have After all those lost years and psychological harm done to me, I will never forgive my parents123
u/DarkThanos12That ortho treatment probably wouldn't have saved you. I have an underbite and I actually went through ortho treatment at age 9. All they did was camouflage orthodontics - extracted 4 teeth and pushed everything back, temporarily fixing my bite. NOW, my underbite is back. I now have 4 missing teeth I will never get back. And now I still have to do jaw surgery! I would’ve been better off without treatment. At least I would have all my teeth. These orthos actually do not know what they're doing. They don't even understand how their treatment impacts your airway or jaw development.70
u/ellieelaineHm, I'll give you a counter-point. Like you, my childhood dentist told my parents I needed orthodontic treatment. They wanted to give me the best and they weren't rich but they agreed. The orthodontist gave me an expander (good), braces (ok sure), and high-pull headgear (BAD). This was mid-90s, and headgear was already proven to do more harm than good by the late-80s. But he was an older dentist and not up-to-date. The headgear messed up my joints, shrank my maxilla, fucked up my bite, and distorted my face to the point that my muscles were always in spasm. I was in constant pain from my 20s onward. I started breathing through my mouth, which further affected my face. The part I'm mad about: they didn't get 2nd or 3rd opinions or treatment options, or take me to a real orthodontist. (This dentist also fucked up my sisters face by pulling 4 molars.) I had DJS in my early 30s, 9 years ago. I'm having a UJS revision next month. Wish me luck.43
u/damnthatsgudIt's hard for parents to make their child go through a heavy medical procedure unless their child's life is endangered. And they will most likely to pick a less invasive alternative if advised so by a medical professional. They most likely didn't think your underbite affected your life this much. Most people dont honestly. Power to all of us here for wanting to improve ourself in that aspect but folks with jaw discrepancy are out there and living their best and happy life without thinking their facial handicap.35
u/geekette1My mom told me that it was me that didn't want braces. At 9 years old!!! I can't forgive her if she puts the blame on my 9 years old self.23
u/RetrojawMy parents NEVER took me to any orthodontist at all and my dad still thinks my djs is unnecessary and essentially a plastic surgery and mocks it publicly in front of others. My mom was always half hearted and hasn’t really exactly been supportive pf the surgery, though my doctors and I have done ample explaining, but she did accompany me when needed. So I’m essentially in a similar kind of position to you, so I hope you believe when I say, I understand you. My solution to your question or our dilemma is this. Don’t let those begrudging thoughts crowd your mind constantly, nor allow your anger to do something stupid. We’re both young, maybe substantially or partially still connected and dependant on our family. This in NO WAY means, I’m asking you to forgive them. Now, I try to stay as calm as possible, maintain my distance and explain my side if any situation arises, but without too much effort. I’m just going to focus on my development, finding and building a career and probably slowly distance myself more and more as I can. As selfish or cold as this might sound, they did the same and don’t deserve any better and I’m not running a charity for the undeserved here. So try to enjoy your life as much as you can, because if you let this feeling of vengeance and anger dominate your mind, you’ll just be ruining your own fun and happiness.13
u/RedsqaNo. My palate was too small and I had malocclusion. My mother asked me when I was 11 if I wanted braces. I said no, because I was worried about looking funny at school. She asked me a couple times like it's my decision to make at that age. That was it. 20 years later, my jaws didn't develop properly, I have severe sleep apnea and need surgery. Aesthetically, I don't look bad, but from a health standpoint the effects have been dreadful. I resent her stupidity and naivety. She noticed the problem. She knew the solution. She was the adult. Why the fuck did she think it was her child's decision to make? Ah yes, children, known for their tendency to take the harder path and act in their long-term self interest. Whenever I complained, when I was a young adult, about not getting ortho earlier, she would reply "But you said you didn't want braces so...".13
u/crmsnprdAs a high schooler, my orthodontist wanted to do jaw surgery and my mom said no. Currently post-MARPE and on my second round of braces 30 years later navigating all the hoops to try and get it done. It’s super frustrating. Sending solidarity, OP.9
u/WhyamIhere977You can judge me if you want. While my sibling(the first child) got all the attention and doctors, orthodontist eye doctor and others.. and turned out to be a pretty good looking guy with a fully functional body, I(third child) didn't even get braces despite the fact I remember telling them my jaw is cracking bad while I was eating, I think I was around 10 maybe, of course I didn't know anything about the cause and consequences back then but still they did nothing. I can't lie sometimes I'm jealous of my brother even though it's not his fault Anyhow my upper protruding teeth somehow adjusted on their own some 5-6 years later but in return both my jaws are recessed which not only caused me problems medically but also socially, I could never do anything I wanted, could never talk to people I like because my underdeveloped, and imbalanced ugly face is unattractive and even now in my late 20s everywhere I go it's killing me mentally until I get surgery, and even then it will be too late to live how I always wanted. And they still don't care about my concern despite being the reason for it Some days I can't sleep thinking about all my wasted potential and what life I could have been living and for that alone I just cannot forgive them8
u/Fickle_Restaurant312I think we all have to be in that place of acceptance. I actually don’t think that they perform jaw surgeries on people until they are over 18-20 as the soft pallets and bones are still forming. So you got on top of it quickly. How are the results? Are you happy? I am sorry you had to go through this and those feelings. I have similar feelings to yours. My parents and I were told I needed this surgery I was terrified and didn’t want it to change my face etc I made the worst decision at 25 to have veneers put on my teeth from damage resulting from my bite. It was supposed to fix the undercrossbite that I had. It did cosmetically maybe slightly my teeth just landed on each other but the veneers were pretty but are failing and now I still need the surgery. Which I am still so terrified of I am now 44. I think those of us facing this issue of jaw surgery is so incredibly overwhelming. For us individually our families the finances the issues around insurance the fear about changing ones face and going under. It’s all a lot. I hope you get to a place where you can forgive your family 💕5
u/Character-Sort-5575I guess we have the same parents.5
u/0fficerD00fyMy other was very conscious about her mouth protruding out like a monkey. She did not want that for me so when I was a baby and bring breastfed she would forcefully push on my upper lip/upper jaw to stop my mouth from forming like hers. I do believe that this has contributed somewhat to my underbite. I had UJS last year and am now due for sinus surgery to fix my deviated septum and perforated septum. I've forgiven my mum, just upsetting to know that I could've avoided all this if my mum didn't brutalize me when I was a new born baby.5
u/United_Ad8618here's some reading material OP https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/1626251703 https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Control/dp/0310351804 https://www.amazon.com/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1683646681 https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/15854291395
u/Major_Hassle1I wouldn’t be too hard on parents. My parents really tried when I was a kid and I still had to get DJS. I’ve had orthodontic care multiple times growing up. I had braces when I was 12 years of old, 16 years old, and finally the past 4-5 years. Although I am upset with them that I got the genetics. I’m not made that they really did try to help even though it was really hard for them financially. You might have still been in my type of situation. You never know.5
u/pinksweets8I had treatment for my overbite as a child and I still needed jaw surgery as an adult4
u/FalseFail9027health neglect is very common, it just means ur parents didn't bond with you as much as they should have4
u/No-Evidence-416yeah i feel you. i told my mother i might need jaw surgery and get it checked. and she said i didn’t need all that, i am not a celebrity like taylor swift and i don’t need allat “bs” to enhance confidence or whatever. she was suggesting that i should accept defeat, find a partner and settle like that for the rest of my life 🫠 i slept with my grandparents growing up, not my parents nor did i have my own room. i have lip incompetence, i mouth breathed growing up, i had the milk bottle up till i was 11 yrs old, which caused a lot of misalignments in my jaw. they failed to notice that. i never learnt how to properly brush my teeth, i hated the texture of toothpaste and would go weeks on end without brushing my teeth. when i was 15 i begged for braces, got made fun of by own family members for having vampire teeth. i only got braces treatment at almost age 19. i feel like its just neglect at this point.4
u/SnooDoubts8688To be the devil's advocate, it may be difficult for parents to take their 8 year old only child through what they probably thought was a surgery. You probably looked like the cutest 8 year old bean in their eyes, they didn't see anything "wrong" with you functionally at the time. Maybe they distrusted the evaluation. And after that it just slipped their mind and never gave thought into it. My parents never took me to ortho, ever in my life. I had and still have very crooked teeth to this day, and had extremely painful jaw pain as an adult. I think a lot of our parents were still young adults at the time, and just simply failed to make the "right" decision. I could've wished for them to be more responsible about my dental health, but they took care of me in all other aspects of life. So, no harm done. What matters is that you took matters into your own hands at 21 and handled it. And what matters more is you went through it in your early 20's! I looked into ortho options past 30, and it required so many different surgeries that I gave up. Cheers4
u/ricey_is_my_lifeyI think there a lot more similar people to you than you realize. My parents delayed orthodontic treatment from about 10 years old to 15-16, and by that time traditional expanders were no longer a recommended way of treatment, so I ended up getting extractions and then camouflage orthodontics. Looking back if I was more informed that would have been the right time to start thinking of surgery. Anyways to answer the question, I can forgive them, but only because they see the byproduct of their actions. (Actually probably not, they probably have some weird excuse). But I see it as the same battle, we both share annoyances with some of my personal shortcomings in academics and life in general, which I can at least attribute to these developmental deficiencies, and allow me to spend less time comparing myself to others and their level of success because others do not share the same struggle. But yes, I do think of it as their responsibility; the choice to be uninformed, ignorant etc, when others around you already know to do it right.4
u/Entire_Garden3929Double jaw surgery isn’t really recommended for kids because your bones are still growing. So it’s a bigger risk than waiting until the time you did it For perspective I was later due to insurance bullshit. Placing your anger at your parents is dumb and you still got it done at a young age. You’ll look back and not even care. Live your life don’t hate your parents.4
u/Useful-Command903928, in the same boat. hugs3
u/mistyflanniganI finally had jaw surgery at age 25 when I could pay for it myself. My parents never paid for anything, including college. I couldn’t see the board in school and the nurse sent a letter to my parents recommending an eye exam. I got glasses at 18 when I paid myself. Some of us have parents who should have never been allowed to breed. You take care of yourself. Since they didn’t take care of you, maybe you won’t have to take care of them during their golden years.3
u/CanadianCutie77I have a similar story! Had my Mother put braces on me at a young age I wouldn’t have needed the surgery at 16 which I made the appointment for and I wouldn’t have had to endure at that childhood bullying.2
u/Glad_Bodybuilder6997I asked my dad about all of this and his claims the orthodontist never told him. I asked him for old files and he can’t find them. Soo… 🤷‍♀️ idk, but being mad about it won’t change the reality of my situation now and what I have to do2
u/KainMassadinWhen I was like 8 they took me to a dentist who said he needs treatment because “noone will like/love someone whose face looks like a shoe”. They didn’t defend me. At 11 I had very little discipline with brushing and flossing, plus wearing that face mask thing. I was a kid and had only bad experiences going to dentists at that point. They didn’t help me by being strict when they had to. I always tell myself that regretting and blaming is sooo easy, which is why I shouldn’t follow that path. They’ve been great and supportive in other aspects, but I’m amazed at how oblivious they are in seeing how the consequences have affected me (especially considering my dad had to go though the same DJS procedure!). Years of bullying and negative self perception have done a number on my mental, and now adult me has to clean up all the mess, I guess that’s just life.2
u/_neviesticksYes, but only after a lot of therapy. And I guess it's forgiveness in that I've let it go, but I'm not going to trust their opinions about anything moving forward. Frankly, the jaw stuff was just emblematic of their neglectful parenting. They were both emotionally immature and irresponsible parents.2
u/WillowRoutine4658I’m 28 and I get angry towards my parents every time I look in the mirror or look at my sisters. I have 3 sisters and they all got braces. I did not, despite needing it the most out of all of us. I had teeth extractions at age 10 because of crowding due to my recessed jaws. I had all 4 wisdom teeth removed at age 12 in hopes to again, make more room. At age 15 my parents were told I needed surgery. My parents turned around and said I was doing it on purpose. That I was sticking my lower jaw out because I wanted to be special. I had a horrible lisp and they would stick their jaws out and mock me with a fake lisp. It was so bad that I worked hard to compensate with different and unnatural tongue movements to prevent my lisp. I tried my hardest to suck my lower jaw inwards when my mouth was closed which just made my chin look longer. I never even got regular braces to correct my crooked teeth at least. My face was the main thing I was bullied for throughout my childhood. I got called so many names, the bullying felt like scenes straight out of a freaking movie. Kick me signs on my back, I got asked out as a joke by boys all the time. I got called crimson chin, quagmire, American dad. I got told I was the missing link. Asked if I was inbred. The harassment was so bad I wanted to kms many times and my parents didn’t give me a safe space from the bullying bc they continued it at home. I was quiet, read and studied all day, I was always in my room just to avoid being called names. I was so miserable that I skipped grades so I could graduate at age 16 and moved 15 hours away. Of course none of my minimum wage jobs paid enough to get good insurance that covered it but in a new city, people weren’t mean to me anymore. At age 24 I got a great job and amazing insurance, I’m now 28, took a few years to get things sorted, tests done and I finally got my braces on last year. My surgery is in September. My parents have since apologized and my dad has sent me a couple thousand to cover my out of pocket costs. The only reason they’ve apologized is because I post often on TikTok about my journey with the bullying, my braces and my upcoming surgery. I posted a lot about saving up for the surgery and my mom cried when she saw a video of me online crying about “how can I make myself prettier” and it was the first time she realized how deeply it had affected me. I frequently talked about how beautiful my sisters are and how I’m frequently forgotten when people talk about our family because of my looks. Sharing these things online where family and friends saw, my parents kind of realized how big of shits they were. My mom apologizes frequently and has already committed to flying out to help me recover from surgery and take care of my two kids (which btw yes I did find love and have kids and I’m actively monitoring both their dental health. They go to the dentist every 6 months despite both being under 3 years old!). My dad apologizes by sending me money. $500 a month and telling me to save it for surgery or to extend my time off from work. I do forgive them as their child but as a parent myself now, I get mad because I would never treat my kids like that. Ever.2
u/StephCurrySauceIt’s tough because for me my parents were told braces alone wouldn’t fix my issue as a child and that I needed a jaw surgery when I was older and to get me setup for when the time comes They were at the time new to the country and thought these were bad people trying to experiment on me and were scared and never told me when I got older until I (at the age of 29 trying to figure out what’s wrong with me) found out that I needed a jaw surgery and that my parents were told They’ve given me a beautiful childhood and their biggest fear is surgery and I get it, and even with me looking weird people still enjoyed being around me because I really had to put it all on my personality but I’m just wondering what could have been…2
u/schoolgirltrainwreckMy parents got a family friend to do my braces because they couldn’t afford it when I was a kid.. he botched it and was an overall freak who would laugh at me when I was in pain, and spew misogynistic rhetoric into my mouth while he worked. I’m now self-funding my jaw surgery at 29 years old! I try to be appreciative that my parents tried to get me what they genuinely thought was the best available treatment at the time despite their financial situation. I do wish they stood up for me when the orthodontist did things to make me uncomfortable, I wish they looked closer when he shrugged off things like my overbite getting worse. Life was already hard for them, and I think they wanted easy answers when it came to me. Such was the case for many things growing up. I get the temptation to blame my parents more about other things (even feeling sad that I have to spend my life battling dysmorphia about other physical traits I inherited from both of them) but it’s a dark path of resentment I try not to let myself go down.2
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u/UnfairDream0945I can't forgive my parents1
u/whypiimy dad and I were told that my lower jaw needed correcting when I was 16 and first got braces and they said that could be looked into immediately. My dad declined because he thought I looked so much like him and now I'm 24 still with a bad jaw :( ur lucky urs was covered1
u/anonymous_opinionsI had braces, jaw surgery and relapsed. I don’t really blame my parents since no one back then was trained in or treating my rare disease. Jaw surgery was big in the 90s but became a lot less so later because insurance pays out peanuts and most of you wouldn’t have had severe functional issues as kids1
u/SpareAny4267I used to be upset at parents for not putting me on braces for my crooked teeth. As a child my teeth was so badly crooked that people made comments about it and stared at it with disgust. From other children (who most already started wearing braces at age 10-12) to my own narcisstic mother and her friends/relatives. I was too embarassed to smile and always tried to hide it with by forcing my lips shut and putting my hand in front of it, I also always shied away from conversations out of fear of exposing my teeth. I could barely look at my reflection in the mirror. Throughout my whole life my parents struggled financially so when I was younger I thought they couldn't afford it, when I was an adult I learned that braces would have been completely covered by insurance because I was a child. When I heard that information it made me more angry at their neglect, laziness and lack of parenting. When I was 23 years, I took to the step to get braces. In my case I had the luck that the crookedness in my teeth was so severe that my insurance covered it almost completely. I only had to pay a few hundred euro's for my braces. The orthodontist also told me in the beginning I had an overbite and gummy smile that I have to fix with jaw surgery, which I declined at the time. Now, 7 years later and 2 years off braces, and 8 teeth less, I'm doing research into getting jaw surgery. My teeth are straight but my smile looks off, my gummy smile got more gummier and I stopped wearing my retainers every single night because otherwise the space in my mouth will get too tight/small and I start getting breathing issues. Reading others people experiences with their orthodontic journey and then surgery, I'm in a way glad that I haven't gotten braces in my childhood. My issues are skeletal, so I would have needed the surgery regardless. I had camouflage orthodontics for my overbite -- and hearing how this kind of treatment has deformed and messed up other people's jaws when they were still a child and their was body was still growing and developing, I'm glad I had it done as an adult when my jaws were already done developing. For a long time I was sad about my teeth, when I was 18-19 I became part of a community where people didn't judge my crooked smile and there I slowly learned to let my guard down and smile freely with them. When I was 20 I left them, and yet again I came into in an environment with people who had negative remarks on my smile, one which was my BF at the time who pressured me into getting braces when I was 23. Do I forgive my parents? I do now. Whatever their reasons were, there is more to me than my teeth looking a certain way. I'm sad that I wasted my childhood years concealing my smile and being insecure. I'm pissed off at society's expectation of what is "normal" or what is "beautiful". Getting braces, having straight teeth -- these kind of thing is a modern invention. For thousands years people have lived with crooked/deformed teeth and jaws and accepted it. Now it's a norm that every person has this perfect, straight smile, as if it's self-evident. I am good as I am, crooked teeth or not and whether or not I'll get the jaw surgery, people can fuck off with their judgements :-)1
u/Traditional-Pear573I understand this so much. Sending you a dm1
u/Traditional-Pear573I can’t send you a dm.1
u/getcaughtstick2codeYep. Same.1
u/M345184Interesting because I’ve had braces since the 4th grade and I had them up until junior year of HS. When I first got braces, I didn’t have an underbite but when I had braces i started developing an underbite… (my dad has an underbite so it was probably genetic) there was really nothing they could do, when they first spotted it they did everything they could to minimize the growth but I still have an underbite, it’s not too noticeable though so I’m not that mad about it.1
u/HarleysDoubleMy parents said the dentist says all kids need braces and my teeth were straight enough.... real reason is they couldn't afford it. My husband is also bitter because his sister got braces and he didn't because he was a boy? Idk. The surgery is too invasive and expensive for his liking.1
u/Acceptable-Fishing61I’ve had a hard time. Couldn’t breathe through my nose my entire childhood (large adenoids)—> open class 2 bite w narrow palate. They only got one sibling out of 3 checked for adenoids but we all had the same problem. Went alone to my consultations, had upper jaw surgery at 18. Remember my mom forcing me to sit at the dinner table watching everyone eat while being wired shut for two weeks. She could also yell at me from another floor forgetting that I couldn’t answer. Now I’m 36, a dentist and going through an upper and lower jaw surgery to correct the first surgery that failed. I’m not going to tell her. (We are low contact)1
u/Tsunami-Square-XMy parents didn’t wanna “deal with” anything for me either. Ever. lol.1
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u/DependentArcher8393My parents never brought me to a dentist despite being free and no I don't forgive them, that would be a disservice to the adult teeth I've lost as a teenager.1
u/noahh1308I feel you because when I was like 10 my dad said he would make me wear braces but he never did (I and crooked teeth and a missing canine), later at like 14/15 we went to an orthodontist who said I needed jaw surgery because I was too severe and he said that I couldn’t get surgery because it gave him heartache thinking about bones getting cut. Around 3 years ago my dad changed his mind thanks to my older sister who told him this kind of deformity can cause health issues long term ( I already had head aches almost daily) and he said I could get jaw surgery if I wanted, I never had money for braces and in my case it was useless to get braces without jaw surgery, I had gave up at 14/15 already tbh. I sometimes do resent my parents like you do because they know I had some issues in my teeth already and later in the jaws, I saw my photos from my childhood and I always had an underbite I don’t know why they thought it looked normal. I just put up with my ugly teeth and jaws and I always avoided looking at myself in mirrors and photos.1
u/sunalee_I received orthodontic treatment and I still needed a genio, moreover for aesthetics I think I would have benefitted from double jaw surgery but my case is too mild now for me to get into the process. Now I’m thinking about facial implants.1
u/itsjoshtaylorSame, they neglected my scoliosis as well. It’s medical neglect.1
u/Fljl2121I was told I needed it At 9 but I don’t think my dad could of afforded it and I know they didn’t understand what I needed, after I had it done my grandma who mainly took care of me told me she had no idea how much it would help me1
u/Electrical_Day_5272Yea I am dealing with this dilemma. Didn’t get braces cause I couldn’t stop sucking my thumb til like the end of middle school. Kinda sad tbh cause I don’t know how to stop. I try not to hold anything against them because that’s not going to fix anything.1
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u/JulianSkiesOh my god What a perfect damned use of the mask at the end there, doctor. You went and pulled on every villain you've ever read about for that one haven't you XD Like holy crap, I didn't know you had some theater in you, old man, but you do!46
u/K_H007Well well well. Lamet is about to get an absolute earful, isn't she.39
u/Fexofanatic"demonstrable fowl", fuck i love this scotsman :D20
u/IAMA_dragon-AMAConsidering the steady calm MacEwan holds himself with, especially for his students, it's easy to forget that he has some understandably firm opinions about Venlil society.15
u/Apogee-500Ohhh i can’t wait for the next chapter14
u/Commercial-Gas-7718From one frying pan to another, this series keeps ramping up with every chapter!14
u/Minimum-Amphibian993Guess everyone is truly learning the feddies are hardly saints themselves. Wonder how long it will take for them to learn about the truth about the Arxur?12
u/Early_Maintenance605"...I hope everyone else is having a better time than me." Meanwhile, Having a Worse Time Than Her12
u/Jbowen0020Lamet must have googled the traditional dish of Scotland.... Lamet, youre about to become haggis11
u/SordidDreamsOh man, Lamet really stepped on a landmine by scaring away that voidpin, huh? Can't wait to see where this goes. Also, on a completely unrelated note, I can't help thinking about how the main trio would react to Jurassic Park. There have been multiple references to it in the story already, and with it being about bringing back extinct species and its message that trying to control nature is a bad idea, it seems like it would hammer home a lot of the points these biologists and an exterminator have been learning. You know, once they're acclimated and accustomed to seeing predators and depictions of violence.8
u/BbobsillypantsThe more I see of the Tolim Alejandro relationship, the more I think it's an irresponsible and in this case dangerous conflict of interest. But I suppose that's par for the course in NOP and it is cute so carry on.7
u/Super_Ankle_BiterOh I can't wait to see our good professor tearing up Lamet! Goddamnit, this is such a tease!7
u/Ablergo_El_EnfermoLamet a la pata siguiente: <image>6
u/Acceptable_Egg5560The Tolim and Alejandro scene was such a roller coaster. Tolim speaking about his part in how the facilities functioned and Alejandro doing their best to comfort their boyfriend. It is still only the start of healing, as he still has to find closure for what they participated in as well as recognizing that pain was still caused and those people deserve to work through their trauma too.6
u/NewguyS79The wait for the next chapters gonna be killer with a cliffhanger like that6
u/AromaticReporter308Oh, Bernard is feeling Haggis about it.5
u/Adorable-Ad5225OH NO, BERNARD SE ESTA VOLVIENDO SALVAJE!!!!! El capitulo que viene va a ser... UNA ANIMALADA!5
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u/abrachooNow this is a side of the professor we rarely see! I'm very interested in how this will go.3
u/Golde829oh boy whatever that conversation may entail, I would love to be a fly on the wall for that or in this case, a reader of the fic and then of course there's Milam's imho reasonable frustration at her parents I look forward to reading more take care of yourself, wordsmith [You have been gifted 100 Coins]2
u/IamhappilyconfusedGod damn it what a cliffhanger, can't wait!2
u/ChrisBattyI’m very much looking forwards to the conversation about unvarnished earth - I hope the doctor lets her have it with everything and it’s the whole next chair we going over everything. These conversations are often the highlights of a story when written well and I’m certain with such a high quality story it will be written well. Fantastic chapter as always.2
u/Aura_DastlerOh damn, guess even the most chill and patient guy has his limits haha2
u/NoOpportunity92I think you might have added an second second in the following sentence: there was a second equally large second floor underground.2
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20r/30PlusSkinCareIs it just me, or does it feel like your face just decides to lose the battle wi...Angel-Downloading-772580%4774.2PRP knee treatment2026-03-06↗
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u/SuddenAvocadoTopicals wont fight gravity (much, tret helps). Its underlying structure. Exercise and staying a consistent weight are the best. I've seen great results form my NuFace Microcurrent and NEWA RF* devices, but they wont matter if you don't exercise and stay a consistent weight. *I saw instant results from NEWA but it died after the 5th use and I'm not replacing it right away.106
u/EAM44people don’t age in a gradual, linear manner, we age in bursts here and there. The two biggest bursts are at age 40 and 60, so brace yourself. I have NuFace, keep forgetting to use it…92
u/momob3rryExercise more than likely.64
u/GretchenWeiner2022Face massage is my number one (40F here). The muscles in your face will pull everything down. You don’t need a fancy technique you just need an oil based cleanser and clean hands. Rub on and spit that’s sore and after you’ve gotten all those spots, try massaging while smiling and then with your mouth open. I like to binge a show and just rub on my face for a while with my face steamer going and my vibration plate at my feet from time to time. You will find that after a while little grainy pieces will show up but if that happens don’t panic. It’s just sebaceous filaments that have been worked out. So really, the facial massage helps with lymph draining, sore muscles/sagging, and deep cleaning without stripping your skin.51
u/MsGeekStrength training is said to help boost your body’s collagen production, which helps with keeping skin firm. And it’s good for you anyways. Also if you’re a cis woman as you get older getting on hormone therapy or applying estrogen cream to the face can help.42
u/Titizen_KaneThis sub has a fucking bot problem to the extreme14
u/queenofyourheartSeconding everyone saying NuFace. I started using mine at 28-ish and I’m 34 now. originally for puffiness and a heavy brow, now for under chin bloat, slight droop on jaw, and same brow lift. You can use any conductive gel with it. I notice a difference when I do it 5-10 min a day for a month then every other day. Full honesty that I am using it for micro (no pun intended) changes that I’m sure most people don’t notice but I have to been on camera/calls for work and I see them.12
u/Careless_Mango_7948Yes tretinoin is proven to help stimulate collagen.12
u/Possible-Raccoon-146I can't say any products have truly worked for me, but exercise really helps. I fell off the strength training routine for a few weeks and I was spiraling about how old I was starting to look (I'm 37). In just two weeks of being back on my exercise routine, my face looks normal again. My skin is brighter and tighter.11
u/Complete_Put4822There's lots of natural things you can do like working out, drinking water, eating right. The only thing that will actually tighten your skin is Ultherapy or Thermage. Lasers help with skin texture. I just hate when there's so many promises from the skincare industry and no results. I will so though, using retinol and spf have been life changing for me.9
u/jenifaOHHHjennyFace yoga. Build up the muscles in your cheeks and neck8
u/HHOVqueenEndymed, Endymed Intensif, Morpheus8, Sofwave, Ultherapy Just be aware that not everyone is a candidate for all of these, and you need to see a skilled provider. You can mess up the fat in your face if the provider uses the wrong settings on the devices (which happens a lot with Morpheus8). More intense isn’t always better.7
u/Fearless_Annual_8416I’m 40 My weight only fluctuates between about 6lbs I weight train & run a little I noticed at about 37 I seemed to just age overnight Like everything had suddenly started to sink. Noticed on photos more than in the mirror This is natural ageing collagen loss. Skin looses its ability to hold itself up. Think of it as the scaffolding is collapsing. I have used tret for 10 years This has helped keep fine lines away - I don’t have any around my eyes or my forehead apart from the 11s I have Botox in 11s & under brow hair do brow lift. This has helped massively long term with skin quality- it doesn’t look dehydrated like some of girl friends who have fine lines now around eyes / forehead It’s helps with skin quality but can not lift the skin per say. At 39 I had 3 vials of sculptra over 3 sessions & I first noticed the benefits at the 3 month mark & it’s still improving as the weeks go by Will asses in June if I need a fourth Around my mouth, pre jowls & cheeks my skin is now lifted & firm but I still look like me. No added projection just youthful bounce to the touch. When I pinch the skin it’s feels thick not paper thin. I have since moved onto skinpen microneedling (had 3 so far) this is for overall skin texture improvement (I was oily so larger pores in between brows & across cheeks) I think whatever you choose it’s about stacking the right treatments for your skin concerns & knowing their limitations. I also treated my under eyes with 1 vial of redensity 2 filler at 35 year old - I still see the volume from it now. My injector said no more due to the risk of over filling I have moved onto under eyes boosters - had 4 Sunekos & will continue with maintenance treatments as this is definitely holding off lines & crepey skin in that area Another thing is really focusing in on hydration of the skin Gentle fragrance free skin products Oil cleanser Gentle hydrating 2nd step cleanser Tret & moisturizer Finding the ones that work for you & really keeping onto of it’s daily helps6
u/Difficult_Affect_452Copper peptides, tret, even otc retina have all firmed my shit up.5
u/Primary_Edge_602I was lucky enough to be given a free Sculptra treatment and it was honestly so good. It plumped everything up naturally and nicely. I’m currently pregnant at the moment, so I can’t have another treatment yet, but I will be when I’m able to do so. At the moment I’m just drinking my collagen (bovine) to get what I need.5
u/Shoddy_Challenge5253I do see a visible difference in how glowy my skin is when I’m taking my collagen peptides daily. Can’t speak on microcurrent or other devices or spa treatments but I do love my red light panel (mine has blue light for acne too, it works) and tretinoin. I see a noticeable difference when I’m using all at the same time and notice dullness when I stop or forget my routine for too long.5
u/vulylyvuLook into tazarotene3
u/Unfair_Finger5531I’ve used tretinoin and taz for 35 years, and I use peptides, egf, and vitamin c daily. I can definitely say the retinoids have effectively kept my skin wrinkle-free and line-free at age 51. They also keep my skin pretty firm. But the copper peptides and other peptides I use help a great deal. The vitamin c seems to contribute as well. Anti-aging is a multi product game. It isn’t just retinoids or peptides. It is ALL of the things: peptides, egf, antioxidants, retinoids, exfoliation, and vitamin c. All of these things need to be incorporated into the routine. I also think higher-strength retinoids are more effective as you age. For gravity, however, hormone replacement therapy can do a lot. Outside of that, surgery is the best solution. To get all the peptides and EGFs you need into your routine, try a multipeptide product. I love Bioheal prioderm lifting ampoule and emulsion. Both have a bunch of egf and peptides and antioxidants. And Hanskin collagen peptide ampoule is also very good.2
u/Weird_Squirrel_8382My sister told me radio frequency micro needling is her favorite thing short of a facelift. She's two years younger than I am but looks a good ten. She's also at a healthy weight.1
u/ReceptionWorking7312The only thing I saw results with was combo CoolPeel laser and Vivace RFM.1
u/sneh473I recommend you to watch dr idriss on youtube. She ll have all your answers1
u/orangedrinkmcdonaldsReally good laser treatments. Don’t pay for expensive skin creams - save for Fraxel or CO2 (for face and neck). A good laser routine + sunscreen + tret is way better than any half measures. Signed, your 45 yr old friend who got carded buying wine this week.1
u/Significant-Coast981I had overnight noticed my face was sagging and got Thermage laser treatment and after one session noticed lasting results! My double chin is gone and my fad looks like it did in my 20s! Can’t recommend this enough!1
u/sparkley_elfxGua sha will help drain your lymphs from lying down from sleeping
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u/AmberBlush9472Skincare, healthy bone density (hormones, supplements) and never ever get fat.
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u/No-Inside7137I... am in awe of you. You are a bad ass. I'm sorry I have no dating advice but you are an INSPIRATION. And I'm So so sorry that nobody was hearing you for months! Sending you all the health, wealth, happiness and companionship your heart desires ✨80
u/spacefarce1301Your post made me want to go find every. single. person. who ignored or dismissed your pain and do violence to them. It's infuriating and heartbreaking. But I can't. So, I'll just send imprecatory prayers their way and send hugs and sincere best wishes to you. You deserve so much better.57
u/reffervescentWow, you've been through the wringer, OP. I'm so sorry all this has happened to you, but it sounds like you are not NOW kickin ass and takin names, so rock on, my friend! I'm a 16-year survivor of stage 3 ER+ BC, but I got it when I was in my 40s and married, so I can't help with dating advice. I hope others speak up, though. Also, have you tried posting in r/LivingWithMBC? ETA: ugh, had to correct my bad typo.22
u/timshel2000Wow - I don’t have any wise words to offer but I just wanted you to know I read every word you wrote, I hear you and I am so very very sorry you have had to go through this. It is so horribly unfair… and you were treated so very poorly. None of that should ever have happened. But also I’m so happy you’re seeing improvement now and man you are strong. Wishing you only good things and a clear path to NEAD. <312
u/MoganleafI joined a breast cancer support group at my treatment center and met a woman with stage 4 for 20 years. So why not build a life? They keep coming out with new drugs and nobody knows what the future holds. Your story is a tough one but I love that you shared and encouraged others not to give up! Powerful soul you are!12
u/marticcrnThis is like a master class in how much different healthcare can be if you’re 1) poor, 2) not white, 3) have difficult or vague symptoms, 4) are a woman, 5) don’t have insider information on how the system works. I’m so sorry healthcare is like this. Everything you said is true. I’m a nurse, I’ve seen it. My care is excellent, but I’m an old white nurse and I know people. My privilege is why I get this care. I wish I knew how to fix this. I know what to do. It’s just how to accomplish healthcare as a human right and not a commodity for profit. I’m so sorry. Fuck cancer. Fuck US healthcare.11
u/East-Sorbet5647Thank you for sharing your story. What a powerful story of perseverance. Reading this gave me hope. I’m glad you found good doctors but I’m so sorry that it took so long. As a healthcare provider myself I hate that the first part of your story happened but I know it does all too frequently. We could and should do so much better for people. You deserve to find a relationship that brings you joy!11
u/Working-Lemon1645I don't know how you're able to even make a coherent story out of what has happened to you, or how you've been able to keep from saying , "Fuck it" and burning down some buildings, but you have all of my respect. You've been through what even cancer survivors think of as hell, and it started with day one of a racist, sexist, inefficient bunch of providers and insurers who let you down. You deserved better and you still do. All I can do is say 🫂🫂🫂 and get on some vaginal estrogen if your ladyfish isn't ready for dating yet. And hylauronic acid moisturizer. The universe owes you a wonderful new love life, and I think it's damn well time for it to pay up now.10
u/slim_ebonyOne of the worst cases I’ve ever read. You need to write to a journalist or news station in your area. People need to know about your story9
u/panna__cottaYOU ARE AMAZING!!! What a story, keep at it girl. You are kicking ass 💪🏻8
u/Boring_Act1970As a nurse and fellow survivor, your story is infuriating. Our healthcare system is broken and racist and I’m so sorry you have had to endure this torture. Thank you for sharing your story, it is a reminder to us all just how damaging racial discrimination in healthcare can be. The pain management/diagnostic disparities, emergency room bias, and inferior quality of care cause medical mistrust, misdiagnoses, and so so much pain. I’m so sorry our system has failed you and so many others. The fact that this is still the standard treatment of Black patients is dehumanizing and disgusting. We can and must do better. I promise to show up and advocate for patients like you, always. Your determination and perseverance in the face of this is amazing. I’m happy to hear you’re feeling better! As someone who was diagnosed with stage 3 inflammatory and triple negative BC and beat it, I couldn’t agree more - just don’t give up. Keep pushing forward, it gets better. I absolutely think you should date, you deserve love. There’s a reason you’re still here - live it up, girl! Go get you some!! ;) Sending love, hugs, and healing energy to you, my sister! ❤️‍🩹7
u/HariharKaka-my aunt had stage IV. she lived 3 more years after diagnosis and honestly some of the best conversations we ever had were in that time one thing she did that I think about constantly.. she recorded voice messages for her kids. not like formal sit down stuff. just random voice notes on her phone. "hey baby its mom just thinking about u" type things. some were 10 seconds. some were 5 minutes her daughter plays them in the car sometimes. says it helps more than any photo ever could storycorps does structured recording sessions if u want that. her daughter also ended up using something called pantio later.. it built a voice clone from all those recordings. she said the first time she heard it she just sat on the floor and cried for an hour. but now she plays it for her kids even just hitting record on ur phone while u talk is enough tho. the content doesnt matter as much as the sound of u6
u/fatimaa3I don’t have advice in the dating department but I want to say I’m so sorry for all that you’ve gone through and how much the healthcare system neglected you. It’s truly a shame. Wishing you ease.6
u/new2theparteeI think someone would be very lucky to land a woman like you. A strong person of good character would love being with you. You just have to find each other. It’s a crappy thing that you had to go thru all of this to be an inspiration to us all. I hope you will get out and give Mr Right a chance to find you. You deserve all the happiness and good things life has to offer6
u/Nervous-Many8176Hard to imagine what you’ve been through. Go ahead and date. No one is promised tomorrow, as you know, you can start the day healthy, you can start dating healthy, but any time either one of you can be hit with a life event. It is the nature of reality. One good moment, hour or day at a time. Same with dating, stay in the moment, neither of you can predict the future. And, everyone, btw, bc survivor or not, has a terminal disease. Take care of you!5
u/No_Maintenance2488I am so angry for you!! Keep telling your story. We all have to tell our stories. The stories I have heard pre diagnosis helped me tremendously when I was diagnosed. Someone said to me when I was diagnosed “You will have better days” and I hung on to that. It’s true.5
u/Infinite_Locksmith19I understand everything you're going through. This is my 3rd cancer diagnosis stage 4. I too was denied meds and looked at as a junkie bc of the color of my skin. Even the Caucasian lady spoke up for me and told the dr that wasn't fair. I also had to wait months so around Oct 2021 I knew I had cancer but had to wait til Jan to get a mammogram n biopsy to get a diagnosis. Jan 2022 stage 3 triple negative bc, chemo, lumpectomy , radiation. I kept telling my drs in 2023 my cancer was back but they said inhad ptsd and was paranoid. Ffwd Jan 2025 same cancer stage 3 so July 2025 I did a double mastectomy diep flap with tummy tuck. 2 months later I'm telln the drs again the cancer is back but I'm stuck in the hospital Aug for 3wks bc the port gave me dvt in my jugular vein, shoulder n every vein in my left arm. I got out last wk of Aug n went back Sept 5 for 2wks bc now the dvt turned into pulmonary embolisms. I finally got out and by the time I settled it was Jan 2026 and boom I had a ultrasound n petscan that showed stage 4. 😓 It's like in 2022 I said I have cancer n I seen my bf once a month then he disappeared n I was with him for years . Stayed single a yr then 2023 I got with my new man and soon as I was diagnosed he did the same, disappeared n started being distant. Be careful if you want to find someone. Have talks with them and make sure theyre for u so u don't fall into a deep depression. God is my strength through this. Praying for all warriors.5
u/IamRick_DeckardI am so sorry this all happened to you. It's unjust. I just wanted to say that my doc was talking about Enhertu and was saying it is so good that they are wondering if they can cure stage 4 Her2+. I hope that gives you some hope that now that your cocktail is figured out it will continue to shrink the tumors. My advice for dating is just to be honest. The other person can make their own decisions, and for the short term you just want to meet people, right? No real pressure. Big big hugs.5
u/triblogcarolOh my what a story. Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry you had to go thru all that and at such a young age. Fuck cancer. Hugs for you 🙏4
u/Adventurous-Cheek171This. Alllllll of this. I honestly don't think I could relate any more to another human being. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable and honest about this. It really is such a testament of how you are as a person. And I value you. I'm in same boat as you. I am here for you whenever you need.4
u/Like-whoa8108if i'm being honest, out of fear, i usually don't read the stage iv posts - but i read yours for someone reason and im so glad that i did. i can tell that you have such a radiant light about you and even though i have no advice for dating, i really hope that all the good in the world finds you 🩷🩷4
u/kelkelyEveryone deserves love. No matter how long they live. Its not YOUR job to determine what someone else will risk. Loving anyone comes with risk. Loving someone that might not live till very old age js a risk...but you dont get to decide for people. Put yourself out there. You might be the love of someone's life! Sorry you had the most horrendous experience....I can barely fathom the past year or so you have had. Shameful on the medico community. I cant imagine the pain you've been in. Chin up.. style that fragile hair and go grab some joy...you sure deserve it. As far as the parents. View it as the bonus time you get to make memories with them. As someone what lost her only parent 19 months ago...id jump at the chance to spend a few years with my dad again. My heart goes out to you. What a ride it's been. May the path forward be much smoother.3
u/chantillylace9I am a lawyer and I’m just so incredibly angry for you. I’m so sorry and I’ve experienced a small amount of what you’ve experienced and it’s horrible. But you have basically gone through every single horrible thing that’s imaginable. And so young. I’m so sorry.3
u/IngenuityFar5111Dude, if you can comeback from this hell, you can surely have kids. We have seen stage 4 women getting pregnant or getting surrogacy. Also, you have shown immense strength and I want you to live long enough to tell this story at your 50th and 75th birthday in schools for inspiration.3
u/ThymeLordessOh my gd girl you are amazing for keeping on going with such strength after all you have been through! Let’s keep fighting stage 4 and kick its ass!3
u/AgreeableBusiness435What you've been through from the first urgent care dismissal to the misdiagnosis to the spinal fractures to C. diff to nearly 100lbs lost, and you're still here at almost 30, walking without a cane, with tumors shrinking on Enhertu. That is not a small thing. The part about one full 24 hours without vomiting giving you a reason to keep going hit hard. That's what survival actually looks like, not inspiration, just one small thing that cracks the door open slightly. On dating: you are not a burden for wanting love and companionship. You are a 29 year old woman who has been through more than most people will face in a lifetime and you still want to connect with people. That's not guilt-worthy, that's human. A few honest thoughts from people who've navigated this: You don't have to disclose everything immediately. Getting to know someone, figuring out if they're worth your time and energy, comes before the full conversation about your diagnosis. You get to decide when that conversation happens. The right person will not run. And the people who do run were never going to be able to show up for you anyway, so the diagnosis becomes a filter rather than a barrier. The social anxiety after isolation is real and worth addressing with someone who specializes in it, not because anything is wrong with you but because you used to be a social butterfly and that person is still in there. You deserve to be loved.3
u/SendBoobJobFundsPosts like yours are inspiring for me to get back to being a therapist again. I have been trying to explain to all of my docs about my lifelong medical system PTSD. And sometimes I gaslight myself thinking “this is not a big thing, hardly anyone has this particular trauma” but reading your story reminds me that some people very much do have this trauma.3
u/derrymaineMy god, girl. You are just…you are amazing. I wish I had true suggestions but I am in awe of all that you have been through and what you continue to endure.2
u/Additional_Shirt_509So so sorry this happened to you. Best wishes for your journey going forwards x2
u/Metal_WaterWoodOh my gosh you are a warrior goddess! To come through what you have dealt with and have the levity and be interested in dating should make all men swoon. There is a Mets Sub, hoping someone can share a link? You deserve all the best doctors, support, information/virtual hugs that exist in this world. My prayers and heart are with you OP.2
u/Lizzy43645You are amazing! What a crazy and terrible journey you’ve had to go on but complete an totally respect to you for kicking cancers ass and in keeping up the fight. Best of luck on everything and may your journey in life be peaceful and happy 💕💕💕2
u/tyrannosaurus_hex_well i was having a bad night and this snapped me tf out of it. I'm so sorry this happened to you. you're an extraordinary person and deserve to have romance and love in your life-- and options and possibilities and dreams and hopes and fears that come with that. I also struggle with imagining a future with regard to dating, but no one knows what the future holds, and many people live very long lives with MBC as a chronic but manageable condition. there is a lot more to your story <32
u/JustAd330So sorry you had to endure months of negligence but glad you kept advocating for yourself and are at a better place now. Keep being the bad ass that you are and persevere through this and good luck in the dating world! Hope you find your person that will support and stand by your side through this journey.2
u/canuck_mojoI am so happy you are getting better and I'm sending you big hugs from Toronto. My cancer was not properly diagnosed for 4 years, which has caused me so many issues, but you have been through hell. We see you, we are rooting for you. xoxo.2
u/StenoDThank you for sharing- you are freaking amazing 🤩 I bow down to you!2
u/KkhanpungtofuYou’re shining a light on the tragically flawed US healthcare system, and I am so sorry this happened to you. And we are so glad you’re here to tell the story and encourage others. Bless you.1
u/prettykittychatWow. I’m so glad you’re still here. I’m just floored that the medical folks all dropped the ball so badly at first. I’m glad you’re feeling better.1
u/N3RDBUSTERThank you for sharing. I have just started treatment for stage 4 in my bones and liver. I have been so sick for the past month and truthfully I think of throwing in the towel or ending every day. While I never got the horrible run around you did I’m carry a lot of anger with my team as I never received scans the two years I was symptomless. What the fuck!? It’s so hard OP, thank you for bringing some light for us who can’t see much hope.1
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u/buyableblahYeah I was gonna suggest MCAS since you have POTS and hEDS. It’s wild isn’t it? Have you tried a low histamine diet?39
u/kgirl244Have you ever tried midol complete? The antihistamine in it makes me feel incredible on my period. If I don’t take it, I’m doubled down feeling like death as well. I have a lot of MCAS symptoms but didn’t qualify for the full blown diagnosis21
u/juneberry19I started taking cetirizine hydrochloride 10 mg last month, and the period I just had was SO much better than the last few. I had no diarrhea, no intense anxiety right before my period, AND i only took like 400 mg of ibuprofen each day. I’ve decided to just take it every day for the next couple of months (since I get seasonal allergies in the spring anyways). I’m honestly so shocked that an antihistamine would make such a difference. I’ve only been diagnosed with endo but nothing like MCAS, but suspect I have some other reactive immune disorder.12
u/kirtkneeWow. This is would be so nice! I’ve been taking a daily antihistamine for over a decade and do occasionally need a second during luteal or menstrual since I feel extra skin crawly. Wish it would help my cramps 😭. But I’m glad you’ve found some relief!11
u/FlashyResearcher18Thank you for your post! I’m not formally diagnosed but I show many symptoms that the doctor dismissed as work stress. I had a similar experience. I took one bilastin pill and a DAO supplement and overnight my period flu disappeared. There really is a link between estrogen/histamine but given the low status women’s health has been given we don’t even know!9
u/These-Foundation6815You’ve just given me a realisation too. I had excision surgery Dec 24 and symptoms started coming back June 25. I’d had weird mobility issues and stuff I’m putting down to massive vitamin deficiencies since about the April, plus the start of what I think is probs MCAS symptoms around same time. But the endo pain was manageable up until November when it hit me like a ton of bricks. I stopped taking daily antihistamines in October. I wonder if that might have something to do with how the pain went from 1/10 to 5/10 to 9/10 in the space of three months. Huh.9
u/keystI take Pepcid AC as an H2 blocker and when I stop I flare up. I figured this all out on my own.7
u/vienibenmioYeah, Tylenol PM has really helped with my pain in the past. My brother-in-law is a doctor and says that benadryl reduces inflammation5
u/Tallchick8Just a PSA in case anyone is thinking of trying antihistamines. They really do not mix well with alcohol. I remember when I was in my early twenties and had gone to Vegas and was completely clogged up with allergies and took an antihistamine and drank a glass of champagne at brunch then had to sleep in the hotel for the next 6 hours. Definitely look up other drug interactions also but this one's a major one. Really glad that you found something that's helpful. OP.5
u/ParsleyImpressive507I think I’ve got histamine issues at play. Will come back and read you post more thoroughly!3
u/calilicahi! can you tell a bit more about your IBS symptoms? were they mostly diarrhea or constipation-based? asking cause I suffer from persistent constipation for YEARS and have tried every GI test on Earth but only get normal results 🫠2
u/Sad-Gold-6656With all of your comorbidities, I would make sure to be checked for May Thruners and Nutcracker. Also, people with hypermobility sometimes have pelvic floor dysfunction and not Endo at all. Look into stomach compression like Jelly Band. Have you gotten scans for compressions? P.S. People with your comorbidities get surgery all the time. You just have to let your doctor know and make sure the anesthesiologist is knowledgeable on your comorbidities. Lastly, I know diet changes suck. I'm also Autistic. But looking at the low histamine diet and making small changes can help. For example, I cut out onion, garlic, tomatos, wine, beer, and try to limit dairy. But I can't give up the dairy!! Good luck ❤️2
u/pinball_lifeEndo tissue creates estrogen on its own, then histamine and estrogen create a potent feedback cycle with each other. Have you been recommended mast cell stabilizers to reduce the release of histamine in the first place? Traditional anti-histamines are generally receptor blockers and not as effective at reducing the load and disrupting the cycle.2
u/hemkershTake some pepcid too. Combo of H1 and H2 blockers is helpful2
u/cosmolityI just wrote this comment so I'll post it here for anyone who might stumble upon it.  I'll add that anti histamines, specifically desloratadine, was the only thing to help with my pain also along with the following:  I have suspected umbillical endo and it was as only by fluke that I found something that works for me. My pain flares happen when I deviate from the diet I'm on to control another set of issues I also have-including salicyate and histamine intolerance and sjogrens symptoms-severe dry eyes and dry mouth, brain fog and fatigue.  It was only by fluke to try to treat the, at the time mild, dry eyes when I took seal oil omegas that my dryness went away. When I stopped the omegas, within days my hair started falling out. The dry eye and mouth was unbearable. Insatiable thirst. No eye drops helped. My tongue started to dessicate. I thought I would have to quit work because I couldn't think at all the brain fog was intense and unrelenting. I started the seal oil and the symptoms started fading and in a few weeks were almost gone. I have tried to come off the seal oil several times with the same result-it comes back with a vengeance.  It was during one of those times that I stopped to see if my body could handle it that I started getting umbillical endometriosis symptoms. Starting them again staved them off. I began the diet of low salicyate, low histamine, no sugar, no dairy and low gluten and for six months I felt normal. When I stopped them again is when all hell broke loose and I had stabbing needle like pain, burning across my entire abdomen, a lightning rod like pain right through my entire abdomen, pulling and tethered sensations around the navel and to the right. Sharp pain during BM. I had daily unrelenting pain for two months, even though I started the seal oil after only five days off it. Gradually it went away. Gluten triggers it also, certain types of wheat. I still have very very mild pain and not every day like it was then.  I have theories about what's happening to me because I'm driven to understand the mechanisms behind it. I am a carrier of pathogenic e coli from food poisoning and I had COVID before the other symptoms amplified. It's suspected by doctors that the EPEC and COVID, perhaps long COVID, have contributed to this and now I think there is some sort of MAST cell mediated histamine and salicylate dysregulation/ COX-1 pathway dysfunction that the seal oil somehow down regulates because of the strong combination of DPA, EPA and DHA. Most other omegas only have trace amounts of DPA, so I think this is why the others didn't work for me. I also have anti vinculin autoimmunity from the food poisoning. I think we underestimate the level of inflammation that can happen when a certain type of bacteria not only damages the mucousal and epithelial lining, but also takes hold and produces continuous toxins and prevents other bacteria from breaking down histamine and other chemicals like they should be. Some of these bacterial colonies may also be producing too much histamine hence they add to a system already overloaded with inflammation. Once the loop begins, like with endo, then it may be a difficult process to interrupt, especially if the colonies arent eradicated and continuing growing and damaging.  Just sharing my experience. It's anecdotal but if it can help even one other person then this worth it.2
u/calilicaOh, just one last question: are you diagnosed with endometriosis or just suspected it?1
u/FaithfulButterfly91So it just takes the pain away but doesn’t lighten your period right? I have a prescription for cetirizine. I might just have to try it. My doc just gave me a prescription for tranexamic acid for bleeding too. Hopefully I can take them together.1
u/cozycornerI have laparoscopic confirmed endometriosis and got a hEDS and fibro diagnosis about 4 years ago. Early menopausal about that time too. Now I’m 49 and went to get an allergy test since I got alpha gal (unrelated to the other stuff) and it turns out I had a response to almost everything and I’m taking shots. It all has to be related. And I feel better the day as I take antihistamine too!1
u/IcyFuel5368So you’re just taking loratadine?1
u/puppycatbuggedi started cetirizine last month when i started to feel what I usually call the period flu (super heavy body, lethargic, massive jaw and head pain and swollen nodes, etc.) and within a few hours of taking it I didn’t feel 100%, but it was definitely a massive improvement. in january i was SO sick, like just a whole mucus production factory and i wish i had known to try it then. just like i wish doctors would even suggest this to us as an option so we don’t have to suffer without trying anything.1
u/Wooden-Discipline444What’s the histamine called ?1
u/donkeyvoteadickI have allergies so take antihistamines regularly, can't say they've ever helped my pain but it would be great if they did haha1
u/nmw84pdxI wish antihistamines would help mine! Lol. I’m allergic to… well, fricken everything. I’ve been on allergy meds nearly my whole life, so I hope someone would have noticed a difference in inflammation at some point or another. Although I didn’t get endo dx until I was 37 and it was during my hysterectomy, so… I’m so glad you found easy (ish, you know what I mean) relief! I hope it continues to improve 💛1
u/Secure-Remote8439POTS and Mast Cell Activation Syndrome are a bit related. (I just learned this because I was researching POTS after seeing this post)1
u/rollingdeepdelphiSome antihistamines can kill interleukin pain signalling I think read somewhere and so halt somd inflammatory pathways. You might be a good candidate for the melatonin protocol and the ginger protocol too if this worked!!1
u/Opal-Planchette018Yes! I had a friend tell me a Pepcid a day keeps the crazies away! She had read somewhere that antihistamines could help with her horrible periods and thought she'd give it a try. It worked so well for her I also wanted to give it a shot but it seems to have reactions to some meds I'm on. Glad it worked for you as well! I think, since it doesnt really hurt you (confirmed by my friend's doctor) anyone who can should take a Pepcid a day. **Pepcid brand only, per my friend the store bought stuff does not work the same 🤷🏻‍♀️1
u/Possible-List8078Living with chronic pain for years is exhausting 😔 sometimes looking into new treatments or clinical trials can open up options that aren't widely available yet. I heard Care Health might have some helpful info that might help you .1
u/Inside_Prize9932Try CASTOR OIL in the navel. My story I started having bad periods where I'd swell up like I was 9 months pregnant all the way to ribs, my stomach was tender to touch, it hurt/felt like it was all swollen when I had a bowel movement, have to be under heating pad for first 2 days just absolute miserable. Had a ultrasound done bc thot I had endo, results came back normal. I was diagnosed with PCOS 10yrs ago. I'm 34 now. Doctors only solution was birth control pills, which I refuse to take, so I took matters into my own hands an tried castor oil. Let me tell u it works, I have to make sure I'm taking it everyday especially b4 period starts, I have no bloating, I can eat whatever, I do still have like ghost cramps but nothin that needs ibuprofen. I put oil in my navel an a small swipe across waist line every night (sleep in a top u dnt mine gettin stained) start off small bc it could disrupt ur bowel movements. I feel like maybe I have endo in my belly area but I don't wanna have surgery to find out lol hope this helps some. I will be tryin the allergy meds too1
u/wellnest19@OP Which antihistamines are you taking? I have some of these same issues. Thank you1
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u/Positive-Height-2260Why do I think that at the end of this story, there will be a human who ends up with a dozen Ha'quinye wives?12
u/DrewTheHoboI am once again saying that I think Joan will lead a crusade to bring religiosity to the fuzzy wuzzies(and by that I mean save the men and overthrow the Matricians), granted I’m betting the Catholic angle will come in hard here for lower and middle class.11
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u/BoysenberryMother128Woohoo!! Early chapter!!! Am I speed?? Hehehe!!! UTR!! This is the way!! Edit: so, the setup continues and the plan starts to take shape... I like it! A couple of weeks past I commented on a webcomic that it reminded me of those old comic strips on the sunday newspapers. The expectancy to read the next installment, the unfolding of the story in short bursts, the cavilalitions of the story direction... And that's exactly what I'm getting with your work, Kyle's, and a couple of other wordsmiths in Reddit. Thank you!! (And yes, I'm old enough to remember comic strips on the sunday paper...)6
u/thisStanleyone of his few civilian suites suits autocorrupt? set of rooms vs clothing ​ ​ as opposed to treating them like literal property When "2nd" class citizen is still too high, and you need to use scientific notation :{6
u/GadburnLooks like its time to give these discout Thalmor degenerates a taste of some HFY!5
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u/d_baker65Why do I suddenly want to date a Ginormous Snake Woman.3
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u/Brave-Stay-8020Cole is just having a grand ole time:35
u/VenlilWranglerWow, Cole is having just a fuckin awful time. Lost his yandere girlfriend and got covered by a PTSD hedgehog (no, not that one). No Lalu, no Pini. At least he has his Fahm and Fam.35
u/Rpitre1I hope they did not fuck up Cole too hard with the teeth. Although it would be really funny if they sharpened his teeth because "the predator will get mad if we don’t fix it." Also I hope Cole does not compromise with his meat-eating habits. There's nothing wrong with eating meat and I hope he sticks to it and he doesn't become some "Prey" pleaser especially if Eva tries to make him stop. I hope Eva learns about human culture and the importance of food in the future and comes to accept Cole has who he is. Maybe the dog will help with that... but idk 👀26
u/Adorable-Ad5225Wow, even the Porcupine tried to save him... Poor Cole24
u/DrewTheHoboWait, when do they find out about the Farsul shenanigans? And how’s that gonna affect Eva and Pini?22
u/Commercial-Gas-7718Oooooooh, baby, this chapter just ends too SOON! Another banger.15
u/defiantdoctor95Might just be me having a perception score in the negatives but where did his new teeth come from? (And on a lighter note, how many times do you think he's gonna bite his own tongue by accident while getting used to them?)15
u/DOVAHCREED12Hi I'm dovah and I'm the fastest venbig alive I AM SPEED OFFICIAL VENBIG SEAL OF APPROVAL <image>13
u/luizbielBehtek, harvesting carcasses in cole's backyard: "the fuck you mean meat makes prey sick?"12
u/YellowSkarGreat chapter, I wonder how Cole almost killing that other guy with meat is gonna impact the main-NoP reveal. The one where it's revealed stuff like that allergy is the work of the federation. Edit: I mean how it's gonna impact his and the others' reaction to it. Before it was as simple as "Ha! I knew none of this made any sense!" on Cole's end, but now it's "Okay I was still right but I almost killed someone because of it so... let's call it a draw." at best lmao.11
u/gabi_738God, it surprises me that Cole is still willing to help them even after being betrayed and despised by one of the xenos he trusted most, after practically receiving terrible medical treatment and having his "friends" on that planet fear or despise him for being human. Cole needs to release that frustration somehow.9
u/Zealousideal-Back766Sad Cole :C8
u/gabi_738Okay, if I don't keep reading, I won't be able to sleep peacefully, but seriously, Eva really stirred up a lot of violent feelings in me in this episode because of how she treats Cole and shows that she still has federal propaganda stuck in her head. She probably didn't mean to be cruel, but AHHHHHH!!! Argentine sounds of violence7
u/Prestigious-Ad6728He needs people who understand him and unfortunately, most aliens just don’t fit that. Cole had the right to be angry but they just won’t be able to see it like that because they’re too biased. Behtek is the only one Cole has that could be considered healthy to be around.7
u/Golde829as the 10th Doctor put it "New teeth.. that's weird..." i don't think i could handle that, a lot of my sensory issues went to my mouth apparently honestly not surprised the medics just. did bare minimum for Cole also when i saw a link i expected it was gonna be the Femur Breaker for some reason I look forward to reading more take care of yourself, wordsmith [You have been gifted 100 Coins]7
u/TheShapeshifter01Old crochety gojid is even covering for him. Huh, wonder what his (the gojid) thought process regarding that is. The medical treatment for poor Cole, yikes.6
u/KwanicovI didn't expect the murder birb to be the first fed to see him naked Jokes aside, this entire situation would make even the strongest person miserable. Even if Eva and Pini didn't leave him, knowing that you almost killed a person while doing, what you thought at the time, to be a harmless act of spite, would just be plain horrible. I do hope the story further explores both sides trying to reconcile with their differences in regards to meat eating, instead of going the usual route of one side just folding, like it's often the case.6
u/ErinRFI can see Cole retreating and isolating after this, then not renewing his contract. Herd rejection is a bitch4
u/Bow-tied_EngineerOuch. Poor Cole. I can't think of a single thing worse than someone I care deeply about flat out saying they don't feel safe with me.3
u/IntrebuteWow even Ketchup covered for him. That means that if what he did gets out, it'll be entirely on whether he himself comes clean with it. Frankly I hope Cole starts being more receptive to "prey sensibilities" instead of being so cavalier about it. Granted, we the readers know things he doesn't, but from his point of view he fucked up big time and if he continues being this way then anything that happens from now on is entirely based on wilful ignorance. This is his one mistake to reconsider his priorities.3
u/SlatepawsWay to stab him eva... No wonder he had a psychotic breakdown, the 'one' person he was opening up to did that.3
u/JanusKnarusAfter the body now the soul got mangled3
u/abrachooThey gave him new teeth, huh? I wonder if they made some cosmetic changes to them?3
u/Ferrum-Cl2So they all survived, all lied, but now angry space porcupine has gone full Ahab mode and worse, Eva and Cole's relationship: <image> Why?! It was so pure and innocent . A little warm light in this dark cruel world. And then you extinguished it with a bucket of ice water. Nyssora will never not be good enough for Cole, with her compassion and affinity for hunting. Just because the bird is cute too, and Cole called her name in his sleep, doesn't mean i wouldn't not ship them. There is no way in hell, that they couldn't fall for each other.2
u/pepemariozInteresting to see a fic where feds are aware of the effects of the cure. Can't wait for everyone to learn why it exists in the first place.2
u/Mysteriou85Great chapter! We get to see the aftermath of the fight with oneeye!2
u/BrucelaBron*Helta's tail coiled and lashed. “He was strict and a hardass. I can't count how many times I've gotten in trouble and been chastised by him…” Then she relaxed, and a bittersweet smile began to appear, “But… He was also so supportive of me. Some days I thought he was my biggest enemy, and other days I thought he would make everything right…”* Huh... didn't expect that description to resonate so strongly with my own experiences.2
u/Kind0flameIt looks like there is a bit of a reckoning for Cole not respecting the population's culture. He knew how badly they would react to meat, but it took someone actually getting hurt for him to realize it isn't just a ridiculous belief he can ignore. You have to meet people where they are to get them to change. I think he is starting to realize that.2
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25r/NatureofPredatorsFarsul's Best (Predator) Friend [17]muakling1600%6673.2PRP knee treatment2026-03-05↗
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u/Minimum-Amphibian993Hmmm I imagine this version of Minecraft is the UN censored version. Since zombies in Minecraft drop rotten flesh. Anyways besides that everyone in this story is gonna have to go through something.23
u/pedro5414Live firidiona reaction <image>19
u/copper_shrk29I can't help but imagine these goofballs making a hodgepodge of wildly different mods in a very chaotic game night lol12
u/Ill-Mud5750what is that abomination in the miniature?5
u/ISB00I wonder if Firidiona will also change jobs like Griia.5
u/YellowSkarHell yeah, Minecraft4
u/Commercial-Gas-7718Seems like a nice lull in the craziness, and I'm betting that something shipty will happen in the Wild Zone. If not, then I'd be glad, but if not... Anyway, Ulim's backstory!!! Yeah... More sad Good chapter!!4
u/TheOneWhoEatsBritishI like how the immediate response to "You probably see me as if I've got some kind of mental disability", was for her to study his physique and say "You look pretty normal". She did NOT cue in on what he meant, and if anything, she was thinking of physical disability.4
u/Enclaveboi4everThe Courier gives this chapter a 10/103
u/JulianSkiesBahahaha, oh poor Firi. What a bizarro nightmare XD Then again her family is like that right now. XD Also, uhn... Wildlife trip sounds Real Omnious here.3
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u/gabi_738Wait a second... isn't Firidiona trying to win Carlos's favor and approval? That means Carlos is fulfilling the fantasy of the average refugee from Venlil Prime, and that means it's not a fantasy but a reality. Okay, at what point does the corruption of our favorite Mexican begin?3
u/Bow-tied_EngineerFuture minecraft has peaceful mode but with hunger? Why can't we have this IRL? :(3
u/Onetwodhwksi7833This is hilarious3
u/Bow-tied_EngineerI just had a hilariously awful thought. I wonder if Marcos is the sort of person who would find a Farsul MILF on a dating app...3
u/TheBrewThatIsTrueAlways love the story!2
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26r/recoverywithoutAAThe truth of Bill Wilson's AA Start Up Brand & Franchise you need to knowTruth_Hurts3181210%8172.6PRP knee treatment2026-03-22↗
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u/sitonit-n-twirlBruh this is great. The brainwashing is so complete inside and outside the cult. It is so frustrating to talk to therapists or health professionals, they’re all “it works for millions of people” and assume my objections to it are just me being a bitch. They have no idea of the toxicity of those cesspool meetings. The predators, the mean gossip and backbiting, the cliques and bullying, the all around just plain lack of self awareness and dipshittedness. What’s “cunning baffling and powerful “ is the hold that this idiotic childish bs has on society. Thanks for this great post39
u/LibertyCashWow, I knew about the whiskey but not the rest. It tracks perfectly tho, doesn’t it? Cancer victims get legitimate treatment. We get a bullshit program that tells us our disorder is because of character defects and spiritual maladies and if we aren’t “cured by AA” then it’s our fault it failed, not that the program is shit. And even our government is good with mandating that shit for people. I mean it tracks with the Christian majority mindset this country is stuck in, but man, is it some shit. Imagine victims of any other major disease/disorder being told to just confess their sins and pray and they’ll be fine (and if they aren’t, it’s because they didn’t try hard enough).20
u/PippinOfAstorai cackled like a maniac (in glee) as I read through this. thank you for sharing18
u/ben_quadinaros_stanYeah it’s always felt like it’s own religion to me so I’m not surprised everyone gets the magical version of its history. Frankly although it’s annoying how far the reality from the taught version are I really think even if it were all true AA doesn’t have much to offer besides community. Everything else is kinda just magical thinking.12
u/nickpip25This is great! Thanks for posting this. When I left a few years ago, I did a deep dive of research and read a few books, such as the US of AA, that dig into some of this. The Orange Papers are great, too. The one thing you didn't mention is Marty Mann - the "first woman of AA." She was basically the PR wiz who helped spread the word, etc. Attraction rather than promotion, right? Lol But yeah, AA is a scam like everything else in America, and Bill W was a con man. It all makes perfect sense when you go to meetings and realize he created this whole BS system that continues to this day. He was the original 13th stepper, and the program never worked for him. Also, the claim that AA "has helped millions of people" isn't supported by any research. While that may be true, it has probably hurt millions of people, too.10
u/North_Crow_7600Great post, 318. Have you read the Orange Papers, which are freely available online?9
u/MembershipSolid7151This is fascinating! Thank you for sharing. How do I access your substack?8
u/AnnoyingOldGuyI was baffled at a meeting where there was a portrait of Bill W. front and center, like he was jeezus8
u/SouthernEvent6789My thoughts: Dead on. I studied a lot of AA history and what you have written has made clear a lot of things that just did not make sense. I spent 25 years in AA listening to the BS over and over and over. The belladonna treatment, there is a local pharmacy that has an old bottle of belladonna. The shit that is in that would make anyone have a "spiritual awakening". I know enough about Bill Wilson, he was not the stand up guy the so called big book makes him out to be. He was a womanizer, a cheat, a liar, and everything else you motioned. He was and is a fraud.6
u/[deleted]The big book is shitty reading, especially for ancient literature. It’s like a nine year old wrote it. An honors nine year old, but still.6
u/Sea_Measurement_1654I always wondered why Bill waffled on for all those pages despite stating his program was simple. So it was a deception? A hustle? Damn!! I can't stand how recovery language turns people with problems with alcohol into naughty dependent children who "hurt others". Considering that alcohol is marketed as a core part of many cultures and is behind a huge corporate profit machine I've always thought that sparking guilt and shame in drinkers was a smokescreen. The way the whole treatment model institutionalizes people (threatening their jobs and responsibilities) instead of just making at home detox support easily funded and accessible: so Bill and AA started all this? The monetizing of that illness model? He never stopped being a salesman? He was no different to the other 13:step creeps I met whose wives suicided? Ffs.  I'm not surprised, now that you've linked all the information together. Thank you for curing me of aa, permanently.  Thank you. Your research is good. I hope you publish it and mainstream AOD treatment starts to reflect on and question that model.  Vast change is needed.6
u/Top-Geologist-9213Wow I didn't know any of this!5
u/SouthernEvent6789Bill W. Oh…. Least not forget Dr. Bob. Both are and was frauds.5
u/gofeedmeBrilliant. I had known most of this, but not all, and your presentation of these facts is compelling. AA is a deadly scam. In what other area of medicine is 1935 thinking still the standard of care?5
u/Recent-Log-2999You hit the nail right on the fucking head. Thanks so much for the history lesson!4
u/barely_sentient4444I know to some this may sound just as insane as the story told here, but I feel compelled to share it because it's so simple and true to my experience. I was in AA for a year and four months. I was totally in-deep and brainwashed. At this time I was on the precipice of being given leadership roles and a becoming a sponsor...even though I wasn't ready. I was on step 6. By suggestion of a friend I went to a healing session with a Shaman from Peru...at random. I'd had a horrible week with my untreated ptsd and I was extremely mentally and physically unwell as a result--something that AA always swept away and attributed to the sickness of addiction, not trauma. For the ceremony I laid on a bed and the shaman spent about an hour performing a cleansing ritual, doing a shamanic journey to a beating drum, and he blessed me. At one point he said my ancestors wanted to come into the ceremony. I said sure. When I left the ceremony I noticed two things were different: I felt completely restored to my equilibrium from the trigger episodes and I had one extremely clear message my mind. I was in a cult. I just very suddenly understood that I was inside something harmful to me and to others. That I was being healed to mold other people into a servant of this problematic program. I booked out hang outs with friends for the next 4 weekends and packed my shit up, did not look back. I was so vulnerable! AA may be a spiritual program, but it is not true sprituality. This read is very creepy and disturbing...I lived in Ohio during all this and it's so creepy to think back to the "pilgrimage" people would take up to the Oxford house in Akron. And that no one in my life was like "hey are you ok? You know I've heard AA is a cult right?" That whole part of my life almost feels like a fever dream.4
u/MysteriousSyrup6210Now I understand what it is to be free. For real. Thanks3
u/papitaquitoOP… can you share some sauce for this? Just want to be able to provide sauce other than a reddit post if possible thank you!3
u/MyNameis_budYour write up reminds me of the Addiction Solution podcast. Especially where you wrote that it was the individual driving their recovery the whole time. Gotta break free from the conditioning that it’s impossible to develop new disciplines by reevaluating alcohol and other substances. Thank you for posting3
u/sirensideeffectsWait sorry if this has been asked but could I possibly be directed towards some of the reading that supports these claims? This is so interesting (though not entirely surprising) and I want to know more/ verify2
u/Ill-Address1151When is the book coming out? I’m thinking of writing one myself this stuff is so interesting. A great read above. I have one question. In every market there is demand and supply. You are arguing against the supply above - $42b recovery market in bed with AA…but what about demand? Why does it work for a lot of people?2
u/LifespupilI especially laughed at the use of hallucinogens and preying on young women (a tradition that goes on to this very day) and fascist recruiting material (cuz I know a bunch of fascists that love the ef out of 12-step) Bunch of moronic assholes that preach this garbage as the only way to get sober/clean make me want to puke.2
u/[deleted]"Constitutionally incapable of of honest" Its abuse. Makes me angry. Really. pissed. Oh, he can't get this program lets marginalize and shun him, treat him like he's a lesser animal. or He left the program, lets tell every one that he's miserable hopeless alcoholic that will nerver stay sober. Only people that do what we do can't be miserable.2
u/hollowblink55The history is definitely a lot messier than the official version they tell in meetings. Learning about the Oxford Group and the early power struggles really changes how you see the whole "spiritual" foundation. It’s better to know the facts than follow a myth.2
u/strawberitadaydreamJust curious if you have some sources you can cite?1
u/Ok-Magician3472Much information here. I can smell remnants of the religious authoritarianism in the halls. Though also see spiritual marginalized speaking and forming groups where all are welcome. Interesting topic. Any source recommendations? I have hear of oxford group, but not much else.1
u/Background-Ad3308While im willing to believe this and none of this surprises me because I understand how powerful capitalism is in the US...where are you getting this info?1
u/Lewt007Is this from the orange papers? https://orangepapers.eth.limo/orange-cult.html1
u/TheTankIsEmpty99Does posting this help your recovery?-1
u/dr-ncI never had that addiction, and never took that program. However, since it helped many people around the world, despite the shortcomings of its founder/founders, that was not due to his own mind, but due to the fact, that the program's principles are to some degree, a bit distantly, related to the principles of self-examination, acknowledging one's evils before God, and shunning them as sins later on, with the help of God, and also with the friendly moral support of others. The fact, though, that it was somewhat deprived of its true spiritual essence, that is, from the principles out of the religious books, made it work only superficially, not without problems of its own. In its more authentic form, when divested of all additions and simplifications, those principles are instrumental in dealing with various kinds of unhealthy and evil addictions, of both natural and spiritual nature. Perhaps, it is the lack of a number of the more immediate spirituality related aspects of those principles, with their reference to the Lord and the Word, that made this program less effective with regard to certain challenging areas of Bill Wilson himself.-5
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u/OkLeg4914I’m convinced that directors need to use this sub as inspiration for horror movies. This is incredible. I hope to hear the next installment soon20
u/Selene_16OP why are you incapable of following rules? Like seriously why?16
u/rtiveronWell, at this point i'd say fuck it, ask Terry when he comes by. He was interested in the radio, he definetly knows what happens there11
u/DroppinDwarvesI definitely wouldn't go to building F. Use the dental, save up some money, seems if you go in there both become irrelevant. Looking forward to updates!11
u/RayRay_46I love your sense of humor. I think the worst part for me would be having to keep the radio on at all times on a single station. I wonder how dangerous it would be to put headphones in and listen to other music while the radio played quietly in the background. Would Eversafe Self Storage Solutions LLC, or whatever weird energy is behind it, take offense to that?9
u/PlumAffectionate4575this is giving me tales from the gas station vibes8
u/Fund_Me_PLEASEHonestly, that’s not a bad gig, for 19.50 an hour. I only wish I myself could something so laid back that pays as well.  You were smart to keep that job, OP. Odd as it is.7
u/BusinessheoDale knows way more than he’s saying.7
u/Proper_Ad7132Self-storage is also rented by people who are without homes to store their belongings, by nonprofits with small offices and other groups that need to store things. Not just hoarders or materialistic conspicuous consumers.6
u/Lavender1123Your experience is absolutely fascinating. Be careful, and please keep us posted.6
u/tattoo_mom4Maybe ask terry about building F. Can’t wait to hear more about your job!5
u/survivorterrawould love to see more of this!3
u/digigoose01A headache that never becomes a migraine is, in actuality, a blessing. Though one you probably can't recognize until after a crushing migraine leaves you crying on the floor in your own vomit. Good luck.1
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28r/JUSTNOMILDon’t want MIL near me or our baby - Advice wantedProfessional-Sky-6701040%9072.3PRP knee treatment2026-03-27↗
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u/Evil_Creamsicleit was taking every bit of self control to not immediately throw her out of the house Throwing her out is exactly what you should have done. It doesn't need to be a 'conversation' it just needs to be you telling her she's not welcome and hanging up the damn phone never to talk to her again.19
u/DejectedDILShe would absolutely never step foot in my home again after calling me that. Please rid this woman (if you can call her that) from your life.18
u/QueenMadgeJust from here you've been called a bitch and a whore (that you know of), he's been called a waste of space/lazy and she hates him, she admits to parental alienation against her own brother and alienating you guys from your niece with bad mouthing. Again this is just the things you guys even know about. She ditches you for months hoping you'll chase her. Saying nothing is getting you nowhere. How long until your baby starts getting alienated from you? Because that peppa pig anecdote was the start. My advice is to make a physical list of everything you can think of that she's done, present it to your husband and ask if he would think it was OK if you did this stuff to your own child. Ask him why its ok for him. Then announce that you'll be protecting your child and yourself with no contact from her. He's welcome to keep at it but he must know she will ramp up her manipulation and horrible behavior and to keep you out of it. I suggest therapy for him.15
u/justhewayouareI don’t have any advice cause you already updated. However, I laughed so hard when you called Peppa a B cause DAMN! She’s not Caillou but in my book she’s second place.14
u/fryingthecat66When she called me a whore,that would have been it. I would have kicked her ass out and gone NC with her disgusting ass If DH wants to still keep in contact that is his prerogative but you tell him that you and LO will not, that she'll never see your daughter again14
u/SomewhatBougieAuntieYour husband can do what he wants, but and your baby can cut MIL off for yourselves. Do not allow her in your house, do not go to her house and do not allow your husband to take your baby anywhere near her. He can either whine about or get with the program.14
u/KuchalooI don't know what MIL could have done differently if she purposefully wanted you out of her life! Good on you for choosing peace. I don't know how or why you held back at the first instance of her über rude demeanor, but that's over now. You don't ever have to see her or hear from her again. There'snothing to salvage.13
u/Striking_Physics1894Why are you even asking this? You should just go NC and block this bitch who apparently hates you, her own son and grandchild. Life's too short for that.13
u/Chi-lan-troI think that you should read Harriet Lerner’s “The Dance of Anger”. In her book she talks about how under-reacting is JUST AS BAD as over-reacting to your feelings of anger. That when you under-react, you build resentment, which continues to build until you snap and over-react to something small and then you have to eat crow. But if you react appropriately you will have respected your feelings of anger, and you will feel GOOD. In this case you say that you’re pretty confrontational but I find that you’re NOT reacting ‘enough’ in the moment. I assume it’s because you don’t want to over-react. I think it’s perfectly valid to respond to her, in the moment, but it doesn’t have to turn into a full-fledged fight. “Did you just call me a bitch?” Or better yet: “Well, that was not on my bingo card for today, I’ll be taking my baby now.” And go into another room with the baby, close the door and don’t come out until shes gone. Text DH “your mom called me a bitch, can you ask her to leave and let me know when she’s gone?”13
u/bookwormingdelightI’ve come in after the edit you posted, but therapy did amazing things for my husband processing MIL’s behaviour. We set really firm boundaries. He went temporarily NC while doing therapy and then considered group therapy with his parents. When the therapist spoke to him one on one before group therapy it became very clear that neither ILs have made improvement, they want the answer on how to “fix it” and there were heaps of other issues raised by the therapist. My husband went and saw his own therapist again and realised he didn’t want to deal with this anymore and went permanently NC. Best advice I can give is just do regular check ins with how he’s feeling. Validate his feelings. I kept my complaints factual and not emotional about her. As much as I would like to, I did that with friends. With him it was easier to process facts. I also made it clear that he’s an amazing father and husband and protective and it’s not fair he has to feel like crap every time he sees his family and deal with issues. Since going NC it’s been PEACEFUL.12
u/JaeJames138Why on earth do you allow that rancid cow anywhere near you ?! Holy crap, cut her off, and tell SO she's not to be near your children. Ewww. Just gross !10
u/Jackaxed014WHY are you or your husband or your BIL/SIL letting this awful woman stay around your children? What exactly do you think someone this immature and toxic is going to teach them as they grow up? Jettison this woman out of your life and advise BIL/SIL to do it, too, though they may be more enmeshed because BIL is the golden child. I seriously do not understand the thought process here. This woman is petty, cruel, manipulative, and just straight-up immature. She has nothing to recommend her as a human being. She has nothing to offer you or your children on a human level. She "ices you out" like a pouting child and openly insults you in ways I would never accept from anyone. If she calls you a "whore" and a "bitch", what kind of things do you think she's going to say to your daughter, her less valued grandchild? Sorry, but just like-- advice?! The advice is cut this woman the fuck off. Never let her into your life again, and make sure husband is on the same page. If I was your husband I'd let the bitch die alone, because she's made it clear she does not love or respect him and she only wants to keep him around so she can hurt him.10
u/alwaysabouttosnapI understand you don’t want to ice her out completely. But at the same time, you sort of imply that you do. You don’t want contact with her and you don’t want her to have contact with your baby, all for valid reasons. I understand she’s your husband’s mother and you don’t want to push him to not have contact with his mother. The good news is that you don’t have to! He can have as much of a relationship with his mother as he wants. But you and your child don’t need to, she doesn’t need to be welcome in your home, and you can tell anyone (especially her) to politely fuck off if they have a problem with it. As far as I’m concerned you don’t get to call me a bitch and a whore and say you don’t even like your own son and still get access to me, my child and my home. If your husband has no spine and refuses to let go of a relationship with her then that’s a him problem. But you’re a mother and you have an obligation to protect that baby and you need to have more respect for yourself.10
u/Emotional-Place9446I would’ve been NC for a long time already.10
u/TargetWild9004I can’t understand why you guys would want someone around who insults the both of you so openly. She’s already doing it in front of your child, and has admitted she uses her niece to get what she wants. You guys will be no different. She will not change. She will keep treating you like the dirt on the bottom of your shoe. Do you really want this person around your child? Someone who called me a whore AND a bitch would not be stepping foot in my house let alone holding my child. If you’re as confrontational as you say you are you need to be that person and then not care about the fit MIL will throw. She keeps doing it because you let her.10
u/sjyfflI think you definitely need to call her out on the rude comments OP. She straight up called you nasty names - twice. And doubled down when given an out the first time. She knows what she’s doing and because she hasn’t hit a barrier - yet - she keeps doing it. Next time - you need to walk over, remove child from her lap, and say, “Since Nana thinks it’s ok to say that Mommy is a b****, then Nana should go home.” End of story. Once the tears start, you simply say - she said it, you heard it, and there’s the door. She should not be welcome until she can learn some respect. She’s insulting you in your home, OP. In front of your child, and by saying nothing, it will not stop.10
u/where-ya-been-locaBest option: cut her out of our lives and never speak to her again. She is so disrespectful and doesn’t bring anything but stress and anger and pain. Other option: call her out every time she says or does something. That’s enough of no one being confrontational. She’s an intentional bitch and should be put in her place or she’s never welcomed. Your SO is used to being berated so he is not strong enough to stand up for you and your family. You need to be the one to put your foot down and stop taking it. I’m so upset for you and I’d have a field day removing this woman from my life if I were you.9
u/Consistent-Tree6802Why are you allowing her to disrespect you over and over again? Madness😣8
u/LindrisYour SO needs to ask himself if his mother could ever possibly bring any good by having a relationship with your daughter. The answer is pretty obvious. Protect your child. Even if it’s from people who are suppose to be family.8
u/luludarlinLoool if someone called me a whore that would have been the last time they’d have seen my face. She obviously doesn’t get any consequences for the way she’s treating you, that’s why she keeps doing it. I’d not want this vile woman near me or my child.8
u/shrimpscampy311You should’ve kicked her out for the whore and bitch comments. Just ignoring it was not the way. I also don’t know why you would want to go to her events or visit her. Your child not having a relationship with her isn’t a loss. She’s just gonna retain the nasty stuff she says as she gets older.8
u/TankDartRopeGirlI think a really good place to approach this from with SO is that you don't want your child to grow up with the same sort of mental abuse as he did. Ask him if that's really what he wants for your child? Does he want them belittled, used in power plays and watching their parents take this sort of treatment which can create a blueprint on what is or isn't ok to accept from others for them in future? Obviously this woman is beyond vile and needs to be out of your life and your kids life asap, but it might help SO to frame it as what it really is, protecting your child and doing everything in your power to make sure they grow up healthy, balanced and with good relationship skills and boundaries. The generational impact people like this can have is impossible to over exaggerate, and he can either let the damage continue, or he can look after his family (both you and baby!) and forge a new, healthier path I hope I'm making sense, and I wish you all the luck. I saw you mentioned somewhere that SO had agreed to therapy, I think that's an excellent idea if it's within your means, he'll have a lot to unpack and he'll need some new tools in his toolbox for helping raise the next healthier, happier generation. I hope you have a really good support network around you also, this is horrible to go through and will be filled with lots of emotional ups and downs. Protect yourself and protect your child, I hope SO can get on board!7
u/Vibe_me_posFirstly, SO needs therapy. He needs to purge her from his life because she is only a source of pain for him. Secondly, I agree that she should not be around you or your child again for all the reasons you stated. The woman is a monster and she will continue to torture her son and will torture your child as soon as they are aware of her behavior.7
u/Electronic_Animal_32You should have thrown her out. You came across as weak. Don’t worry about you child. Better not to be around this b… h. Just keep throwing her out when she’s inappropriate or better yet refuse to see her. It’s gotten to that point already. And keep baby with you.6
u/GirrcollegeLooks like you might have to enter your villain arc. Just tell your SO that you will not raise children around a person that constantly in continuously, disrespect said children’s parents and that you and your child will be going no contact effective immediately. That means she is banned from y’all house too. Be the villain, scorch the earth by nuking it and everything within 100 miles.6
u/brent_bentThat's awesome to hear! Glad you're going NC with her and looks like hubby is heading that way after some time in therapy because it'll teach him she's treating him like shit and the solution to that is to drop the rope not try to win their love by continuing to have them in their life. Congrats on your lovely baby and kicking the witch out of y'all's life.5
u/Otherwise-Wall-6950If SO agrees with you then you're on the right track. Match her energy. She can't get her way and ices you out? Perfect!5
u/Legal-Baby-5130My husband cut out my mil and fil for the sake of our family for similar reasons you described. I think something I find crazy is how people are talking about the rising trend of people cutting out their parents and how selfish our generation is. But I think what's really happening is that we are trying and attempting to fix what's broken and make it better for our kids and families and when no change occurs after multiple failed attempts we just leave because it seems the best thing for the situation. I think if you have really tried and been patient and given so many chances and things haven't improved, then it is often better to just walk away and move forward.3
u/1039198468Understand from an outsides perspective you both should stop engaging with this woman. She brings nothing but stress and she WILL either favor BIL’s child at the expense of yours or undermine your child’s relationship with you when she can. You don’t mention your FIL. Is he involved at all? What does SOs relationship with him look like? Either way while I would support an extremely passive stance I think a more honest approach would be to either call her out EVERY TIME she says anything or NC for all three of you.3
u/642398049Does your SO confront his mother over the horrible things she has called you? That’s absolutely disgusting. I would be having a serious conversation with your SO about cutting his mother out and if he wants a relationship with her he can do that, but not you or your child, I’d be worried about when your daughter is older and can understand words and conversations better, what’s gonna stop MIL from talking badly about you infront of her😳3
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u/man_ohboyDang it sounds like you've had a really rough go at it. I'm glad you're finally getting some help. I hope it all turns around for you. I'm not sure how big of a difference fiberglass vs metal makes, but I lived in my metal van for two years, and with some insulation and a vent fan, it stayed pretty comfortable. I'm in the US, so I have no idea about the laws or options available in Europe. What I can recommend is a cooling option for your medicines. If you have the funds to get a small solar setup (you can likely find a kit of ample size for under 500 euros), you can get a small 12v chest fridge that has a pretty low power draw. You can use that to keep your medication and a few groceries cool. I had a very cheap, very small one (I think it cost $150 new and I bought it used off a friend for $70) and it worked great until it quit on me 2 years later. I probably could've repaired it, but I didn't bother and just used it as a cooler until my vanlife journey was over. Best of luck to you!31
u/Efficient_Raise7695Mi spiace molto per quello che stai passando, dev'essere davvero brutto! Detto ciò, non è vero che non puoi camperizzare un furgone se non passando dalla motorizzazione; a parte il fatto che non ho mai sentito di nessuna multa fatta per "camperizzazione illegale", quello che dice la norma è che non ci devono essere strutture fisse/che non sia smontabile su richiesta di un agente. L'unica restrizione è che devi progettare le cose diversamente, ma è tutto assolutamente fattibile in base alle reali esigenze. Per il caldo, non c'è materiale che tenga, se lo lasci al sole diventerà un forno, devi progettare bene dei sistemi di aerazione che ti permettano di far fuoriuscire in fretta l'aria calda (e umida). Per i medicinali puoi pensare di prenderti un piccolo frigo a 12v.18
u/Nerd_PorterFiberglass is a better insulator, but honestly in your situation I wouldn't hold out for it. Focus on something that will be reasonable to keep that certificate going so you have a stable home. A little solar power and a 12v fan would help a lot to keep the temps down. You'll need a panel, small charge controller, small battery, and a 12v fan. Don't bother with an inverter and an AC fan, wastes too much power. And don't use your van battery so you don't get stuck with a dead battery. As for medicine, get a small cooler. See if you can find someplace that will give you a bit of ice daily. Maybe talk to the morning manager at a local restaurant and see if you can get a cup of ice daily early in the morning, before the restaurant gets busy (or late, or whenever is easiest for them). Just be honest and keep the story short, let them know it's for medicine and you're really in need of some help. I'm sure you'll find someone sympathetic.8
u/imrzzzIn the Netherlands you can build out your own van (it must have certain specifications but these are pretty easy and normal for a camper) and register it as a camper so the road tax is 50% of a normal car. There is an insurance company here that insures the vehicle if you're living in it full-time. I'm only saying all this so you know there are other EU countries you can move to and register as a resident if you want to do a self-build. The Netherlands isn't easy to boondock in though, it is illegal in most council areas but can be done if you are careful. Also, the Netherlands is very far from Italy but there are options!8
u/Lavendercrimson12Where are you? Someone mentioned Italy? If you are in Italy, specifically Sicily, or would want to go to Sicily, message me. I know people there who live a very good eco village life. It would be a good place for you to visit and learn or maybe live.7
u/Visible_Document_376If you cover your roof in a black plastic hose, with a water tank higher than your roof you can cool your home and creat hot water at the same time. Look up solar water heater + thermosiphon.7
u/Visible_Document_376I'm in mexico, it's hot here as well, I ve found that if you can simply keep the sun from heating the metal roof it goes a long way towards a cooler home.5
u/Every-Difference5561If you can get something on amazon, buy a shade cloth to go over the roof on hot days. That will lower the temp by 15-20 degrees. It’s only $10 for a 8x10’piece5
u/Honest-2325Ciao , in che città sei ? Magari in base a questo posso darti qualche consiglio migliore. Buona giornata 🙂5
u/0992673Honestly it sounds like you just need to rid yourself of the van problem and find a cheap shithole apartment, everything is solved immediately.4
u/Angry-CoconutsI see a running theme of “nobody would help me, my mom FINALLY helped me”…. Nobody is coming to save you. You’re on your own. Nobody owes you anything.4
u/mcdisney2001You’ve gotten lots of good comments here, so I’ll keep it short with just a few suggestions. You can get free ice at a gas station by just buying the biggest cup you can find at the dollar store or thrift store and filling it when you go in. I took a 10-day trip with a cheap cooler and this was enough ice to last a few days at a time, keeping the meds I used back then cool enough, as well as some drinks. Can you relocate to a cooler area for the summer? Even finding shade during the day would make a huge difference. I have a great fan I’ve been using for years. I took it on trips, and now I use it in my van. Charges with USB and lasts several days of constant use. Here’s the link. Try adding XPS board (the big purple foam sheets) to the walls and roof. They’re cheap and really do make a difference. And I recently discovered they make Xbox controllers with extra A and B buttons on the back—mine is by Turtle Beach. I don’t have limited mobility, but there’s one game with weird controls that was causing tendon issues for me, and I accidentally found that this controller makes it much easier to play that game. I hope this helps. Please stay safe! I keep a spritz bottle around to spritz myself when it’s hot.3
u/Hour_Gas_36Fiberglass leaks… OG van body is less maintenance.. campers need resealing yearly.. bi yearly if you’re lucky3
u/Visible_Document_376I'm suggesting you put up a solar Shade of some sort, not that you move your vehicle3
u/plastic604I read your whole story, I'm so sorry society has treated you this way. I'm deeply ashamed hearing stories like this, human-to-human. I've been in a van for many years but I have resources. I have spent so much time and money on my build and upkeep of my vehicle, including rebuilding the transmission... I just don't see how a vehicle is the right answer, personally. If I'm imagining myself in your shoes given the story you've told, I would get even more creative than the van. I've spent a lot of time in Portugal and Spain and have come into contact with these communities that are all over if you know where to look.. Between happy-go-lucky hippies trying to make do in very simple ways in these countries, I think this might be your best bet in finding people, support, and basic infrastructure at extremely low costs to be able to sustain yourself. Portugal has free healthcare once you register there. 5 years ago I stayed in communities with my van for 100 eur/mo.. No electricity except my own panels, but communal kitchen, water, showers, toilets.. Even some basic internet and power in the general area. Some people stayed in a place like this in large tipis or caravans that were basically immovable, too. Essentially, I would find a place like this, or a few, try to get in touch with them or go there and inquire, and see what possibilities they might have that may work for you. I'm sure there are ones in Italy as well! For sure on Sicily... I would try to find them by googling, checking off-grid living or communal living kinds of forums or reddits or whatever, marketplaces on WhatsApp or Telegram in the locations, villages, etc that are nearby (you can search for this within the apps). Best of luck and while I can't help directly right now, feel free to DM with any questions or if I can advice on anything <33
u/AxomaticallyExtinctIf you get foil bubble insulation it'll make a massive difference to both keeping heat out in hot weather and keeping it in in cold weather. Insulation is everything when it comes to keeping both cooling and heating simple and inexpensive. So invest in some of that up front and you'll feel the difference forever.3
u/rileyabernethyI'm not sure but a metal van is much cheaper at the mechanics. So sorry about your struggles3
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u/SlightLeading9203Just my input...I built my own conversion it's not cheap about 12 thousand euros...but i brought the best..as mentioned in another comment 12v fridge/freezer 680 euros...3x 215 watt solar panels and controller..3500watts inverter..2x 200ah lithium batteries all that about 3000 euros...due to mine been well insulated 10mm dodo,25mm insulation board loft insulation again all not cheap...chinese diesel heater (winter)purchased from northern Ireland no import tax ...did alot of research before starting...left bulkhead in No windows just a small roof hatch...(no condensation issues)..lovely and warm in winter...during summer insulation kept van cool till doors open so warm air during night..I brought 2 usb desk top fans kept me cool at night...I lived at my companies trailer yard for 3 years sleeping in van 4 nights a week as up at 2am driving to Dublin...it took me 10 months at weekends to do build...I have really benefited from it.. firstly i did everything myself the build,wiring,tapping into diesel tank for night heater,etc etc...secondly if i go to Dublin i pay about 40 euros to park and the train into Dublin and obviously sleep in van in car park saving hundreds on hotels..plus use van most weekends to get away and again save on hotels. I am just telling you this as to let you know someone like myself with only basic DIY skills can do it and also the time frame and cost...Pm if you would like to see my build wish you all the best...ps i am in southern Ireland (Waterford).2
u/i-PokerIf you're going with a metal van, then cover ALL the metal surfaces with Armaflex - if they're left exposed they act like a radiator. When it's cold they similarly radiate cold directly into the van. 19 mm or thicker on the roof, 9-19 mm on the walls, the floor is obviously not as important. Armaflex is quite expensive (€500-800 for a Transporter/Custom sized van depending on thicknesses used) but easy to install and you can leave it exposed if you don't care about how it looks. Also doesn't mold. Cover the windows with reflective window covers for the same reason as above. With some ventilation this will drop the temp significantly. White vans are cooler because they reflect sun. Black vans are hotter. Fiberglass warms slower than metal and a fiberglass camper typically have insulation in sandwhiched panels. Armaflex in a metal van makes the performance relatively similar, it will just heat up and cool faster. Ventilation is tricky due to your budget constraints. A skylight or some windows will help with passive ventilation. If budget allows Renogy sells a 400W solar blanket that folds up neatly. You can pair it with a small Bluetti power station. It's enough to run a small 12V fridge and ventilation if you're not running it continuously. Will also run lights and a hot plate. Total €830. If you're driving there's also alternator chargers that charges the battery with 800W while driving, so will top up the small power station in a little more than a hour.2
u/Appropriate_Low6575Be proud of the progress you have made. You have taken steps towards your goal while to many of us the van life is still just a thought in our heads. Life throws unexpected problems at us and dealing with them having ocd or adhd can be overwhelming. Do one small thing a day to move closer to your goal and write it down - eg. "asked for advice about the van on reddit". I find decisions to be very difficult especially with ADHD. Since you have the van already I would stick with that. Plenty of people here will give you good ideas to keep your medication from getting too hot. Go with the cheapest and easiest option to start (maybe a 12v cooler) - you can always upgrade later.2
u/Soft-Translator-934I’m in the U.S. and was born and raised in Texas, a very conservative, pull yourself up by your bootstraps state with very little to no social services and even less empathy for anyone in need. It’s also ranked #50 (out of 50) in the states for access to mental healthcare. I was a Registered Nurse at 19 and in my own since 16, and had the terrible experience of being misdiagnosed with Bipolar Disorder at 23, the first time I ever saw a psychiatrist. By 26 I was unable to function, suicidal, the meds they had me on had put me into a very, very deep depression because as it turns out, I wasn’t bipolar. I ended up on disability and spent a couple years unable to get out of bed, merely surviving and completely broke. Social security disability paid enough to pay rent on a small 1BR apartment, but I couldn’t afford my car payment or insurance so had to let it go, was too depressed to take the bus to get groceries, and my family has never been there for me either. Fast forward to me being undiagnosed and given an antidepressant at 29, I was able to get into a halfway house in another city and lived there several years until I could get back on my feet. I started cleaning houses, got a car, and eventually moved to another state. It definitely wasn’t easy, I lived in my vehicle on and off for years, and moved back to Texas a couple times when things got hard, but once I discovered the stark difference between a red state like Texas and the blue state I moved to, I knew I had to get out of Texas for good, and I finally have. I was able to get into “affordable” housing (nothing is truly affordable anymore, unless you live somewhere very rural and I need access to services) and qualified for Medicaid so I could go to the dentist. Access to healthcare in general is like night and day. I was correctly diagnosed as being on the spectrum, and while I haven’t gone back to nursing I did get help going back to school. Things are better now but it took about ten years to leave Texas after the misdiagnosis and I suffered a lot, not knowing the grass was truly greener in another state. I’m not familiar with Italy or how it would work out moving away but I will say that you have options and getting away from the place where you’ve been so miserable is something to consider. I hope this helps…2
u/KQ4DAEAn alminum bodied vehicle is the best for corrosion, I went with a stepvan but its too large for most Europe drivers lisences there should be some sort of similar delivery vehicle that might make a good fit for you. I would avoid any sort of rv or caravan style vehicle they require a ton of external maintince that if not done will cause serious water problems.2
u/Soft-Translator-934If you’re not an outdoors person, aren’t traveling, and have physical limitations, a van doesn’t seem to be the best option, at least right now. Getting indoors where you can take care of your health until you’re in a better place mentally and physically would be a much better idea. Speaking from experience.2
u/tmblweed85To answer your question to the point and simply, Yes, fiberglass campers are better in terms of leaks and insulation but that also depends on the manufacturer. I would not buy a regular van but a fiberglass campers.2
u/BodhingJayIf you arent driving it you can try other options like a makeshift shelter.. hammer, framing nails and 2x4, rockwool insulation and vapor wrapped would do the trick.. Some solar panels, controller and battery, max air fan, water tank and small pump Propane hookups for heating and warm running water A tiny home like this would be a lot cheaper than another junk vehicle2
u/Prestigious_Yak_9004I’m truly sorry you fell through the cracks of the system. From my experience this happens to people whose parents do not do what it takes to help unfortunate youths get a stable footing in the system and to navigate it. I actually lived a somewhat similar life in the USA. We immigrated to USA when I was a child then I had a massive head injury and my parents did nothing except argue, neglect, and abuse us. I developed ptsd on top of the head injury. So I lived almost like an animal for a long long time. Untreated health issues and poverty prevented me from stability. I clawed my way near to stability several times but setbacks happened and I fell back down each time. I’ll stop the sad story here and try to answer your questions. Focusing on solutions is a good way to keep going. Focus on what you can do today to make life better. Ok? I’m an off grid solar designer now. I met someone who helped me learn and and I studied and practiced on my own for years. A basic energy system to keep food and medicine cold is achievable on a small budget. Ive also had good luck with used equipment . It is sunny in much of Italy so the solar gain is good. It was a struggle for years to do it with lead acid batteries but now that LifePO4 batteries are about the same price as lead acid it has become easier. They are lighter, more powerful, easier to maintain, and last longer. You will get more power by buying each component individually over a portable power generator or all in one. A basic 12 volt energy system is a little complicated but it is achievable. Perhaps you can find someone to donate an all in one generator. Try that first. As far as what fridge to buy I have read there are several that work well enough for Vanlife. Ive read many comments of fridges on forums but don’t remember the specific model. Check the reviews of a fridge you are considering. As far as heat is concerned parking in the shade is best. Fiberglass will heat up as but slightly slower than metal. Parking in the shade causes shading on the solar so some people have portable solar panels and place them in the sun while parking in the shade. Can you do this? Finally, fans are a cheap way to stay cool. One expert at Vanlife experimented with fans and solar. He tried many different fans. Some of the computer muffin fans are free or cheap. They make big ones also. He had up to 5 of them running at a time and it made a big difference. They use very little power. It’s possible to also make an evaporative cooler to keep the van, medicine, and food cooler. Thank you for reaching out to the community and take good care of yourself.1
u/jonkolbeI read a post, I think it was here, a few weeks ago about a van lifer who was broke and actually broke down in a Walmart parking lot. Walmart allows people in vans to stay there. He got a job at the Walmart and saved enough money to fix his van save some cash and move on.1
u/yodagoatWhere are you? If in the UK/Scandinavia then present yourself as homeless to the local authority. They'll get you somewhere to stay and begin the housing process. If you are somewhere like the USA all I can do is with you luck and suggest making a double skin "safari" roof to shield the van ftom the sun.-1
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u/Small-Employee-8123Me personally; I think they’ll tell you when they are ready. Loss of appetite, getting distant from you and others are signs.44
u/Kindly-Box-3957We had to make that decision but our lab was 14. It’s the best decision you can make for them if it’s time. I was told that by a good vet. My heart is with you.20
u/Ace_boy08So when my lab was at that age he was on pain relief for his arthritis which included monthly injections and daily pain relief. We also did monthly laser accupuncture. We also did stretches for him every morning. His bed was off the floor so no cool drafts. He did hydro therapy too and had supplements for his arthritis. Vets told us 2 short walks max a day a 15-20mins. He lived to 13.5 years. The pain relief and hydro therapy extended his life quite a bit. He would have poo accidents as he couldnt make it putside in time but otherwise he was okay. Its about quality of life at the end if the day. If pain relief and other things youre trying are not working and he is in contastant pain then you have to do what you need to.15
u/mcas0509Maybe try some swimming, low impact exercise instead of the walks11
u/N3M3S1S75We tried hydrotherapy and various medications, our lab couldn’t hold himself up and had been like that for months, he was never one to give a hint of being in pain but I know he was. It’s hard to say good bye but it’s harder to watch them fade away10
u/bhoose19RE: Can't get up on his own What kind of floors do you have? If only hardwood, tile or another hard floor, try putting down some non slip rugs for him to lay on. It's much easier for dogs to get up on them.8
u/jackystackLast dog of old age, I relied on a vet visit to the home to determine if he was in any pain. His hind legs were giving out - but he was in no pain. He lasted a few weeks. Myelinopathy, if I recall. Best I can suggest is that if you are indecisive, ask the vet what the humane thing to do is, ask if the dog is suffering and ask for their opinion regarding how these conditions will decline and how fast. Be realistic - given your pup’s age and declining conditions, these aren’t things animals or humans recover from with time. If you want a more measured approach then ask for bloodwork and imaging so you have data to look at — this can sometimes help find resolve in the decision making process. Wish you and pup the best.7
u/DuckieWuckieNLWe started hydrotherapy when our old boy was 11, it helped and keep him active for a couple more years. Most upsetting is when they can’t get up on their own xx6
u/SanjayManbunI sure hope you get more time together!5
u/RoutineComplaint4711The only thing worse than letting a dog go, is not having them in the first place4
u/InterestingDate5459Have you talked with your vet about adjusting his pain management routine? Sometimes when dogs are on maximum doses of one medication like Rimadyl, vets can add different types of pain relief that work together through different pathways. Things like amantadine or certain newer medications might give him more comfort without the heavy sefation you saw with gabapentin. Also, have you looked into assistive devices like a rear harness with wheels or even a full cart? Some dogs that lose mobility in their back end can still have good quality of life when their weight is supported, and they appreciate being able to move around and follow their people without struggling so much. It might be worth asking your vet or physical therapist about options that take more weight off those back legs entirely.4
u/Remote-Jello2136My boy was nearly 13 and had gone lame in one back leg. It all happened really quickly, within 8 months of taking a funny turn on a walk. He had alway been an active boy we couldn’t bear watching him struggling to get himself about we decided the best thing for him was to at goodbye. He was was still eating and drinking but watching him not being comfortable was too hard to bear3
u/Gavidoc02Our older dog is a boxer/shepard mix and is 14.5. Has bad arthritis in his rear legs is slow to get up, I help him up stairs and walk down them in front of him, and he’s on joint supplements and 800mg of Gabapentin a day (for both legs and dementia). He got a bad case of kennel cough and when I took him in I asked the vet that question. She told me to identify 3 things he loves to do. When he can’t do 2 of them we needed to talk. Reason was because they won’t always tell you it’s time.3
u/Downtown-Drawing-825might want to try gabepentin and tramadol, my senior made big improvements from 11-15 years.3
u/No_Bull51Sounds like neuropathy in there as well2
u/SnowblindAlbinoSorry to hear this OP. With our last lab we got just past age 12 and had very similar circumstances, including TPLO surgery. She declined pretty rapidly (like over 4-6 weeks) to the point she couldn't get up on her own sometimes and was shaky enough she started to lose her back legs from under her at times. Also on carprofin. No real complaints from the dog, but it was clear her quality of life was fading pretty rapidly. We also got to the point of fearing our own ability to provide fairly constant care. Once her front legs started failing her we decided that was it. Our youngest was leaving for college and we made a family decision to say goodbye to her before that, which we felt was right for the dog and our family. Our vet was very supportive and while the experience was very hard for all of us, he made it clear that we had done "more than expected" to care for her over the course of our years together. People say "your dog will tell you" but we also have to recognize our responsibility to them. They can't talk. We are responsible for managing their pain and quality of life. Once they are suffering more than acceptable, we have to make the hard decisions for them.2
u/lowlightlivingAs was suggested previously, have a full blood panel and urinalysis done to assess how well his organs are functioning. You’ll want that clear picture. I saw that he’d had imaging done. I would just want that to be recent. A lot can change quickly at his age. Is he still seeking eye contact, pets and cuddles? Wagging? Medical supply stores sell packs of larger than puppy-sized, absorbent, waterproof pads to keep under him when he’s lying down. You wouldn’t have to muscle him outside quite as often. My cousin’s lab had similar problems in his later years. He really missed his walks. She got him a sort of perambulator, kind of a heavy fabric tub on wheels that he could be helped into and still have his long walks - he was happy just looking around, sniffing the breeze, visiting with the local kids. It kept his mind active and stimulated. Something to consider. If he’s beginning to withdrawal, wanting to be left alone - that’s an obvious sign the end is near. For now, there are good suggestions in the comments. I hope you find some helpful. It’s so hard to know when is when. You’ve taken such good care of Jackpot. It’s clear how much he’s loved. All the best to your family in this challenging time.2
u/ikothsoweSorry to hear this OP. We lost Ella to tracheal collapse last week (11 yo) and her big step brother (12) isn’t far behind. He has trachea problems too but his legs are giving out. Ben on Librella fora couple of years, which has helped. But his walks are now 10 mins a day. He’s also developed a fear of the car so we can’t even go to his favourite places. Tried the doggie buggy too but the daft sod won’t get in it. Sad for him because his world has become tiny.2
u/doctordale89My baby boy is 12. He's had arthritis most of his life. Doesn't have the best jump because he has weak legs. Years of different treatments and anti inflammatory pills, we settled on Librela. And he hasn't slowed down at all. He can't run as long but he can run fast for a short period. Don't listen to anyone on the Internet telling you Librela is going to make your dog worse. If he has bad arthritis, ask his vet about Librela. My boy took his first shot of it the month it was available to the public, which was 28 months ago. But I want to tell you this. DO NOT LET YOUR BABY GET THE LIBRELA IF HE WAS NOT ACTUALLY DIAGNOSED ARTHRITIS. If he was I would definitely look at that option2
u/Lower_Cauliflower395When it's time. You will know. You might have more time left than you think..see the vet..maybe some daily pain meds or gabapentin will help. If they're still eating drinking and going potty. Do everything you can to keep them breathing. ❤️2
u/rebelkittenscryHave you consulted the vets and/or a physiotherapist regarding the arthritis? A loss of core strength in older dogs is common as pain makes movement more difficult, same as with humans. However getting the right pain medication and physiotherapy/hydrotherapy to get strength built back up in new ways can help an older dog really live a fulfilling and happy life. But only your vet team and your finances can make that call2
u/ohshethrowsI had to let my dog go a little under two weeks ago. He had CCD (canine dementia). I could have kept him alive longer. He still liked going on walks. He still loved eating meals. His issues were the opposite of your dog’s - physically he was in pretty good shape. Mentally, he had started to become a different dog completely. He was scared and increasingly trapped in his own dementia-world. I decided to let him go when I came to the understanding that my job here was not to wait until all the joy had left his life. Caring for him was hard and his life experience was only going to get worse. I decided to let him go while he still could experience joy; while he still had happiness. I don’t regret it for a minute. For me and for him, it was the right thing to do and the right time to do it. I hope my perspective is helpful. You hold a unique gift which is being able to end his suffering. He will be so grateful to you for his amazing life as well as for ending his pain. Sending hugs ❤️2
u/Typical_Might_1413<image> Ours diagnosed with degeneration at 12 1/2. We let go of her yday with her final breaths (non euthanasia at 15 1/2). Her last years required handheld harnesses, self controlled wheelchairs and towards the very end a pushchair. She was the most beautiful girl we could’ve asked for. So no, it’s not always near the rainbow bridge but yes it was only possible due to a family behind her daily.2
u/blackcat218Talk to your vet about plain old Panadol. My Rottie has bad arthritis because of his bad legs (grew too fast as a puppy). He gets Panadol everyday for his pain. I wont discuss dosages or anything because it needs to go by weight and I can guarantee you my dog is probably twice yours in weight. Speak to your vet though to see if its an option. It has really improved my dogs quality of life. And its cheap.2
u/yrt9610My vet said dogs are really good at hiding pain. Leftover survival tactic. Someone suggested elsewhere: There's a Quality of Life quiz that can help you decide. I'd ask about that on AskVet. And I'm sorry your furbaby and all of you are going through this!!!2
u/Larlo64We brought my 14 year old chocolate in a month ago because I couldn't watch him struggle any more. He was panting and pacing at night and would not walk much anymore. His appetite was always good and he still had lots of tail wags but I could hear him whimper when he got up and if he was outside he'd just lay down and stare at the yard. <image> It very nearly killed me to bring him in but the vet watched his difficulty standing for too long and said it was time. She said labs are extremely loyal and try not to show pain so if it is showing it's significant. I'm still devastated but there's an more sadness than guilt now. Miss you Mr Brown2
u/notactuallyaimeeMy 12 year old had the same reaction to gabapentin (300mg) but is doing well on a lower dose (100mg).2
u/Crafty_Ad3377My guy is 15. His appetite is still full on. He’s lumpy. Has arthritis in his rear legs. Can hardly see. But still alert hears well. Wants to be with us. Sleeps a lot more. But still greets with a front bounce. We have to help him up if he lays down on the hard wood floors instead of area rug. We built him a ramp so he doesn’t have to deal with steps. We have to watch when he goes out or he will head straight for the pond it wears him out. But I don’t think he’s ready yet. He still asks to go out.1
u/aerie2020My soul dog, a chocolate lab who passed 2/26/26, was also on adequan - it’s a weekly injection of 1.5 ml. It only lasted in Ollie for 3 to 4 days so I’m surprised you’re giving it to your dog monthly. When he was close to the end, his acupuncture vet said we could move it up to twice a week, which is what we did. It seemed to help his arthritis. I’m so sorry - this is the absolute worst decision to have to make. Gabapentin also really helped Ollie. And he had twice a week accupuncture and laser treatment.1
u/WolverineHot1886You will know and your dog will also tell you. I know how hard it is but you will know1
u/BonnieH1I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. It's so tough to see them struggling and not feeling ready to say goodbye. I've posted this a number of times in recent weeks. We said goodbye to our 16 year old girl a couple of weeks before Christmas after a few months of illness and decline, even though she was still doing well for her age. We were grappling with when is the right time to say goodbye for a few weeks. When we were thinking through the decision, my sister sent me this video, it's by Dr Mary Gardner a vet who works exclusively with dogs at the end stage of life. (I'm not associated with her in any way, nor do I receive anything if you watch it.) The video is called: How to say goodbye on a good day https://youtu.be/Y2BHOL9g5lM?si=yDxW16Y23XbDUdMm If you want to know what the process was like on the day, I posted that here https://www.reddit.com/r/DogAdvice/s/Fi3yzKt7S5 Enjoy your time with your sweet pup. And when he eventually crosses the rainbow bridge, our Pip will be there to meet him. 🐾💕1
u/whodunnit20We have a senior Labrador who is 12 and a half, she has arthritis in every joint plus hip and shoulder dysplasia. She has had bad arthritis for about two years but it started from young, the shoulder dysplasia she’s had since she was two years old. She only goes for walks about 3 times a week, they are very short. She eats well, very happy but the vets have told us to think about her quality of life. We are taking it week by week, we’ve never lost a dog and it’s terrifying. <image>1
u/ArthurMoregainzI’ve had two labs in the last decade. Lost one right before Covid and the other is still chugging along about to turn 13. Look to invest in some anti inflammatory medicine and pain meds. A lot can be done to improve quality of life and even extend life beyond 10. It sucks when arthritis starts to eat them up but there is hope!1
u/RotflmaocopterAsk the doc for gabapentin. My dog was the same exact age thought the same thing as you. Needed a sling to get him up and walk. Doc said let's try gabapentin and rimidol . Within 10 min he was jumping on the couch again. He is still around 13 1/2 walking fine. Only other thing we did that helped a lot was only feed him royal canine food got his weight down from 89 to 78. Try the meds first1
u/Ok-Sink3939We let our girl go at 11 as well. She was diagnosed with arthritis a few months after turning 10, and while the líbrela vaccine and other medication worked to keep her comfortable for a certain period of time, 2 months before she turned 11 she made a turn for the worse. We took her to a specialist thinking maybe she would need surgical intervention as her regular vet thought she might had some torn ligaments and it turns out she had bone cancer in her pelvis. Hardest decision of our lives, but we are happy that she’s no longer in pain. We miss her everyday.1
u/Chameleon42OMight be worth trying a support brace to see if it eases the pain in the hips/knees.1
u/belladonna1937I have a 13 1/2 yr chocolate. She’s a good weight and healthy. But she has trouble with her legs. Still wants to go for walks and eats like a horse if we let her. She’s definitely not ready yet. She’ll let me know I’m sure1
u/Appropriate-Idea5281If you give your pup medicine for arthritis do your research. We gave our 11.5 year old injections and she had a stroke and couldn’t walk. I regret this every day1
u/MontymistedMy old boy had pretty bad legs for a while but still wanted his walks on the soft grass for like two years until a lump in his throat finally forced us to say goodbye.1
u/GoMineBitBossYumove maxi for senior dogs worked wonders on my partners 8-year-old lab with arthritis she is like a new dog. <image>
u/Thespian_UnicornGot a puppy and it extended mine’s life by 4 years.-3
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31r/CATHELPPotentially abandoned cat on my road - any ideas what could be wrong with her?doubledenim30001900%3471.8PRP knee treatment2026-03-17↗
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u/LieuNeverLiemaybe worms?3
u/meeshvall3Hi, you can claim you’re watching a friends cat due to an emergency and find a humane society clinic or rescue to bring her to. They will take care of her and find out if she’s microchipped/missing. Please take her in, find her help, and don’t regret being a sitting duck. If you’re in the NYC area there’s a great place called PuppyKittyNYC2
u/agata_30Take her to the vet. Probably worms + ringworms2
u/Safe-Sail9335VET. ask the Vet. Let us know. It could be fleas ,mites ,allergies ..help her please!2
u/Massive-Beyond-336Use neosporin, it works good on cats1
u/MarciefordIn this picture the cat looks completely normal. What am I missing?1
u/joyarepYou’re so kind to help her.Good luck.1
u/ClasherChiefJust in case it is parasites, it wouldn’t hurt to buy some topical anti-parasitic medication that will work on both interior and exterior parasites. Get the kind you apply to the back of the cat’s neck, it shouldn’t be very expensive and it’ll be available at pet stores.1
u/polishatomekI'm not super knowledgeable about cats, but does she seem like she's in pain? If so I'd probably try to at least get her to an animal shelter. The spot in the third picture doesn't look like pregnancy to me. (But I'm not a vet so I might be wrong) I think she might be abandoned because no sane person would leave their cat outside in this state1
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u/Massive-Beyond-336she looks pregnant
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32r/VAClaimsHow to write a good lay statement (based on 66,000+ analyzed cases)EdgarAllinPump1590%4071.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-09↗
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u/Icy-Kaleidoscope3038Thanks for all this...then I saw the link and the words "free demo"...and all good for hustle and business, but I've seen and talked to enough folks who have signed onto groups that require compensation or take a cut...14
u/joysboxTotally agree about the Buddy statements! I hope your post is really read and digested by our Veterans for their claims. Wanted to say that your first example about Rheumatoid Arthritis isn’t really how RA usually shows up medically. My husband has had RA since around 2012, so I’ve spent more time than I ever expected learning about how this disease actually behaves. RA is systemic autoimmune inflammatory disease, and the joint swelling and stiffness are usually persistent and often symmetrical, especially in the hands and wrists. The morning stiffness can last an hour or more, and the inflammation tends to stick around rather than popping up for 2–3 days and then disappearing. Your example sounds closer to is Osteoarthritis, which is more of a wear-and-tear / mechanical joint issue where symptoms can flare after heavy use or stress on the joints. Just my two cents. Thank you for your information!7
u/Useful-Zebra-5657Lay statements mean almost nothing if it is not supported by the evidence of record.3
u/Direct-Humor-8622Thank you for sharing. It is information like this that helps veterans.3
u/Jazzlike-Ear-7485Question for you? I was about to sign up and I’m reading the disclaimer - The free account will provide “Demo Mode Access” to realistic claims information. So - is the data based on real appellate cases from BVA and CAVC? Or is it simply modeling hypothetical claims and conditions? Looks like an interesting tool - great potential.2
u/Captin_CavemanFollowing for information2
u/Miserable-Ad7079This may be the most useful post I've ever read. Thank you for taking the time to explain how important your lay statement is and how to best word it. I've got a few to get done soon and I'll be saving this post and using your link.2
u/BothCalligrapher3842Very interesting and sounds solid2
u/RumblejeffAlways include a lay statement!2
u/Background-Season213Hmm, I wrote out my personal lay statement, not good. Used Chatgpt.com was much better. What is different? Why should I use Raven when I can easily use Chat or Claude ai?2
u/Used-Independence182Amazing post2
u/dolphfanmanI believe that lay statements ( personal, family, and buddies) mean more at a BVA judge decision. However, too many CP examiners ( nurse practitioners) summarily dismiss positive outside evidence and look for simple, on-point STR medical evidence . Some are more “totality” of All evidence but most are “nothing is reflected in STR” and a “not as likely SC.” Afterwards, the “Raters” undoubtedly look for the negative marked box and deny. Rarely, do the Raters read lay evidence, and consider other factors mentioned in the claim for a broader equipoise opinion. My opinion. These are not 100 percent but you would be rich in Vegas taking these odds.1
u/Calm-Proof3577AI slop SPAM is what the post amounts to.1
u/Pure-Parsnip-1757Sounds amazing. How does one get access?1
u/Omega10115This is great information. I plan to take a look at my claim submission strategy to make sure it correlates to the information you presented. Thank you much!!1
u/Beneficial-Tank-3477You should also always do a statement with headaches/migraines. The exam is set up so that if the examiner doesn't think you have migraines, they won't say how frequently you get headaches. You need to say how often you get them1
u/Mike-A-FInteresting. I feel like you might get ripped here but I think its important to build out tools for people to help get thru the process. I may give it a shot in my new claim to test it out. I’ve been going back and forth w different LLMs & looping into contradictions when i go too deep.1
u/CandieCummingVA is using Ai more and more. With proper prompts and clear communication and interpretation of your evidence and symptoms you can use AI (I like Chat GPT and Grok) to properly construct statements and then edit them that pass the VA Ai but you still need to be able to articulate them to the reviewers. The human element is as critical as the AI formats so put in the time and effort but use all tools available also. No need for purgery or embellishment. You got this.
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u/jboy4000These ChatGPT essays have to stop. This isn't the first time you've done this and it's getting sad at this point.98
u/Ok_Guava6350ChatGPT or not, this is very accurate. I can tell you that those bonuses you are referring to that are supposed to trickle down to drivers? Amazon has pushed so many expenses onto the DSPs that they can’t break even without at least being in Fantastic. To make matters, they’ve also increased the difficulty in achieving said bonuses.27
u/CMUpewpewpewFuck this AI slop i aint reading all that.14
u/JB_7799DSP owner here. ChatGPT or not, this is spot on. I’m repeatedly asked what it’s like to work for Amazon. My reply is always the same. Imagine every week you received a 10,000 question test and if you got five answers wrong, you don’t get paid that week Drivers have received over a 30% raise since our launch while amz continues to reduce our compensation. They say they’re raising it, but then they make you pay for something else, or make the scorecard harder to get so that you never get bonus. I’ve heard senior leadership lie to a room of 1000s of DSPs. After a while you tune them out. Every single Amazonian I’ve ever met in person are great people. They work hard and they try to fix problems. Unfortunately, I’ve never met anyone with the authority to actually fix a problem. I own other businesses and if I see an issue, I can fix it immediately. It’s sad. I’ve got a good staff, we do the best we can. We try not to be too hard on the drivers because this is a hard job for you all. I also realize it’s a relatively good paying job for the skills required. Most people working for me don’t have a lot of other options. I’m not gonna fire you because you accidentally ran one red light, but Amazon might. Yes, DSP owners can make money. But it’s not a lot. But it’s about how you manage the business. Your overhead, additional staff on site, extra rescued, accidents & what you’re forced to pay for out-of-pocket. If you work for a DSP that’s doing less than 30 routes, the owner isn’t making much more than you as a driver. But what makes things worse is that most of the initial DSP owners were entrepreneurs with a lot to give. Especially give their employees. And 99% of the time, our hands are tied. One of the worst things that I see, and try like hell to avoid, is buying into the Amazon philosophy that people are just a commodity. That weighs on my soul.11
u/Sensitive_Macaron767Well yeah, of course. Amazon has maximum control with no liability. Drivers still have to follow all of Amazon's rules and do everything Amazon tells them to do, but the responsibility of all individual disputes with customers are on the shoulders of the DSP. This is beneficial for Amazon for multiple reasons. Saves them from having to pay someone to handle disputes and second, it benefits Amazon greatly when DSPs dont perform well. If a DSP does not hit fantastic+ they make no money for the week, usually they will lose money. Same with lawsuits. Oh a driver crashed his van into a car and killed someone? Its on the DSP to handle all of that legal work and Amazon doesnt have to have any part of it.11
u/ihandoutsmokeAmazing. . This is so spot on .11
u/UnfaithfulHorse“ChatGPT, make me a well thought-out essay on the implications of Amazon discarding DSP businesses as a linear comparison to how Amazon treats individual drivers so that I can karma farm on reddit” Do you really expect us to believe you wrote this?7
u/Longjumping-Series76Not reading all that5
u/redskinfan654Are you a bot?5
u/dingdongjohnson68I was very reluctant to read this because of the length (that's what she said), but am glad that I did. Very informative and surprisingly easy to follow/understand. Why are so many people here "concerned" that it was written by chatgpt? Who cares if it was? I'll give OP the benefit of the doubt that they did write it. I am frequently on this sub bitching about amazon's unfair, bullshit practices. It is often difficult to not get mad and upset at my dsp for some of their practices. Sure, I'm sure they aren't "perfect," but I truly believe it is a case of amazon "putting the squeeze" on them, and then the dsp pretty much being forced to put the squeeze on drivers. How does the saying go? Shit runs downhill? So basically, I blame amazon for roughly 93% of the "bullshit." I realize dsp owner's are also in a tough position, and surely have a lot more to lose than I do. Like, I've heard when a dsp gets shutdown, that amazon "sends the owner a bill" for like hundreds of thousands of dollars for van damage. Not sure if that is true, but I somehow doubt amazon mentioned that when recruiting potential dsp owners. I don't know. Are dsp owners' personal assets protected by them being an LLC, or whatever? I don't know much about "business." One saving grace for drivers (if you can call it that) is if a dsp gets shutdown, the number of packages going through that station stays the same. So most drivers should probably not have too much trouble getting on with another dsp.... if that's what they want to do. Just look at the driver turnover rate. I don't have any official numbers, but I know it is fucking insane. The vast majority of people either can't, or just don't want to work as hard as this job requires. Not to mention the ever increasing pool of people that are so addicted to their phones that they wouldn't even consider doing this job. I'm sure we all see amazon drivers frequently. It LOOKS like an easy job. They're usually just stolling around. Usually carrying an envelope or a small box. Yes, the vast majority of deliveries ARE technically "easy." The difficult part is the repetition and the volume. As OP stated, there is no "slack" built into the routes. It's going nonstop all day every day. For me, I think the worst part is getting in and out of the driver seat 300 times per day. Tough on my lower back. The electric vehicles are actually much better about this because the seat sits higher up off the floor. But yeah, jumping/climbing in and out of the van hundreds of times is also taxing. Not to mention loading like 1000 pounds (maybe more?) into the van in about 10 minutes and then carrying that 1000 pounds (generally a little at a time) over the course of walking 10 miles per day. Anyway. Hopefully things improve significantly, but I don't have my fingers crossed. These days in particular, I don't have much confidence in our "institutions" to stand up for the little guy. I fear that amazon may be too big, rich, and powerful to fight.5
u/delksonPretty much facts, some of yall needa know gpt is used to edit and fix shit all the time. My current job we literally use gpt to translate.5
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u/Outside-Cellist-7624Biggest thing is the bonuses do not get handed down to the drivers honestly it goes into the dsp owners pockets4
u/mediceman33Oh the beauty of capitalism, got to love it.3
u/Valuable-Condition59How many gallons of water were just wasted to repeat what’s said on the sub daily and pretend it was investigator journalism?3
u/CriticallyThink23This has been known.2
u/Ok_Armadillo_9814Was genuinely insulted by the program2
u/Real_Reflection3510I ain’t reading all of this but the title is incorrect, it was built so Amazon doesn’t have to be the employer, to avoid all legal scenarios2
u/SquirrelInATuxThe NLRB already ruled that Amazon and DSPs are both dual employers of DSP drivers. Amazon appealed this ruling to the courts and was denied a preliminary injunction last February. Then, just recently in December, their appeal was rejected by the 9th circuit court of appeals, where the court stated that the they do not have jurisdiction to overturn pending NLRB rulings under federal law. This means the ruling by the NLRB will be moving to binding guidance soon. Source2
u/br9897Our dsp closed a couple of weeks ago, my fiance who was one of the top drivers at the dsp and never got hit on netradyne cannot get hired at other dsps because of 4 misdemeanors from 3 years ago(all $100 fines). The misdemeanors in question? Her ex let her horses out while she was at work resulting in them being at large. She has a perfect safe driving score in Virginia with her only things on it being non moving violations. The "accurate" background check has flagged her and she received an adverse action notice. Even the dsp owner she applied for has been trying to get Amazon to push it through. Meanwhile, 4 people from the dsp who I know have several drug related felonies and misdemeanors and one with felony assault have passed the background check. Make that shit make sense.2
u/lucky-struckThis is the most thoroughly well-conceived, thoughtful, and comprehensive picture of the DSP system I have seen in my years of watching this forum. It speaks directly to the heart of what's truly causing all the daily frustrations we see posted here, and it's that all parties involved from the DAs to the Owners to the Amazon OTR staff, are active participants in a system that passively dictates authority and delegates responsibility. Each of these bullet points is worthy of its own journalistic investigation as part of the big picture presented here; that sustained success is impossible as a function of this system's design, and no one is accountable for failure until they run out of scapegoats.  GPT-assisted or not, these thoughts are self-evidently from human experience and it is well worth everyone's time to read through it all.2
u/This_means_lore“If these people could read they’d be very upset”2
u/Different_Wallaby660Excellent read. The courts need to bust Amazon down a peg. They’ve gotten away with this bullshit for too long. Peak never ended and we don’t get bonus money unless we meet ever changing metrics. It’s all a lie and we get screwed.1
u/VxctnI mean duh. You're five years old if this is news.1
u/Turtle0550Bro we gonna need a TLDR1
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u/TastyExpression8465The public sees damage on the outside of the vehicle but the damage internally is monstrous. In almost every company I've worked for the check engine light is on and has been on for years. Things aren't fixed unless they absolutely have to be, such as Amazon grounding the vehicle for it or the damage simply keeps the vehicle from running safely. Even then they'll still push it out onto the road just to have a route covered. I was flat out told by someone that a vehicle doesn't get sent out because of how bad it runs and is. Guess which vehicle that person gave me every day ... during the winter. The public, or authorities outside of the loop, have NO idea just how bad the vehicle situation is. Few step vans can actually pass standards. Few vehicles could pass safety inspections. Hell. The power steering was out in a vehicle and they STILL kept sending it out onto the road. They will willfully destroy, permanently, a vehicle just to get routes covered. Another company I worked for would pull vehicles out of a mechanic shop just because they needed it .. before it was even fixed. Forget the grouped stops or pay not matching the workload. The business by design is incredibly dangerous to both the public and the drivers. There is no path to report this shit. There is no path to make it stop, and I'm pretty sure Amazon knows about it too. I'm not the first person to bring this up and I won't be the last.1
u/lilbargazerNice AI post1
u/caeseronEverybody already knows this.1
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u/dtaylor72123If you had to study to realize this…1
u/ChocoQueen1RIR ! get with the program it always and still will be amazon smh. its just easier for them to have the dsp take the fall and lose their business 🤷🏾‍♀️1
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u/CriticallyThink23The problem is that none of the drivers, or the DSP owners want to Unionize.-1
u/ImportantDay5697Someone that gets it.-1
u/dingdongjohnson68Ditto-2
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u/markallanholleyI got a letter in the mail about COBRA when I left my last job. I didn't even open it. I don't have an extra $2K a month lying around.27
u/CarefulAdvice3739Ice, Advil and a knee brace helped me get through a torn meniscus for over a year..... Even with surgery these injuries take time to heal up.20
u/Infinite-Ask-7285Did you tweak it on the job? Like wink wink did you say do it that same week? And I could not agree more about Cobra. WTF is the point with that shit. Good luck to you. I do not pray, but I will think of you.16
u/FatCowsrus413Check with Medicaid. You’re unemployed before you start your new job. You may be able to get emergency coverage5
u/TrueMeaning4241It does seem like a joke to pay high prices every month so that in the off chance that you get hurt you don’t have to pay even higher prices on the bill to get better.❤️‍🩹4
u/WorkingCollection562Where do you live? You can try Mexico? They have cheaper health care options and I would argue sometimes better4
u/Biteme75I injured my back at work but didn't claim it in time. Apparently, you have to tell them you're injured when you still think it might be a pulled muscle, or you're lying. Fortunately I had private health insurance at the time or I would still be in debt. I no longer have health insurance because it's become three times as expensive in the last year. If anything happens to me now, I'm f*cked.3
u/Ill_Lifeguard6321What do you mean?! I love that my healthcare companies are making billions and billions upon the death of my American brothers and sisters! Trickle down economics am I right! /s3
u/Mental_Signature_725My neighbor tore her knee up a few weeks ago. Her self pay for an mri was $300. Thats cheaper than my insurance co pay. The doctor agreed to do the surgery for $1590 cash self pay. Start calling and asking you might find its cheap to self pay.3
u/sjayveeHospital has to treat you even if uninsured. They should have a program where they will help you apply for Medicaid if you’re uninsured. But yes, healthcare in America is seriously broken.2
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u/PNW_OlLady_2025Go the drug store, get a knee brace, some ibuprofen and ice packs. If it's your PCL or ACL you can you walk it on it for a good long time without doing any more damage, just give it the extra support it needs. Surgery is not always the answer for these, especially if you aren't an athlete or laborer of any kind. As for our insurance being a joke, I mean, that 3 month wait you'd have for that MRI in the UK or Canada is about the same time you'll wait for your new insurance to kick in. Or, now hear me out, get a job with a better company who's health insurance kicks in on Day 1.1
u/No-Firefighter3283I grew up with great National Health care. Did not pay for anything ever, not even medications. Moved to the US and all was good while I was younger, then 2 c-sections and a serious hospital stay forced us to file for bankruptcy. 2 professionals with good jobs and between healthcare bills and daycare, we just couldn’t do it! The fact that US healthcare is tied to employment is insane and I’ve no idea when this became a thing. I knew someone whose teen daughter has serious health needs and was on his work’s health insurance. He could not move up the ladder in his career at the time because her pre-conditions would have prevented her getting any healthcare if he took a better position at another company. Then there are the jobs where the insurance covers very little but the employees premium is still high. The worst is zero hour contracts to avoid having to offer healthcare to employees, which is just diabolical! The thing is, a healthcare for all situation would actually cost us less in taxes than the premiums and out of pocket expenses. But, Republicans especially get donations from private health insurance companies, drug companies etc, to keep us all fearful of universal care, so they can keep counting the gold in their vaults. Growing up with free care, the lies politicians spew to scare us, makes me sick, so many suffering for the very few at the top to make bank.1
u/piranha_Yeah…😕 You’re doing everything “right” and still stuck choosing between your health and your finances, which is insane. A lot of people end up in that exact gap period between jobs where coverage just disappears. One thing that might be worth looking into if you haven’t already is calling imaging centers directly because some offer cash or self pay rates for MRIs that are way lower than expected if you ask upfront, same with ortho consults where they can at least get you a diagnosis or plan without blowing up your budget. Not a perfect solution at all but it can at least help you get clarity instead of just guessing and hoping it heals. That situation sucks though man1
u/whoocanitbenowI pay 170.00 per month. I have to pay 100% out of pocket until I reach 7200, then my insurance actually kicks in.1
u/Sunny-DamnIn my state we have a “spend down”… maybe yours does too. If you rack up medical bills, in your name, and they exceed 25% of your annual income, the state will pay the bills (only retroactive for 6 months) and give you health insurance for six months. It might be worth looking into… MRI’s are not cheap… This is what paid for a stroke, a heart attack, 3 leg amputations, a finger amputation, and a rod placed in a spine in my family. We’re chronically uninsured.1
u/purplepeopletreaterCan you apply for Medicaid? How much is it to pay for the MRI and PT out of pocket? Call around and find out what the self-pay rate or discount is. I would not recommend just walking around on anything torn. It could cause you permanent problems.1
u/[deleted]Sure is a fucking joke.1
u/OkInvestigator7893i'm so sorry you are going through this. i'm self-employed & the only insurance i can afford covers nothing. i haven't had a primary care physician in years because i kept getting on someone's waitlist and then they'd leave the practice before i ever got a first visit. i've accepted that i have medieval peasant care at this point: if it's bad enough to kill me then i guess i'll just die, otherwise i'm figuring out home remedies and self-medicating as best i can. luckily i don't have any family or dependents, i don't know how i'd navigate this horrible system with kids.1
u/PlatypusMajor3032Unfortunately it will not get better, only worse, especially under this administration.1
u/Banana_Phone888Ah don’t forget the weight gain that comes with limited activity, I know that one far too well. I’m sorry that you are going through this. With insurance I can’t afford to go to the doctor, it’s still 300-500.00 a visit without any kind of procedures, but u can’t imagine the cost without. I hope you feel better soon ❤️1
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35r/tropadocalvoSolução tópica que deve trazer a “cura” da calvice (PP405) tem resultados da fas...Federal_Isopod16231620%3170.8PRP knee treatment2026-03-29↗
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u/Acceptable-Charge163Caramba, baita notícia! Pesquisando aqui, já ta vendendo na Shoppe por 30 conto kkkkkkk. Brasil não é pra amadores msm14
u/Ok-Weather-5870Tire o responsável pela pesquisa clínica de dentro de aviões 🙏🏻9
u/CryptoBeatlesIsso aí é bem interessante. Combinando com finasterida e minoxidil, pode ter resultados muito bons em quem ainda não ficou completamente careca. Eu já me aceitei sem cabelos, acho que já até faz parte da minha identidade. Mas outro dia pedi pra IA fazer uma foto minha com cabelo, fiquei bonitão hahahaha7
u/tengolengolengoJá tô vendo que isso vai ser inacessível pra grande maioria. Infelizmente é assim, somos desesperados pra reverter isso e eles sabem disso.5
u/Federal_Isopod1623Informações adicionais para os interessados: PP405 é uma pequena molécula proprietária desenvolvida pela Pelage Pharmaceuticals; a estrutura química completa não foi divulgada publicamente, mas sabe-se que é formulada como um gel tópico. Por ser uma “small molecule”, tende a ser mais simples de fabricar e escalar do que terapias biológicas, o que no longo prazo pode ajudar a reduzir custos, embora no início ainda deva ser caro por conta da patente. O mecanismo de ação é o ponto mais diferente: em vez de atuar em hormônios, o PP405 parece reativar células-tronco do folículo capilar ao modular vias metabólicas (especialmente ligadas à mitocôndria), tirando o folículo de um estado dormente. Curiosamente, em estudos iniciais o tratamento foi usado por um período relativamente curto e ainda assim mostrou efeitos duradouros em parte dos pacientes, sugerindo que pode não depender de uso contínuo como os tratamentos atuais (isso ainda precisa ser confirmado em fase 3). Mesmo assim, provavelmente ainda será necessário combinar com bloqueadores de DHT como Finasteride ou Dutasteride, já que eles tratam a causa da miniaturização. Sem isso, o DHT pode continuar enfraquecendo os fios ao longo do tempo. Em comparação, o Minoxidil atua principalmente como estimulante (vasodilatação e prolongamento da fase anágena), sem regenerar o folículo. Outro ponto interessante é que o PP405 não mostrou absorção sistêmica relevante até agora, o que pode significar menos efeitos colaterais — mas isso ainda depende de estudos maiores.4
u/Dry_Measurement8864Indagação , há comentários que um dos princípios da ação é "intensificar reprodução celular " até em níveis "indiscriminados", ... Procede sobre terem especulado , justamente por isso , ter riscos de efeito a câncer ?3
u/Dangerous-Iron-6708Eu quero saber quais são os efeitos colaterais disso aí...2
u/ryansalleszEu penso que esse remédio não precisará ser usado por longos períodos. Eu penso que, é só usar por alguns meses para reativar o máximo de folículos possíveis, e então com um bloqueador de DHT, esses folículos sejam impedidos de miniaturizar novamente, possibilitando a suspensão do medicamento2
u/No_Position5003Acompanhando!! Kkk1
u/we-esQue coisa boa em. Tomara que os estudos avancem diretamente e de forma positiva ne1
u/Friendly_Sugar_986Amém1
u/Brilliant_Medium952032-2035 já tá pelo Brasil será?1
u/No_Cartographer_3997amigos, segurem esses folículos até o novo estado da arte1
u/oartistadoespetaculoDia péssimo para os Pau mole amantes da Finasterida-12
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36r/TrinidadandTobagoHilton leaving TrinidadMikeOxbig3051140%4670.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-22↗
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u/Hour-Incident6178The government has no place in these capital heavy type investments. The returns are not significant enough especially when royalties have to be paid to Hilton.36
u/PeakevoAssuming that a local company will step in and invest because the property is too valuable. It's also interesting to see Rhoda Bharath post and blame UNC for its closure.22
u/hislovingwifeThis is happening in other cities as well with big brand hotels.It's too expensive to update existing older structures and compete with newer, flashy properties, affordable (and sometimes luxury) airbnbs as well. The hotel business is hard to stay profitable for decades and decades. Sad to see this go, if it does. It should stay in some.capacity even if not Hilton branded.21
u/keilianaI stayed at the Hilton in Trinidad last year and it was really nice. I loved it. Very beautiful, the bar and restaurant were both amazing too. The pool area was great as well. I am sad they will be leaving because I hoped to visit again one day and stay there.18
u/arcanerebornWell this is sad to see, however seeing how poorly Magdalena is run in Tobago (massive under investment), its no surprise. Hotels should largely be a private venture, because they need constant maintenance, service standards, and an overall vision. This public-private venture allowed Trinidad to have a Hilton of this magnitude that was symbolic to the removal of a colonial power and the ushering in a new age for Trinidad. While its closure is what it is, a good representative of what the new direction of Trinidad will be. I'm sure the current administration is going to sell it and it becoming another closed garden away from the public, where old people will tell the young, "I remember what that view used to look like when you could stay there, dance there, discuss ideas there, eat there..." Nostalgia doesn't care, will see what happens next.17
u/mochapeau_nochapeauThis is so sad. The view from the restaurant overlooking the Savannah is incredible at sunset and a lot of people don't seem to know that. I love taking friends there for drinks and for many of them it's their first time going.11
u/964racerWe lived in the “hibiscus suite” for a month in the 70’s while we were looking for a permanent home. Good memories.8
u/whiteoak_and_doublesGood journalism8
u/v3int3yun0Well after reading the article in its entirety, I can't say I'm surprised. It's a shame though, I remember going there for a few dinners and overnight stays. Fantastic views of the QPS and downtown PoS.4
u/GroovyJediSign of the times3
u/iamcnicoleI stayed there for carnival and it was awful. I should have known when I got a shady non-Hilton link to prepay for my stay. They put all the YTs in the new tower and POCs in the old far away wing. Room was musty, fridge inoperable, and shower would flood from slow drainage. When I complained as a Gold member they told me to take a hike. Ended up escalating to corporate who ran me hella points. I understand why Hilton is pulling out and I hope it gets better management that actually cares.3
u/Icy-Benefit-5589Never stayed there, always stayed at the Brix next door when I visit Trinidad for business (mostly influenced by my Bonvoy membership). However, each time I stayed at the Brix I felt it's standards had dropped so I was hoping to try the Hilton on my next visit.2
u/StepFriendlyWith the loss of the Petro industry "business stay" clientele and the advent of Airbnb making some splendid homes available for rental this horse has possibly come to an end of it's reign! Hilton will attempt to milk the cow but the government must measure the value of the milk at this time. I would also ask the question when and if these global brands will restructure the policies to compete with the Airbnb's of today and allow the owners to profit and see value in these investments.1
u/asce619Simple to really understand this, taxation is theft. Ideally, taxes should not be spent on frivolous endeavors, they should be spent on civil infrastructure. That's what governments should be doing. Realistically though, 'I am prime minister, I can build a $40M+ estate and manor and that money is mine' is where we're at. Branding doesn't matter, Hilton can leave if they want, the building will be right there and probably be leased at $50 a month for 100 years through nepotism. Anyone gonna care?1
u/ShiizaaKerushiiWow I never thought I would see the day. This is extremely concerning.1
u/Effective-Ear-8367Maybe its just me but I can't even book anything with the hotel its 100% booked forever it seems. Are they just not taking anymore reservations?1
u/Johnny512436I love this hotel.1
u/SayKaasthat's unfortnate, maybe it will be plucked up by some private company maybe a place to put a data center?-1
u/OrdinaryAncient3573The real question here is why the government ever built or owned a hotel in the first place.-20
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37r/hollisUncensoredRecap below of a little gem I found last week. Heidi's TEA IS PIPING today! TW f...greeneyedgarden610%25170.4PRP knee treatment2026-03-23↗
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u/ChewieBearStareI didn't even get past "Helped Dave Hollis with addiction." How did she help him? By outing that he was in rehab? By being a chaos gremlin when he was struggling? WTF?! Anyway, back to the recap. We really should start a GFM to help you buy some self-care items after listening to this BS.110
u/greeneyedgarden"I hope those I've hurt are grateful I've hurt them." Heidi is a horrible person and please have mercy on those kids of hers.100
u/holavivi23"I LOVE LOVE LOVE the pain and lessons I've given to people." That's some sick shit to say. She's basically doing Olympic level mental gymnastics to absolve herself of every bit of legitimate blame and shame for her actions that hurt others. I think she also does those mental gymnastics to absolve her parents' extreme dysfunction and the myriad ways it hurt her and fucked up her life. Why is she allergic to acknowledging reality and taking accountability? And why can't she hold others accountable where appropriate?83
u/Remote-Ad1462Good god, she has no right to be talking about his problems publicly like this. I would be so uncomfortable!82
u/PleasantRabbit1511Goodness. Kratom, alcohol, vaping… She portrays such a different image online. This is wild.71
u/heyysunshinethe last part of the transcription is......so jarring. i don't want to completely dismiss it because everyone deals and copes with their SA trauma in different ways. but saying we're meant to deal with the pain life inflicted on us is a rough statement. it's why i hate self-helf bullshit. there are systems and people in power who shape our reality & what we experience, it takes accountability away from these systems and their destruction. like sorry, i dont think i was put on this earth to experience chronic illness beginning at age 19, job insecurity due to said illnesses, be abused, or feel scared existing in this country lol. maybe thinking you had to go through it helps people who struggle with the trauma from lack of agency, but i think it's very validating to point out where you've been failed or wronged. heidi, you didn't need to experience an ED, SA, addiction, and death of loved ones to become the person you needed to be. you deserved better than that. and i hate that message being spread to vulnerable or young people dealing with trauma67
u/She_said_what13And just like that, I’m absolutely livid all over again. For context, I’m the EMDR therapist who has done some breakdowns here of Heidi’s content through a borderline personality lens. I specialize in complex trauma, eating disorders, and domestic violence. I also have lived experience. I was in inpatient treatment for my own eating disorder in 2006 and spent years in EMDR therapy before eventually becoming a therapist myself, which didn’t happen until more than a decade after my recovery. I was also in the inner circle of Heidi and Dave’s very first challenge. I joined because I wanted to get strong and be part of a like-minded community. What pulled me in was her story about eating disorder recovery. I genuinely believed this would be a fitness space that stayed far away from toxic diet culture and aligned with my values around body image and health. I didn’t know much about her at the time, and I knew nothing about Dave. I went all in. There were some truly wonderful people in that group. That part was real. But it started going sideways for me pretty quickly. I began noticing things that didn’t line up. The values being talked about did not match what was actually happening. There was a growing sense of incongruence that I couldn’t ignore. I will tell the full story here at some point, because there is a lot more there. But this is what I need to say right now. Every time more information comes out about what was actually happening behind the scenes, how they were actually living, the level of addiction and chaos, I feel a fresh wave of rage. I WANT EVERY DOLLAR BACK THAT I GAVE THEM. They charged people thousands of dollars to be led by individuals who were actively in the depths of addiction. They positioned themselves as guides for health, growth, and community while their own lives were completely unregulated behind the scenes. That is not just hypocrisy. That is exploitation. She knew, and she continued to sell, upsell, and expand those offerings anyway. That is the part I cannot let go of. I joined the second challenge because of the relationships I had built with other members. But when Dave went to rehab and then showed up on a live from rehab, that was my breaking point. And now, hearing more details about what was actually happening during that time, the level of substance use and instability, it is absolutely infuriating all over again. This was not just messy. It was irresponsible, unethical, and harmful. I am feeling re-inspired to write out the full account of what I experienced and witnessed, because people deserve to understand what they were actually participating in. And everyone out there deserves to know exactly who she is so she cannot continue to exploit and harm more people. Thanks for letting me get this out.66
u/TheAlligator0228Get his name out of your mouth, and stop using his death for your content. Cease and desist!!!!65
u/holavivi23Dave was a heavy smoker and then a vaper?! That's something I didn't know. I wonder how long he smoked? Doesn't pair very well with running. I'd be very interested to know Rachel's tea about Double Life Dave.56
u/paddycat19I'm guessing Heidi is talking about Great Scott being addicted to Feel Free? Someone commented here a few months ago that their friend had DMd Heidi, and Heidi wrote back and word vomited TMI about all kinds of stuff in her life. One of the things she said was that Great Scott went into rehab multiple times when they were dating. Sounds like that's confirmed here.48
u/redditmamaphoFucking bitch knew he was drunk depressed and had a gun and was looking for it and didn’t call the police? Cunt47
u/villabellissimou/hairyresolution4011 Can you please do a livestream on this episode?47
u/greeneyedgardenThe host propositioned Ryan!!!42
u/ninfaobsidianaI wish I knew what people like her hear when they hear people say things like: “It looks to me like you’re on something” when they are, in fact, on something. I abused alcohol for years. No one save a very few people in my life knew because I was high functioning, and I kept my activities pretty low key and late night — no day drinking, no drinking on the job, and I could hold my own when out and about, so no public sloppiness. In fact, Sandra Lee would not bat an eye at my drinking. But it was bad because it was how I was dealing with my mental health and trauma, rather than seeing a therapist and really learning to heal. A loved one — one of the very few who knew me well enough to see that something was wrong — called me in. Wanted me to feel better and get help. I knew they were not wrong, or being hateful, or bullying me. I knew they were telling me an objective truth. Didn’t mean I rushed to take care of myself right away, but it was still an important moment that helped me get into recovery when the time came. So when people dismiss criticism with “you just hate me,” and then casually reveal that, in fact, they had been in the throes of addictions the whole time without ever acknowledging that all of those bystanders were correct, I wonder what is happening in their brains. I know it’s a level of shame, but what about the egoism that stops them saying “Yes, I have a problem”? Dave was the same way, only I think he was self-acknowledging, and that was incredibly difficult for him. I also believe less and less of her “truth,” and I never believed very much of it to begin with. Every few interviews she reveals a new nugget of information that discredits almost everything she’s ever said before it. It wouldn’t be a big deal if she stopped trying to monetize her self-help grifts and brand — people are sometimes shitty in their personal lives. That’s just life. It’s appalling that it even halfway works.42
u/Klutzy_Spell4852If only her fan poodles could read/listen to these. They all think she is the epitome of health and happiness. I wonder what Temu's addiction is because her "picker" is drawn to them! But also, didn't Tanya claim that super Dave never sold drugs? I wonder if she had the chance to listen to this one.41
u/ResolutionOk5211LAURI LANE... where's your desperate ass friend to defend you while you DENIED your daughter treatment for anorexia and bulimia??!!41
u/EvillittleangelAm I crazy for remembering that she was very clear about them NOT BEING TOGETHER?? Then he dies and all of the sudden she became the widowed girlfriend? His children must hate her so much.40
u/DarthSnarkerSomething that's always bothered me (and I'm not sure if this was discussed before), but if she knew he was an alcoholic and vaping (plus whatever substances), why did she push him so hard to do the body building stuff?40
u/lovethatssleepingSooo many thoughts. Dave bringing vodka on their first trip. Well if she had read his first book like she claimed, she would know he had an alcohol problem. Cigarettes and vaping?! Dave relapsed and she didn’t know?! We could all tell he was not ok! Dave believed what the haters said about him? Well shit, some of it was not nice, but we weren’t wrong, so…… She thought he was going to hurt himself but just said good night and then she just carries on? Second, her dad was selling prescription drugs?!Just wow. I feel like I’ve read here that Heidi accused Derek of doing pills (and maybe Chris was on pills before too?). Also I don’t know what the hell Feel Free is but what the fuck. So this is the second time she’s mentioned Scott going to treatment. Every man she’s involved with has an addiction, as does she. She needs therapy. This is not okay.38
u/MirkatteWorld[Dave] was the best person and he got a lot of online hate. He believed what people said about him. Heidi, not everything people said about him was wrong, nor was it all hate. There is a difference between constructive criticism and hate. Maybe, just maybe, Dave's "believing" was actually self-awareness.37
u/Salt-Freedom-7631She let Dave go, but yet still talks about him all the time. And I'm pretty sure a lot of what is said in this episode contradicts a lot of things she's said before. Like. ALOT Also. Dave did a damn good job of hiding he was a cigarette smoker. Thing this is the first time I've heard of that. And I read 2 of Rachel's books36
u/Traditional_Paint461I listened to this episode and she really did overshare allllll these details. Craziness.36
u/FAladyI wonder if Great Scott got her into Kratom? And what idiot doesn’t know it is addictive? This pisses me off. Heidi and Dave were hosting their challenges and acting like the perfect wholesome paragons of health while abusing substances. This also confirms what we all knew - that HIGHdi is an addict. Trashing religion isn’t gonna look good to her Mormon audience. She really needs to stop talking about this stuff online and get help, but that is not gonna happen.36
u/villabellissimoI have always assumed that RyGuy is either an addict or is experimenting with drugs with Heidi, or he at least enables her. Everyone she dates seems to be an addict.35
u/WILLIAMEANAJENKINS“I didn’t know kratom was addictive “…I was mixing it with other things and was living a lifestyle .. I had money and power and I could party …”… Everything about her delusional narcissistic problems is explained right there.34
u/MembershipOver344Heidi : “Religion f$!*s us up” -your son is on a mission trip currently…31
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u/Charming_Smile_5398But she said she never drank when she was with Dave. Nothing like integrity and authenticity.29
u/[deleted]Unfortunately I'm not shocked about any of this because it's Heidi and she's terrible.29
u/greeneyedgardenAll of this, and she still let Dave live in the house with her kids28
u/youhadtotakethesoupThank you for transcribing all this 😵‍💫27
u/sunnydays97Maybe Heidi can clarify- Regarding post high school, post ASU, running to UTAH and getting D’s and F’s….. She states “I was able to make it through school and get good grades” Didn’t this chick drop out of post secondary education? She makes zero sense.27
u/annabelleoftheballDamn, she is one sick puppy.24
u/Genybear12So we have…. Lying about how Dave died? Implying it was only related to drinking. Cultural appropriation… yes I’m calling it that cause doubt her Mormon White self knows how to obtain sage correctly, how to prepare it properly and then use it plus dispose of it. Religion fucks us up…. But she’s a closeted Mormon who pretends to be either something else for her men or nothing at all if they don’t have one or are running away from it like Temu BUT ALSO let’s raise our children in the same religion that “fucks us up”. Ignoring what addiction is…. It’s ok Heidi to admit you have an addictive personality and will become addicted to anything you think “helps you” or makes you money. Addiction is a disease and it’s ok to accept that, understand it runs in families and more. There is help. Is she saying she accepts fault in being sexually and physically abused?!?! Like she asked for it to have it help her become better? I mean….. NO ONE ever has done anything a day in their life to ask for someone to sexually, physically, emotionally or mentally abuse them. To say you thank those that did it to you and imply you’ve forgiven them openly and directly because you asked for it? Forgiveness is personal plus meant for the person the actions were done to to give to themselves, possibly given to the person who committed the act at a time later and possibly unknown to that person in order for the victim to accept what’s happened to them to accept and be able to move on. Ok ok I need a break that last one may have spiked my blood pressure a little too much.24
u/Comfortable_Bag9303The girl doesn't need a podcast; she needs inpatient care. Her neck of the woods has so many good facilities. How do I know? My family member is in one right now. (yes, the one I've been agonizing/praying about for years!) There is REAL help out there: medication, talk therapy, EMDR, etc. He is finally thriving after YEARS of suffering from drug abuse, trauma, and denial. And if I happen to bump into Heidi while wandering the streets of Gilbert/Chandler, I'll be sure to not say hi. But dang I would want to drag her to The Meadows....23
u/heyysunshinealso, being new to hollisville, i'm still learning about them as people. but part of me wonders if heidi's oversharing and intimate details about dave's death are all misplaced grief. like im wondering what kind of support she's getting around dave's death? i lost an ex back when i was just a teenager & when it finally hit me i was in shambles. it's such a unique type of grief in that you weren't with them, youre not a widow. but there's a closeness that was there that others (the widowed) may not want to hear in Their grief. but i wanted to talk about him as much as i could, it felt like keeping him alive in a way. everything that connected you feels monumentally important. this seems to be addiction for them. and i wonder if there's a sort of sad "see, i WAS important to him!!!!" thing going on in her talking about how involved she was in the night of his passing. idk, i feel like she needs more spaces offline to air these things. ik she exploits every aspect of her life & those around her for content, but. blugh. i can kind of understand the drive, as sad and messed up and exploitative as it is (i do NOT condone it!!!) but also, on the flip side, it's interesting to see rachel's complete silence. there's no middle ground with them.21
u/EyeLittle415This is so gross. So so gross. His story is not hers to tell. And she is full of lies.20
u/YoKinaZuWhen will she stop celebrating her horrible parents??19
u/shruglife1985Did you find it worth listening?17
u/caffeinatedangelI have only just read the description and found myself already screaming: "Dave wasn't her boyfriend, he wasn't her partner!"16
u/Agitated-SparepartsThe way she tells a story she is all over the place so you can't really assemble a timeline...but it sounds like she probably started this Feel Free with Dave or right after Dave...she probably got GS hooked on this stuff and then was like "you need to go to rehab". I am not one to shame or blame anyone...but HIGH-Dee seems like the common denominator when it comes to all the chaos that has been created and inflicted in anyone's life who has touched hers. She is a hurricane alright. You enter her path and it is guaranteed for destruction. The more I read this over again I think, what a sick and demented woman. "I LOVE LOVE LOVE the pain and lessons I’ve given to people" and "I hope those who I have hurt look at me and are so glad I did what I did to them." What the actual F??? Who says these things unless you are completely unhinged.16
u/Comfortable_Bag9303This has shades of Ruby Franke & Jodi ...13
u/Status-Visual6022So based on her logic kids/babies with cancer are meant to have it. Fuck off.9
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38r/lipedemaUpdate #2HumanistGoddess980%5270.3PRP knee treatment2026-03-19↗
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u/Longjumping_Baby_955I think you look great and the improvements are super noticeable, but more importantly, why is your husband being such a jerk?? You’re worthy at any size or shape and it’s so commendable that you’re trying to better yourself, he should be supporting that95
u/HumanistGoddess<image> My last update.50
u/C0l3yI’ll say what your husband should but won’t. First, I am so proud of you for committing to yourself and your routine! The amount of improvement in texture is honestly blind blowing to me, and I promise I’m not just gassing you up. Your legs look amazing and are a reflection of your commitment so keep it up. Thanks for sharing - I think your photos will give us (me included) a lot of hope. Can I ask what GLP-1 you’re on and at what dose? Have you had any side effects?41
u/mrose8383There is a a huge improvement … but wtf to your husband.19
u/pep0werYou look fantastic. I hope you are proud of everything you accomplished. However you want to say it, lipedema is a condition of your connective tissue. It is extremely unlikely that the texture of your legs will ever be “normal” for whatever that means. Your husband is gaslighting you, he can go eat a dick and fuck off.17
u/FreshPath6271Great results and most importantly great job caring for your health and working on it to make you feel better. I will say what others said your husband needs to refrain from comments like that. Lipedema is a medical condition. More understanding and compassion and less judgement for him needs to be learned. Maybe talking to him about it and teaching can make him have more understanding. Keep up the amazing dedication and work on your health!13
u/jmack619You look great! Your legs look so different from your first two photos. This is really inspiring. Way to go!12
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u/HumanistGoddessThanks for the positive feedback guys. I really appreciate all of the positive energy. I am so happy with my results. I can’t wait to post an update in another couple months!! I just asked my husband about his comments and he said “I would never say that” and blamed it on a dream I must have had. It wasn’t a dream. The best revenge is looking good and maybe finding support from others.9
u/Eastern-Activity6700Girl the cringe I just made reading your husband commenting on your body negatively….not ok. You gotta teach him how to communicate effectively…. Your legs look fuxking awesome, it’s not about being perfect it’s about being better and feeling better. Will lippy legs ever look like non lippy legs? Probably not without surgery, but our partners can empower us to soothe that urge to go under the knife (if that’s your preferred choice). My wife only ever tells me how great my legs look and comments on how proud she is for my consistency in conservative treatments. Maybe remind him to focus on compliments and staying positive instead of helping you ruminate about something you’ve already identified you don’t like about yourself.7
u/Alchia79Wow! These are amazing results. I started Mounjaro six weeks ago and haven’t noticed any difference. I also just finished eight weeks of vein ablation and sclerotherapy so hoping to see some improvement once that’s healed up. I am super impressed and inspired. I’ve been afraid to do any kind of HRT. I’m about to turn 47 and my lipedema has really taken off thanks to perimenopause. My legs and arms are just like your before picture. Can you give me a general idea of what you are doing for exercise? I need to start weights, but also have hEDS and some joint pain so squats and anything knee related is hard for me. Thanks! And congrats 🎉4
u/TemporaryAshamed9525Thank you so much for this. We are lipidema twins - I have the exact same legs! I've been on the fence about the GLP but I think this is the sign that I should start!3
u/m33p047Your husband can get bent. 🤣 You look amazing, and as someone with stage 3, I hope to get to where you are one day.2
u/weebeaniesId KILL for your gorgeous legs x2
u/Brilliant-Ad232What an inspiration2
u/Dazzling-End-9575You look amazing and i would be thrilled to have legs that look like yours! Congrats. Do you mind sharing about your GLP experience with side effects? I go to the gym 2-4 times a week for strength training and do lots of walking every day but i feel like it doesnt do as much as i would hope.2
u/SPSKINOmg wow… these are amazing results! You are giving me hope!2
u/Salty_Coast_7214How did you get a glp-1? I, like you, am not overweight my doc won’t give me any2
u/Taylan_KYour legs look amazing, I thought they don't look like lipedema at all until I saw your last update photo. Amazing improvement I must say, I am really impressed. What is the purpose of the testosterone pill? Never heard of that.2
u/Addiegirl79You look AMAZING. 2. F that dumb boy. 3. I would kill for those honeybuns. ❤️1
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39r/PsoriasisMy dog helped my psoriasisthe_madcapper980%5070.2PRP knee treatment2026-03-15↗
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u/murderd0llI appreciate the fact that we will literally try anything to help because everything about psoriasis is just so hit and miss.170
u/Own-Event4824The best anecdotal evidence I’ve ever seen in my life.42
u/Cheesy_crumpetMy Niece’s dog used to lick the patch on my calf, he could sense it through my jeans and knew exactly where it was. He would only lick that spot through my jeans and nowhere else. Currently living with a bulldog who is a constant licker. In general though, he just likes the salt from sweat. Sometimes he licks the patch, which is now quite big. Might start letting him ‘have a go’ more often and see if it begins to go away.39
u/This_Is_Great_2020my dog does the same thing on my elbows, and yes it helps alot.26
u/NoParticular2420Open skin and mouth germs could = bad20
u/JarJarBinksSucksI’ve often wondered about this. (I don’t have dogs) Dogs I meet in public always seem to go for my psoriasis knee. As do dogs I know. I’ve wondered if there was any medical benefit or worthy of trials15
u/peaceomind88This same exact thing has happened to me!11
u/Leahs_life_I follow a girl on instagram who has atopic dermatitis and one of her service dog’s tasks is to interrupt scratching!9
u/baicoi66Ive heard it only works if the dog licks his ass before it licks you6
u/queenmebWe used to call my uncle crazy for saying his dog licking him cured him!! I’m glad to see he’s not and someone else has actually experienced this. Now how do I get a dog to lick my scalp…5
u/EatsCrackersMaybe the germs in the spit give the immune system something pathogenic to attack, rather than continuing to attack the skin? I’m not gonna try to yuck your yum (or itch your “ahh!” as the case may be), but keep an eye out for swelling, redness, pus, or any other signs of infection, and seek medical attention promptly if any crop up. Ain’t nobody got time for sepsis!5
u/DoubleDonkI once heard from a teacher about a student with psoriasis he had taught before me who had a pet snail she would let crawl across her skin that soothed her psoriasis. Stuff is wild man.4
u/Florin500The amount of pseudo-science and straight up dangerous misinformation comments are way too high, people shouldn't spread this kind of bullshit4
u/romanescadanteThis might sound weird but in my hippy faze, I read that forgiveness heals and that information hit me like a brick, so I thought about all the people I would forgive. 2 days later, my scalp psoriasis was gone. I thought I was going a bit insane. It eventually came back, but wild experience for me.4
u/PowerfulNecessary180have you tried your own saliva?3
u/TawGreythis is because there is a mechanism designed into the saliva of animals.. as they lick their wounds also.3
u/grandmastatus0I always wondered about that when I was younger (I got pso at 14) but no matter how much I let my dog lick my knees it never helped haha.3
u/SpiderVinesLong story short, dog saliva has minor coagulants and wound healing properties as well as some antibacterial properties against some strains of bacteria, but not streptococcus or Capnocytophaga. So if you’re on a biologic please dont let your dogs lick your open wounds! You’re better off using a healing ointment and some non petroleum jelly. 🫶2
u/twelveangrykenI've had dogs the entirety of my "psoriasis journey", which was more like a slow 23 year ride to hell, and they all ignored it until this last one. He started licking my ankles in my sleep or when I was sitting on the sofa. I'd shoo him away, but he was relentless - and making it so much worse. He actually drove me to try a biologic, and now I'm nearly 100% clear, so I guess I could also say that my dog's licking fixed my psoriasis.1
u/Interesting_Pea2108Nope.1
u/IndustrialPuppetTwoI wonder if it's a symbiotic relationship LOL! I mean what does the dog get from it?1
u/L-RockatanskyThis sounds like a great way to get a severe skin infection1
u/phat_gooberoniMy dogs licking my psoriasis largely has just made it worse I suppose due to the exfoliation lol I have to practically fight them off of trying to lick it now1
u/hooola-hooopOne of my cats licks my psoriasis patch on one of my legs. I don’t think it helps though 😂1
u/RedditRecreationsBrb going to run naked in the dog park1
u/Delicious-Aspect-637Dogs saliva can give you meningitis. Not a good idea to let them lick you anywhere.1
u/Fast_Compote_3233My parents dog also always used to specifically only lick my psoriasis spots. I honestly think they can either smell or sense that it's a medical issue and they're drawn to it for some reason.1
u/VegemiteGeckoI haven't let them keep licking my knee patch, but my two definitely like something about it and try to lick it a lot.1
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u/No_Entertainer_299It is because you relaxed when your dog licked you, relaxation is the only cure for psoriasis, unfortunately, no one can relax all the time
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40r/kvssnarkerIndy and Woody out to pastureCrafty-Election-7077710%6969.7PRP knee treatment2026-03-04↗
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u/Illustrious-Ball6437"They're still a little bit contracted" A LITTLE BIT!? He is 23 days old today and yeah hes better than he was right at birth but at over 3 weeks old? I know hes structurally OOTK and that wont go away but aside from a few days of splinting and restricting exercise, they haven't done squat with this poor boy. How long until theres permanent tendon damage from lack of treatment? Thats a genuine question for those with more experience.56
u/Crafty-Election-7077Let's not forget the comments she made about Charlotte44
u/denastraListening to the video she sounded like she will breed Charlotte again43
u/Only_Feature1130What I hear- blah blah blah if he looks like he gonna be too damaged we will move him out- but till then I will milk content, then cry when shit goes wrong. Blah Blah Blah43
u/Professional_Size535This poor baby. Every time I see him he looks like a dang spider. Or the mind flayer from stranger things. I will never unsee it.40
u/Fit-Idea-6590Again, this foal is on Equioxx and still can't really stand up in one motion or lay sternal. His legs are a mess. He's not as lax behind now so maybe it's time oxytetracycline for those contracted tendons because his front legs are zig zags. The longer she waits the less chance he has in ever being `normal'. If she can build a ridiculously large outdoor arena that she'll hardly ever use, why can she not get her husband and his crew to make a nicely graded and rock free dry lot? Or several? Why are these horses rattling around over rocks? Charlotte just makes me sad. That's probably as much attention as KVS has given her since losing the foal. I'm still perplexed at how she managed to yank a foal out of her with the placenta that Charlotte `never even saw'? WTH actually happened that night?34
u/PuzzleheadedToe7Noticable ballerina syndrome. HOW is this improvement?33
u/Frequent_Chipmunk410Do his hocks look absolutely massive to anyone else or is it just me?29
u/QuestionableBest"stallion" material 😬. I've been saying since the moment Dr. Matthew's said he wasn't sure about what was the right steps, I would have had them at the clinic for supportive care for him for any chance of him being normal. Why she hasn't, I don't know! Losing out on foal content? I don't know but it's awful29
u/Frequent_Chipmunk410What does she mean Charlotte will have her time???? She caught herself saying more and stopped. Why would you breed that mare again when she’s got a super stressy temperament and isn’t much on being handled??28
u/CleaRaeOmg his legs and the lack of grass. If any horse needs some lush green grass free range. She is going to eat that scant patch in days.27
u/denastraAll 4 legs are messed up, I go between his poor front legs to his messed up back legs/hocks. Poor sweet baby has an owner with a shit ton of money to get him the best care and nope he isn’t getting it23
u/Rare-Attitude-3100Can we clean the sticks out of the pasture?!? Smdh13
u/Middle_PilotI just did a bit of a deep dive on Carpal Valgus, based on what OP said above. This really seems to track with what was in the Case Report from MSU. <image> https://www.vetmed.msstate.edu/sites/www.vetmed.msstate.edu/files/presentations/6.30.17%20Valgus%20in%20the%20Foal%20%28Austin%20Mobley%29.pdf13
u/Pr1nc3ssButtercupIt's painful to watch Woody, poor little guy. I do wish she'd take him up to Dr. Ursini. She's way out of her depth here.9
u/CapybaraCavyI always thought this breeding would be problematic but not to this extent. He really needs some specialist vet care.9
u/Redchickens18Has KVS said what her plans are with this one?8
u/Candid_Daikon4701Thank you for suggesting carpal valgus! I have felt for weeks that at least one of his front legs was crooked but couldn’t put my finger on it, I just really felt in my gut that this was more than being contracted and lax.8
u/Ok_Grab_6945Mare and foal need to head to Dr Ursini for appropriate care asap. Can you imagine dr ursinis face seeing this dumpster fire turn up.8
u/CalamityJen85I wonder if she’s consulted Dr. Ursini about it 🤔 I’d be interested to hear her thoughts on this little dude before something that would be treatable becomes permanent.8
u/Snarkie-McSnarkieOooff! <image>7
u/Fire_Tiger1289I hope he’s just an ugly duckling who will grow into his spider legs. Right now he looks odd3
u/Civil-Tumbleweed-104His front legs are literally Z's.... It's so painful to watch! His back legs do seem to have improved some but damn he's a mess the poor thing 😞3
u/Empty-Stretch-5615He does not look comfortable2
u/FinanceOk7303This little guy will end up needed a check desmotomy2
u/New_Suspect_7173Wow, his legs are such a hot mess. I hope this poor guy ends up being able to have a comfortable life as a pasture puffs. I don't think showing is in his future. I just want him pain free.2
u/Maleficent-Flower607His high heels look so painful2
u/Next-Outside-998If this was your foal, how would you be treating the symptoms?1
u/NumerousLeader6789Dr.Mathew did say it would be over a month or more before he looks “normal” changes don’t happen fast when his legs were in such rough shape. They might even wrap them again if nothing is improving.
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41r/avfcPercy: Aston Villa are the feel-good story English football needsKanedauke1050%3969.6PRP knee treatment2026-03-24↗
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u/Deep-Sun-3432Quite staggering that we are in our current position. The penalties and most fouls stats are wild. Think we might be a bit too nice so our accomplishments are even more surprising. Very curious what Olabe and Emery can go do together in preparing for a CL campaign.36
u/arenarossThe fouls thing vs penalties & red/yellow cards issued is ridiculous and the sort of thing where if it happened to Manchester United the world would now have been sucked into an eternal void to stop us having to listen to them crying about it. I'm really torn. On the one hand I really respect Emery's approach to this, no excuses, we crack on. But on the other hand the big teams and players do kick off a lot more about this stuff and it undoubtedly has an impact in some degree. Dunno if it's time the club just needs to stop being Mr Nice and start fighting our corner more.28
u/K10_BayWhat's the second picture?10
u/cettypriminalKeyword: resiliency PS: Big up Sunderland. Don't think many expected them to be this good.8
u/slappymcmanmeatSo most fouled and least penalties? I’d like to see the stats on yellow and red cards awarded compared to that8
u/Astonishingly-VillaWe are a feel-good story, but its especially great to be feeling good as a fan after this weekend again as well. In terms of penalties, maybe we do have to make a bit more of a deal when we are blatantly fouled, but I suppose having such an approachable and respectable group of players comes with certain negatives. Realistically the responsibility is on the referees to make sure they are always fair and just regardless of the player reaction to fouls. Some referees are better than this than others - Anthony Taylor gets a lot of abuse and he's far from perfect but he's one of the referees that I've noticed just makes a decision based on his interpretation of the rules and doesn't let himself get swayed by fan or player reaction. Would I swap a leader like McGinn for a player like Fernandes if it meant we get awarded an extra 5 penalties a season? Maybe I'm mental but absolutely no way, no.6
u/elmattydoor123Rogers, in particular, is admired by Liverpool, Chelsea and Tottenham and selling him would relieve much of the financial pressure on the club. <image>5
u/BohrInRedditWhat's the 2nd infographic about? Edit: nevermind it's peno granted for this season5
u/PizzaplantdenierI'm playing devil's advocate a little with this. Crowding the ref, getting angry on the pitch, would involve an attitude shift that is perhaps out of line with the "mental structure" of our team. We play best as underdogs, try hards, head down get on with it types. Clicking into gear with determination. Our dominance comes thru this perseverance rather than any expectance. If we start running round like we deserve something, I think we'd only go and upend our self with blushes.  A few players dropped in with that arrogance, perhaps it could change, just like how it works with Martinez. But instructing the team to get in the refs faces I don't think would do us any favours mentally.4
u/bambinoquinnWeve talked about not getting penos, looking back with 3/4s of the season gone, are there any key stand out pens not given people can think of? I know there will be some, but my brain is like empty right now I know tammy vs brighton will be mentioned. I think its dumb defending and very risky, but because we scored 10 seconds after, im not hugely bothered on that one. Could have been given, but I dont think its some ridiculous miss. I have a feeling there was a handball vs someone when a shot was going on target, but my mind is blank3
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u/mjmilianWhat does the 2nd graph represent?1
u/three-4-truthTbf, we rarely get in the box enough to have penalties. How many times have players "taken on" defenders in the box or tried to get past them? Rogers might buckle under minor contact looking for a pen or after a player gets the ball, but I can't really recall any blatant/questionable pens not given?-4
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u/Fun-Manufacturer4131Sometimes it doesn't show up in the blood but could still be a lupus flare20
u/asiaticosideMy gosh. Mouth and scalp sores and they don't think you're in a flare and don't understand why you'd be in pain??? That seems so odd to me, although I admit I don't know nearly enough about lupus yet. Would love to hear other people's opinion/education because I am in shock.17
u/emptyjadeI'm sorry you're going through this. I've recently realized how important an antiinflammatory diet is. I don't know what you're eating, but I'm currently eating my way out of a flare. Be sure you're getting sleep and staying hydrated. Get your electrolytes, it helps with my pain. Hope things start getting better soon.16
u/MiserableSun9142I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I totally understand. Sometimes I feel like the treatment is just as bad as the flair up! It’s really not fair we have to deal with this I feel like there is no good option 🙁5
u/redhood279Blood work isn't the be all end all! (((Hugs))) Skip pain management, unless you want to go, and find a new doctor! Your current treatment is obviously not working well enough.3
u/Dream117I'm sorry you're going through it rn, I'm in the same boat and I have to wait until April to see my rheumatologist again. They also couldn't find anything so it's time to play Russian roulette with meds now3
u/Pale_Slide_3463Before my worst flare I was in pain with my joints, was so sore and stiff, I started getting my hive rash lupus skin flare along side it. Went to my rheumatologist said something isn’t right, so she did blood tests and my ESR was 40 and my CRP slightly raised but everything else seemed “normal” I kept telling her my ESR when I’m stable isn’t elevated, but “your bloods are fine” 2 months later my antibody’s went from 28 - 395, ESR was 100 and CRP was 60. Ended up with hair loss, joint swelling, my vitamins started crashing, chilblains, ulcers, rashes, just some of it and then I started leaking protein, Don’t give up with them, I was annoying my doctors so much. I was right in the end but it was horrible, just look after yourself and don’t give up the fight. I flared on MXT, steroids and ended up in hospital for 3 weeks staying a biological, they wouldn’t let me go home till I was 100% stable.3
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u/Outrageous-Fruit3433Ugh so so sorry to hear you’re going through this 🫂 not nonsensical at all and I’m happy we’re a community everyone can vent to. Sending lots of love and understanding doctors your way. A rheumatologist I was seeing for a while said sometimes lupus “hides” during a flare, so bloodwork will frustratingly be normal. Bleh.2
u/Substantial_Escape92Mine will never say it’s from lupus. But I bet money, it’s the lupus!1
u/Brilliant-Lime-6383Im suprised he isnt offering you prednisone, even for a couple weeks. I know it sucks being on but its important to still keep inflammation down and that will help with some of your pain. I know something that I like to use is called sulferzyme. Its from young living and it actually helps me when my joints hurt. Its a natural product. Im sorry your suffering friend. 😔1
u/Leelulu905I have heard that cutting dairy can help with the mouth sores. I know that your diet is so limited that might not be possible. Using a topical antibiotic on my nose sores has decreased pain for me because they would get infected. I know that rheumatologists hate to change your biologic when your labs are good but I agree you need something. The pain management clinic I went to offered a variety of approaches to pain and I did find it helpful. They offered nerve blocks, nerve ablasions, Botox but also classes on diet, sleep, meditation. I hope that you can find relief.1
u/m0ther_0F_myriadsNot nonsensical at all. I think you will find many here have a had similar experiences. I was just punted to the Mayo clinic by my rheum because my inflammation markers are fine, when I am quite obviously not fine. All of my support to you. I know this is one of the hardest parts of lupus...waiting to get better and not knowing what to do to get there.1
u/LymnicaI was just moved up a step in therapy without abnormal bloodwork. I have had easy bruising (hematology workup normal, suggested systemic process), joint pain, mouth and nose sores, worsening autonomic nervous system symptoms and lung inflammation that wound up being asthma. My doctor listened to me when I said I have felt terrible and the specialists ruled out other options. She never hesitated to believe me and I think it's important to find a rheumatologist that treats the patient, not just the bloodwork.1
u/Horror_Struggle226Have them check you for other autoimmune disorders. I have multiple and my rheumatoid arthritis and psoriatic arthritis pain is different but similar to my lupus issues.1
u/ATXtoI think you need to find a new doctor1
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u/macadamianuttThe constant pain and discomfort is soooo draining. It sucks. Bloodwork doesn’t tell the full story! Have you ever tried low dose naltrexone? It takes the edge off the joint pain for me.
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43r/4bmovementWomen in History: Ruth Gordon Schnappmullatomochaccino6860%369.4PRP knee treatment2026-03-29↗
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u/mullatomochaccino**Note**: Click the *History* icon at the top of this post to see all our user contributed women's history posts. You can also search for posts by typing *flair:history* into the search bar of this sub. Our support and respect to [u/Substantial-Barber10](https://www.reddit.com/user/Substantial-Barber10/) for her ongoing series: **The Matilda Effect (Lost Women of Science).** • ⁠[**Matilda Joslyn Gage**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/s7WIldDKz4) **(1826-1898)** \- Pioneer Radical Feminist; The Matilda Effect • ⁠[**Mileva Marić**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/N8UV2CIFzf) **(1875-1948)** \- Theory of Relativity; Brownian Motion; {1 Nobel Prize} • ⁠[**Ada Lovelace**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/rGVr2FKTVc) **(1815-1852)** \- First Computer Programmer • ⁠[**Dr. Elizabeth Blackwell**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/qIJBvfJ6MV) **(1821-1910)** \- 1st Formal Female Doctor in Modern, Western Era • ⁠[**Dr. Rosalind Franklin**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/bkK4TeXGGh) **(1920-1958)** \- DNA Structure, Virus / Vaccine Research {2 Nobel Prizes} • ⁠[**Alice Ball**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/IpQbAwJDkE) **(1892-1916)** \- Developed Cure for Leprosy • ⁠[**Dr. Chien-Shiung Wu**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/oIWpGeER53) **(1912-1997)** \- Nuclear Physicist {1 Nobel Prize} • ⁠[**Lisa Sauermann**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/ffIfQZD4Q3) **(1992-alive)** \- Multiple IMO Gold Medals \~ Credit: [u/Friendly-Ad-3961](https://www.reddit.com/user/Friendly-Ad-3961/) Other entries in my own ongoing series highlighting accomplished women and historical feminist movements, **Women in History**. • ⁠[**Assata Shakur**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/d3aRxknfoW) **(1947-2025)** \- Revolutionary; Founding Member of BPP & BLA • ⁠[**Franca Voila**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/iJl0bT7in0) **(1948 - Alive)** \- 1st Italian Woman to defy “Marry-Your-Rapist” Law • [**Sushila Karki**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/vk8BiPFFfw) **(1952 - Alive)** \- 1st Woman to Head the Government of Nepal • [**Kathrine Switzer**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/TGLEqlMyBf) **(1947 - Alive)** \- 1st Woman to Complete the Boston Marathon • [**Dorothy Day**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/comments/1plyx1t/women\_in\_history\_dorothy\_day/) **(1897 - 1980)** \- Suffragette, Journalist, Lifelong Activist • [**Dr. Mae Jemison**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/comments/1pdqbkw/women\_in\_history\_dr\_mae\_jemison/) **(1956 - Alive)** Engineer, Physician, 1st Black Woman in Space • [**Claudette Colvin**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/comments/1rayh46/women_in_history_claudette_colvin/) **(1939 - 2026)** Caretaker, Community Activist, Catalyst for the Montgomery Bus Boycotts • [**First Video Editors Were Women**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/s/TPjNZ2W6M7) • [**1970's Feminist Vandalism**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/comments/1m5ohsz/women\_in\_history\_1970s\_feminist\_vandalism/) • [**Lesbians and Pride**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/comments/1l57zhk/women\_in\_history\_lesbians\_and\_pride/) • [**Women Against Pornography Protests**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/comments/1kpy7pc/women\_in\_history\_women\_against\_pornography/) • [**Liberation Day: Women of the Italian Liberation Movement**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/comments/1k8eeq9/women\_in\_history\_liberation\_day/) • [**Black Friday: England's Radical Suffragette Movement and Society's Violent Response**](https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/comments/1qduo82/women\_in\_history\_black\_friday/)19
u/harry-styles-7644Adding to the list of things I did not learn from my earthquake seminar!12
u/BelleCervelleThat T Shirt slogan is iconic .11
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44r/DryeyesAfter 3+ years of battling dry eye, I'm finally medication-free and stable. Here...Educational-Prize-94830%4268.9PRP knee treatment2026-04-02↗
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u/2D617Love hearing all this - it’s encouraging. Can you discuss some of the dietary changes you made? I’ve made a lot of changes in my diet and I’m pretty sure it’s helping, but I’d like to hear about yours too.7
u/dolfinberryWhat are heated humidifying goggles? Thanks!6
u/victururuI want to try cyclosporine. How long does it take to work? I've been told it can take several months. Actually, i am with autologus serum. It helps, but i think cyclosporine will help me increase my tear production.4
u/GroundbreakingBig404Cutting onions does it for me3
u/Dra794Thanks a lot for sharing this great story! Very helpful3
u/rather_be_gamingThank you so much sharing!!! Its always awesome when a fellow dry eye sufferer has healed up. Gives the rest of us so much hope! I feel you on the climate change. My mom spends 6 months in the Philippines ( humidity is next level) and her dry eyes (kicked in around menopause) healed up.3
u/TaterOTI just started RF this week-glad to hear you had good results.2
u/redditjrmDo you use googles to sleep in? If so, any recs?2
u/morula2Do you know what your glands look like? Did you have a dry eye exam? Very happy to hear you’re feeling better2
u/Annual-Lifeguard7754Thank you for sharing2
u/Emotional_Banana3059can attest humidity difference is huge, moving from average 25% zone to 50% was big milestone for me as well2
u/No-Tree-1000That's great.  Im really happy for you that you found what works for you and came out the other end.2
u/KhaleesiakoseCongratulations on getting here! Can you share the product you used for the eye flushes/rinse? Why did you only trial PRP for a month? How long did it take for you to see improvement from Cequa?1
u/AnythingGlum2469What type of diagnosis did you get for your eyes, if any? Did different doctors recommend different procedures or give a different diagnosis?1
u/Senior_Sweet_9859How much time cequa take to show initial improvement?did you use any steroids with cequa?1
u/2213cheeseHave you heard or do you think Cequa works better than Vevye? I’ve been on Vevye for two years and haven’t had noticeable differences from it but stay on it with the idea that it might be helping inflammation in general.1
u/scifibookluvrI’ve been wondering about rebound on OTC. Haven’t looked in to…but since you mentioned. A real thing? Common? Doc suggested hourly DOc also suggested blue light glasses, but you mentioned red. (I’m seeing a new doctor soon).1
u/pink_dot34Which moisture chamber glasses did you use? Do they fog up?1
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45r/DogfreeMonrovia bear euthanized after clawing at woman walking her doghuntress_m_thompson570%5267.9PRP knee treatment2026-03-18↗
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u/10IlIlIlI01She had cubs 😢 bet the mutt was aggressive towards the bear and yapping at it65
u/Few-Horror1984We are willing to put bears down because they’re “aggressive” but when a dog kills a human it’s not a given that it’ll be put down.38
u/Vibe2SummerThey took the cubs away from their mother, not surprising since these are the same people that take mutt offspring away and call themselves "parents" to feel good.30
u/SweeTetrodotoxin'twas a bear...acting wait for it a BEAR. a mother with young cubs and they chose the right of a dog walkers dog over the natural right of the Mother bear defending its cubs? I've been a silent observer of this sub for a while (before I started my account) This is fucking insane. Kill the mother snatch the cubs? And sorry Just that dog walks to walk their dog somewhere else, relocated nursing mother with cubs is a dumb and dangerous things for both mother and cubs. females don't defend territories like Male bears but have specifical well known home ranges.... This is insane.21
u/limesqueezyxA mother bear protecting her cubs, so sad! The dog was the aggressor wtf18
u/Dog_Free_AfternoonThis is insane. How much do you want to bet that the stupid dog was barking and/or antagonizing the Mama bear?14
u/potatoes_arrrr_lifeThe hypocrisy is so maddening. Bet her dog was off leash and threatening her cubs. Of course dog owners are out for blood. But when a dog bites someone, they call it a nip and pretend it didn't happen. They go mad when dogs that have attacked, mauled and killed get scheduled for BE. Why does a dog's life matter above all other living things?13
u/Good_Criticism_1680Justice for the bear I love bears this makes my heart hurt fuck dogs 😡😡😡12
u/madamechatonBears are endangered, mutts are an invasive species. Breaks my heart.12
u/Tom_Quixote_I'm willing to bet my house that the dog antagonised the bear and its two cubs.11
u/ToOpineIsFineOfficials say if you encounter a bear, stay calm and do not run. Instead, back away slowly and give the animal plenty of space. This is exactly what dogs hate to do. They are space invaders and won't leave wildlife alone.9
u/pmbpro”Instead, back away slowly and give the animal plenty of space.” Yeah, and I’m so sure that dumbass DOGS will also follow this to the letter too, along with their dog-nutter owners. 🙄😒9
u/bumblebeesandbowsAbsolutely infuriates me.6
u/ThrowitortossitIt was a mamma bear from the wild that had cubs and was just looking to defend them. There are pitbulls that get away with unprovoked attacks that tear children apart. That really sucks for the cubs.5
u/huntress_m_thompsonthis is from the monrovia city manager. the city council had lobbied to relocate the bear family. fish & game just went ahead & deleted the bear. monrovia city. it mentions the attack in june 2025. fish & game said it had too many attacks on humans. two, to be precise. why do we not follow this rule as enthusiastically with maulers?3
u/Specific_LifeA bear is allowed to defend itself. Dogs and humans shouldn’t take priority2
u/arachnilactose08I really despise this trend of tracking down and destroying wild animals for behaving like… wild animals. Usually in their OWN fucking habitats. Of course dog worshippers are going to capitalize off of this. One less beautiful wild creature because some asshole and their walking biohazard went into the forest —notorious home of bears— and was surprised to find one.2
u/Havingfun922Just a bear doing bear things. Nevermind, that line is only allowed for mutts2
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46r/UARSnewEmpty Nose Syndrome Demystified - Part 1Master-Drama-4555320%11167.6PRP knee treatment2026-03-16↗
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u/Unhappy_Performer538Okayyyyyyy will never be getting that surgery!7
u/PhazzeNice, you should link the pubmed papers that go over ENS, specifically the very thorough Scheithauers paper which completely explains ENS scientifically and for effective surgical treatments (IMAP, Nasal Floor, Augmentation) there are quiet a few papers incase a desperate ENS patient sees this. I empathize with you regarding ENS being like a dial, people often think its like a binary system thing, 1 you have it and 0 you dont, when its actually a wider range and hence why the doctors / scientists use the ENS6Q which ranges from a total score of 0 to 30, and its only considered ENS when your score rises above 11 because a score less than 11 is considered "normal" side effects of turbinate surgery, specially in the dryness and crusting domains. The suffocation symptom which is the tell-tale symptom of ENS is the worst, and it gets very concerning when the fight/flight response is chronic due to the suffocation feeling which completely disables sleep and therefore you become suicidal. I have to emphasize how it literally disables sleep, its not that you fall asleep and the sleep is low quality, no, its that you CANNOT sleep at all, its not possible to fall asleep because your nervous system jerks you awake as soon as you feel drowsy to sleep, its a doom'ish feeling when you are exhausted and you cant sleep at all which very acutely exacerbates suicidal tendencies. Fortunately I have seen that a good number of cases that have exacerbated suffocation (hard to quantify since its so subjective) are usually cases in which a lot of volume has been removed from the turbinate and are usually candidates for implants which have shown to address the suffocation symptom significantly and has been shown to decrease or eliminate suicidal tendencies because they get their sleep back.6
u/ResidentPositive8458If people are on this forum contemplating turbinate reduction. Please re-read the OPs post. This ain’t a joke. It’s a nightmare, even if you get mild symptoms, never mind extreme symptoms. None of the new techniques protect you from ENS. Lots of ENTs will lie, they will reject and gaslight you after. Pharma and the medical system is a profiteering scam. Always go the natural healing route6
u/GrimbochEnts are destroying peoples life because of Turbinate reduction Operation at least they should tell me about the Emtpy nose Syndrom (Leere nase Syndrom, syndrome du nez vide) before the surgery . the op has destroyed so many lives ( Still not recognized)5
u/EchopineExtremely well written and accurate. It’s a literal horror movie if you’re tipped into a symptomatic state. Not worth the risk no matter how small. UARS is bad. ENS is life ruining. Both is incomprehensible. I agree it is the lack of sleep that kills people. I too was jolted awake for many weeks and I thought with absolute certainty I was going to die. Life is still hell and I live in fear of it getting worse everyday.4
u/Grimbochthis is hell4
u/xThrow-Me-Away-JosexWonderful post and so well written! Are there any similar risks one should be aware of with a septoplasty and spur removal? I see comments here about having it in writing that turbinates will not be touched - is that a thing? The ENT world is in large part in the Stone Age - barbaric, non root cause soft tissue procedures that people go into blind to the true consequences. Maybe a septoplasty and spur removal is an example of an exception, because fixing this issue can allow the turbinates to shrink naturally over the subsequent few months. Loved your comment of “your turbinates are enlarged for a reason, find that reason”.3
u/Hour_Hospital_9068I’m sorry for what you’ve been going through. I haven’t had turbinate reduction myself, but my kids (both under ten) had it done years ago when they were 3 and 5 during tonsil and adenoid removal for sleep-disordered breathing. I’ve already struggled with guilt over the tonsil removal, especially since it maybe helped but certainly didn’t cure their issues, but now I feel sick over the thought that the turbinate reductions could’ve damaged their nerves and/or set them up for other issues in the future. The ENT assured us he was conservative (radio frequency ablation, iirc), but what are the chances of this harming a child?3
u/idkagoodusernameeWow, what a post. I can’t even begin to express the empathy I feel you for. I’m scheduled for a turbinate reduction and deviated septum surgery in a few weeks. I developed severe heart failure after the Covid vaccine at 29 years old with an ejection fraction of 8%. They almost sent me home from the hospital because I was “young and healthy, and probably dehydrated stressed out and tired” so the “it’s safe, it’s so unlikely to happen” argument never works with me anymore. I’m so glad I read this, and I really hope to read more from you if you feel up to sharing it. Frankly I’m anxiously awaiting. Words cannot express how much I feel for what you’re experiencing. And thank you so much for sharing. I very much want free nasal airways, so bad. My sleep is starting to really hurt my life, desperately. But it sounds like comparing apples and dinosaurs compared to this. Ugh3
u/PjeseQSo if you're scheduled for FESS but decline any surgical intervention in your turbinates, you should be fine?2
u/Low_Task_7499I have been ising azelastine fluticasone nasal spray lately and it’s helped my sleep. But I am a bit worried now about further use since I have experienced dryness and other things since the turn reduction. I am curious, what do you think were the reasons as to why you developed ENS 8 years after surgery? Did it Get Worse gradually or just suddenly woke ut and had full blown ENS?2
u/Soft-Buy-6999is xlear an ok nasal spray for long term use?2
u/External-Scholar1567This is super well done. Thank you. I’ve had a septoplasty and turbinate reduction done several years ago. I don’t think I developed ENS, but I did just get surgery for Nasal Valve Collapse using the Dolan technique and tightening my nasal side wall. Could this cause ENS too? I’m worried now I’m not even 2 weeks post op. Also, ENT said to use nasal spray rinse. Should I stop that immediately?2
u/bros89Thanks for the write up. Is there anything that can be done to cope or heal?2
u/UARS-StinksThanks for letting other's know and to spare them. Waiting for part 2. BTW: I read about some clinics in Europe treating ENS with capsaicin. You might want to give it a try if you yet haven't.2
u/3wildflowers-5Wow I am so, so, sorry you have had to go through that. Are you doing better now? I hope so. Are nasal sprays and rinses dangerous also for people who have not had the turbinate surgery?2
u/External-Scholar1567Are there differences between radiofrquency, microdebrider, and physical removal for turbinate reduction as it relates to ENS?2
u/Realistic-Dog2630My doctor recently recommended turbinate reduction along with a septoplasty. I told him I did not want turbinate reduction. He secured with me to the point that I do not trust him. So neither procedure has been done.2
u/Mundane_Fig2810Thanks for the sharing, I read the whole thing, but with these questions: Do you think everyone who went through the turbinate reduction will develop ENS at some point post surgery? That sounds scary tbf. If not, what’s the percentage? Are there any warning signs? I had a severe deviated septum with allergic rhinitis since kid, these also resulted a severe swollen turbinate on my right side nose(it is almost completely blocked). 1.5 years ago I did the septoplasty with turbinate reduction specifically at a doctor in Germany who is conservative at it. He reduced it and other doctors say it is still a little swollen after the surgery. I felt really good and nothing weird on my nose ever since, I can finally breath through my right nose again. Should I be worried?1
u/samagreat12I am thinking of getting MARPE, I had spetoplasty and turbinate reduction in December 2024. I feel my left nostril is little bit more open and my right nostril gets congested when I lie down or try to sleep. Will I ever get ens if expand by 10mm? <image> I have attached my cbct which was taken 3 months after surgery.1
u/weird_well123Check the pinned post on r/uars. There's some other info at old.reddit.com/r/ensinfo.1
u/Realistic-Dog2630I’m just brain storming. I currently use an ASV machine. Would an ASV set to a high pressure support assist with breathing during sleep?1
u/Low_Task_7499Do you have any thoughts regarding bipap use and risks of developing ens?  I have had a turb reduction about 2 years ago. I am asking because I sometimes Get dryness if I open up my nose with Intake breathing strips, or even if I just mouthtape without the Intake strips. It seems like if I open up my nose or strictly breathing through the nose at night with the mouth taping that my nose starts to hurt and gets dry. Pondering whether the increased airflow from bipap would somehow damage my nose more, or that the remaining turbinates would not be able to handle it? I guess using the humidifying hose should help. I sort of have to try bipap tho because of the debilitating uars. I also remember feeling that my nose felt too open the first 2-3 months after the turn reduction, but then it went away. Only usually experienced dryness or nose pain if I try new things for the nose such as mouth taping or Intake strips or steroid sprays and such.1
u/PjeseQQuite a bit of comments on expansion being an alternative to soft tissue surgery. Unfortunately, if eg. your recesses are fully obstructed, then I learnt FESS is your only option. No expansion will fix this. Similar story for Haller cells - most of the time, they gotta be removed and that's it. Sucks to be born with faulty airways, I hope I will finally get rid of my REM-predominant shitshow.1
u/angelxdustx101Man I am so terrified of this. I had a septoplasty and turbinate reduction surgery done 3.5 years ago. Doctor only had the splints in for 2 days. I kept having issues with my right nostril swelling and blocking airflow so I had another in office reduction 6 months after the first. Worst fucking experience in my life. Now 3.5 years later I still can't sleep at night because the second I lay down my right nostril completely closes off. I have all this sinus pressure and mucus and I cant get any airflow thru! Only half of my nose works. I have another consult scheduled with a doctor in Las Vegas but IDK if she tells me I need SMR or more reductions done that I have the faith to do it.... But I cant keep living like this either!! Its every single day of my life I go thru this.1
u/turbosecchiaAny danger with azelastine sprays?1
u/United_Ad8618hey did you ever look into blood pressure medication in your journey of trying to tackle the turbinates? For example guanfacine or something like a α2-adrenergic agonist for adhd?1
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47r/physicaltherapyHow much value do you place on manual therapy?TheRoyalShire340%7366.8PRP knee treatment2026-03-12↗
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u/XxHUNTINOxXGood for buy in and to set the stage for exercises.130
u/KingCahoot3627The deeper I get in my career, the less I use manual therapies. But PT is an art. You have to recognize when to use those silly patellar mobs. It might be once per day, once per month, or once per yr. The skill is digging in your toolbox to use your knowledge when its right for the patient59
u/tallpeoplefixerWhat i can't understand is why people get so polarized about others who do manual? As long as the cornerstone of your treatment is progressive overload and exercises who gives a shit if you do 10 minutes of manual first and it makes the patient feel better and gets you a ton of buy in. Nobody who comes to see you with 8/10 low back pain wants to jump into barbell deadlifts despite what you evidence based crazy people think.53
u/PleadInsanityManual therapy is well used for certain conditions, several CPGs have strongly supported the use of manual therapy and given A level evidence towards it for conditions like hip OA/ plantar fasciitis I think it's out of date to think that manual therapy has no business to be in the treatment plan as long as you're doing manual therapy and there's etc.47
u/angelerulastielI believe strongly in manual work. It absolutely will not solve the problem by itself, but I see it as a boost. It helps reduce pain and gain ROM. It helps with patient buy in and builds a relationship. And simple human connection is therapeutic. Trying to treat patients with exercise only is like building a house with only nails. There’s a reason we have different tools. Edited to add the ending that apparently disappeared when I posted.45
u/HammerLite75I’d prefer manual as opposed to almost any modality. Manual then exercise will almost always go better than just exercise. Plenty of patients don’t require manual. I really enjoy providing that service, provided the patient needs it or benefits from it. I do work in private practice so buy in important. I believe that it facilitates trust and a level of care that these patients do not get from other practitioners. It’s been around for much longer than other treatments as well. I don’t think you should be doing more than a unit for almost any diagnosis tho, aside from a B/L or multi joint diagnosis/patient.13
u/Lost-Copy867It depends. For example there are numerous studies linking loss of terminal knee extension to poor outcomes. So if I’m addressing this problem then some manual therapy (extension mobs) is going to be a part of that but I am also going to stress to my pt that performing their HEP to improve extension is the most important thing. Also- if I do any manual I’m going to test and retest every time. I have been an outpatient PT for 12 years and have taken a lot of NAIOMT classes and my overall view of manual is pretty neutral. It has a place but if you are going to use it you should be able defend why you are using it.11
u/drumstixclixPlacebo has a well studied positive effect- therapy is an art! We all know manual in isolation ain't doin sheeit. In combination with adequately dosed ther ex/ther act? Not harmful at worst, and makes the Pt feel good and creates buy in at best. Its a tool in my tool box that I don't discount solely on lack of strong evidence. Totally hear your frustration though, I hate doing it bc in my mind ik the mob/manual alone is barely gonna move the needle in terms of recovery, but I try and remind myself its an act of care and love. Just some OT thoughts11
u/Sugar_on_the_rumpusI actually find a lot of my knee OA patients like joint mobs for pain relief. I'll usually start with them for a few minutes then we get to active exercise.10
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u/lalas1987Sometimes manual is just a method of gaining someone’s trust. Sometimes manual can have an immediate effect on pain levels and that alone will allow the patient to do a thing or two they wouldn’t or couldn’t do before walking in the door. That’s a win. One of the problems with the art of PT is it’s very hard to study, hard to reproduce, and hard to develop really sound research around the manual/psychological/movement combo that a good session might entail. I keep manual in my back pocket and bring it out when it’s the right time. And that’s not for every person. But to say what we do with our hands is not ever effective I have found to be untrue. With that said I haven’t touched an ultrasound wand in 12 years. Taping I do rarely and cupping I suppose the most often.7
u/AlexADPTIt’s whatever The issue is with the charlatan quacks who say dumb shit like how they’re putting joints into place, releasing fascia, breaking up scar tissue, re-aligning someone’s natural chi with their pelvic shotgun maneuver, and the list goes on and on7
u/Spec-TreI use manual to get an idea for irritation around the joint/trx area based on muscle tone, ROM, reported pain, tenderness etc while also building rapport with the patient and figuring out where/when/how activities are still symptomatic. It has value to further guide my treatment and can make the pt feel better so they can tolerate the therex/act I have planned for the session. If it doesn’t happen in a session that’s cool too. I’m not doing manual bc my told me to6
u/jmrdpt19I will use it if my go-to exercises modifications/self mobilizations don't change the pain. I never go into the mumbo jumbo lingo with patients, but sometimes a little anterior tibial glide calms the system down enough that they can get back to exercise.6
u/rj_musicsIt has its place depends on what you’re trying to accomplish.5
u/NeighborhoodBest2944Of course some patients don’t REALLY need at all. But of you aren’t seeing a benefit to patients, you aren’t don’t it right. And that usually comes down to USING the new mobility/range immediately after and giving a home exercise that directly works on that.5
u/Royal-Government3488I often receive patients who transferred from other clinics because they felt the therapist never actually worked with them hands on. In reality, many patients simply want to feel that their therapist cares. They value that human connection and physical interaction. I do not mind spending eight minutes performing manual therapy. It helps me build relationship with my patients and, psychologically, it reinforces their sense that they are being cared for and supported during their treatment. Of course exercise is the best thing you can absolutely do for the patient. That has been scientifically proven. However, patients are humans that want to feel cared for. Nothing more. Nothing less.5
u/Binc42The effects of manual therapy span far beyond just the physical. Are we doing exactly what we think we are when doing mobs, STM, etc? Most likely not. But doing manual helps build rapport, build buy-in, get a feel for the joints/soft tissue in the affected area, and learn things about the patient to help guide sessions. For example, during manual I learned a patient misses gardening but felt “they couldn’t do it anymore”. So our treatment for the next couple of weeks focused on that. And they were so happy to be back to gardening. I’m also a firm believer in the more different stimuli that can be introduced to affected tissue, the higher chance to decrease sensitivity and subsequently onset of pain. Manual therapy should be less than 25% of the session though to prevent reliance or false perception of “the magic hands of the PT”4
u/45SocksToLaunderI like using it for some patients. It helps build the relationship, meet expectations, and can really alleviate some pain. I am biased towards an exercise approach, but I do think we don’t criticize exercise as much as we criticize other forms of treatment. Exercise is also not always so much better than other more passive treatments, which is frustrating, but a reality. I do think we provide a lot of benefit to our patients, but what types of treatments we choose…I think matters less than I would hope. I’m trying to be more of an optimist rather than a nihilist, but it’s hard when you start digging through the literature and find out how little we know. (Greg Lehman terms and influence here).4
u/buchwaldjcI teach continuing education courses on manual therapy to both physical therapists and massage therapists and also teach the soft tissue mobilization lab at our local physical therapy program. With most diagnoses, it doesn't make much sense to make a blanket statement that manual therapy is good for any specific diagnosis. Instead, it depends on what the specific deficits are within that diagnosis. If you take knee OA for example, if range of motion is an issue then manual therapy might be of some benefit. It might also have some benefit in pain reduction and reducing muscle inhibition. In contrast, if the major deficits are gait and balance, manual therapy might not be appropriate. It has a time and place as any treatment. And there is plenty of research out there on it looking at comparing manual therapy plus exercise against just exercise alone and finding an added benefit with manual therapy with certain dysfunctions.4
u/BigGambinoSosaSo would you say therex is the way to go?3
u/Far-Finger8964I feel you on the losing trust part and feeling like we go through alot trends especially with manual therapy. This is one of the reasons that I haven’t spent a lot of time or money getting certified in any particular manual technique. I’m still a very hands on therapist, but I mostly focus on soft tissue to help alleviate symptoms because I find that leads to better patient buy in. If my patient leaves a session in less pain than when they walked in then they’re more likely to be compliant and be an active participant in their PT.3
u/idkshit69420As a COMT I do a lot of manual. I do take ROM before and after but I'm doing ONE technique then reassignment. No I do not do manual on everyone. Yes EVERYONE does exercise. For knee OA specifically, in the COMT program we were to read articles that actually show there was no difference in recovery if we did or did not do manuals for that population.3
u/oscarwillisShould t be about how much value YOU (therapist) puts in manual therapy, but what the patient values. Yes, you need to educate. But a patient not coming back because you don’t meet them where they are…. No bueno for everyone. Shared decision making goes a long way.3
u/BoomerSkunkIt’s another arrow in my quiver.2
u/ReFreshingDepends on what you're doing and what for. For example knee mobs and assisted flex/ex stretch after TKR definitely helps. STM to get rid of perceived "knots"? Not so much. Yes a lot of what we learn turns out to be ineffective but through experience you should pick and choose what you believe best benefits the patient. If you don't believe manual helps in certain cases you shouldn't feel compelled to do it. Now when it comes to using it for buy in, placebo, improving behavior compliance.... Then that's another set of reason for using it and it has positive effects outside of the biophysical model. It definitely has its place in the psychosomatic realm. Just gotta know when to use it for each patient.... It's an art like many have said.2
u/Queen-of-Wands-13I'm a lurking SLP here. Manual therapy was super super effective for me and my tension issues. I do a lot of oral motor and feeding therapy and manual therapy changed the way I could move my tongue even after years of self therapizing. I also work with a lot of babies who receive PT and the manual therapy I am trained in is really helpful for a lot of them (they are generally seeing me for feeding issues but end up at PT first). These babies make progress in both feeding and reduction in tension/torticollis and usually increase in ROM in neck that they have not made with just traditional PT. Obviously I have a small sample size but I see a lot of anti manual therapy thought on here, and it's super helpful for a lot of my patients and myself!2
u/OddScarcity9455Modulating pain, getting buy in and patient expectations are like 75% of outcome. So yes it matters a lot for a lot of patients. (Number is not based on research, don’t come at me)2
u/Extension-Bicycle-54Someone clearly hasn’t seen the karate kid and Mr. Miyagi’s miracle hands2
u/fauxnessNot gonna lie I have a lot of patients leave other PT places because they did no manual whatsoever. They come to me, I do some manual (nothing fancy) and they feel better. Why? Idk but I’ll put my hands on a patient for 8 min if it means they get better. There wouldn’t be a whole profession dedicated to massage if people didn’t think it helped.2
u/capmapdapMy tiny hands can’t do much for obese patients as I can hardly palpate any anatomical landmarks and/or move a limb. A lot of patients now are obese. So no, not doing manual.2
u/deadassynwaVery little but it has its place1
u/climbingandhikingDoeneds on how much my patient values it tbh1
u/finks_finksIt depends on the patient. Some will benefit from it, whether for improving ROM or pain modulation or just building rapport. If a patient wouldn’t benefit from it or doesn’t seem to care for it, I won’t do it. If most of your patients are improving and coming back to you, then you’re fine without it. If patients are not improving or plateauing or canceling, then it’s something to try. Just another tool in the toolbox. Use your clinical judgement.1
u/Big-Count-3329Im a new PTA, but for me personally i like to start off with more manual therapy during the first few visits, however after like 2 weeks max i only save heavy manual sessions for flare ups.1
u/MossyBubbleAs an LMT and CPT who has almost exclusively worked in PT and chiro settings to do manual therapy and teach therapeutic exercises (also working on corrective exercise specialization and potentially going back to school to further my education into DPT) this thread is devastating. Are we not inhibiting overactive musculature to help reduce neural drive and increase activation ability/room for movement in the opposing under active muscle? Are we not using the relaxation effects of manual therapy to ease the client/patient when they’re scared and in pain? Do mobilizations of joints and soft tissue not help increase range of motion? I’m confused. In practice I’ve found that using manual therapy techniques really helps people live with more mobility and less pain - even before the implementation of stabilizing and strengthening movements. Isn’t that the goal? To help people live better in their bodies? Patients/clients love it and loving treatment creates the adherence to it which helps in the long run. Why leave out a good chunk of the equation? I’m serious I truly don’t understand.1
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u/browdoggI love the discussions of previous cases and uses of techniques in this thread. Is there a subreddit where we can discuss pt stuff without endless bitching about the profession? I’d love that-1
u/Dewey_PTProgressive resistance exercise and education trumps all manual therapy. I have taken every manual class under the sun and also gone through a manual therapy/orthopedic residency…it’s useful but only if it helps get the patient off the table quickly and onto progressive resistance exercise.-5
u/VO2VCO2Almost no value at all. Same goes for dry needling & other gadgets. It's very important that we use methods that are proven to be effective in randomized controlled trials. It sounds boring, but honestly, that's the way it is. If doctors don't see physical therapy as evidence based practice, they'll stop using us.-14
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u/pb-snick1You guys aren’t that old, seriously64
u/Prestigious_Rip_289I am 44, very perimenopausal, and every time I have fallen in recent years has been in context of contact sports. I don't think we are at "aging related falling" age yet in most cases.35
u/Acrobatic_Ad7061Not an age related fall if you’re 44.18
u/Person7751i am 65 and have fallen twice this winter once because of my dog and the other ice. i got some scratches but nothing serious. over 40 years of weight lifting have kept my bones strong.17
u/fivebynine5x9I'm a bit older than you and can't say that's happened to me. Mid forties isn't really an age where you'd reasonably expect to start having devastating falls. It really just seems more like bad luck since people can fall and get banged up at any age. I think it would be helpful not to frame this as an old age fall. If anything besides just bad luck, it sounds more like the consequences of being out of shape/low T. Heal up soon though!10
u/Confident_Banana_13444? You’re so young. You need to snap out of it.7
u/Choice-Newspaper3603That’s a lot of goddamn words to say you fell down5
u/ScroogeMcBookBrother, I'm turning 43 this summer & last year I went on a Slip & Slide for the first time in 30+ years. The crushing weight of my 42-yr-old body, landing suddenly on my chest, bruised a few ribs & took about 2 months of daily pain before I could fully heal. A Slip & Slide.5
u/ExcuseApprehensive6872 yo male- very aware that falls at my age can mean other issue( medicare checkups ask “ have you fallen”) Anyway I’m a advid bike rider ( get around 80 miles week in season) and got distracted by something on road - road off road and crashed into a corn field. Landed before corn but totally unhurt- scared the crap outta me. Wife & myself walk / hike a lot. Always looking at our feet ( especially mtn hikes) tooo easy to sprain a ankle or twist a knee.4
u/Effective-Motor3455I’m 63 I had several falls this year. On Xmas day I broke my hip. Thankfully during PT we found why I was falling, it’s a vestibular system issue w my inner ear and eyes. I’m going to be getting help w that now so hopefully no more falls.4
u/Infinite_Violinist_4This is not an age-related bad fall. You listed all sorts of reasons why you fell. I pick flip flops, uneven walkway and not paying attention as top three reasons. If you were 70, you would know all the fall risk around you and pay attention. At 44, this is hardly age related. Sounds more careless. My husband is 75. He currently is recovering from a broken ankle after stepping on the only patch of ice in our driveway and falling. That I would call an age related fall.4
u/soulselfIm 43. 3 weeks ago, my foot fell asleep while I was sitting, working on my laptop. I stood up and tried to take a step and my foot didnt extend. I felt my foot/ankle crack 3 times and I hit the floor hard. I now have an ankle fracture and crutches for the next 5 weeks minimum. That was not on my aging bingo card.4
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u/K21markelI’m 73 and haven’t fallen so why don’t you chalk that up to being clumsy not old age!3
u/plantverdantYou aren't old enough to have had an age related fall. I'm 46 and I have never stopped falling down since I learned how to stand. What you experienced was a health related fall. You should do physical therapy and fix your balance issues. I fall much less than I used to by improving my core strength.3
u/Spare_Objective969744!?! Bruh. Your body is what your mind thinks it is. 44 is young. Stop telling your body it’s old.3
u/xeroxchickYes. Stepped into the stirrup and this young horse just went ballistic and I came off. I used to dust myself off, but this time I broke two ribs. Missing that estrogen. That was ten years ago. Edited to say, I was 53 then.3
u/Beautiful-Low9454Oh yess a few years ago (48 years old then) I got hurt very very bad. Bought my son a drone for Christmas and I was flying it inside the house. The central heat kicked on and started to blow the drone towards my GF. It was about to hit her and I jumped up to try to catch it. I missed, fell on the floor and broke my tibia AND fibula on my left leg. Had to get an ambulance to come and get me. Broke it on December 28 and couldn’t get surgery until Jan 1. On my way to surgery and a bad thunderstorm hit knocking out the power to the entire hospital. Then taking so many pain killers I stopped going #2. Had to go back to hospital to go #2 again. Had to have an enema. Needless to say it was very very bad. Smelled awful. Pushed the little porta potty out in the hallway. 2 poor women were passing by and got absolutely sick at the sight and smell. Hell of a time … so yeah I’m way more careful. My leg is still messed up and I’m in pain every day. That was 7 years ago and still I hurt every single day3
u/kpooo762 have not fallen last couple of years except taking a dive in Pickleball, need to do core and leg workouts until you die!2
u/No-Reading-4384I’m 70 and 2 years ago started to get vertigo. That WILL make you fall2
u/GutRasiertI have MS so it's a bit easier to fall. What I do to protect myself is to build muscle. It helps prevent falls and when you do fall, the muscle is like a protective barrier. We all get weak as we get older. One day if you don't maintain enough muscle in your arms, you won't be strong enough to prevent your face hitting the pavement. Take this as a wake up message and get strong and stay strong2
u/Infamous_Ad8730Ha! Mid 60's here and still riding my dirtbike fast as heck, so YES.2
u/sportgeekz77m. Tripped on a length of angle iron helping neighbor move her chicken coop. Hadn't fallen since learning to ice skate at 61.2
u/dogfitmadYea dude at my gym we have 70 year Olds jumping into boxes and doing burpees. I think you need to get to a gym. It will help with everything. Bone mineral density. Reactions. Maintaining lean muscle mass. If you are feeling like this now imagine in five years..this was shocking to me to read your age. Honestly going to the gym is an investment in your future and longevity of independence. Not walking. Not sitting on a static bike. Weightlifting. Intervals. Bad back,knees etc? Strength training is a necessary for pretty much every issue. Backs need loading. Tendons need loading. Joints need strong muscles around them and good blood flow. People bag Crossfit out but the things I've seen and the transformations in people are actually unbelievable. Not in looks though that is good too I mean in quality of life. Everything can be scaled or changed but anything is better than nothing. Training is like work. We might not want to do it but bro we HAVE to.2
u/ragazza68I haven’t fallen yet but my husband (over 60) has had 2 minor falls - no injuries. He started taking balance classes at the Y which seem to help2
u/ttnezzThat isn’t age related! I’ve been falling in similar situations since I was born and it always hurts. You probably bruised a rib or tore intercostal muscles. The ribs take a bit to feel better you could try and tape them. I’m in my 40s as well and I am not falling more but what I have noticed is that I strain things more easily doing simple things like turning my head to look at something. I’m more cautious when I move now.2
u/PrestigiousJob494Getting pummeled on the market today but you gave me one hell of a belly laugh. 44 ain't old, mate. Long may you live.2
u/Vanhosen77You're 44. You would have to be in awful shape to have an age related fall at 44? You're age played no role in your fall. Join a gym and eat better.2
u/JheritheexoticdancerForty-four? Heck, you’re still a youngster yet. 😉🌸. I live in a major metro area, have two left feet and between ages 20s-40s I fell a lot tripping on cracked, uneven pavements and twigs. Both my knees are now shot and I was told I have arthritis behind both kneecaps and would never be a candidate for knee replacements. I was so glad when I was told that because I do not like the idea of surgery, but others have suggested that I should get a second opinion. But I do what was initially medically suggested, keep moving, so when I’m outside on concrete I always look down when taking steps and/or walking. I went through a period when I got gel shots in the knees and prednisone in the back. For me the gel for the knees and prednisone for the back didn’t work. Now when Arthur screams at me, I use knee braces or sleeves to stabilize them for a few days and I keep it moving. I am 70+.2
u/Embarrassed_Wrap8421The first time I fell was in NYC and I slipped on a patch of black ice and fell. A nice old man who was leaning on a walker came over and helped me up. The second time was at my house, taking out the garbage, and again it was black ice. I don’t feel old but I’m not going to push my luck. The worst part was not falling—it was being unable to get up as quickly as I did in the past.2
u/Glittering-Poetry-88I'm 46 but right before I turned 40 I jump off a wall. It felt like my knees almost shattered. Never jump off another wall since that day. Slowly we learn. 😆2
u/EshabelleThe day after xmas 2025, I (66F) was walking a friend's golden retriever. We both saw the squirrel at the same time, only I forgot to let go of the lead until I was already airborne, like Buzz Lightyear. Splatt on the sidewalk. Bruised chesticles. 2 fractured ribs. It's still a bit ouchie when I yawn or have a good stretch. And really, I'm not sure that's age related, but it felt that way to me.2
u/rapovandanI was 42 and took a nasty spill while on my mountain bike. I hit a tree root and couldn't react in time. Fractured my skull, broke a collarbone, sprained an ankle, broke both a wrist and elbow on one arm, and nearly broke my neck. That was 22 years ago and I still have trouble from that crash. The collarbone didn't heal properly and my neck bothers me to this day. That's a mistake I wish I could have a do-over.2
u/Calm-Age-1784I’m 62 and thankfully I can’t remember a darn thing!😂🤷🏻‍♂️2
u/geth196263 m. I did what I always do, and vaulted over a wall. My hands slipped and I hit the floor from about 4 feet high. That was about August last year, and my shoulder is still hurting. My left forearm was one big bruise that lasted for two weeks, and my left hip was so sore, I could barely sit down.1
u/makeitmake_senseMy dad at that age has fallen on ice so many times ice fishing and coaching ice hockey and never broke a bone. You’re good. Brush it off, you’ll get better. Your bones are still bouncey.1
u/PhillykratomIm 44 as well and have my first major injury in my life. My shoulder hurts constantly and ahav3 an appointment next month to repair. Core strength and legs are super important the older we get. Flexibility is probably.the most.overlooked thing as far as staying fit after 401
u/mjh8212I can remember being a kid and my knee buckling and I was able to stop myself from falling. At 41 I became a fall risk it was like my knee didn’t want to hold me up and I was 275 pounds my patella didn’t even look like it was in the right place. I’m down to 160 still falling. I learned two months ago at 47 years old I’ve been hyper mobile my whole life. Now I have subluxations in my hip as well as my knee. Down I go. I use a rollator for balance. Also two months ago I started showing signs of pots. I passed out and banged my left knee in the same spot twice in two days and have a wicked bruise life is fun for me right now1
u/fartaround4477I started falling after being put on BP meds. BP gets too low which ruins balance. I reduced the dose of beta blockers and walk more carefully now so no more falls I(for now). If your T is low try Maca herb which is energizing. Avoid dairy which can be contaminated by estrogens if cows are given bovine growth hormone.1
u/GinsdellOh yeah. 58 In the bathroom, naked, screaming and crying at the same time. Took a month to recover. I’ve never been the same. I couldn’t trust the tile floor or the shower for at least 6 months. I’m still stupid careful.1
u/Red-is-suspiciousI’m 45F and my husband is 50. No falls like that. I star My husband was also bed bound in hospital for two months in Nov and Dec and he’s back to feeling pretty good physically with his PT and doing all activities. You need to have an exercise routine that also focuses on balance and strength. This isn’t age related so much as it’s sedentary related and maybe some uncoordination/balance issues that could use neuromuscular retraining type techniques. Did you know that simply exercising and lifting weights can bring your T up naturally? Also there’s ways to get T that aren’t through insurance and can be actually cheaper.  Like I mentioned I’m 45 and a woman so I have naturally low T but I did add in 10 mg a wk as I started a very physical job at Home Depot and I’m keeping up very well with just a little extra nutritional support. I’m lifting cement and mulch bags regularly and going up and down ladders. And there are MANY older men working their butts off there as well - 60s and 70s men regularly step in to help me grab pavers and carry bales of straw or 2-3 bags of mulch to my 1 bag. This is just their retirement gig they do a few times a week too!  My mom is 75 and walks 15 miles a week and does all sorts of isometric stuff and HIIT and Plyometric type things and she’s quite stable and steady. Be active and make fitness your priority and I think you’ll have a new song to sing.1
u/boho_magpieI went roller skating with my kids in my thirties (birthday party). Here I am thinking it’s like riding a bike and since I used to skate in junior high all the time, it’d be fine. Don’t do it. It is NOT like riding a bike. Pretty sure I broke my coccyx. Definitely had a hard time sitting upright for about a month.1
u/tickled_your_pickleAlmost 44, tripped over my own feet Saturday, crossing a street.  I skinned my palms and cut my knee but mostly I was super embarrassed (so much traffic and it was in front of a packed McDonalds). My mom hit 70 and started to decline: tripped over her own flip-flops and broke her wrist/slammed her face into a counter, broke her hip going down stairs (fortunately she lives in an apartment building so someone found her fairly quickly), plus dementia.  I'd say were not doing bad with our scrapes and pulls1
u/BKowalewskiLast time was almost 20 yrs ago when I slipped on ice and chipped my elbow.. nothing so bad since and I'm 74. I seriously never fall1
u/RealtorRVACityI am glad you brought this up as I had a super hard fall last Friday, legs went right out from under me and didn't have anything to grab onto. Cowboy boots and wet tile are not my friend. Landed butt first, skinned on knee, and have been sore ever since. I went down HARD but a week? Sheesh, this sucks. I am just glad that I didn't break my tailbone which I did during the Covid lockdowns and that took 2 years or more to heal. Yikes.1
u/TrainingLow9079Around 45. I wasn't injured but felt lucky not to be.1
u/TigerbatonYou are 44, this wasn’t an age related fall, it was a trip after a bad step. Kids trip, teenagers trip, adults trip. Sheesh!1
u/CheesyTotI do the funny slow walk when I walk in wet areas, cause I don’t want the fall1
u/TetonHikerFalling in your 40's due to age? Kind of early for that kind of thing. I'm 75(F) and have had zero falls so far. My 78(M) hubby has started to have a few due to some balance issues but it just started around age 76. Maybe you need to take stock of your physical fitness and make some changes. It's early to be falling due to age. I mean accidents happen and anyone can fall at any age but if you think your condition is getting worse, then you might want to get checked out medically first and then hit the gym if you need some strengthening. Do it now before 50-75.1
u/rather_be_gamingYep! I remember twisting ankle after falling off a ladder. Not even high up ladder. Anyways, ankle hurt like a mofo. Went to see doc and she said its not broken. I said so it will be better in a couple weeks? And she let out a big hearty laugh. She said a month or 2. I wasn't 20 anymore. That humbled me.1
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u/Aim2bFitThose aren't eye bags but dark circles. Eye bags mean that there are physical bulges or pouches raised on your skin under your eyes. Dark circles can be caused by: 1) pigmentation problems, which you can try to fade using any anti pigmenting product (trial and error as everyone reacts differently to the same products) 2) genetics which, not much you can do about it other than acceptance 3) lifestyle like not getting enough sleep or living a stressful life or being deficient in certain nutrients, so a lifestyle adjustment is needed to remove them 4) hollowing of the undereye areas, which can be corrected with either fillers or fat grafting81
u/Internal-Crow-3333If it is genetics, its kinda hard to get rid of45
u/emeraldforrestDon’t think its too bad. You have beautiful eyes44
u/IwKuAoYou do not have any “bags”, your skin is smooth and tight. You are not a candidate for fillers. You might benefit from PRP to help with the darkness. But concealer is your best friend!15
u/UJKRIOp do you suffer from allergies often? If yes, then try to get that under control first and use a good eye serum like the aminu one.7
u/desertprincessxoYou have beautiful eyes! hydrate and don't let the beauty industry standards affect your self esteem :)5
u/moon_witch_26They are not "horrendous"!!! You have beautiful eyes 😍 and many people happen to find these darker under eyes absolutely gorgeous 🥰4
u/moschocolate1You don’t have bags. Those are dark circles.4
u/s1696jMine looks the same. Ive tried multiple eye creams nothing really works. I think it gets better when the health conditions get better. Im working on that now.3
u/sono_onaThis is sadly just being an adult. My makeup doesn’t even cover mine anymore3
u/smugglingkittensYour eyes are stunning3
u/callamouragirl they fine if you wanted to cover it with makeup i would recommend a peach concealer on top to neutralise the colour with ur skin and then ur regular concealer over it3
u/Justmelululu1Work less and hydrate from within2
u/jsepublicWork the muscle and lymph underneath. I'm figuring all this out as we speak. Also, hyperpigmentation.2
u/Worldly-Emu-2740Seems like we have similar skintone and undereye pigmentation ! Twins. You can read about different types of under eye bags and pigmentation. I would do that first .. I also don’t see any eye bags love I think it’s pigmentation I saw improvement w beauty of Joseph revive eye creme. Pls note it has retinol and niacinamide, so pls ease into it. Even at peak use, im only using 3-4 times a week.2
u/carabear85Those are dark circles but eye bags2
u/evicciFor my dark circles, I useMurad’s Vita-C Eyes Dark Circle Corrector. My skin is lighter, and my under eyes are bluer, so maybe a retinol or green-based serum or concealer would help you more. For daytime I use a tiny amount to tone down the dark circles. At night I use more as a mask because with consistent use it will lighten. But they only have light-skinned results photos on their website, so maybe shopping for a vitamin c serum design to treat under eye dark circles & proven to work on variety of skin tones would better suit you.2
u/latheez_washarumi only see eye hollows sis :| well at least you don't have bags. let's try and look at the positive 😭2
u/cassattaYou don’t have bags. Your eyes have some dark circles. See if you can find a sunscreen that doesn’t sting your eyes and wear a concealer over the sunscreen. UV and blue light protection will help. But genetics can be a strong and play a role in whether or not you can completely eliminate them2
u/Effective_Grand_9726Those aren’t dark circles they are NATURAL EYESHADOW2
u/Lazy-Substance-5062Hydrate a lot. The more i use concealer on that area, the more it gets pigmented/dry/irritated. What worked is polynucleotide with peptides skin booster undereye injections. Its a korean invention but not globally recognized/fda approved. Look into clinics that does this. Great for internal hydration and brightening2
u/Crafterandchef1993Eye cream and eye brightener2
u/Ashenshapedashthey are lovely2
u/Aromatic-Muffin-538Go to a dermatologist who does beauty treatments, I recommend micro needling or plasma or maybe salmon dna. I have similar dark circles and she suggested plasma (PRP) or salmon DNA. Apparently the skin under our eyes are super thin and the darkness is our veins showing, so we need collagen or more fat in the area (something like that).2
u/captain-ignotusIf it's any consolation, I was too distracted by your pretty eyes to notice any dark circles ahaha2
u/TvgirllovrPRP treatment2
u/jess_m19I just wanted to say I think they’re really cute! Ik you feel a different way about them because they are on you, but I promise no one else sees them that way2
u/dcgradcConcentrate on what your positive traits are . Beautiful eyebrows1
u/ShrimpCerealFlakesIf you happen to use lash serums, the ones containing prostaglandins tend to darken the pigment around the eye area which can probably make your concern worse, speaking from experience as well as a fact1
u/Slow_Medicine820Looks like it’s genetic. Have been trying different eye patches and they definitely help brighten the darkness. I’m currently using Nurse Renee’s eye patches and they are so good!!! Tried the charlotte tilbury ones they are ok too but didn’t feel hydrating enough.1
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u/kurumi-2508Right knee but the wrong mbappe 😭😭😭 holy fuck man342
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u/Kalpesh_Knahh this one is hilarious 😭109
u/loadedhunter3003This is genuinely the funniest thing I've seen hahaha93
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u/MoreanSwordsmanBut was it the right Mbappe?27
u/sBand6032The situation's so wild you just gotta laugh at this point. Idk what our doctors were smoking that day, but that must have been sth strong 😂16
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u/Valveringham85Good meme 👌10
u/madbunny89Good one, bro! I laughed ( which is so rare on this sub ) and I also saved it. Thanks for the good vibes!4
u/jipsjipslmao it never stops3
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u/Ch1va5The right knee, but not Mbappé's - third time's the charm 🤷‍♂️3
u/Neither_Log1046Damn that's funny af2
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u/Solari6This shit is too funny ahahaha1
u/Inevitable_Spend_102This is hilarious 😂, I'm sure kylian will be laughing so hard when he sees this 😂😂.1
u/DailysPicksYou only have one job1
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u/Kuttoosan47Fucking hell😂😂1
u/Animatrix_MakOut jerked by r/realmadrid post incoming on r/soccercirclejerk1
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u/TheKingPin16Lmaoo made me spit out my coke1
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51r/mattxivharry potter isn’t real, but you are. happy trans day of visibility ♥️ConcernedJobCoach5050%1064.0PRP knee treatment2026-03-31↗
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u/kyriaki42Unironically, looking at these statistics is what convinced me to finally take the plunge, ignore all the gaslighting and get top surgery. I knew I wanted it, knew it would make my life so much more livable, but had a lifetime of people telling me I didn't know what was good for me. Best decision I ever made.21
u/Jenderflux-ScFiI forgot the regret rate for Harry Potter tattoos, but it is higher than the overall regret rate for tattoos. I love all my trans sisters, brothers, and siblings 🏳️‍⚧️🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵🏳️‍⚧️18
u/JaebberishTrans rights should never be compromised, it’s all or nothing. Making a compromise on trans rights, is like making a compromise on how many hostages a kidnapper should get to keep. All people are equal. Everyone deserves rights. “Normal” is inherently subjective. End of discussion.8
u/snertwith2lsI support trans rights and the rights of all people to decide what it means to live their best life. I admit the idea of surgery really makes me queasy so I figure if someone decides to go ahead with surgery, especially now knowing there's such a phenomenally low regret rate, then they must be totally committed and I absolutely support them in their decision. Edit to add thank you so much for this post!6
u/demon_twink_gockieSeconded. Any law restricting trans folks must be defied at every step. It is not enough merely to demand freedom from the oppressor. Freedom must be TAKEN from the oppressor.2
u/retrofrenchtoastWhy do people regret knee replacement and corrective spinal surgery? Do they make things worse so frequently?1
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52r/VAClaimsIncrease claim denied as “not service connected” - makes no sense?Any_Let5221130%7662.7PRP knee treatment2026-03-22↗
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u/Creative_Raise_8682Not attending the c&p was not thr right move. If they schedule another one, show up for it.39
u/Gatesofhell2120You still have to go to the VA exam. Technically speaking you can choose not to go, but if you don't they are going to deny you. It doesn't matter whether you have private DBQs or not or what the claim is for, you still need to go to a scheduled C&P exam. After the exams the VA MIGHT look into your DBQs. I don't know who told you you don't need to attend the VA's exam or why, but they fucked you over if you listened.34
u/Quirky_Republic_3454For openers, Ree medical is not VA approved. Secondly, missing the VAs C&P exam was a huge no-no. How many mistakes can you make on one claim? Go find a VSO. You have no idea what you're doing.14
u/Lennydawg57You should have went to the schedule C&P,13
u/Caliente_La_FleurIf you are scheduled for C&p for increase and you don’t attend it is an automatic denial, per M-21.13
u/97lifeAttend VA C&Ps. For heaven’s sakes. The sheer foolishness9
u/Wesley832Look on the bright side, Doug Collins says there's no back log.7
u/Majestic_Try906I just don’t understand not going because you submitted private DBQs. No matter what you submit, if they schedule you, then you should be going. They usually want to make sure that the information is accurate. Not really a smart move, in my opinion.6
u/Big-Hovercraft1331Post the decision narrative with PII and QR codes redacted.5
u/Big-Hovercraft1331My suspicion is the rater went to do blanket denials for the increases due to you refusing the exams and used the wrong narrative. You can do an HLR due to the decision being for service connection and not for increase and ask the reviewer why they found your DBQs to be insufficient. You believe they were sufficient. If the reviewer still finds your DBQs insufficient, you didn't attend the exam then at best an HLR will correct the narrative.5
u/WithHeavenOnTopWhy would you miss the C&P….they are literally trying to help you.5
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u/GulfWarVeteran1991What do the folks that told you not to go to the c and p exam have to say about this?4
u/Emotional_Childhood6😬……they told you not to go to your C&P………😬3
u/DealerofTheWorldLol can I know how much you paid for this amazing advice3
u/Big-Hovercraft1331Did you physically meet with a REE medical examiner?2
u/nawlforealIts also very unusual to deny two conditions in one issue. In this case left knee and cervical spine. It makes .e wonder what the Rater did because if you are already service connected the decision process for building the decision is different and this would be easier and faster to deny an increase than a claim for service connection. I would request a HLR. I am assuming only two of rhe conditions are service connected since you at at 20%.2
u/Creative_Raise_8682Not attending the c&p was not thr right move. If they schedule another one, show up for it.2
u/SharingKnowledgeHopeSounds like they answered the wrong question: “Is this serviced connected?” Unfortunately happens a lot with the first level review. Request a higher level review, with a telephone discussion. You can explain it to them, they will straighten it out.2
u/kev_mimsTo deny a C&P is probably not the best choice... REE is definitely on the VA watchlist. Cease-and-Desist Directives: The VA's Office of General Counsel has previously directed REE Medical to "immediately cease" activities that the VA considers unauthorized or illegal representation under federal law.2
u/Brilliant-Flight5314Yall get bad advice always attend exams regardless2
u/Lennydawg57People are always trying to use other faculties that are scammers that only want money and bad advice. I hope it works out for you but I don’t think it will.1
u/WishSuperb1427Well, I have never heard of REE medical, so I will not vote on if that is a good idea compared to a VA certified attorney or a VSO. On to the second part of the question though…. which honestly may lead back to the question of who REE medical is and what they do… Why again would you skip a C&P exam?!? It’s kind of a thing where a medical person hired by the VA confirms that what you are claiming is an actual medical issue…. Seems to me like a thing you might be will to miss a tee time or a business lunch for but um?!?! Yeah I am not surprised skipping it was a contributing factor to denial.1
u/FirmCarry1931Baby just file again.1
u/Successful_Pea_2528Ok, you filed a claim for increase on these conditions and we denied service connection? Did you claim new issues with the increase?1
u/Careless_Distance557You guys need to realize....not going to an Exam is a risk that you should not be willing to take..it doesn't matter if you have private medical opinion or DBQ...go to the exam.1
u/No-Survey-569Never miss a C&P, and sorry don't pay for claim sharks. If you pay for representation be sure they are a VA accredited attorney or claims officer.1
u/OofUghGenuinely so confused about why you didn’t attend your C&P exam? Private DBQs are purely supplemental.1
u/Educational-Star-375Always go to the exam the Va schedules for you. You got scammed brother1
u/Medical_Barnacle_240Just to clarify, “REE Medical” filed an increase request for you and on your behalf? If the answer is yes, then they - REE Medical - are the ones who screwed the pooch. My advice to you would be to contact a VSO through your local VA hospital and/or your county VSO (assuming you have one). Third parties always make this look easy, but they do so to enrich themselves at your expense. Never trust them.1
u/Excellent_Cupcake749Stop using outside entities for dbqs. Use the dbqs you are given appointments for. The more you poke the VA the less likely you are to receive the compensation you deserve. You did it to yourself. I went from 20%-90% by myself and only going to the c&p exams appointed by the Va not outside sources1
u/ScoeDaKidd6767go HLR1
u/New-Courage-7052F you and anyone who uses those 3rd party companies
u/Willing-Persimmon401Contact me, let's get you paid. Anyone else, contact me, it's time for a real change.-7
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53r/MAFS_AUAlissa's treatment of David - a racial element?kocknocker1980%12861.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-30↗
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u/Fragrant_Try_8060Alissa wants David to crash out, not because of his skin color, but because she needs a certain level of combativeness is her relationship. That’s what makes a ‘man’ to her. David not rising to the bait is why makes him less of a man, in her head a real man would never let her bulldoze him the way she does with David. What becomes an issue and where it does become a racism thing, is her as a white woman not understanding or even being aware of the position she is putting him in and why that’s not okay. David said his calm demeanor was an intentional choice he made before coming on the show, and one can only assume it’s so he wouldn’t be portrayed as an aggressive or angry black man on national television. Alissa is a stellar example of a white woman who sees herself as non racist and better than that, but she hasn’t actually done the internal work to recognize that dynamic there in an interracial relationship, and she very likely hasn’t deconstructed a lot of the subtle and internalized racism that comes along with living in a society that is run by and for white people. It’s not enough to say you’re not a racist, you have to put in a conscious energy into proving and cultivating a space in your day to day that is safe for people of color, and that is not what we have seen from Alissa34
u/aaidpIt made me uncomfortable her saying he was weak etc, almost like she was baiting him to become aggressive and fall into the stereotype. But I suspect she’s just so self absorbed and clueless she hasn’t even thought about it that way. The way she keeps describing herself as “loud” in a way that’s positive is a dead giveaway. Sure, society rewards extroversion but she doesn’t realise shes bloody annoying.29
u/CamillaBarkaBowlesSome people (ADHD mainly) get dopamine from conflict. And David gives no conflict and Alissa gets no dopamine. here is the link26
u/friedonionscentI don't know...what I do know is that she's incredibly annoying...the type who thinks she's the spark in the room...when all she does is suck the ambiance and replace it with her chaotic, self-stroking energy. She's performative and doesn't have a nice vibe at all.23
u/anastasia_42I feel like this is looking for racism where there isn't any. But I have to say ever since Alissa made him kneel at the wedding you could tell why she was single.22
u/Peacock_chopra-8098I'm American and I learned when I was very young that you don't call Black men "boys." It has a racist history. Her comments to David have made me uncomfortable, like when she said "He thick" -- like, please stop! I think she would have likely mistreated a white guy but I do think there are racial undertones to some of her mistreatment of him.22
u/Top_Effect5135I don’t think it’s a race thing, I think it’s a “she’s a nightmare” thing. Why is Gia so vile to Scott? Because she’s a nasty cow, that’s why.20
u/-Mantaforce-No, she’s just a massive bell end19
u/SapphireColouredEyesLike everywhere in the world, Australia has some racist people too, but calling black men "boy" is such an American thing, soo no, I don't think it was the least but racist, and was in fact quite affectionate. Lots of people call men "boys", and it's just affectionate.  The making her groom kneel down before the marriage was planned ahead of time, and she did not know he would be black, so your friend will have to try harder to find racism in a relationship where there wasn't any.18
u/justrachxoI think she planned the "get down on one knee" thing in her head well before she even knew who she was marrying, so no, I dont think that has a racial element to it. I did like her until David met with bec and she was upset that the screen shots were brought up. The way she spoke over him and didnt hear what he was trying to say was obnoxious. Since then, I think we can just see that she is hard work and thinks shes better than everyone else. With the travelling the world bs that she kept mentioning and "success".18
u/verytallericI thought the core issue is simply that she feels superior to him. Is race part of that? Dunno, maybe. What I think is comical is that I see him as a much higher quality person to her. She's lucky to have him, not the other way around. He's better to dump her17
u/Marlene21xI have been thinking the SAME! But I’ve been too nervous to bring it up! I listen to a lot of live discussion panels on TikTok related to race and interracial rships in America, and there’s always a lot of talk about white privileged women with black men, and how they treat them as less than, even on a subconscious level - and how the black men in those rships have to always be extra cautious because of the racial bias the police have towards black men or society itself in general has… I have wondered if this is why David has been much more cautious of how he comes across, and why Alissa feels she can get away with several of her behaviours. I felt such unease when she commanded him to kneel, or how she ordered him to carry the cheese platter to the table, or when she was abusing him when she couldnt feel comfortable sleeping at the retreat — it all just felt like some sort of master/servant rship 🫤 But I would love to hear how this has been viewed by other black ppl — if they have seen these undertones or we’re reading into this deeper than what it’s been?17
u/choiboi29She is so self absorbed. She tells David he is weak and needs to speak up. He tries to talk only for her to continue to talk over him.... It's so frustrating to watch him try to get a word in, only to get shut down and then she closes it off by going "ugh I'm so tired of doing everything" 🙄 She must have got a really good edit cos we're starting to see the reason why her mother even says she is 'too much" at times16
u/ScumhookDo you think she would be like this if the guy were white? Yes. I initially thought she was an obnoxious twat. I then softened my stance when they all piled on her, and thought she handled it well. Now I'm back to the OT assessment.15
u/brgr77As a Black american, there's no way you can have this conversation in this forum lol. They'll act like they dont know what youre talking about Just know we're talking about it over here and have been since the premiere14
u/TwoToneMoonstone_Probably not intentionally. I think Alissa would have been patronizing to all of her partners it just hits the ear wrong because David happens to be black.14
u/Lanky-Conclusion-952“Talk to me” while talking over him!14
u/sickiesusanI felt the whole wedding ceremony was uncomfortable because of this. Would she have done the same with a white man, we will never know. But I also don’t like her using the word ‘boy’, it just doesn’t sound respectful.13
u/Bubbly_Status_9112Yeah I clocked this too. But more in the way of how she'd speak in a blaccent to him 💀 "This ma husband, girl!" Etc13
u/SweetTalkRiverNo, I don't think it's about race. It's about her wildly inflated opinion of herself. Any guy would go through hell with her11
u/Healing-and-HappyShe calls herself a girl, so I don’t think her calling him a boy means anything derogatory for her.11
u/mustxproteccalso in the beginning when she kept going on about finding her nigerian prince and made all these sexual jokes about him based on his race it just felt a little icky…10
u/oceangal2018If there are guys on this chat please know that not all women behave this way. We just don’t. These women are all a little unhinged.10
u/Junglerumble19I think you're reaching. She'd planned that stunt at the wedding no matter who was at the other end.8
u/Fantastic_Ad7023I don’t think it has anything to do with race tbh. I think she is somewhat pretentious (money wise) and very high maintenance. That stunt was pre planned so would have happened no matter who the groom was.8
u/SherylizeI feel like people say this way too quick once there is POC involved...8
u/Diligent-Ostrich-812The getting down on a knee would have happened no matter who she was with. She planned it. I don't think any of it is about race. As for using the word boy, some of my friends use that term and their "boys" are white. It is sort of a term of endearment to them, but in reality, I think they think their men are dumbasses, so when they are sayig it, it doesn't sound at all respectful to me. I think Alissa treats David like crap, but that is because I think she is a princess and thinks she is better than him and better than most people.7
u/jaidennabellShe tells him to speak up "babe", but every time he does she speaks over him and shuts him down. He says he wants a voice. She says use your voice babe.. And still shuts him right down7
u/qftvfuI think the only racial element is that David is doing his best to remain composed, and she's just walking all over him and not shutting up, shutting him down when he DOES speak up, then complaining he isn't opening up. I really want to understand what kind of conversation style she expects from someone, other than just listening and agreeing to her nonstop nonsense.7
u/Immediate_Put_9963I wouldn't say it is deliberately racist, but as a white women she should have more awareness of some of the things she says and makes him do. I think Alissa is quite self-centred generally, aswell as unaware of racial dynamics. Although, thinking about it some of her jokes do make me uncomfortable 'tall black' etc. I do kinda think it's a bit fetishizing. In saying all of this I do know from MAFS funny that David himself has some pretty disturbing/misogynist lyrics in his rap music and is friends with straight Chris (who is know to have violent tendencies) . I point this out not because it excuses Alissa's behaviour (because it doesn't) but because I don't want to feed into a narrative that the dynamic is as simple as Alissa - Persecutor/ David - Victim7
u/Loud_Reach_2156I guess you would have to ask David7
u/Swimming_Pass3603Nah. I don’t think so.7
u/romoladesloupsIt has made me uncomfortable at times, especially the kneeling. He seems to be enjoying it but her attitude to him comes over as fetishising6
u/finalgirlemilyI think she had that planned out regardless of his race. I can’t speak on her further behaviours after seeing how much they cut out of the show6
u/Background-Rabbit-84I think she had planned the get down on your knees thing regardless of race. However it becomes very relevant when the groom is black and she should have changed her plan the moment she saw him It’s more about her being clueless to racial issues than racism6
u/PlateFamous1793I gasp every time she calls him “boy”. Other than that, I don’t see any racist undertones but tbh that’s enough for me. But to be completely fair, these ppl aren’t well read, they’re not history buffs so she’s probably unaware of it, which potentially makes it worse idk. The lesson of the day is to stay in school and to read.5
u/mathking89No, I don't see how any of your reasons suggest she is being consciously or unconsciously racist at all. I think she'd judge any man/"boy" for not having as many assets as her, no matter their race. This is because this happens all the time between all kinds of people. If he was white, I think she'd be pointing the same criticisms at him.5
u/MinD_EroSioNWhen she calls him "boy", I've haven't heard it come across as racial, but given the times we're in, I think it's just an attack on his manhood. Which isn't any less of a red flag. Nothing like Bert Newton saying it toward Muhammad Ali at the Logies in '79 😆5
u/249592-82I suspect Alissa treats all men like this, and that is why she is still single, yet wants to have a family. I don't think David got special treatment. I do think they are not a match. And yet again, the producers put 2 people who are not a match together. He is Christian, she isn't. He lives in Bris, she is in Adelaide. She is loud and attention seeking, he is calm and thoughtful. All they have in common is: they both want to be famous, they both are hot, they both like the gym, they both live in Australia.4
u/craziestlittlepixieDavid had every right to call this out when it happened. Making a black person show submission to her, especially on a tv show 11% of Australians watch isn't at all ethical. If she had pre-planned this, then it should have been obvious to her not to go ahead when she saw David. But she's either naive and dumb as shit, or just a piece of shit4
u/Negative_Surround_12She's just participated for the AIR TIME....nothing else.3
u/Mother_Size_7898She just needs to stop talking for a minute and let David talk once in a while. I don’t think she means anything racially. A lot of women (me included) call men “Boys” all the time.2
u/Quirky-Knowledge4631Yes his race is a factor. He should have never bowed to her. That set the president to treat him as less then2
u/Spirited_RuinMusing into the void here, but I notice a few comments around this discussion stating that 'boy' isn't being used as a slur by Alissa because the term doesn't have the same connection to its use here in Aus that it might in the US. However, I think it's worth examining as a micro aggression because anybody with an internet connection may have picked up on its use from TikTok reels etc, and while they may be ignorant of the context, they're still using it in a way that causes harm?2
u/MelE5150We really didn’t get enough tape of them to be able to tell. But a few comments feel off to me about both of them. He seemed eager to play along and I get the vibe she is the type he wanted. Soooo <image>2
u/Beneficial-Koala-670We all know that when it comes to minorities, generally the experts are not going to match you with one unless that is what you specifically requested as your type. They usually are not going to risk it. I think that she probably would have treated any of hermatches like this. She's got that big girl boss energy which there's nothing wrong with that but she wants it both ways.1
u/Still_Cicada1472No. Not everything needs to get infected with American-style racial obsession. She's not an innately nasty person like Gia or Bec, but Alissa has revealed herself to be incredibly self-absorbed, selfish and high maintainence. Even during tonights episode, she was intercut saying that David is a good man, but he's the quiet, stoic type, while she needs a high energy personality to bounce off and constantly stimulate her. That sounds fucking exhausting to me, so I can see why she's still single. But race? No. I dated a half-black/half-white American woman, and when she called me "boy" she didn't do it with nasty racial connotations, it was just her style ("I struggled to find you on socials, I told my friend 'I cannot find this boy anywhere!!'" Etc).  Morgan Freeman said it best that if you want to reduce racism, then stop talking about it. Judge and hold people to the same standards and the immutable characteristics start to melt away.-4
u/wisperingdethNo.-4
u/PollyRRRRAww, and there was I thinking it was twoo wuv. I’m so disillusioned now, sob.-7
u/ilovebbcitvThere's a huge financial disparity between them. Alissa has created her brand and wealth, David has not. I beleive he works multiple jobs/gigs and rents his home. It depends how one defines success.-18
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54r/patientgamersBeating Assassin’s Creed 2 as a Pacifistcoolwali2430%6860.1PRP knee treatment2026-04-01↗
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u/GwynFeldYou should post this in the AC sub. I think people will be more receptive there. It's a bit too niche for this one.199
u/Desperate_Acadia_298It’s a simulation of memories. So you’re not actually killing anyone. Despair meter: 0. There I saved you a lot of trouble.76
u/SplayFullMake a YouTube video houle have an audience for those types of runs32
u/coolwaliHere's Part 2 I couldn't fit in the main post: Sequence 13: Bonfire of My Patience Sequence 13 Memory 1: Florentine Fiasco The mission starts with Ezio needing to sneak into Florence, which is now under Savonarola's control. The city is crawling with guards. Fighting is everywhere. But the objective is simple: reach Machiavelli without being detected. I blend with monks. I avoid patrols. I use the chaos of street battles as cover. For once, the mission doesn't demand blood. Just patience. I reach Machiavelli. He explains the situation. Savonarola has used the Apple to control Florence's leaders. They're oppressing the citizens on his behalf. To stop him, we need to eliminate his nine lieutenants. Nine forced kills. The number settles in my stomach like lead. Memory 2: Still Life The first lieutenant is an artist, preaching that art is corruption and beauty is temptation and everything should burn. It’s the most Florence sentence imaginable, and it makes me feel sick. The mechanics don’t care how I feel. The mechanics want an assassination, and so they get one. Hidden blade. Quiet. Efficient. The confession is worse than the kill. He admits he wasn’t forced. He believed. His self-doubt did the rest. +1 Hidden Blade kill. +1 Enemy killed in a fight. Memory 3: Climbing the Ranks This mission is basically “run.” Guards everywhere, archers everywhere, and the target is above you like Ubisoft is trying to remind you that even righteousness still has a vertical difficulty curve. You can finish it without a direct kill if you’re lucky and fast enough, which is maybe the cruelest part: the sequence keeps showing me tiny doors out of violence, and then locking the next nine in my face. +0 to everything. Memory 5: Last Rites A priest on the Duomo, praying for deliverance while the city rots beneath him. It’s hard not to hear the irony in the Latin. Harder not to hear the exhaustion in Ezio’s “Requiescat in pace.” He’s older now. So am I, in a way. Not in years, but in the number of times I’ve had to tell myself, “This is necessary,” and pretend that makes it lighter. Hidden blade. Another notch. Another name. +1 Hidden Blade kill. +1 Enemy killed in a fight. Memory 6: Port Authority This is the one that weaponizes my anxiety. If anyone sees you, you desync. The game doesn’t want you to fail because you were violent. It wants you to fail because you were noticed. I successfully used the "Superblend" glitch here. I clung to the ship like a barnacle, invisible to the guards' eyes despite being three feet away from them. I felt clever. I felt like a master of the system. And then I reach the merchant, who is calmly explaining how starving people is a good way to make them obedient. The Apple didn’t invent that idea. It just made it easier to say out loud. Hidden blade. Quick. No spectacle. +1 Hidden Blade kill. +1 Enemy killed in a fight. Memory 8: Hitting the Hay A farmer is hoarding hay like it’s a moral crusade. He talks about resources, about economy, about “simple” work being vital. I almost respect the honesty of it. Oppression doesn’t always wear armor. Sometimes it wears practical boots and tells you it’s for your own good. Hidden blade again. And again the confession doesn’t absolve him. He wanted respect. He wanted to be seen. He got power instead, and used it to tighten the noose. +1 Hidden Blade kill. +1 Enemy killed in a fight. Memory 10: Doomsday The preacher is the worst one because he’s loud. He screams about famine and disease and corruption like he’s auditioning for a modern comment section. The crowd listens because fear is convincing, and because it’s easier to follow someone who promises certainty than it is to admit you don’t know what comes next. When Ezio kills him, he says the quiet part out loud: He didn’t need deception. He already believed. There’s no Apple to blame. No mind control to point at. Just a man who chose this, and a city that let him. Hidden blade. Another prayer. Another “this is not easy.” +1 Hidden Blade kill. +1 Enemy killed in a fight. Sequence 13: Memory 11: Power to the People. Savonarola drops the Apple. A generic Agile guard picks it up. "Surely," I thought, "I can just tackle him." I chased him. I tackled him. He stood up. I punched him. He shrugged it off. I threw smoke bombs. He coughed, then ran away. This nameless NPC is immune to everything in the known universe except a sharp piece of metal in the gut. +1 Hidden Blade Kill. +1 Enemy Killed in a Fight. Sequence 13: Memory 12: Mob Justice Savonarola is tied to a stake. He’s screaming. He’s praying. He’s terrified. Ezio says, out loud, that no one deserves to die in such pain. And I agree. Completely. So I end it quickly. It’s mercy and it’s murder at the same time, and I don’t know which word feels heavier anymore. +1 cutscene kill. Only three memories in this whole sequence let me keep my hands clean: Florentine Fiasco, Climbing the Ranks, and Arch Nemesis. Ev20
u/ttfnweThis is very clever and I totally see the appeal. Happy you had fun.20
u/Lord-NewbieGenuinely fun read lol - 1. Most likely since I'm a big AC Fan of the original (Desmond Arc) series. AC2 as one of my favorites games ever, and I also think of it as one the most revolutionary games of its era and most definitely if its genre. 2. You're a hilarious writer, which made this fun to read. I've seen reviews on here that equally as long so I don't get the complaints, but maybe because those game happens to be their favorites and the original AC series doesn't have much fans (most are usually only fans of IV). This was great, cheers!17
u/FrankConnor2030A masterpiece. Please finish this. I want to know if Desmond finally cracks under the weight of his guilt. Also, you could carry this on to the next couple games as well. Ezio gets pretty old, a lot more opportunities for his morals to be tested.6
u/five_of_five… yeah you should probably make videos5
u/squirrel_trotThis is actually hilarious. I love it.5
u/Gummy_JoeThis is the kind of take on gameplay that would've done gangbusters in the ol' SomethingAwful Let's Play community. Fun read, thanks for sharing!5
u/en1malTLDR but incredibly comical doing a pacifist run in a game with the word "assassin" in the title. I love it srsly - I recognised that about myself - i always try to clear games lets say diplomatic and with as few casualties as possible and love games that actually have a framework that makes it possible. Stealth games are so cool.5
u/extraextraextr"Ezio Audiobook" and "Desmond Miles Prower" had me laughing out loud for an embarrassingly long time. 😂 Thank you for this, I'm saving to read the whole way through ASAP.4
u/YouMeAndReneDupreeLucy isn't played by Emma Stone, she's played by Kristen Bell.4
u/VariousAirThis is what this sub is for.3
u/CheatcodeAUthe AC games are weirdly perfect for this kind of challenge because the assassination targets are technically "justice" but all the guards are just doing their jobs. played through AC2 normally and always felt a bit uncomfortable mass murdering city guards just to get through a crowd. this makes me want to revisit it with that lens3
u/Kaleidoscope-360Congratulations, you completed Creed 22
u/RefloniVery impressive, we will watch your career with great interest2
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u/-TheManWithNoHat-I won't lie I kinda skimmed through this just to get to the part when you eventually have to beat the shit out of the pope Sad it wasn't in this post, but I did read through it and holy shit it was entertaining1
u/alttestbenchAC is my comfort game, atleast until Black Flag, then Ubisoft starting naming all their medeival simulators AC, with none of the gameplay or charm of the Desmond/Ezio games.1
u/cdrex22Always enjoy a good tale of playing a game the way it was super not intended to play (shoutout NBAY2K). I like the image of Ezio playing wall ball with the poor guards of the city while screaming "I am a pacifist!"1
u/nian2326076If you want to beat Assassin's Creed 2 as a pacifist, focus on stealth and evasion. Avoid fights by blending into crowds and use smoke bombs to escape tight spots. Get good at parkour to move around without dealing with enemies. For tougher missions, find alternate paths or use distractions to get past guards. The game often lets you complete objectives without fighting, so be patient, and you'll find ways to achieve your goals peacefully.1
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55r/AcneScarsTreatment for scars co2 with subcision or co2 with prp and revitalisationTasty_Jury8842150%1858.7PRP knee treatment2026-03-26↗
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u/bee_zahIt might be the lighting but I think your skin looks really good? Maybe a few microneedling sessions but it’s pretty smooth.9
u/SangitaCPatelMDCo2 fractional (or Erbium fractional) and PRP is a good combo2
u/RoutinePrune7887Les lasers ont aidé ou pas ?1
u/MedicalProgress7220Hi, your results look great! I have similar scaring would you mind sharing the doctor you went to I’m having trouble finding someone who does subcision!1
u/Unlucky-Eye-3886Which fractional co2 laser was it?1
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56r/soccercirclejerk🟥BREAKING🟥: Real Madrid insider leaks internal ChatGPT historyFaresAlN3110%1756.7PRP knee treatment2026-03-25↗
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u/JustaBSJfanWhich big black footballers they talking about?32
u/GrapefruitGloomy8493Director of medicine at RM: Dr nick riviera16
u/Emp31High effort jerk right here13
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u/EmbarrassedEffort725Pep Guardiola baldness?! 😏🤷 Weird! 😆2
u/pitch_black01I don't know what's worse, the fact people make these things for views and likes or the fact people think its real 😂2
u/Flashy_Pollution_996Hola, ChatGPT, Vinicius está llorando otra vez. ¿Qué suplemento debería tomar?1
u/MjolnirnerdAny way this is real?1
u/ParticularCattle5647Victor Kompany tactics summary = Use your head1
u/ImadDdopestAlso what do i feed Vinicius ? (no racism please)
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57r/InterstellarKineticsA Study Of 10,000 Knee Arthritis Patients Across 139 Trials Found That A Knee Br...InterstellarKinetics450%256.3PRP knee treatment2026-03-30↗
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u/InterstellarKineticsThe ultrasound ranking is the buried finding that should alarm a lot of physical therapy patients. Ultrasound treatment for knee arthritis is common, frequently billed, and according to this analysis of 10,000 patients is the single least effective option of the twelve therapies tested. Meanwhile the two treatments that topped the list, knee braces and warm water exercise, are among the cheapest and most accessible interventions that exist. This paper is essentially saying the healthcare system has the cost-effectiveness relationship exactly backwards for knee osteoarthritis: the expensive high-tech options underperform and the cheap simple options lead. That gap between evidence and practice is what clinical guidelines are supposed to close.1
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58r/IndianSkincareAddictsI had posted about my journey on isotretnoin. This is an update, 3 years later.Zenodorys730%8055.4PRP knee treatment2026-03-10↗
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u/I0l0l0l0l0lOmg Dude you're so handsome 🫣🧿33
u/whatevaa007You’re a fine piece. My my11
u/Cloudsinmytea1Whatever you say Honey10
u/ghuchusI am on isotretinoin currently. The mental peace that comes from not having painful acne all over my face outweighs any of the negative mental health effects of the medicine itself. Sunscreen is a must otherwise my face burns if I am out in the sun. One thing though, I face some acidity and take Pan D as prescribed by doctor, other than that nothing8
u/SnooGoats2271Smash next question6
u/basilsalmonshitI’m currently taking it. I’m so glad my dermat put me on it because nothing has worked for my cystic inflammatory acne. My acne wasn’t hormone induced so I was a perfect candidate for isotretinoin (according to my derm) Month 3 tomorrow. Started with 10mg for 20 days and 20mg for 40 days. I’ll start 30mg in 10 more days. I’m still breaking out although it’s wayyyyyy less intense. I had headaches for 5-6 days in the beginning but it’s been smooth sailing since then. Your post is giving me hope.6
u/ExaminationFail25Handsome af.6
u/RodrickJasperHeffleysean o pry who ? 🎵 I'll be your blonde tonight, if that's what you like Stilettos and fishnets, if that's what you like I'll be you 🎵6
u/ZenodorysDamn bro 🥀5
u/Working_Elevator_101Great results.  Ya man I also started it I did  20mg for 40 days,  30mg for 3 months,  Now currently doing 40mg for 4 months.  But the main issue is most docs in India prescribe you like this 5-20mg for one month then stop it and  use adapalene +benzoyl Peroxide. But isotret doesn't works if you don't take it's full cumulative dosage. Even I had to argue with my derm just to prescribe isotret full cumulative dosage. Isotretinoin is not even as bad as people think. People might drink alcohol, eat all the fried and oily stuff nd high carbs slop  for thier lifetime but still think that 1-2courses or isotret will nuke thier liver. It's insane4
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u/Affectionate_Form646i love u too yaar😞🙏🏻3
u/gutkeepsmeltingSyrianpsycho real id se aao 🔥3
u/Bet-ExoticDesi henry Cavill3
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u/superlazypandaMan you're damn handsome. That jawline ufff, does it cut fruits?2
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u/99problemsandfewI've just started it!  I'm having a bad acne breakout rn. Did you purge as well?1
u/Mimi_lunaIt's been only two months for me (currently on 20mg for a some time) I'm not getting new acne but the dark spots are bothering me a lot 🥲 when will these go away 😭😭1
u/HypeonthecloudWhat is ur skincare routine rn , r u using the tret cream version1
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u/Successful_Fan_9352On my 3rd month. I’m purging really bad. This is the worst my skin has ever been i literally hate looking at the mirror. Op is there any way to help the purge?1
u/cutebutpsycho30I’m on it too, but I’m also taking Wysolone, which causes acne. So this medicine and Wysolone kind of cancel each other out 😒1
u/pskin2020Post isotretinoin...what peel and other treatments you opted for1
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u/Legitimate_Matter695How did you get that jawline? Workout routine?1
u/Foreign_Sky_7903Isotretinoin does wonder to the skin. Only problem is when you have high cholesterol and that’s why I couldn’t continue with it for long1
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u/summerbreeze29I'm glad it worked for you and you didn't have any side effects but the "absolutely false" part is a little much imo. Your experiences are not universal.
u/akdakd1102Your results are excellent! It is, however, not false that Isotretinoin can cause increased liver readings, mess with mental health, is not safe for pregnancy, and cause side effects to joints etc. This is well recorded and studied. That doesn’t mean it happens to everyone. Obviously if the side effects happened to everybody it would not be approved for the market. These cautionary statements exist because it is a possibility, which is why medical supervision is required. I’m glad it worked for you, and you’re feeling good about yourself!
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59r/webdesignI just redesigned a hair restoration landing page..... is this good ?codes_swalih380%7552.4PRP knee treatment2026-04-02↗
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u/DunkingTeaColours are ok. Check contrast (particularly for the text at bottom middle). New one doesn’t really give off anything to do with hair/hairline. Image would be better updated to be close up of head, or comparison slider showing before and after in an animation.22
u/Successful-Escape-74Need a guy with hair on your hero page. That's a high hairline.19
u/jjjjjjojjjjjjIgnore the haters who are being obtuse. There is no conceivable way the before is better. The new design is aestheticlly very nice and conveys more information while still looking cleaner. My suggestions would be to improve the legibility/contrast of the lower text, and I would personally have the teal background full width/height, removing the white framing. But honestly a great job7
u/Stunning-Usual-6693I liked before option. Sincerely I do not like site where owner is the major part of it.. just my opinion. However, colors and fonts and everything looks great on new landing page..5
u/JJE1984What's it look like on mobile? It's where most of the traffic will be?3
u/TumbleweedOk7307Honestly really good but the only comment I’ll give you is that hero section photo kinda have a receding hairline… a bit counterintuitive to what thw business is3
u/madcodezHeader nav(links) isn't centred.2
u/otrdtrYour version is way more impactful. Maybe the photo could be more interesting.2
u/Unlucky_Quote6394The new version looks so much better! For the hero section I think it’d make sense to have a background image (maybe a blurred photo of the clinic) with the owner in focus on top of that image. With just the owner and a green background it looks a bit empty2
u/lemonsnakcOut of curiosity, did you use ai to make this?1
u/Main-Lifeguard-6739depends... did the target group change from middle aged men to young woman?1
u/sf8asChalk and cheese mate. The new design is much better. Perhaps instead of showing the doctor, show a before and after.1
u/Bitter-Arachnid-5194That guy shouldn’t be on hero definitely1
u/Kevin_fartAny design for architure or structural engineering1
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u/BNfreelanceYou took it from boutique/chic/local business to fully fledged commercial service - I approve I’d sprinkle in some more hair1
u/Impossible_Many_2823looks actually nice, could you share the website?1
u/No-Praline8782I like the direction of the new site, but old one visually conveys “hair…” better. If I don’t read the header I’d have no idea this site has anything to do with hair. I get it the owner but, it doesn’t make it the best choice in my opinion.1
u/wildmfz561I think the dude needs a black rectangle behind him or something. Dark blue doesn't go well with that green color. But his photo itself isn't a good example for hairline growth. Also the white frame looks yellowish? doesn't match other white elements. There's way too many different colors in general. Two shades of white. A green color, blue color, black. Try sticking to 3.1
u/parkerprojectWas this vibe design?1
u/parkerprojectWhy not?1
u/sureshsanghviYes Absolutely better than that and would like to know the steps you follow.1
u/kg-060215I really like your new hero, the new colour feel better than the before, more contrast with the text. I like that you put up the picture of Dr Charlie, it creates a sense of trust for me, that "heyy, he looks like a good doctor". Also like that you sticked with one main CTA this time for contacting. Thank you for taking out that long nav bar and putting everything under services, and for putting the snapshots of reviews, the types of hair services and results his customers get, I feel its a solid hero, and would urge me to continue scrolling, or if I w.as looking for this type of service, book a consultation1
u/Prestigious-Can1696Bro its looks great. colors, symmetry everything is good. Just one recommendation from my side you can try adding some visual elements like illustration etc that tell the brand story more clearly. By first look people should know what it is for. Apart from that everything is good 👏🏻.1
u/dead_toyouold site with the updated header be perfect. looks more elegant and less "corportate"1
u/vi_whoNice, now it looks like a good ai slop webdesign
u/CentrezBefore is better-1
u/NiteKore080i thought they were swapped the after looks good but very generic and off putting. you know that feeling you get when you see advertisements? the red flag feeling where you try to avoid advertisements and viruses? that's what its giving the before feels a lot better, natural and fits the theme. the hair and comb background admittedly does a lot of the heavy lifting i didnt look at any other details. those are my very raw, initial thoughts and feelings-2
u/Money-Relation3640The before looks way better-4
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60r/KneeInjuriesMy experience with Chondromalacia patella-ouT--70%551.2PRP knee treatment2026-03-13↗
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u/mynameisnotearlitsEnvelope of Function- Scott Dye2
u/RemoveOk628Hey, happy to hear you're better now! I'm dealing with knee pain as well and sitting for a long time at work is really painful... Did you experience the same ?1
u/BSBorthoOur average knee PRP patient reports 5% improvement at 1 month, 30% at 2 months, 60% at 3 months, and 80% at 4 months. Not sure if this fits your timeline. Either way glad the combination of PRO and Exercises did the trick.1
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61r/beginnerrunningKnee pain: causes and treatment?LiedvonderErd340%1051.0PRP knee treatment2026-03-16↗
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u/BisonThunderclapIt's time to stop running and walk right now. The fact that this pain persists outside running means you should take it seriously. You don't get a lot of leeway with ligaments, especially in the knee. Get it checked out by your doctor, because you don't want to fuck your knees up for life because of someone online confidently telling you "it's probably just an overuse injury." Read this part after the doctors: assuming it's nothing serious, this looks like something Id expect out of worn down shoes or ones that aren't right for your gait. Also, with the extra weight you currently have, I'd caution you avoid road and sidewalk running until you're down a bit in weight, that's a lot of pressure to put on cartilage. If you're dying to work out hardcore until then go swimming as a low impact solution for the joints.9
u/Educational-Train-92I'm f32 started running at almost 130kgs and 5' 11. I would recommend weight lifting to build muscle tone, yoga to make sure you're stretching properly I just follow yogabyadriene on youtube at home she has a lot of 30 day courses and seeing a podiatrist to make sure your shoe fit is correct. Also don't go from 0-100 your body needs to build up muscle tone. I have terrible knees though they're both hypermobile and have arthritis in them and since building muscle tone I have no pain with my running. I have a personal trainer and a physiotherapist I see occasionally too.4
u/GritGrinderSeems like where your MCL is. You might need to cool it a bit and work on your running mechanics while caring for your joints and staying hydrated etc2
u/Accomplished-Role835I really would wait a little longer and focus on walking for now. Walking is still a great exercise and I did it a lot while postpartum with all 3 of my babies. In my experience, I’ve found it takes a little while for your body to get back to baseline. You spent nine months with your body stretching to accommodate your baby and it’s going to take some time for your body to readjust. You will be able to run eventually, but for now, give your body some grace. :)2
u/Soldado_a_TraderCreo que si ya que cuando alimentas a tu bebé le estás proporcionando los nutrientes más puros de tu cuerpo, yo creo que sería mejor que realizaras únicamente caminata en lo que alimentas a tu bebé, y ya después empieces con un trote suave y lo incrementes poco a poco. Pero lo ideal que consultes a un especialista
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62r/stemcellsOut of curiosity: knee pain treatmentComfortable-Fox-566120%1950.1PRP knee treatment2026-03-25↗
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u/InnominaAnatomicaThere was recently a great discovery. Inhibition of the 15-PGDH increases PGE2 which causes cartilage to regenerate as hialine cartilage. In mouse of course. Im a researcher and im trying to get to do an experiment on dogs (pet dogs with severe arthrosis), as a mid step. The other day speaking with a traumatologist, she was really interested, so maybe in a couple years we could try this on humans… Do what you need, but if i could, id wait for 2 or 3 years.5
u/brockloisl456another chatGPT generated scam post by this user who seems to be pushing the same shitty clinics in every post he makes4
u/Cissylyn55Look into prp2
u/jonnychimpooWhat kind of injury are you dealing with ?2
u/Ryan_MedConsultantTotally understand the hesitation. From what I’ve heard after asking doctors, some regenerative knee treatments have been used for years in China and aren’t necessarily considered “new” there. That said, outcomes still seem to depend a lot on the exact diagnosis, imaging findings, the doctor’s experience, and whether the case is actually a good fit. If it were me, I’d want a very clear explanation of what problem is being treated, what the realistic outcome is, and at what point surgery becomes the better option.2
u/Bodigaron1981If you have access to an orthopedic surgeon specialized on stem cell therapy I would ask him directly with your medical reports and imaging. If you don’t have one I can get the feedback from one of them for you1
u/ThanosFishermanBro what kind of surgery? What's the diagnosis?1
u/Extension_Move1094I would give stem cells a try for sure. My knees have improved so much after 25 million injected into each knee. Also, research walking backward. For me? I would do anything to avoid knee replacement surgery seeing all My friends with mixed results. With arthritis, you can’t wait until it’s the worst stage and expect SCs to help however. Better to do it sooner. I would recommend talking to Dr. Ivan at the Carabella Clinic in Tijuana and go from there.1
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63r/floxiesLevofloxacin 500mg: Pain in finger joints and on the ligament behind knee after ...suffer_hero50%549.7PRP knee treatment2026-03-22↗
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u/Niceshoesbr0Sounds like you are at the right place, here is all the info you need at the beginning https://www.reddit.com/r/floxies/comments/g8cs97/new_start_here_old_please_help_here/ Probably all the pain you didn't have prior to starting levo comes from these antibiotics. One of most important info i can tell you for now is that, if you are taking any pain meds like nsaids, those are likely making things worse for you now.1
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64r/MedSpaIs PRP effective after CoolPeel laser treatment?Obvious_Relative587720%1449.1PRP knee treatment2026-03-13↗
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u/Wonderful-Bass6651It does not penetrate 10 microns, it is more like 100. Nevertheless, the laser is powerful enough to reach the papillary dermis which is as deep as you can go and still be in skin. With that said, yes. You can use PRP after the treatment.1
u/sheesh_aestheticsCoolPeel is very superficial. PRP applied afterward mainly helps with healing and skin quality, but it doesn’t penetrate deeply enough to drive strong collagen remodeling. If your goal is deeper collagen stimulation and better PRP delivery, RF microneedling combined with PRP or PRF is usually a stronger option. The needles create deeper channels and the RF energy stimulates additional collagen, so the growth factors can work more effectively.1
u/gripNripskiYou can definitely use PRP on top of a CoolPeel. At 3W it’s going around 40 microns into the tissue. At 5W it’s going around 65 microns into the tissue. It’s most likely getting to (or close to) the DEJ and the evaporated columns of tissue will soak up the PRP like a sponge. Just make sure it’s a real CoolPeel system. Lots of places advertise that treatment when they are using a lower powered device, and that will mess your face up.1
u/Lazy-Substance-5062i love coolpeel! i did 2 sessions on my chest to remove old acne hyperpigmentations and it was effectve. tho, i think it needs to be maintained every 18-24 months as they're showing again (due to sun exposure). also re PRP/PRF, i didnt do those. but i used the spa's recommended aftercare product which is a light gel comprised of retinol and copper peptide. for reference , i also did fraxel (Clear and Brilliant) but i feel that coolpeel has better results, tho longer downtime for me about 6 days.1
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65r/MeniscusInjuriesHorizontal meniscus tear (red zone). Huge progress with PT. Is it possible to av...rexgenial40%448.0PRP knee treatment2026-03-08↗
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u/Party_Goose1239Hi! I’ve got a similar tear although my patellar tracks inward. I’ve been a lot of progress with PT but still think I might need surgery, meeting with the 2nd surgeon, a sports specific guy, this week. I think a big factor is what type of activity are you trying to return to? I’m a long distance runner who l loves trails, so I need a lot of trust in my meniscus.2
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66r/WorkersCompDoctors are a joke amd trying to leave me impared.Viking_Warrior10%2147.4PRP knee treatment2026-04-02↗
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u/fontimusSo you denied treatment due to a needle phobia? C'mon. You're 27. Get with the program. I've experienced post-dural headache after my third epidural injection when I was 18, a life-altering experience of pain and misery that words can't describe. Genuinely traumatic. I'm 37 now. Two days ago I got my fourth epidural, a bilateral injection (so technically two epidural in one sitting). I was scared. I told my Ortho I was scared, and why. He understood, gave me some anti-anxiety meds to dissolve in my mouth when I got to his office the day of the injection. Still scared, I trusted the doctor to do what he needed to do so I could be treated. I shut up, laid down, and ignored the world around me while he injected me. You are causing your own misery and difficulties. Go to therapy if you need to, but stop denying treatment based on fear and hypochondria.9
u/KmellowwTypical bone spurs are not work related. They happen over time. It could be a fall aggravated it but I don’t see it being likely that it caused it.5
u/Head_of_LettuceSounds like you rejected the treatment offered to you? I get being scared of needles, everyone is. But that’s life, you half to do the uncomfortable things if you want to heal.2
u/Bradley4u2nvYou cannot have the word Viking or warrior as your name and cannot handle needles. Hope you get some relief though. Hire and attorney to push for the treatments you need maybe they'll need to be done under anesthesia.2
u/Specialist_Okra4080Any specialist or second opinions1
u/Traymond26Cmon …. Blue collar and scared of needles ??? Bro do what you gotta do to get better. Best of luck 🍀1
u/BirthdayExpensive451Why are doctors a joke??? Seems like a harsh statement. If you don’t do well with needles you certainly wont do well with surgery. Ever had surgery? I would guess the surgeons don’t want to touch you because it sounds like whatever they do you will rant and have more problems. Bodies do heal—-except yours.1
u/Even_Tension_204Usually you'll have to do some other options (PT, PRP, walking boot, etc.) before you can get surgery. As someone who's had both feet done, I'd make an effort to do the other options first as surgery is not guaranteed to make it better. Problem is, you have to wait a few months after PRP to see if it worked or not. Surgical recovery takes a few months to a year for full recovery depending on how it goes. You may be walking after a few weeks, but likely would still be in pain and sore. Start thinking about other careers in case you don't get back to 100%.1
u/Zealousideal_Bet336If it is a bone spur then they will say it’s not work related get an attorney
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67r/VeteransAffairsPRP Injections for Knee OsteoarthritisBoner_Sun0%1345.9PRP knee treatment2026-03-26↗
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u/FragrantJump6663In general as far as I know from working on the civilian side of health care… PRP injections are not covered by insurance or Medicare. Worked at the VA now 16 years and no patients that I have ever worked with in physical therapy has had them. Now that isn’t a guarantee that no one in the VA does them. I always say… every VA is slightly different from each other. Different vendors, different items they supply or don’t supply. Edit: if your knee is absolutely destroyed it sounds like you are headed towards a knee replacement. They don’t do stem cell replacement either at my VA4
u/beekeeper727You can get them but it is quite the journey in order to get approved. Each VAMC has different protocols on who gets approved and how many approvals they can give. I tried to get them for my lower back and it took almost a year of trying and advocating and they still denied me, but my neighbor was approval for a similar issue in about 6 months! Keep advocating, hoping you get what you need.3
u/nurse-12345678I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, sounds incredibly frustrating, especially when you’re trying to stay functional day to day. A couple things to clarify that might help you advocate for yourself: • An MRI isn’t what’s used to diagnose osteoarthritis, X-rays show OA. MRI can show soft tissue detail, but it usually doesn’t change management in advanced OA cases. • If your OA is truly severe (“bone-on-bone” with significant functional limitation), relying on repeated injections, whether PRP, gel, or cortisone, is generally not considered a long-term solution. Even PRP, while helpful for some, isn’t strongly supported in advanced OA. • You’re absolutely right to be cautious with frequent cortisone injections. There is evidence they can accelerate cartilage breakdown over time, especially if done repeatedly. • If your knee is as bad as you describe, it may be time to have a serious discussion about total knee replacement (TKR). That’s typically the definitive treatment for end-stage OA and often gives much better, longer-lasting relief than injections. PRP is one of those treatments that sits in a gray zone, some patients swear by it, but the clinical evidence is not strong, especially with advanced osteoarthritis.3
u/DBasUrMomOr the “person” your wife spoke to lied…who randomly discusses their spouses medical issues with a stranger?3
u/DriftingtheDriftlessYou have all the right answers already. Not all VA’s do it, maybe the other guy lied, or maybe they did do it at one point but the provider that did it left, etc… As far as your question about Community Care though, the answer is No. Because PRP is not FDA approved to treat the condition it can not be authorized by CC. I have heard of it accidentally being covered in CC as the TPA erroneously has paid it, but the rule is CC can’t cover it if it’s experimental.2
u/FoxPast175Not every VAMC will do it. Or has the ability to offer it. Mine would love to start offering them but it literally takes an act from Congress to make it happen.2
u/Fine_Researcher_15I’ve received prp in my shoulder at a va hospital. This was within the last year.2
u/Thehaas10Just go get a knee replacement. I am 39. I got my hip replacement 1 year ago. Best decision I ever made. I was service connected for it previously so that does help. I live in Charlotte. Idk if community care could get you into a Neogenix style place but ultimately stem cells are going to be much longer lasting than any PRP injection is going to be. If you have deteriorating OA in your knee you should go see an orthopedic PT and go from there. I am an orthopedic PT and I see twenty plus cases of knee OA every week. While I can't help all of them, I can make a difference in a lot of them. Also while an MRI is beneficial a plain X-ray is all you need to determine extent of OA. Unless you have some meniscal issue as well. If you have a meniscus tear PRP could help but also depends soley on the type of tear you have and the location of that tear. Blood flow in the menisci are not great and that's why most of them get debrided vs repaired.2
u/Dependent_Squash1602VISN8 nfl offers it1
u/Admirable-Mud-3477Stem cell therapy for arthritis in Mexico. The VA does a disservice to veterans loading them up with pills when there are extremely effective treatments that actually help you live a life free of pain. But we gotta travel outside of the U.S., spend countless hours doing research to find to best doctors and the best treatments abroad, and pay out of pocket, which compared to the US, everything is so much lower in costs. If not Mexico due to the current conflict, I highly recommend you do research on stem cell therapy in another country (Columbia, etc). Living in pain is just asking the VA for more medicine that doesn’t help you in the long run. Sadly.
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68r/MeniscusInjuriesDebating 2nd PRP injection.Capital-Just10%1045.0PRP knee treatment2026-03-19↗
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u/Bulky-Battle7926Injections don't heal anything. Get a repair surgery.1
u/RacacooonieFor me, my one and only shot kicked in about a month after I got it. I had improvements in pain and ROM that lasted me six months. In the first month of waiting for it to work I was not worse - just my baseline chronic pain and limitations. I would ask your ortho about other options or the need for a new MRI to evaluate for other causes of your symptoms. Conversely, could be time to find a new ortho! It took me five tries - five different orthos to find one that could actually identify the source of my pain and recommend the right treatment.1
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69r/KneeInjuriesPRP - shot in knee cavity and VMOFantastic_Silver_37010%1045.0PRP knee treatment2026-03-18↗
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u/suspens-I had prp done on my meniscus. Hurt like hell. Felt like my knee was going to explode. Knee was swollen for 2 weeks . Very tender after. My used to click during every step. Doesn’t anymore. Would be nice if it lasted longer2
u/RacacooonieFor me it didn’t kick in for a month. Then I had great relief and improved ROM for about six months.1
u/Live_Series1806Have you tried a muscle stimulator? I recommend the brand complex, they make a great product, sometimes can be put through insurance with a physio/chiro note for a portion of it. Its allowed me to build up strength he might VMO and get certain muscles firing that were dormant after my surgery1
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70r/KneeInjuriesWhat treatment should I pursue after my knee injury?Mountain-Many476620%344.1PRP knee treatment2026-03-08↗
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u/Imaginary-Pie-7935In september I tore my MPFL. My knee buckled and I heard a pop and couldn’t walk on it, went to the emergency room and I got an X-ray but they informed me they saved MRI’s for immediate head injuries. If your local Urgent care / ER will give you an immediate MRI I would suggest going there for same day treatment. If you have any old pairs of crutches I strongly suggest walking on those for the time being. Call your ortho department today and request an evaluation as soon as possible and explain that you have a suspected ACL tear. You will be triaged as urgent and seen within the week.1
u/Sbauer1875Check to see if there are walk-in Ortho offices in your area. That would be your best bet! Urgent care can usually only do X-rays, whereas the ER has the capability to do more in depth imaging. A regular Ortho office may only see you if you have a referral from your PCP. It just depends on what resources you have in your area. Good luck to you, I hope wherever you go, they can get you feeling better! I have both of my knees replaced, so I'm very familiar with how painful they can be.1
u/Puzzleheaded_Cap2017Hearing a pop during a side impact in rugby is something doctors take seriously because that mechanism can involve ligaments like the ACL or MCL. The fact that you still have some movement and can lightly bear weight is encouraging, but it doesn’t always rule out a ligament injury. Most people in that situation start with urgent care or a primary doctor just to check for fractures and swelling, and then they usually get referred to an orthopedic specialist if a ligament injury is suspected. An MRI is what typically confirms whether it’s a partial tear, sprain, or something involving the meniscus. In the meantime, rest, ice, compression, and keeping weight light on the knee usually helps prevent further irritation until you’re evaluated. Right now does the knee feel unstable or like it might give way when you try to turn or pivot, or is it mostly soreness and swelling?1
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71r/KneeInjuriesAnyone done PRP injections and for what knee condition/injury specifically?Dry-Homework334440%43.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-31↗
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72r/Scholar[Article] Comparative effectiveness of a 3-month treatment for knee osteoarthrit...Fragrant_House131720%242.8PRP knee treatment2026-03-10↗
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u/GD4E1https://www.mediafire.com/file/at7h1f8f46b9g91/1-s2.0-S1063458425001773-main-safe.pdf/file1
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73r/PICLDextrose vs Stem Cells - Inflammatory ResponsesVarious_Shape167810%341.1PRP knee treatment2026-03-20↗
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u/Chris457821Dextrose prolotherapy works by injecting a substance that causes local cell death and injury because it's hypertonic (more concentrated than the body's normal fluids). For most patients, the inflammatory response would last about a week and then positive results are seen in 4-6 weeks with complete healing in months. These healing times are generally shorter in most patients because the effect is small (small amounts of local cell injury, inflammation, small amounts of local repair). Bone marrow concentrate containing mesenchymal stem cells initiates repair through paracrine signaling and coordinating a repair response. The repair initiated is generally bigger than prolotherapy. Recovery from the ePICL procedure is very different because unlike in simple prolo where only one thing (mid-line posterior ligaments) is treated, in this procedure multiple structures are treated (ligaments, joints, nerves), each that heal on different timelines. To see all of the structures that are commonly treated, see: https://youtu.be/MuX6LRH6EmM?si=PUDi3UNesRhQey7X2
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74r/KneeInjuriesWhat helped you with your pain?ExternalSignal923920%140.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-09↗
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u/MechanicalGodzillaIf she has osteoarthritis, her options are fairly limited. Typically a joint replacement will make worlds of difference (I have an artificial knee). There are newer forms of treatment, like microfracture procedures and PRP/stem cell treatments, but those seem to be more recommended in the early stages of cartilage degeneration. Otherwise, maintaining a healthy weight will reduce joint stress.1
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75r/CervicalinstabilityIs PRP and prolotheraphy help for CCI? And do we need to get align first before ...Deltaanchor40%3339.9PRP knee treatment2026-03-25↗
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u/PenniieI had PRP in my neck and didnt notice any difference, felt like i threw away $1,300. The only thing that has helped my neck pain is nerve ablation, I get it done every 6ish months. I have alot of hypermobility in my neck but no obvious structural issues to my spine in that area, so its mostly ligament issues, inflammation, and nerve irritation, but it causes severe issues for me.5
u/Regular_Road3045Helped me majorly (stem cells and prp) I didn’t go down the alignment AO route4
u/Responsible-Sell5834You do not need an alignment before treatment, or ever to be honest. I would ask your PRP MD if working with a chiropractor is safe before having any adjustments done on your neck, people with CCI are at a higher risk for being injured by adjustments.3
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76r/AskDocsHurt my knee weeks ago and doctors treatment plan hasn’t helped.Kyzer57710%239.8PRP knee treatment2026-04-03↗
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u/DerVogelMannShould I be concerned and go to a hospital for further testing or continue following my Doctors original treatment plan? Neither, this is not an emergency and does not belong in the emergency department. You should follow up with your doctor. Medicine is often iterative, we have multiple lines of therapy/investigations. It would be inappropriate to order things like order a knee MRI every time someone bungs up their knee as 98% of the time most MSK injuries like you had will resolve with time. It's not "well, X doctor said do this and it didn't work so they're useless". Follow up, as the current situation is different than it was 3 weeks ago as it didn't get better.2
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77r/Scholar[Article] Pyarthrosis of the Knee Treatment ConsiderationsSubstantialFinish95710%239.8PRP knee treatment2026-03-29↗
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78r/Scholar[Article] The chimera of reaching a universal consensus on platelet-rich plasma ...Master-Director-92910%239.8PRP knee treatment2026-03-23↗
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u/GD4E1https://www.mediafire.com/file/z9ho5ao97cfpx1x/The_chimera_of_reaching_a_universal_consensus_on_platelet-rich_plasma_treatment_for_knee_osteoarthritis__a_review_of_recent_consensus_statements_and_e.pdf/file1
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79r/cervical_instabilityHas anyone been to Dr. Stogicza for treatment recently? I want to know how you a...Tricky_Context28870%1239.0PRP knee treatment2026-03-17↗
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u/JewaldGood question, sorry I've been in and out of the sub for a bit, challenging year so far. She and I started the 2nd interview a few days ago but she had internet problems so we rescheduled. In the meantime, somebody sent me an interesting article... Stogicza did PRP PICL on an olympic athlete who missed the PAris olympics because of CCI, here's the article tho the translation is rough, hungarian and english are super different: https://www.blikk.hu/sport/benkucs-kira-roxana-betegseg-gyujtes/lkqqk8h Somebody on the sub saw that and reached out to the olympian directly (we should refrain from that I think, high chance she gets overwhelmed) and she said: "I'm able to move around again, I'm back to training, and I'm already preparing for my next competition. I can live my everyday life again, which I'm grateful for thanks to the interventions I had" Which honestly almost brings a tear to my eye just re-reading it. Glad we have innovators like Stogicza and Centeno out there! Rooting for her, I hope she keeps improving. We need more success stories. <image>7
u/Difficult-Prize-8419I am a patient of stogicza, I took a break from social media for a while. I did not have much improvement after the second picl the chiropractor said I was ready for neckslevel exercises so I got one (bloody expensive) and it made me worse. I now think because my scm muscles have been too short for over a decade in a very bad forward head posture. my neck gets too much resistance from those muscles so the ligaments are not healing as tightly as they should with my being unable to correct my curve properly by relaxing and lengthening those muscles first ! but that's just my new theory. I am going back for a 3rd round and am going to ask her about that. meanwhile I am doing stretches and massaging the scm muscles and its still going well not causing disastrous set backs yet 😬 the only thing I am angry about in all this is that I had to figure it out myself, again ! and that knowing my symptoms neither Innis or Stogicza told me those are known symptoms of those muscles being too short and tight, they knew the symptoms gave me a lot of anxiety they could have told me this, and given me appropriate exercises but nooo I had to find out from a youtube fisio therapist that randomly showed up on my feed ! I think they underestimate the force those muscles can exert in that imbalance perhaps ? or overestimate the ligaments strength in healing and pulling everything back in position ? I am going to ask both when I see them again in a month I dont see any other reason why I am not healing as well as others, other than the comorbidity of forward head posture, when my body is as capable of healing and healing well at that. in the 4 years bedboud I have had corona and the flu and had a bladder infection even a big operation to remove a massive terratoma and I healed really well and fast from all of those things so why not this ! If they do underestimate my teckneck than why !!? sorry about the rant 😅😬 I will get back to you guys when I have some answers3
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80r/FloridaPRP👋 Welcome to r/FloridaPRP - Introduce Yourself and Read First!Beginning_Army288910%137.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-06↗
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u/Beginning_Army2889From what I’ve seen, knee arthritis and tendon injuries seem to be the most common reasons people try PRP. Curious if that matches everyone else's experience.1
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81r/AskDocsGeneral question for knees, and self treatment. 45yo, male.agent_uno10%137.5PRP knee treatment2026-04-01↗
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82r/DplushealthPRP Therapy for Hair and Skin: What You Need to Know Before Starting TreatmentLoud_Reference835110%37.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-24↗
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83r/ChicLifeClubAnyone here tried non-surgical treatments for chronic knee pain?WorkingRush190810%37.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-24↗
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84r/KneeInjuriesWhat’s next? Had ACL done 15 years ago, the MCL and scar tissue removed, with PR...ProfessionJolly401310%37.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-21↗
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85r/ACLPRP - shot in knee cavity and VMOFantastic_Silver_37010%37.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-18↗
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86r/HealthCareExpertsIndiTrusted Knee Pain Treatment in Navi MumbaiSweet_Promotion141110%37.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-16↗
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87r/HealthCareExpertsIndiUnderstanding PRP Hair Treatment Cost in Andheri for Effective ResultsSweet_Promotion141110%37.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-05↗
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88r/ACLWhat do you guys think about PRP treatment for partial ACL tear?Parking_Clock347330%27.3PRP knee treatment2026-03-27↗
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89r/CervicalinstabilityHas anyone been to Dr. Stogicza for treatment recently? I want to know how you a...Tricky_Context28820%25.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-17↗
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90r/ACLWhat do you guys think about PRP treatment for partial ACL tear?Parking_Clock347310%224.8PRP knee treatment2026-04-02↗
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u/OoElMaxioOI had prp to help tendon and cartilage. Did nothing to me, I'm still having pain for a lot of exercises. Prp injections were 9-10 months post op. Some people might have a different experience but I read that some people just doesn't feel anything better.2
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91r/ACLWhat do you guys think about PRP treatment for partial ACL tear?Parking_Clock347310%224.8PRP knee treatment2026-03-22↗
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u/Plenty-Bother-1794I got PRP injection directly into my quad graft during surgery. In your case, if you can afford it, why not. Send it!! Lol it can’t hurt to try.2
u/RacacooonieI think it’s worth a try. I got one and it helped reduce my pain for six months. If you’re trying to avoid surgery and or reduce inflammation it’s a good option. I ultimately ended up needing surgery for something else but my partial ACL tear did heal up without needing repair.1
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92r/NetherlandsWorldCupMemphis Depay undergoes special knee treatment in Spain and returns to Corinthia...oranjemania10%22.5PRP knee treatment2026-04-01↗
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93r/DeepTissueMassageUKThis looks good!: Sports massage | back pain knee pain treatments | CoimbatoreDeepTissueMassage_10%122.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-24↗
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95r/DeepTissueMassageUKThis looks good!: Knee Pain Treatment NorthwichDeepTissueMassage_10%122.5PRP knee treatment2026-03-14↗
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